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[The Honor Spren she/her]

Yeah….she really would.  

 

I'm basing a villain on her, so there you go.

There's already a well hated villain based on your mom.

Her name is Dolores Umbridge.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

There's already a well hated villain based on your mom.

Her name is Dolores Umbridge.

I knew I was saving today's upvotes for a reason.

Speaking of, guess whose youngest sister has been showering with hand soap because she's too intimidated to ask my mom for more? I bought her some body wash tonight, because no matter how she asks my mom, she'll get some sort of snarky retort or a lecture on one of her character flaws.

Edited January 27, 2016 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Ookla the Absent]

I've been super stressed lately, which combines with my depression and ADD and spirals out of control.

My father's been getting angry lately. I don't remember him being like this before, but now... I don't know what to do.

My mother helps a lot, but i feel like I disapoint her too, she just hides it better.

I have so little energy, and I have to get up at 5:10 each morning just to make it out of the house on time. I go to bed late, get up early, and have to keep waking myself throughout the day. But I have so much to do that I can't usually get to bed any earlier.

Weekends just turn into days to get everything else done, and I usually can't finish that either.

I never really learned time management, and my brain insists on making it even harder.

I never learned stress management either, haven't really thought I needed it until now.

I'm tired.

[ParadoxicalZen he/him]

Chomping at the bit and feeling rabid because I want to read the topics on the new books but I also want to wait till I can read them. Kind of feeling like Harmony here, its driving me kayana

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I've been super stressed lately, which combines with my depression and ADD and spirals out of control.

My father's been getting angry lately. I don't remember him being like this before, but now... I don't know what to do.

My mother helps a lot, but i feel like I disapoint her too, she just hides it better.

I have so little energy, and I have to get up at 5:10 each morning just to make it out of the house on time. I go to bed late, get up early, and have to keep waking myself throughout the day. But I have so much to do that I can't usually get to bed any earlier.

Weekends just turn into days to get everything else done, and I usually can't finish that either.

I never really learned time management, and my brain insists on making it even harder.

I never learned stress management either, haven't really thought I needed it until now.

I'm tired.

Try avoiding your parents as much as possible. It's what I do when mine get all stressed and angry and disappointed. It might feel like you're being rude, but you're conserving your energy for more important things. Stressed out parents sap your energy, and you'll need as much as possible.

What techniques have you been using on the time management front?

[Ookla the Absent]

It's hard to avoid them for the time being, I don't have anywhere else to be and the house is really open.

 

Umm... lately, cry and pray?

I try making lists, but that gets me overwhelmed. I don't know, I can't really remember what I tried last time.

That's another problem. When I get stressed or overwhelmed or tired or anything, my mind wipes itself and I can't remember what I was doing 5 seconds ago, much less what I was told earlier in the day.

And yes, I tend to forget between being told to do something an writing it down to remember later.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

It's hard to avoid them for the time being, I don't have anywhere else to be and the house is really open.

 

Umm... lately, cry and pray?

I try making lists, but that gets me overwhelmed. I don't know, I can't really remember what I tried last time.

That's another problem. When I get stressed or overwhelmed or tired or anything, my mind wipes itself and I can't remember what I was doing 5 seconds ago, much less what I was told earlier in the day.

And yes, I tend to forget between being told to do something an writing it down to remember later.

 

Do you have your own room? If so, there's your solution; just make your excuses and hole up in there for a while. If not, headphones and music are your friends. 

 

Try giving yourself a deadline for each task. Work expands to fill whatever amount of time you give it, so give it a time limit. Be realistic, but generous; if you give yourself 20 minutes to write an essay, you'll just stress yourself out even more. (I speak from experience here. ) While you're working, focus on nothing but the task at hand. Don't work on other tasks you need to complete, and try not to think about them. When you finish a task, give yourself a small reward—a glass of chocolate milk, or a few minutes to watch a funny YouTube video, or something similar. 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Chomping at the bit and feeling rabid because I want to read the topics on the new books but I also want to wait till I can read them. Kind of feeling like Harmony here, its driving me kayana

 

Do not. I just finished Bands of Morning and just...do not... you do not want certain things spoiled. I do not know how the topics are, but just don't risk it, man!

[Delightful]

I knew I was saving today's upvotes for a reason.

Speaking of, guess whose youngest sister has been showering with hand soap because she's too intimidated to ask my mom for more? I bought her some body wash tonight, because no matter how she asks my mom, she'll get some sort of snarky retort or a lecture on one of her character flaws.

A flaw like using too much soap? Hygiene?

I swear your mother is insane.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

A flaw like using too much soap? Hygiene?

I swear your mother is insane.

Here's how the conversation might go:

Mom: You need more soap. And how long have you been out?

Sister: Um....a while...

Mom: *long sigh* You need to tell me as soon as you're out. You have a tendency to not ask for help until it's too late for people to help you, and it's going to get you into trouble one day.

But yes, she is insane. A sane person would say something like this:

Sister: I need more soap.

Sane!Mom: Okay, cool. I'll pick some up while I'm out tomorrow.

[The Honor Spren she/her]

Here's how the conversation might go:

Mom: You need more soap. And how long have you been out?

Sister: Um....a while...

Mom: *long sigh* You need to tell me as soon as you're out. You have a tendency to not ask for help until it's too late for people to help you, and it's going to get you into trouble one day.

My own mom does do that to a much lesser extent.

It's more like:

Mom: You should have told me sooner. I went to the store yesterday and could have grabbed it for you.

Me: I forgot to tell you. . .

Mom: *rolls eyes* I'll get it today. You guys have already used up the milk anyway. Are you coming?

Me: Sure.

 

I think that's the dividing line. It's okay to say that she should have been told sooner. It's not okay to start finding personal faults in your offspring because of that.

[Curious Anamaximder he/him]

Ughhhhhhhhhhhh.......... NEED SLEEP

But Owl City helps.

Edited January 27, 2016 by Anamaximder

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

My own mom does do that to a much lesser extent.

It's more like:

Mom: You should have told me sooner. I went to the store yesterday and could have grabbed it for you.

Me: I forgot to tell you. . .

Mom: *rolls eyes* I'll get it today. You guys have already used up the milk anyway. Are you coming?

Me: Sure.

 

I think that's the dividing line. It's okay to say that she should have been told sooner. It's not okay to start finding personal faults in your offspring because of that.

 

I don't see anything wrong with what your mom does. There's no harm in pointing out that forgetting to make a note of something delays the result you want. With my mom, though….I think a big part of the problem is that she's always looking to teach her kids a lesson. Not so much with my brother and other sister, since we're all adults (though she will go into lecture mode at the slightest provocation) but she did when we were younger, and now that she thinks she sees all of these character flaws in my eleven-year-old sister, she's gone into overdrive trying to refine them out. Everything involves some sort of moral lesson. For example...

 

When we watched The Martian with her, my mom said it was because she felt she gave up too easily; Mark Watney, on the other hand, never gives up. We didn't watch it with her because it's a good movie. 

Books checked out from the library are done so on the basis of what she'll learn from them. 

She gets a lot of Adventures in Odyssey CDs, which all teach moral lessons through the stories they tell. (I used to adore that series as a kid. Not so much anymore.) 

Inside Out was praised because of what it got her thinking about, not because it's a fantastic movie. 

If there is a moral lesson to be gleaned from Once Upon a Time, you can bet my mom will pounce on it like a dementor on laughter. 

 

So with all of those life lessons ready to suck the fun out of everything, it's not really any surprise that my mom would have lectures prepared on everyday actions, too.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Twimom's Story: A morality story

 

Once upon a time, there was a person who thought it was her responsibility to teach everyone how to live life. She did not feel like she had to pick the right time and place to do so, for she felt that her made-up calling required her to be preaching all the time.

 

"Please pass the salt," a child in need of sodium would say at supper time.

"You are the salt of the earth, and I will pass you to the world," she would reply.

 

For every situation, she had an aphorism or some point to make. Instead of recieving compliments or criticisms, she would expound upon some principle.

 

"Thank you for picking me up from soccer practice," the child would say, refering to a cliched sport that children in these sorts of stories always seemed involved in.

 

"It is important to be grateful," the mother replied, "unlike this morning, when you did not even acknowledge that I dropped you off at school or made breakfast."

 

"I'm sorry," the child was uncertain how to proceed and started to feel confused and upset.

 

"Contrition is the first step to leaving one's wickedness behind and starting on the path of righteousness", she moralized, "but you should not pick and choose, for you were not sorry for drinking the last bit of milk this morning without asking if anyone else wanted any."

 

After years and thousands of these sorts of conversations, friends and family started avoiding her. This only caused her to intensify her preaching, she had souls to save! People were avoiding her because they felt uncomfortable that she pointed out their sinful ways, but that was when her teaching was the most important!

 

Eventually, she had no friends or family around her. She took to preaching to strangers trying to do their job.

 

"Welcome to McDonalds, what would you like today?"

"I would like the Love and Grace of God," she answered "And that is free, which is cheaper than a McChicken."

 

Nobody knows when she decided to go South to preach to the Mexicans. All anyone knew was the sense of relief that she was Mexico's problem now.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Twimom's Story: A morality story

 

Once upon a time, there was a person who thought it was her responsibility to teach everyone how to live life. She did not feel like she had to pick the right time and place to do so, for she felt that her made-up calling required her to be preaching all the time.

 

"Please pass the salt," a child in need of sodium would say at supper time.

"You are the salt of the earth, and I will pass you to the world," she would reply.

 

For every situation, she had an aphorism or some point to make. Instead of recieving compliments or criticisms, she would expound upon some principle.

 

"Thank you for picking me up from soccer practice," the child would say, refering to a cliched sport that children in these sorts of stories always seemed involved in.

 

"It is important to be grateful," the mother replied, "unlike this morning, when you did not even acknowledge that I dropped you off at school or made breakfast."

 

"I'm sorry," the child was uncertain how to proceed and started to feel confused and upset.

 

"Contrition is the first step to leaving one's wickedness behind and starting on the path of righteousness", she moralized, "but you should not pick and choose, for you were not sorry for drinking the last bit of milk this morning without asking if anyone else wanted any."

 

After years and thousands of these sorts of conversations, friends and family started avoiding her. This only caused her to intensify her preaching, she had souls to save! People were avoiding her because they felt uncomfortable that she pointed out their sinful ways, but that was when her teaching was the most important!

 

Eventually, she had no friends or family around her. She took to preaching to strangers trying to do their job.

 

"Welcome to McDonalds, what would you like today?"

"I would like the Love and Grace of God," she answered "And that is free, which is cheaper than a McChicken."

 

Nobody knows when she decided to go South to preach to the Mexicans. All anyone knew was the sense of relief that she was Mexico's problem now.

 

[Kaymyth she/her]

I'm not sure what annoys me more: the fact that office politics are a thing, or that my interpersonal skills are such that multiple factions need me to translate their attempts at communication with each other to keep them from killing each other. 

[+Slowswift]

I had to get up early today and I was blessed with the sight of the 5 planet line convergence! Hasn't happened in 10 yrs. I recommend y'all try to see it an hr before sunrise

 

I missed yet another Cool Astronomy Thing.  

[Kaymyth she/her]

I missed yet another Cool Astronomy Thing.

 

It's still there.  You just have to get up early to see it.  ...which I won't.

[Datan Nomlibash]

I had set some time apart to write a story I have been rolling around and I was a little excited to do it and when I started it looked like was one of those special sessions were the words come easily and every thing comes out great and will only need a little polish and just writing releases stress...

And then my family interupts it even though they didn't need anything else all day they need something small and inane from me now. If I didn't need to save money for college I would move out.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I had set some time apart to write a story I have been rolling around and I was a little excited to do it and when I started it looked like was one of those special sessions were the words come easily and every thing comes out great and will only need a little polish and just writing releases stress...

And then my family interupts it even though they didn't need anything else all day they need something small and inane from me now. If I didn't need to save money for college I would move out.

Believe me, I know that feel. Hope you can recover your muse soon.

[Mistrunner]

Having to write an outline using an outline for yet another paper. Is this all we're going to do in this class?

 

Besides, the outline doesn't work. Period. Two possibilities were provided this time, but neither of them fit my purposes. I'm refuting the claim that music programs cost too much by comparing the costs to those of programs schools implement (AVID, sports, etc). Pretty simple, right? Some people say music programs cost too much. Well, here's the costs of that and other common school programs side-by-side. Well that ain't an option. The format must be obeyed, and I can either try to fit it awkwardly in the middle of a paragraph somehow or smush it into the ending paragraph.

 

THERE'S MORE THAN TWO WAYS TO WRITE A PAPER, DARN IT.

[RippleGylf she/her]

Having to write an outline using an outline for yet another paper. Is this all we're going to do in this class?

 

Besides, the outline doesn't work. Period. Two possibilities were provided this time, but neither of them fit my purposes. I'm refuting the claim that music programs cost too much by comparing the costs to those of programs schools implement (AVID, sports, etc). Pretty simple, right? Some people say music programs cost too much. Well, here's the costs of that and other common school programs side-by-side. Well that ain't an option. The format must be obeyed, and I can either try to fit it awkwardly in the middle of a paragraph somehow or smush it into the ending paragraph.

 

THERE'S MORE THAN TWO WAYS TO WRITE A PAPER, DARN IT.

 

This is why I hate 3.8 paragraphs, and five paragraph essays in general.

[Pestis the Spider she/her]

Someone stole my rubbish wheelie bin. And I can't request the new one, because the City Council's website doesn't work. As always...

Edited January 29, 2016 by Pestis the Spider

[RippleGylf she/her]

Well, I just spent 3 hours working on runs on the piccolo so I don't fail band. After 102 takes, I finally got an 81%.

[Kaymyth she/her]

Well, I just spent 3 hours working on runs on the piccolo so I don't fail band. After 102 takes, I finally got an 81%.

 

People underestimate piccolos.  Those little unassuming things are monsters.