Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Silverblade5 he/him]

@TwiLyghtSansSparklesI think you're actually pretty fine. That's pretty close to the kind of reply I might have given.  "Thank you for this information, I now have a better idea of where I stand and shall act accordingly ". Of course, I've always had a more blunt and direct personality. Maybe this is the case here?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Maybe, but it didn't feel like a direct response. It felt more like a parting shot. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Just now, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Maybe, but it didn't feel like a direct response. It felt more like a parting shot. 

Did he try to insult you? Did he continue responding in a way to suggest he wants to cut ties? 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

16 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Did he try to insult you? Did he continue responding in a way to suggest he wants to cut ties? 

I'd rather not talk about it right now. I'm already feeling pretty miserable. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

22 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

It was over text, so tone wasn't a big part of it. I don't know if I want to relive it again, but here's the abbreviated version: 

Him: Yeah, I think this is my fault. I must've done something wrong. I don't know what it was, but it was me. 
Me: I've made a mess of this because I've been too chicken to say this so far, but….I'm gay. 
Him: Oh, I've suspected that for a while, but now I know where I stand in your book. 

I don't know if he was trying to save face, or if my too-little-too-late attempt at being direct backfired spectacularly, but either way, I know I did some damage there. And I probably handled it wrong. 

And all I want to do is go to the store and get 5,000 pounds of chocolate, but I don't want to spend the money.  

Twi, if he is truly a good friend, then he will continue supporting you no matter what.

Just breathe and wait it out. The storm will blow over eventually.

[A Budgie she/her]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles *hugs*
I hope things get better.

[Guest]

20 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Heh. My car is also 13 years old and has taken me across four states without having any major work done, so this was more or less expected. 

Twilight, may I ask what work the garage said your car needed done? You could also go to another garage and get a second opinion: perhaps not all they said really needs to be done within the immediate future. How much millage do you have on it? What kind of car is it?

13 years old, in the South isn't too bad: no salt nor winter to use it up prematurely. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Okay. So, if the old superstition about bad things coming in threes is true, then I should be safe, between the car, SpongeBob, and the neighbor thing yesterday. 

But now I can't shake the fear that something bad is going to happen to Bruce soon. 

And on top of that, I'm still feeling miserable. 

[A Budgie she/her]

7 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Okay. So, if the old superstition about bad things coming in threes is true, then I should be safe, between the car, SpongeBob, and the neighbor thing yesterday. 

But now I can't shake the fear that something bad is going to happen to Bruce soon. 

And on top of that, I'm still feeling miserable. 

*MORE HUGS*
I hope you feel better soon. Things sound tough as it is, and something else happening on top of it would be even worse.
Just remember we're all here for you.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

8 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Okay. So, if the old superstition about bad things coming in threes is true, then I should be safe, between the car, SpongeBob, and the neighbor thing yesterday. 

But now I can't shake the fear that something bad is going to happen to Bruce soon. 

And on top of that, I'm still feeling miserable. 

huggedy hugs  

*hugs

Try distracting yourself? And give Bruce lots of hugs  Hugs will protect him.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Thanks guys.  I feel better now, although my wifi isn't working, and hasn't been for about three hours now. (Typing this on my phone.) Not impressed with the cable company here.  

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

32 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Thanks guys.  I feel better now, although my wifi isn't working, and hasn't been for about three hours now. (Typing this on my phone.) Not impressed with the cable company here.  

tell me about it....my internet cuts on and off every 10 seconds I swear.

Good to hear your ok  

Edited March 26, 2017 by Darkness Ascendant

[Briar King]

Meh some heavy stuff since I last checked in and here I was coming to say hot coffee burned my tongue and now it's numb.

[Sunbird she/her]

18 minutes ago, Briar King said:

Meh some heavy stuff since I last checked in and here I was coming to say hot coffee burned my tongue and now it's numb.

Ouch. I did that once with hot chocolate and it was soooooo not fun.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

1 hour ago, Sunbird said:

Ouch. I did that once with hot chocolate and it was soooooo not fun.

mhm same *winces

urugh, bad memories XD

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I feel like a child with cancer

everyone smiles and nods to me

says that everything will be ok

they try to lesson the pain

put me on drugs, hook me to machines

they hold my hand, squeeze, tell me to breathe

as slowly, my insides they squirm and wrritthe

for deep inside, I know, I insist

that, their smiles are one of sorow

that their lies are one of pain

that they too, know deep down inside

that this cancer, is bane

What would you have them say to you, then?

I would have them love me truly For the life I had lived Not the death impeding To create some memories To take with me to the other side

where I would smile fondly

and reminisce

of those days spent well

those final days, those moments

where everything was "well"

*nods

 

 

 

Well said

but these days, they add to my pain for on unhappiness do they sprout These days, no consolation Will turn this flood, drought.

For these ties, these bonds

They are one of shared gloom

they do not seem true, no happiness unto you

For while we relate, for while we dwell

No happiness is made, no sadness is quelled

for truly, we understand, the futility of life

as we live through these days, no banality to strife

But sometimes, we hope, that one will come along

and grab our arms, sing their siren song(edited)

Their voices will wash over, us tell us it will be okay

And sometimes, I hope, I pray

that things aren't so grey

 You're making this up on the spot, aren't you? 

I'm tired, and finished

my candle wick has come to a drop

the flame though warm, shall soon come to a stop

if only some will come along, and add their own tears to the wax

as the wax hardens, encases this life of string

extend the days, lengthen the dreams

of better days, of growing rings

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Friends are great  I was feeling down today, but I ranted (poetically apparently) to a friend

 

Edited March 26, 2017 by Darkness Ascendant

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Internet still not working. Tech will get here tomorrow evening. The phone rep took me through the unplu-and-plug-back-in routine (despite my saying that I'd already tried it twice) before she even believed there was a problem. This is the same company that put me on hold for forty minutes because I had the audacity to ask for help with a problem that could have been solved in two. 

I thought Comcast had bad customer service, but Cox makes them look like storming saints.  

[Delightful]

On 23/03/2017 at 9:28 PM, Darkness Ascendant said:

*hugs back Thanks

75% isn't fine to my parents however -. - . Yeah it was a strange day, everything made me depressed XD.

 

75 is a perfectly respectable mark. It's not brilliant but it's fine. Don't let unrealistic expectations get you down. Set your own expectations for yourself and live up to *those*. 

On 24/03/2017 at 6:26 PM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Breathe in. 

Panic. 

Breathe out. 

…..am I doing this right? 

'Slong as there is oxygen getting to the brain . 

On 24/03/2017 at 6:40 PM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I know it will be, in the long run. I'm pretty careful with money, and the car is the only big expense I've had in a while. Still, there's something comforting about having more money than you need in the bank. 

I feel you. So much. I'm always half panicked like wait I have money but what can I spend and what should I save and how do I not end up on the street and what if the sky turns to fire and I need to buy a million fire extinguishers. 

On 25/03/2017 at 2:26 AM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

….and I'm pretty sure that my awful attempts to avoid the awkward "is he flirting or is he not, how do I tell him I don't swing that way" thing thoroughly ruined what may have been a budding friendship. So, Life, if you want to kick me in the shins some more, go ahead and get it over with before the day is out. 

 

On 25/03/2017 at 2:46 AM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Maybe, but it didn't feel like a direct response. It felt more like a parting shot. 

From what I can tell, it sounds fine. Keep trying and see how it goes? Now you know where you stand with each other so a friendship has room to properly exist. I don't know why being gay - or not wanting to let a stranger know immediately - would drive him away, it's totally normal and you're awesome so of course he'll want to be your friend. 

 

*hugs all. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

5 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Internet still not working. Tech will get here tomorrow evening. The phone rep took me through the unplu-and-plug-back-in routine (despite my saying that I'd already tried it twice) before she even believed there was a problem. This is the same company that put me on hold for forty minutes because I had the audacity to ask for help with a problem that could have been solved in two. 

I thought Comcast had bad customer service, but Cox makes them look like storming saints.  

I find it amusing that they are called Cox....call it bad foreshadowing 

*hugs

RIP data

Thanks @Delightful

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

Quick rant :/

 

Me: Alright, let's finish up our notes for bio so we can do really well at our favourite subject tommrow!

 

My Body: Nope! We're gonna make you feel like total crap, make you feel like you can't breathe, make you stuck on a respirator for an hour and almost take you to the emergency room in an ambulance! Yay! 

 

Thank god I didn't need to go to the emergency room. I did NOT have a pleasant experience the last I went there. It was humiliating. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

18 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Quick rant :/

 

Me: Alright, let's finish up our notes for bio so we can do really well at our favourite subject tommrow!

 

My Body: Nope! We're gonna make you feel like total crap, make you feel like you can't breathe, make you stuck on a respirator for an hour and almost take you to the emergency room in an ambulance! Yay! 

 

Thank god I didn't need to go to the emergency room. I did NOT have a pleasant experience the last I went there. It was humiliating. 

*hugs...lightly

Tis good you're feeling better. Rest for a bit.

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

1 hour ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

*hugs...lightly

Tis good you're feeling better. Rest for a bit.

Thanks you *hugs back*

[Delightful]

4 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Quick rant :/

 

Me: Alright, let's finish up our notes for bio so we can do really well at our favourite subject tommrow!

 

My Body: Nope! We're gonna make you feel like total crap, make you feel like you can't breathe, make you stuck on a respirator for an hour and almost take you to the emergency room in an ambulance! Yay! 

 

Thank god I didn't need to go to the emergency room. I did NOT have a pleasant experience the last I went there. It was humiliating. 

Yeah, bodies and minds don't always like working together. Be patient with yourself. Love you.

[Quiver he/him]

... I don't know if this deserves a bad day post. It isn't anything specific after all. But...

Well, I sort of want to indulge my melancholy a little, I guess.

I've been having some mood swings for the past few days, but even that makes it sound more serious than it is. Maybe once a day, I'll be doing something and then my brain will just be like "Nope." I suddenly just feel kind of sad and lethargic, and don't want to do anything. I tried going for a walk yesterday when it happened - get some fresh air - but I couldn't really muster the energy to be bothered with that.

This is something I know I've mentioned here before, and honestly, it's not even as bad as it used to be. Like I said, maybe once a day, and it does end up passing after  alittle while, just... not really fun.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

40 minutes ago, Quiver said:

... I don't know if this deserves a bad day post. It isn't anything specific after all. But...

Well, I sort of want to indulge my melancholy a little, I guess.

I've been having some mood swings for the past few days, but even that makes it sound more serious than it is. Maybe once a day, I'll be doing something and then my brain will just be like "Nope." I suddenly just feel kind of sad and lethargic, and don't want to do anything. I tried going for a walk yesterday when it happened - get some fresh air - but I couldn't really muster the energy to be bothered with that.

This is something I know I've mentioned here before, and honestly, it's not even as bad as it used to be. Like I said, maybe once a day, and it does end up passing after  alittle while, just... not really fun.

*hugs

yeah, that's me most days heh. 

Best to see someone professional should it start hindering your life too much.

[Erandeni he/him]

1 hour ago, Quiver said:

... I don't know if this deserves a bad day post. It isn't anything specific after all. But...

Well, I sort of want to indulge my melancholy a little, I guess.

I've been having some mood swings for the past few days, but even that makes it sound more serious than it is. Maybe once a day, I'll be doing something and then my brain will just be like "Nope." I suddenly just feel kind of sad and lethargic, and don't want to do anything. I tried going for a walk yesterday when it happened - get some fresh air - but I couldn't really muster the energy to be bothered with that.

This is something I know I've mentioned here before, and honestly, it's not even as bad as it used to be. Like I said, maybe once a day, and it does end up passing after  alittle while, just... not really fun.

*hugs

I went through something similar a few months ago, it can be hard, having company or being distracted may help.