TwiLyghtSansSparkles Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 28 minutes ago, Sunbird said: @Queen Elsa Steelheart But but but what about "you can't eat just one potato chip"? By that definition Pringles are not very single at all. 5 minutes ago, Kaymyth said: Hee. Great minds think alike. Then I guess I'm a great mind too. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darkness Ascendant Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 I feel like posting this. It made sense, somehow, to me. Remember people, you are a shape. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delightful Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 34 minutes ago, Sunbird said: @Queen Elsa Steelheart But but but what about "you can't eat just one potato chip"? By that definition Pringles are not very single at all. Exactly. The single Pringle is a creature of great mystery and power. How it has survived we do not know. Unless it was crumbled in pieces at the bottom of a forgotten tube but I assume we're talking about whole Pringles here 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delightful Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 (edited) Well this is a fascinating conversation. Edited September 25, 2016 by Delightful 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patar Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 Straight male here. At least I think. I'm nineteen, and I've never had a girlfriend. While that's not really unusual, most people I know are in a relationship or are trying to find someone to be in a relationship with. I have absolutely no desire to be in a relationship, and a lot of people find that weird, but eh. I don't really mind. There have been very brief moments that come to me at random where I want a relationship, but then they're gone as quick as they came. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Claincy Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 14 hours ago, The Young Bard said: Oh, Claincy, an alternative I've heard to 'grey asexual/aromantic' is 'demisexual/demiromantic'. Oh yeah, I'd forgotten about that term, thanks 17 hours ago, Delightful said: You can still have intimate friendships! Romance and or sexuality is not the only way to be close to people! One of the things I really dislike about media representation, particularly for women but I think all-round, is that people are only super close when they're romantically involved. It's insanely rare for close friends to just be friends. So we have Cap and Bucky but so many people ship them. Platonically: Jessica Jones and Trish. Zoe and Mal Reynolds. The new ghostbusters. Cap and black widow can't be friends without shipping, same with widow and Hawkeye in avengers 1. Ok I'm a marvel geek, what else do I know of? Supernatural. Brothers. People ship them. Sherlock and Watson are shipped together. Stranger Things, by the end 11 is a love interest - the others are close friends though. Heck, people even ship Anna and Elsa. Tl;dr, friends can be intimately close without sex getting involved. I don't believe asexuality should leave you forever lonely. I think media representation is messed up. I definitely agree The media's obsession with romantic & sexual relationships can be frustrating. Those relationships absolutely have a place there and they are an important part of society, but a slightly more realistic number of strong friendships would be nice. Personally it's pretty rare that I feel particularly lonely and when I do a little time hanging out with friends fixes it nicely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delightful Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 7 minutes ago, Claincy said: Oh yeah, I'd forgotten about that term, thanks I definitely agree The media's obsession with romantic & sexual relationships can be frustrating. Those relationships absolutely have a place there and they are an important part of society, but a slightly more realistic number of strong friendships would be nice. Personally it's pretty rare that I feel particularly lonely and when I do a little time hanging out with friends fixes it nicely One more aspect to include in the book I'm writing that must be perfect and include all of the things ever. ()* Strong friendships. *I'm a perfectionist, what can I do? Except never be perfect. Hard life, huh? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mestiv Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 8 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said: I'm straight, but I've never had a boyfriend......I'm as single as a pringle But... but... Pringles come in tubes and there's always many of them you must feel so lonely without your tube mates... :< 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess cont Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 On 24. 9. 2016 at 2:38 PM, The Young Bard said: Oh, Claincy, an alternative I've heard to 'grey asexual/aromantic' is 'demisexual/demiromantic'. 1 Um...actually, that term refers to people who feel sexual attraction, only after developing some kind of bond first. They need to get to know the other person first. In other light, aromantic greysexual here. Still unsure, still researching, still not understanding the whole dating concept. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Slowswift Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 Straight as a flagpole and about as flexible, too. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Elsa Steelheart Posted September 25, 2016 Report Share Posted September 25, 2016 20 hours ago, Sunbird said: @Queen Elsa Steelheart But but but what about "you can't eat just one potato chip"? By that definition Pringles are not very single at all. Hahaha! This is why I love the shard. My friend always called single people 'single pringles' and taken people 'double bubbles' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParadoxicalZen Posted September 26, 2016 Report Share Posted September 26, 2016 Heteroflex/bi, but I don't really label it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soyperson Posted September 26, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 26, 2016 7 hours ago, AnanasSpren said: Heteroflex/bi, but I don't really label it I try to stick to "bi" but sometimes I just call myself gay so as not to explode people's minds. You have no idea how many times I've seen people look at me with that confused look, scratch their head, and say, "so, you like guys... and girls?!" I try not to label, because I start overthinking it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwiLyghtSansSparkles Posted September 26, 2016 Report Share Posted September 26, 2016 @bleeder: You've probably heard this song before, but it's relevant: Spoiler Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soyperson Posted September 26, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 26, 2016 2 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: @bleeder: You've probably heard this song before, but it's relevant: Reveal hidden contents Indeed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Claincy Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 On 9/26/2016 at 0:35 AM, Tess cont said: Um...actually, that term refers to people who feel sexual attraction, only after developing some kind of bond first. They need to get to know the other person first. Oh yeah, thanks There's enough terms around that I keep forgetting a lot of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skaa Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 (edited) Here's a video by Hank Green, one half of the Vlogbrothers (makers of several educational YouTube channels including CrashCourse and SciShow): The most interesting part for me is near the end, where he talks about the possibility of people changing their sexual orientation and/or sexual behavior over the course of their lifetime, and how some do this relatively frequently in a certain period of time. I think this complexity is obvious, because all this sexual orientation stuff happens in the brain, that immensely dynamic, highly adaptive organ that could be affected by an infinite number of things. As such, I agree with Hank that we really can't tell people to stay in particular sexual orientation boxes, no matter how progressive we think our boxes are. The few experiences I've had with sexual intimacy (however short-lived) have all been with women. All my crushes (some bordering on obsession) have been women. Even the fictional characters that I've been sexually attracted to (yes, I am that weird) have all been women. However, years of being insulted and ridiculed just because I do not follow certain gender norms in a society that worships macho men has made me very sensitive of how I think about men. I am fairly certain that I am more bisexual than I have ever allowed myself to be, but the operant conditioning given to me by my environment makes me feel extremely uncomfortable with any homosexual thought or feeling, and I usually suppress any conscious ones whenever they arise. That's how my brain works right now, and I don't know if (and how) that will change later on. Edited October 5, 2016 by skaa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soyperson Posted September 30, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 (edited) 3 minutes ago, skaa said: The most interesting part for me is near the end, where he talks about the possibility of people changing their sexual orientation and/or sexual behavior over the course of their lifetime, and how some do this relatively frequently in a certain period of time. I think this complexity is obvious, because all this sexual orientation stuff happens in the brain, that immensely dynamic, and highly adaptive organ that could be affected by an infinite number of things. As such, I agree with Hank that we really can't tell people to stay in particular sexual orientation boxes, no matter how progressive we think our boxes are. The few experiences I've had with sexual intimacy (however short-lived) have all been with women. All my crushes (some bordering on obsession) have been women. Even the fictional characters that I've been sexually attracted to (yes, I am that weird) have all been women. However, years of being insulted and ridiculed just because I refuse to follow certain gender norms in a society that worships macho men has made me very sensitive of how I think about men. I am fairly certain that I am more bisexual than I have ever allowed myself to be, but the operant conditioning given to me by my environment makes me feel extremely uncomfortable with any homosexual thought or feeling, and I usually suppress any conscious ones whenever they arise. That's how my brain works right now, and I don't know if (and how) that will change later on. @skaa! You're alive! Yay! And, I agree with Hank. But, skaa, you need to be who you feel you are. And you have a community who loves you. We're here if you need to talk, or figure stuff out, or whatever, man. Edited September 30, 2016 by bleeder 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver Posted October 1, 2016 Report Share Posted October 1, 2016 On 26/09/2016 at 6:19 AM, AnanasSpren said: Heteroflex/bi, but I don't really label it I suspect I know the answer but...what does flex mean in this context? I'm on super well versed in stuff, but I've never seen that term used before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soyperson Posted October 1, 2016 Author Report Share Posted October 1, 2016 1 hour ago, Quiver said: I suspect I know the answer but...what does flex mean in this context? I'm on super well versed in stuff, but I've never seen that term used before. Heteroflexible - mainly into the opposite gender, somewhat into the same Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaymyth Posted October 1, 2016 Report Share Posted October 1, 2016 1 hour ago, Quiver said: I suspect I know the answer but...what does flex mean in this context? I'm on super well versed in stuff, but I've never seen that term used before. Go find my first post on this thread; that pretty well sums it up. Especially since I think I'm the first one who started using it here... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JUQ Posted October 2, 2016 Report Share Posted October 2, 2016 On 9/25/2016 at 4:37 PM, Claincy said: Oh yeah, I'd forgotten about that term, thanks I definitely agree The media's obsession with romantic & sexual relationships can be frustrating. Those relationships absolutely have a place there and they are an important part of society, but a slightly more realistic number of strong friendships would be nice. Personally it's pretty rare that I feel particularly lonely and when I do a little time hanging out with friends fixes it nicely This. So much this. I mean, I'm very close to my siblings, but that doesn't mean that I'm in a romantic relationship with them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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