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[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

Just now, Silverblade5 said:

Or, if you'd prefer to talk in real time, we could do that through a google doc as well.

Google doc sounds good. The 30 second limit on messages on here drive me mad XD

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

3 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Or, if you'd prefer to talk in real time, we could do that through a google doc as well. Is there anything I could do to assist with studying? I'm good with math and science if you want help.

Maths would be epic  I'm terrible at Maths.. You're amazing. Thank you

[A Budgie she/her]

@Queen Elsa Steelheart *all the hugs* I'm really sorry to hear all of that.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

@Queen Elsa Steelheart Hey, it's gonna be okay. *intense hugs*

You know that we're always here for you, right? If you ever need anything, you can always come here and talk to us. I'm sure almost anyone on this site would be willing to comfort you and listen to you. I know I would. If you ever fee the need to just dump some emotional baggage or whatever, just come talk to me! But please, take care of yourself. We care about you, and we wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you.

[Kaymyth she/her]

21 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Thank you so much. And I couldn't believe it when they said that. My mum claimed the psychiatrist said that, but I'm confirming that on Friday. The reason I'm not mentally ready is because of stupid school!

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"Not mentally ready?" For a gap year? Isn't that supposed to be a breather to destress from high school before going on to college/university? What kind of idiot drugs have they been smoking?

[Sparkrunner he/him]

(Pardon my posting this again...)

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

1 hour ago, Kaymyth said:

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"Not mentally ready?" For a gap year? Isn't that supposed to be a breather to destress from high school before going on to college/university? What kind of idiot drugs have they been smoking?

I agree. I looked at them when they said that like: What the actual storms? Are you serious? 

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

4 hours ago, StrikerEZ said:

@Queen Elsa Steelheart Hey, it's gonna be okay. *intense hugs*

You know that we're always here for you, right? If you ever need anything, you can always come here and talk to us. I'm sure almost anyone on this site would be willing to comfort you and listen to you. I know I would. If you ever fee the need to just dump some emotional baggage or whatever, just come talk to me! But please, take care of yourself. We care about you, and we wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you.

Thank you *hugs* It's what this thread is for. All of the hugs and the rants

11 hours ago, A Budgie said:

@Queen Elsa Steelheart *all the hugs* I'm really sorry to hear all of that.

*hugs back*

[Delightful]

8 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

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"Not mentally ready?" For a gap year? Isn't that supposed to be a breather to destress from high school before going on to college/university? What kind of idiot drugs have they been smoking?

Uh sorry to be the devils advocate here but......ready to look after yourself and cope with the world and interact with people? I know I had some trouble transitioning from the high stress and anxiety of high school into normal life. 

[Pinnacle-Ferring he/him]

So I haven't posted in forever, but, hoo boy, I've been having a frustrating day.

I am currently in the army and for the last month and a half I have not had a room in the base. Literally every night I've had to look for another person who happened to not be there and sleep in their bed. The reason it went on for so long is because I'm generally only in that base for a couple days of the week before going off to another one (I have responsibilities in both). So last night, wonder of wonders, I actually got my own permanent bed. I was so relieved. 

Then today I woke up, got dressed and realized my shoes were missing.

After searching the entire room, I came to the conclusion that they'd been stolen. Also, remembering what happened a week ago, I checked my wallet. Empty. 

So not only do I have absolutely no money on me at the moment, I also have to somehow get home wearing flip flops.

[A Budgie she/her]

@Pinnacle-Ferring *hug* I'm sorry to hear you're having such troubles.

[Pinnacle-Ferring he/him]

Update: there was a semi-happy ending to this story. There was this one high-ranking guy in charge of things like this who was helping me that I pegged all wrong. In front of his subordinates he put on a tough act, but he told me to meet him next to his car.

So, long story short, he drove me personally to another base where he got me a pair of brand new boots and then drove me to a bus station. On the drive he opened up to me and told me about when he was stolen from as well and how he felt about it and that he empathized with me. He also kept saying how sorry he was and how embarrassed he felt that this happened to me on his watch.

And when we got to the bus station, he asked if I needed money because all of mine had been stolen. I told him no because, as a soldier, I get free public transportation. Despite my protests he got out his wallet, but he didn't have anything there. So you'd think that would stop him, right? Nope. He got out of the car, went into the building next to the station (with all the convenience stores), found an ATM and took out 50 shekels for me (about 14 US dollars).

And, to top it off, he gave me a shopping bag full of sweets. He was such a huge teddy bear.

The lesson here is don't judge books by their cover.

[Delightful]

4 hours ago, Pinnacle-Ferring said:

Update: there was a semi-happy ending to this story. There was this one high-ranking guy in charge of things like this who was helping me that I pegged all wrong. In front of his subordinates he put on a tough act, but he told me to meet him next to his car.

So, long story short, he drove me personally to another base where he got me a pair of brand new boots and then drove me to a bus station. On the drive he opened up to me and told me about when he was stolen from as well and how he felt about it and that he empathized with me. He also kept saying how sorry he was and how embarrassed he felt that this happened to me on his watch.

And when we got to the bus station, he asked if I needed money because all of mine had been stolen. I told him no because, as a soldier, I get free public transportation. Despite my protests he got out his wallet, but he didn't have anything there. So you'd think that would stop him, right? Nope. He got out of the car, went into the building next to the station (with all the convenience stores), found an ATM and took out 50 shekels for me (about 14 US dollars).

And, to top it off, he gave me a shopping bag full of sweets. He was such a huge teddy bear.

The lesson here is don't judge books by their cover.

That guy is the literal definition of a sabra. I'm glad you're ok. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

17 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

I agree. I looked at them when they said that like: What the actual storms? Are you serious? 

Their logic does not resemble our Earth logic.

10 hours ago, Delightful said:

Uh sorry to be the devils advocate here but......ready to look after yourself and cope with the world and interact with people? I know I had some trouble transitioning from the high stress and anxiety of high school into normal life. 

I get what you're saying, but I thought that the primary function of a gap year was to give the person a chance for extended decompression before ramping up into secondary education. A lot of folks hit college and burn out because they're so run ragged from four years of intense study in high school. I mean, Elsa's basically got two options here:

1) Take a gap year.

2) Go straight into college.

Given the sheer magnitude of stress she's been under in recent months, a break seems like a really good plan.

[Delightful]

35 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Their logic does not resemble our Earth logic.

I get what you're saying, but I thought that the primary function of a gap year was to give the person a chance for extended decompression before ramping up into secondary education. A lot of folks hit college and burn out because they're so run ragged from four years of intense study in high school. I mean, Elsa's basically got two options here:

1) Take a gap year.

2) Go straight into college.

Given the sheer magnitude of stress she's been under in recent months, a break seems like a really good plan.

Ah. I was filling in blanks and assuming that cancelling gap year meant cancelling overseas travels which I believe Elsa was planning. I totally agree that going straight into college would be a baaaaad move. 

[Claincy he/him]

Over the past threeish weeks I've pushed myself hard, got what I needed done and crashed, had time to partially recover then repeated that.

Currently in one of those crashes, I can hopefully slow down now though. Hurts a lot right now.

(The worst bit is that at most I've been doing what a normal person would do in a part-time job and I didn't even approach being able to do that much for any length of time.)

Edited July 22, 2017 by Claincy

[Delightful]

20 hours ago, Claincy said:

Over the past threeish weeks I've pushed myself hard, got what I needed done and crashed, had time to partially recover then repeated that.

Currently in one of those crashes, I can hopefully slow down now though. Hurts a lot right now.

(The worst bit is that at most I've been doing what a normal person would do in a part-time job and I didn't even approach being able to do that much for any length of time.)

Hey, appreciate yourself at your  own pace.

Edited July 23, 2017 by Delightful
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[Sparkrunner he/him]

hugs

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Yes.

Many hugs.

*hugs everyone*

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

UGHH!!! Another terrible day!!

[Hemalurgic Headshot he/him]

35 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

UGHH!!! Another terrible day!!

Sorry to hear that. Hugs!

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

56 minutes ago, Hemalurgic_Headshot said:

Sorry to hear that. Hugs!

I have dance from 6:30pm-8:30pm. Today it went terrible. 

Some names for the story: (changed due to privacy)

Lucy: My friend who I have been going to dancing with for the past 4 years

Lizzie: Dance teacher

Sarah: Lucy's friend

Mik: Lucy's friend

Natasha: Lucy's friend

 

BEGINS HERE

Spoiler

*conversation that was catalyst to the fight*

Mik: I got so smashed last night!

Natasha: Me too! I had like five shots

Me: Aren't you guys a little too young for drinking? You're only in 9th grade! I didn't drink till I was 18!

Lucy: Well that's you! You say it EVERY week!

Me: I do not! I've said it a few times, but that's really pushing it!

Lucy: Do too! 

Me: There's no need to be rude!

Lucy: Why do you barge into everything?!

Me: You know what, you can get your own lift home! Get stormed! *storms off*

*Ten minutes later*

Lizzie: I need costume idea for the concert 

Me: What about shiny yellow t-shirts? The song is called Greased Lightning anyway...

Lizzie: Noooo.....

Whole Class: *giggles at the idea*

Me: *already pissed from the fight before, storms out and calls best friend for a few minutes*

I told her everything. I was so upset. What I didn't know is that while I was talking about what happened, LUCY EAVESDROPPED THE ENTIRE CALL!!! 

Lucy told on me in front of the whole class for a having a phone call during class. I yell back that she was stalking me and that's illegal. Lizzie starts yelling at me and says I'm abusing the children in the class because I got mad at Lucy. Then I started crying again. After yelling at me, she stupidly asks me if I'm okay. What kind of question is that?! I proceeded to storm out after that I told her obviously not and cried hysterically for 10 mins outside.

BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE.

 

After I walked back in, Lizzie asked me what was going on. I told her, but then Lucy interrupts me! I message my Mum and Dad while I was outside. Apparently they already took action and called Lucy's Mum for making me so upset when I already have exams and I already have depression. Lucy comes towards me in tears. I tell her to shut up and stop pretending to be the victim. (I've seen her do this before in front of my best friend.) I'm furious at Lucy and Lizzie. I can't believe my dance teacher would do this. 

I left dance early, in hysterics. storm MY LIFE!!!

 

Edit: Mum came home and apparently didn't even touch her phone! She was busy with patients are work. LUCY IS A LYING SLUT!

 

Edited July 24, 2017 by Queen Elsa Steelheart

[Hemalurgic Headshot he/him]

More hugs. Lots more hugs.

Dr. HH: Here is your prescription. Take three hugs before every meal and then two more an hour afterwards. Don't forget to take a hug before bed as well. That canister should last you for a week. Come back when it runs out.

[Steeldancer he/him]

Just now, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

I have dance from 6:30pm-8:30pm. Today it went terrible. 

Some names for the story: (changed due to privacy)

Lucy: My friend who I have been going to dancing with for the past 4 years

Lizzie: Dance teacher

Sarah: Lucy's friend

Mik: Lucy's friend

Natasha: Lucy's friend

 

BEGINS HERE

  Hide contents

*conversation that was catalyst to the fight*

Mik: I got so smashed last night!

Natasha: Me too! I had like five shots

Me: Aren't you guys a little too young for drinking? You're only in 9th grade! I didn't drink till I was 18!

Lucy: Well that's you! You say it EVERY week!

Me: I do not! I've said it a few times, but that's really pushing it!

Lucy: Do too! 

Me: There's no need to be rude!

Lucy: Why do you barge into everything?!

Me: You know what, you can get your own lift home! Get stormed! *storms off*

*Ten minutes later*

Lizzie: I need costume idea for the concert 

Me: What about shiny yellow t-shirts? The song is called Greased Lightning anyway...

Lizzie: Noooo.....

Whole Class: *giggles at the idea*

Me: *already pissed from the fight before, storms out and calls best friend for a few minutes*

I told her everything. I was so upset. What I didn't know is that while I was talking about what happened, LUCY EAVESDROPPED THE ENTIRE CALL!!! 

Lucy told on me in front of the whole class for a having a phone call during class. I yell back that she was stalking me and that's illegal. Lizzie starts yelling at me and says I'm abusing the children in the class because I got mad at Lucy. Then I started crying again. After yelling at me, she stupidly asks me if I'm okay. What kind of question is that?! I proceeded to storm out after that I told her obviously not and cried hysterically for 10 mins outside.

BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE.

 

After I walked back in, Lizzie asked me what was going on. I told her, but then Lucy interrupts me! I message my Mum and Dad while I was outside. Apparently they already took action and called Lucy's Mum for making me so upset when I already have exams and I already have depression. Lucy comes towards me in tears. I tell her to shut up and stop pretending to be the victim. (I've seen her do this before in front of my best friend.) I'm furious at Lucy and Lizzie. I can't believe my dance teacher would do this. 

I left dance early, in hysterics. storm MY LIFE!!!

 

Edit: Mum came home and apparently didn't even touch her phone! She was busy with patients are work. LUCY IS A LYING SLUT!

 

I don't even know what to say. That's awful. I've been keeping an eye on what you've been saying, and I know how bad you have it. I really wish I could personally do something to help, because my heart goes out to anyone in a situation like yours. 

As great as hugs are, you sound like you need something more permanent. It almost sounds to me like you need to move out. It's all I can really think of for the moment, and it's probably not a great or a viable idea. But personally I find it easier to deal with the crem life throws at you if you really invest in something worthwhile. A project. A book. Heck, even schoolwork (as much as I hate that). But whatever you choose to do, I'm pretty sure I can speak for every one here that we are here to support you in whatever way we can. 

[Delightful]

1 hour ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

I have dance from 6:30pm-8:30pm. Today it went terrible. 

Some names for the story: (changed due to privacy)

Lucy: My friend who I have been going to dancing with for the past 4 years

Lizzie: Dance teacher

Sarah: Lucy's friend

Mik: Lucy's friend

Natasha: Lucy's friend

 

BEGINS HERE

  Hide contents

*conversation that was catalyst to the fight*

Mik: I got so smashed last night!

Natasha: Me too! I had like five shots

Me: Aren't you guys a little too young for drinking? You're only in 9th grade! I didn't drink till I was 18!

Lucy: Well that's you! You say it EVERY week!

Me: I do not! I've said it a few times, but that's really pushing it!

Lucy: Do too! 

Me: There's no need to be rude!

Lucy: Why do you barge into everything?!

Me: You know what, you can get your own lift home! Get stormed! *storms off*

*Ten minutes later*

Lizzie: I need costume idea for the concert 

Me: What about shiny yellow t-shirts? The song is called Greased Lightning anyway...

Lizzie: Noooo.....

Whole Class: *giggles at the idea*

Me: *already pissed from the fight before, storms out and calls best friend for a few minutes*

I told her everything. I was so upset. What I didn't know is that while I was talking about what happened, LUCY EAVESDROPPED THE ENTIRE CALL!!! 

Lucy told on me in front of the whole class for a having a phone call during class. I yell back that she was stalking me and that's illegal. Lizzie starts yelling at me and says I'm abusing the children in the class because I got mad at Lucy. Then I started crying again. After yelling at me, she stupidly asks me if I'm okay. What kind of question is that?! I proceeded to storm out after that I told her obviously not and cried hysterically for 10 mins outside.

BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE.

 

After I walked back in, Lizzie asked me what was going on. I told her, but then Lucy interrupts me! I message my Mum and Dad while I was outside. Apparently they already took action and called Lucy's Mum for making me so upset when I already have exams and I already have depression. Lucy comes towards me in tears. I tell her to shut up and stop pretending to be the victim. (I've seen her do this before in front of my best friend.) I'm furious at Lucy and Lizzie. I can't believe my dance teacher would do this. 

I left dance early, in hysterics. storm MY LIFE!!!

 

Edit: Mum came home and apparently didn't even touch her phone! She was busy with patients are work. LUCY IS A LYING SLUT!

 

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