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[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

Got back from the storming meeting. I hate you, dumbass principal.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

1 hour ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Got back from the storming meeting. I hate you, dumbass principal.

*hugs

I'm here if you need me.

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

31 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

*hugs

I'm here if you need me.

Thank you. Same here

[kenod]

15 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

A friend was recently talking about how he stole a graphing calculator from a guy in his physics class. Today, I ratted him out. He doesn't know this yet. I won't be seeing him again until Monday. This combination of information is making me slightly nervous. 

It's probably for the best, I'm not sure where you live, but where I live those things can cost at least a hundred euros. I would understand not telling about normal calculators, but letting him keep that would go to far.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I had a lovely mug of tea. 

I reached for the lovely mug of tea. 

The lovely mug of tea fell out of my hand and onto the floor, right onto my laptop charger extension. 

A charger extension that is part of a cable for a Mac. 

Which usually run around $80 a pop. 

I have both parts of the extension sitting in rice now, but I'm already preparing to have to buy another one. Which will mean going to Best Buy, a store that is situated on a busy street that is a pain to drive, close to rush hour. Possibly during a parade. 

On top of that, my carpet is wet. 

I hate everything. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Me: Perhaps I’ll get a good night’s sleep for once

Brain: 4 hours? Get the storm up.

 

[Jondesu he/him]

On 3/16/2017 at 5:49 PM, Darkness Ascendant said:

*hugs

Life can be pretty overwhelming sometimes. It'll clear up in no time.

I wish, but that's not how my life has tended to go. Case in point: now it's my son on the couch with a bucket, and either I or my daughter will probably be next.

And my medical problems tend to just...never go away once they start. I've had digestive issues since I was 16. A headache for over 3 years straight. Fatigue for almost 3 years. Etc.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I cannot stand SpongeBob. 

He gave me a stress headache today. I still have to work with him tomorrow. 

And I know he's probably not going anywhere. The guy is made of storming Teflon. Nothing sticks to him. And he's been there so long that it's gone to his head and he thinks he deserves to be there, even though he pushes the envelope constantly. 

I hate this guy. I hate him and he's stressing me out and Bruce can tell that I'm stressed and it's not fun. 

[Erunion he/him]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles - it's a charger that you soaked with tea, right? Like the solid white box thing? 

Then that's probably fine. It's unlikely to have sensitive electronic components in it - just let it dry thoroughly and you should be ok. 

Was it plugged in when you spilled? Did anything happen? Sparking? A weird burnt smell? 

If not, then you're probably fine. Chargers are usually robust, and if it's all electrics without any electronics then there won't be a problem as soon as all the fluid is gone.

Electric/electronic systems short circuit when fluid connects points that aren't supposed to be connected. With sensitive electronic components this can cause disaster - usually it will burn stuff out. However, if your system doesn't have parts that can be damaged by short circuit, then you have nothing to worry about. Furthermore, even if you do have sensitive components, if it's not actively powered when the circuit is shorted then nothing happens, because there's no power to cause damage. You just need to let it dry after. 

Fun fact! If they're 100% powered off you can actually toss computers into a bath, pull 'em out, dry 'em off and have it suffer no ill effects! 

As long as it's completely dry.

And you don't leave it in long enough to corrode/rust.

And the water's clean and doesn't leave residue.

 

 

please don't try this at home

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

13 hours ago, Jondesu said:

I wish, but that's not how my life has tended to go. Case in point: now it's my son on the couch with a bucket, and either I or my daughter will probably be next.

And my medical problems tend to just...never go away once they start. I've had digestive issues since I was 16. A headache for over 3 years straight. Fatigue for almost 3 years. Etc.

*sigh

Dor must be stuck again. I'll call Galladon.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I'm bad with people and bad with friendships. 

No, really. It's all because I can't communicate with people. In person, anyway; I'm somewhat better online, but still far from proficient. 

Okay, long story short: there's a guy at my complex that I'm friendly with. I think he's a really cool guy—he works with a volunteer organization building and repairing homes, and he's nice and genuinely awesome. And I like him as a friend. But (I think?) I can tell he likes me as more than a friend. And this has happened before, and it's ended with awkwardness and broken relationships and all that horrible stuff. But every time it happens, I play along with the pattern because I'm too storming timid to break out of it. So, he has my number. We texted back and forth. He said we should hang out sometime. I didn't reply. Partly because it was a bad day yesterday; partly because I thought the pattern was moving forward and I wanted off the ride but I was too timid and too selfish to say "Hey, I want off this ride" so I just disappeared. 

And I know I probably hurt him. Actually, cut the "probably." I've done this before. I fall into this same pattern and I hate myself for it, but I'm too much of a storming coward to break that pattern and say "Hey, I don't like you like that; we still cool?" It'd be so easy, but it's so hard. 

And part of me says "No, it's not totally your fault; you've spent most of your life being told to speak your mind and then punished for it when the person listening didn't like what you had to say." But another part of me says that's no excuse, I'm ruining relationships before they even start and hurting feelings because I can't speak my mind. That I'm past that, that I'm on my own and most people are fundamentally decent. I believe that, but I still can't break the storming pattern. 

Great Noodly One, I hate myself right now. And I don't mean that in a melodramatic teenager-writing-on-their-Tumblr kind of way. I really, genuinely loathe myself. 

[Jondesu he/him]

4 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

*sigh

Dor must be stuck again. I'll call Galladon.

I do definitely feel like an Elantrian at times. 

[+Slowswift]

3 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I'm bad with people and bad with friendships. 

No, really. It's all because I can't communicate with people. In person, anyway; I'm somewhat better online, but still far from proficient. 

Okay, long story short: there's a guy at my complex that I'm friendly with. I think he's a really cool guy—he works with a volunteer organization building and repairing homes, and he's nice and genuinely awesome. And I like him as a friend. But (I think?) I can tell he likes me as more than a friend. And this has happened before, and it's ended with awkwardness and broken relationships and all that horrible stuff. But every time it happens, I play along with the pattern because I'm too storming timid to break out of it. So, he has my number. We texted back and forth. He said we should hang out sometime. I didn't reply. Partly because it was a bad day yesterday; partly because I thought the pattern was moving forward and I wanted off the ride but I was too timid and too selfish to say "Hey, I want off this ride" so I just disappeared. 

And I know I probably hurt him. Actually, cut the "probably." I've done this before. I fall into this same pattern and I hate myself for it, but I'm too much of a storming coward to break that pattern and say "Hey, I don't like you like that; we still cool?" It'd be so easy, but it's so hard. 

And part of me says "No, it's not totally your fault; you've spent most of your life being told to speak your mind and then punished for it when the person listening didn't like what you had to say." But another part of me says that's no excuse, I'm ruining relationships before they even start and hurting feelings because I can't speak my mind. That I'm past that, that I'm on my own and most people are fundamentally decent. I believe that, but I still can't break the storming pattern. 

Great Noodly One, I hate myself right now. And I don't mean that in a melodramatic teenager-writing-on-their-Tumblr kind of way. I really, genuinely loathe myself. 

I know how you feel -- not totally, obviously, but. There've been times when I interacted with someone (online or in person), and then walked away and thought about how awkward, how stupid, and a lot of times, how hurtful I probably was with what I said. I resolve to keep that in mind next time and do better. And yet. The cycle continues.

And, just so you know: even if you don't love yourself right now, we do, I can assure you.  

[Hemalurgic Headshot he/him]

Ditto, Slowswift.

[Erunion he/him]

Also @TwiLyghtSansSparkles - do you loath all of yourself or part of yourself. Because there's a lot of you that you should love about yourself - I know only of your writing skill, your genuinely caring attitude/etc. These are things you should love about yourself. Maybe there are aspects of your personality that you really don't like - that you loathe. Maybe you are right to do so. But don't throw out the baby with the bathwater - don't hate yourself, hate the things you need to change. And then change them. 
Hating yourself will only hurt and encourage you to despair. But there are things you can change, and there are parts of your personality you can overcome. Those you can be free to dislike, and more importantly you are free to change. You can do this. 


Edit, Note and Caveat: None of this is easy. None of this is ever easy. Really, none of it should be easy as it's the difficulty of developing character that builds other aspects of your character and gives you a real appreciation for good character. 

Edited March 18, 2017 by Erunion
*their they're there.

[Erandeni he/him]

Lately,I am having a hard time,I failed two subjets last year, so I am not gonna graduate until next year, while most of my classmate are graduating in a few months, they are organizing it and talking about what they are gonna do after they finish college, and here I am, feeling like a piece of useless rust.

Besides the flat where I live is so depressing and make me feel so lonely, I just want it to be july so I can move out, my roommates are always in theirs rooms, so the only human contact I do is in class or the weekends when I return home with my family.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

13 minutes ago, Idealistic Mistborn said:

Lately,I am having a hard time,I failed two subjets last year, so I am not gonna graduate until next year, while most of my classmate are graduating in a few months, they are organizing it and talking about what they are gonna do after they finish college, and here I am, feeling like a piece of useless rust.

Besides the flat where I live is so depressing and make me feel so lonely, I just want it to be july so I can move out, my roommates are always in theirs rooms, so the only human contact I do is in class or the weekends when I return home with my family.

*hugs

That sounds awful. If you need to rant or talk, feel free to PM me.

[Erandeni he/him]

11 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

*hugs

That sounds awful. If you need to rant or talk, feel free to PM me.

Thanks man, I'll do it, but right now it´s late over here and I am sleepy.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

2 minutes ago, Idealistic Mistborn said:

Thanks man, I'll do it, but right now it´s late over here and I am sleepy.

Sweet dreams then :1

[Delightful]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles WE LOVE YOU OK YOURE A GREAT FRIEND. 

Would it be easier to say "hey I don't swing that way let's just be friends", which makes it as non-personal as possible? 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

6 hours ago, Slowswift said:

I know how you feel -- not totally, obviously, but. There've been times when I interacted with someone (online or in person), and then walked away and thought about how awkward, how stupid, and a lot of times, how hurtful I probably was with what I said. I resolve to keep that in mind next time and do better. And yet. The cycle continues.

And, just so you know: even if you don't love yourself right now, we do, I can assure you.  

Thanks.  And I do the first part, too—if I talk with someone, I'll walk away thinking of everything I did wrong. 

5 hours ago, Erunion said:

Also @TwiLyghtSansSparkles - do you loath all of yourself or part of yourself. Because there's a lot of you that you should love about yourself - I know only of your writing skill, your genuinely caring attitude/etc. These are things you should love about yourself. Maybe there are aspects of your personality that you really don't like - that you loathe. Maybe you are right to do so. But don't throw out the baby with the bathwater - don't hate yourself, hate the things you need to change. And then change them. 
Hating yourself will only hurt and encourage you to despair. But there are things you can change, and there are parts of your personality you can overcome. Those you can be free to dislike, and more importantly you are free to change. You can do this. 


Edit, Note and Caveat: None of this is easy. None of this is ever easy. Really, none of it should be easy as it's the difficulty of developing character that builds other aspects of your character and gives you a real appreciation for good character. 

It's mostly just that part….but it feels like a really important aspect. You know that saying, "People may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel"? It's like that. I know I'm a good writer, and I know I can interact online just fine, but when it comes to this sort of thing? I mess up. And I feel like people aren't going to forget that. Like even if that's not how I really am, that's what they'll remember the most. 

54 minutes ago, Delightful said:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles WE LOVE YOU OK YOURE A GREAT FRIEND. 

Would it be easier to say "hey I don't swing that way let's just be friends", which makes it as non-personal as possible? 

The only problem is, he hasn't outright come out and said "I like like you." It's all just an educated guess on my part, which, though educated, could still be wrong. And if I'm wrong, then holy storms will that seem arrogant. 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

1 hour ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

The only problem is, he hasn't outright come out and said "I like like you." It's all just an educated guess on my part, which, though educated, could still be wrong. And if I'm wrong, then holy storms will that seem arrogant. 

Honesty is the best policy. No need to beat about the bush or act coy or play the guessing game. Awkwardness is unavoidable, but you can make sure that expectations are known. 

Or, if you want to be more circumspect, you can try to turn it into a group thing. See if he has friends and turn it into a "meet a bunch o' folk deal-i-o". Something might come of it, or nothing might, but it gives you an opportunity to imply you do not see him as a romantic interest and extend your social network.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

25 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Meeting with my parents and school went shockingly bad.

 

The principal was horrible. She was like; ABSOLUTELY NO HANGING WITH YEAR SEVEN AT ALL (its due a year seven boy bullying me, I wanna hang with the boys, not girls!)

 

I was like, why are you doing this to me? They were like: its our rules for Jess. I started to cry but it was no use. They rattled me out again about the hotline. Apparently I have to tell them where I am at all times if I’m not in class or in a free. FFS. Then they were like: We’re giving Jess special jobs to do at lunchtime. FOR STORMS SAKE! AAAA.

I told them I don't want to be with my year. Then they’re like: Don’t push people away, people in your year wanna be friends with you!

Me: I’m not being friends with ex-bullies. My friends lie in Year seven. Them: "Don't push people away, Jess!"

 

Mum: *signals* Stop it.

 

Me: *cries eyes out afterwards* People and teachers are getting concerned. The kids probably just want gossip.

 

I told my boyfriend I wanted to throw myself down the stairs on Wednesday. He got scared but said he will do anything to make sure I stay alive and I'm okay

 

Wait. 

Youre being bullied....and the school is punishing you? 

I can't say I'm surprised--my sister's school suggested she stay in at recess when she was bullied--but it's still ridiculously stormed up. 

5 minutes ago, Orlion Determined said:

Honesty is the best policy. No need to beat about the bush or act coy or play the guessing game. Awkwardness is unavoidable, but you can make sure that expectations are known. 

Or, if you want to be more circumspect, you can try to turn it into a group thing. See if he has friends and turn it into a "meet a bunch o' folk deal-i-o". Something might come of it, or nothing might, but it gives you an opportunity to imply you do not see him as a romantic interest and extend your social network.

Yeah....I just don't know....how to be honest about this? 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

3 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

It's stupid as hell. I don't want any stupid jobs at lunchtime. It's called BREAK for a reason. My year 7 friends want to meet with me in secret. I've been texting them.

It's the exact opposite of what they should be doing. Is there someone you can appeal this to? Administration, maybe? They're punishing the victim because it's more convenient for them, rather than doing their jobs and solving the problem at hand.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

They said they talked to the bullies. I wanna storming be with my friends! I can't talk to them, cause I don't trust them. I can say that sometimes I feel like a demon grows inside of me, I sometimes feel pure evil. I sometimes feel like dying. 

You're angry. Things are unfair, and that's understandable. Just don't do anything rash; unfair as it is, the school will probably take any anger-based action on your part as evidence that you need extra supervision. And again, there's an open invitation for you to send me your rants, if you need to. 

Can you text your friends during school?