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[Calderis he/him]

1 minute ago, StrikerEZ said:

Wow, that's just terrible. Why would anyone do anything like that? Why is the world so okay with people doing stuff like this? Well, not okay with it, but they don't care enough about it to truly punish people for horrible actions like this.

Because his actions didn't cost anyone any money. If those birds had been someone's property, and their rarity consequently inflated their monetary value, you can bet there would be harsher consequences.

Unfortunately, our justice system values money over all else, and since no one was harmed monetarily, he gets a slap on the wrist. 

It's disgusting. 

[Elsecaller3414 she/her]

21 minutes ago, Sunbird said:

I need a hug.

Heard on the news that some sick, twisted, complete cremhole garbage excuse for a human being went into a wildlife refuge in Hawaii and not only slaughtered but also dismembered 15 nesting Laysan Albatrosses, smashing their eggs in addition to the adults. Before the rampage there were only 300 of these birds left in the WORLD. They mate for life and only lay a single egg per year, so it's incredibly difficult for them to repopulate. 50 years will probably pass before the world population of Laysan Albatrosses reaches 300 again.

Wanna guess how the perpetrator is being punished? Maximum one year in jail, and his college, New York University, intends to let him continue attending once he's out. I am simultaneously furious and heartbroken beyond words.

Seriously though, the government has problems with this kind of thing; they just don't seem to understand just how IMPORTANT these birds are. Honestly, I'm a member of the Audubon Society, so this also makes me mad. *hugs*

[Erandeni he/him]

20 minutes ago, Sunbird said:

I need a hug.

Heard on the news that some sick, twisted, complete cremhole garbage excuse for a human being went into a wildlife refuge in Hawaii and not only slaughtered but also dismembered 15 nesting Laysan Albatrosses, smashing their eggs in addition to the adults. Before the rampage there were only 300 of these birds left in the WORLD. They mate for life and only lay a single egg per year, so it's incredibly difficult for them to repopulate. 50 years will probably pass before the world population of Laysan Albatrosses reaches 300 again.

Wanna guess how the perpetrator is being punished? Maximum one year in jail, and his college, New York University, intends to let him continue attending once he's out. I am simultaneously furious and heartbroken beyond words.

*hugs*

Recently something similar happens in a wildlife refuge near where I lived, it was a terrible fire, and apparently someone did it intentionally.I can't even imagine why people do that.

[Sparkrunner he/him]

Being a roadwalker, I find this horrifying. Mental diseases. Among humans.

So even though he gets 1 year in jail, I'm sure some wildlife groups will manage to get a lawsuit up and running, maybe write some letters...

[Sunbird she/her]

3 hours ago, StrikerEZ said:

Wow, that's just terrible. Why would anyone do anything like that? Why is the world so okay with people doing stuff like this? Well, not okay with it, but they don't care enough about it to truly punish people for horrible actions like this.

I think the guy must be mentally disturbed. Normal people cringe at images of animal cruelty, but this guy took photos of his gruesome work and plastered them all over his social media. (No, I haven't seen the photos, and I'm glad I haven't.) He seems to have no capacity for empathy at all.

3 hours ago, Calderis said:

Because his actions didn't cost anyone any money. If those birds had been someone's property, and their rarity consequently inflated their monetary value, you can bet there would be harsher consequences.

Unfortunately, our justice system values money over all else, and since no one was harmed monetarily, he gets a slap on the wrist. 

It's disgusting. 

This is all too true... Many times I have heard other birdwatchers say that the best way to get funds for wildlife conservation of any given species is to make it hunt-able. Apparently the government only cares about preserving birds that they can make money off of from hunting permits.

3 hours ago, Elsecaller3414 said:

Seriously though, the government has problems with this kind of thing; they just don't seem to understand just how IMPORTANT these birds are. Honestly, I'm a member of the Audubon Society, so this also makes me mad. *hugs*

Exactly. This isn't the first time in my memory that people have gotten off with a slap on the wrist for killing critically endangered birds. Some idiot shot 2 Whooping Cranes in Texas last year, and he got a fine, community service, and suspended firearm and hunting privileges. No jail time. According to the article I linked, that's only the 2nd time someone's ever been convicted and punished for killing a Whooping Crane, despite the fact that more than 20 of the birds had been shot and killed in the last 5 years before the article was published.

3 hours ago, Idealistic Mistborn said:

*hugs*

Recently something similar happens in a wildlife refuge near where I lived, it was a terrible fire, and apparently someone did it intentionally.I can't even imagine why people do that.

That's just as awful! Maybe even worse, since the wildfire could have killed a lot of people too, depending on how far it might've spread.

2 hours ago, Roadwalker said:

Being a roadwalker, I find this horrifying. Mental diseases. Among humans.

So even though he gets 1 year in jail, I'm sure some wildlife groups will manage to get a lawsuit up and running, maybe write some letters...

There is a petition online demanding that the university expel the albatross killer. It has over 32,000 signatures already, and I signed it too. That's still not a severe enough punishment; in my opinion, this cremhole deserves at least a decade in prison for such a cruel, senseless, and far-reaching crime.

[Seonid he/him]

Well, I didn't get the job I interviewed for. The rejection e-mail said that they were impressed by my writing sample, personality, and job-related knowledge, and invited me to apply to future openings. So that's a good thing. But I was really kind of hoping for this position to work out.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

1 minute ago, Seonid said:

Well, I didn't get the job I interviewed for. The rejection e-mail said that they were impressed by my writing sample, personality, and job-related knowledge, and invited me to apply to future openings. So that's a good thing. But I was really kind of hoping for this position to work out.

Man, that really sucks. At least you know that they're interested in you as a possible employee, even if they can't hire you right now.

[Kered he/him]

12 minutes ago, Seonid said:

Well, I didn't get the job I interviewed for. The rejection e-mail said that they were impressed by my writing sample, personality, and job-related knowledge, and invited me to apply to future openings. So that's a good thing. But I was really kind of hoping for this position to work out.

Usually when they say things like that your application goes on top when the next opening becomes available. 

[Erandeni he/him]

5 hours ago, Seonid said:

Well, I didn't get the job I interviewed for. The rejection e-mail said that they were impressed by my writing sample, personality, and job-related knowledge, and invited me to apply to future openings. So that's a good thing. But I was really kind of hoping for this position to work out.

*hugs*

I'm sorry to hear that, but at least they are interested by you.

[Delightful]

On 10 July 2017 at 6:23 PM, Left said:

So after 7 weeks of binge watching I finished That 70's Show. I feel like crying. I can't believe it's over

Aaaand I have a braize of a shift today. Lifeguarding for five hours, than I have to teach two over booked classes of swim lessons. The curiculum I HAVE to use is absolutely horrible, so I feel bad even teaching it. I try to ditch it as much as I can, but I still feel really bad for the kids cause the class is twice as large as it should be so I can't teach them as much as they could learn or give them enough time to perfect what they do learn.....

But at least this is my last day!!!! After this they aren't Ever gonna see me walk in there again. They'd have to pay me three times what I'm making, and even then I doubt I'd take it. It's been over a year and a half, and I'm finally gonna be freeeeee!!!!

(Firstly if I'm slightly insensitive I'm sorry I'm tiiiiired but I just wanted to come say hiiii)

Could you not have quit earlier?

On 10 July 2017 at 11:26 PM, Elsecaller3414 said:

Seriously though, the government has problems with this kind of thing; they just don't seem to understand just how IMPORTANT these birds are. Honestly, I'm a member of the Audubon Society, so this also makes me mad. *hugs*

Aside from rarity, why are these birds so important? What's unique about them?

On 11 July 2017 at 1:09 AM, Roadwalker said:

Being a roadwalker, I find this horrifying. Mental diseases. Among humans.

So even though he gets 1 year in jail, I'm sure some wildlife groups will manage to get a lawsuit up and running, maybe write some letters...

Whats that got to do with mental disease? Some people are just bad people. And most people with mental illnesses, like myself, are not/do not turn into killers or thieves or rapists. Please be nice. 

[Sparkrunner he/him]

I don't mean-- ugh...

OK when someone does something like say kills someone and then disembowels them then they are what we called "mad" or "crazy".

You don't call someone who has a mental disease and

14 minutes ago, Delightful said:

are not/do not turn into killers or thieves or rapists.

mad or crazy, there is a difference between people who have a screw loose and people who have

15 minutes ago, Delightful said:

mental illnesses, like myself,

 

[Delightful]

47 minutes ago, Roadwalker said:

I don't mean-- ugh...

OK when someone does something like say kills someone and then disembowels them then they are what we called "mad" or "crazy".

You don't call someone who has a mental disease and

mad or crazy, there is a difference between people who have a screw loose and people who have

 

Mad and crazy used to mean mental illness, and the way mental illness is blamed for gun violence in the US, people have tried armchair diagnosing Trump with  some form of disorder, every criminal gets armchair diagnosed with something.............they're way too close for comfort. The moment anyone dislikes another person its "well they must have xyz mental illness." No. Some people are just horrible people. And most mentally ill people are wonderful kind human beings struggling along with a little more strife than everyone else. 

(I am also very tired and rambling and about to go to sleep. I stand by my point but if I was more awake I could phrase it softer and or more diplomatically. Promise its an idea thing and not personal at all). 

 

Also, friendly tip, you might want to work on your quote positioning :).

[Sparkrunner he/him]

Sorry Im almost asleep and trying to keep up in my SE game so Im not quite sure what is going on...

[Delightful]

Just now, Roadwalker said:

Sorry Im almost asleep and trying to keep up in my SE game so Im not quite sure what is going on...

I think we both sleep and make more sense in the morning.......out of curiosity what timezone are you on? Europe?

[Sparkrunner he/him]

I'm actually american mountain time so its like 3:30Pm but I've been up since three in the morning I didn't really sleep last night...

[Sparkrunner he/him]

Since this is the Bad News thread I though I should just post this video I saw... Take a look.

Spoiler

 

 

[Delightful]

I need five of me and there is not five of me and this is extremely problematic.  

[Claincy he/him]

I know partially shutting down emotionally and detaching from the world is not a super healthy way of dealing with things, but sometimes I don't see a better option. It's not that it technically reduces the pain but it does reduce it's impact. If you aren't *feeling* much the pain just doesn't matter as much.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

4 hours ago, Delightful said:

I need five of me and there is not five of me and this is extremely problematic.  

What would Brandon do in this situation?

1 hour ago, Claincy said:

I know partially shutting down emotionally and detaching from the world is not a super healthy way of dealing with things, but sometimes I don't see a better option. It's not that it technically reduces the pain but it does reduce it's impact. If you aren't *feeling* much the pain just doesn't matter as much.

What's happening?

[Calderis he/him]

1 hour ago, Claincy said:

I know partially shutting down emotionally and detaching from the world is not a super healthy way of dealing with things, but sometimes I don't see a better option. It's not that it technically reduces the pain but it does reduce it's impact. If you aren't *feeling* much the pain just doesn't matter as much.

I understand completely. People who don't see that and just think you don't care can compound the issue. 

Apathy is a killer. Take care of yourself. Remember to pay attention to hygiene and do what you need to make yourself get out of bed and act.

The hardest thing about that emotional detachment is it doesn't just weaken the effects of negative things on you, it weakens everything. 

At my worst I stayed in bed for pretty much three days straight. If it gets that bad, get help. Please. 

I don't know you, and I know this probably doesn't mean a lot, but you're not alone. 

[Claincy he/him]

32 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

What's happening?

Pain, mostly, lots of it. So pretty much the usual for me. I had a few days that weren't as bad then crashed again.

26 minutes ago, Calderis said:

I understand completely. People who don't see that and just think you don't care can compound the issue. 

Apathy is a killer. Take care of yourself. Remember to pay attention to hygiene and do what you need to make yourself get out of bed and act.

The hardest thing about that emotional detachment is it doesn't just weaken the effects of negative things on you, it weakens everything. 

At my worst I stayed in bed for pretty much three days straight. If it gets that bad, get help. Please. 

I don't know you, and I know this probably doesn't mean a lot, but you're not alone. 

If I get to that point I will absolutely seek help  I should be better able to handle it again tomorrow once I've rested some more. It's very much a conscious decision to detach from the pain more than an inability to cope. I'll be ok, it just sucks a bit. (Thanks though )

[Delightful]

1 hour ago, Silverblade5 said:

What would Brandon do in this situation?

What's happening?

He has sanderbots and like ten assistants. I want assistants.

 

I spent most of the day in bed today. Just started seeing a therapist and also about to move so.....not doing too well? Just way overwhelmed by all of the urgent things that all have to be done yesterday. On top of wedding stuff I got a draft notice from the army. As a religious woman about be married I can get out of it, but its another thing to do thats super duper urgent and can only be done in the mornings. And my washing machine is broken and my new place doesnt have one and its boiling hot and I need to pack and theres also bureaucracy to deal with and I may just be fired because they won't give me time off and I can't work. The other day I literally got in, collapsed, opened the computer, stared at the screen, and panicked till they told me I could got home. Too much.  

[Calderis he/him]

@Delightful I'm sure you don't need to be told this, but take care of yourself. 

Try to focus. Make a list of the top say, 5 most important things to be done, and focus on them one at a time. 

Tomorrow, make a new list, and anything completed goes away. 

The list can change as priorities do, but this way you can focus on one thing at a time. 

If you let everything build up in your mind it can be crippling. Focus on one thing at a time as much as you can. It may same overly simplistic, and it may not work for you, but I find it helpful. 

Hope you find a way through it. 

[Delightful]

24 minutes ago, Calderis said:

@Delightful I'm sure you don't need to be told this, but take care of yourself. 

Try to focus. Make a list of the top say, 5 most important things to be done, and focus on them one at a time. 

Tomorrow, make a new list, and anything completed goes away. 

The list can change as priorities do, but this way you can focus on one thing at a time. 

If you let everything build up in your mind it can be crippling. Focus on one thing at a time as much as you can. It may same overly simplistic, and it may not work for you, but I find it helpful. 

Hope you find a way through it. 

The problem is that I keep doing that, and then every couple hours someone calls me with a different priority and suddenly I don't know whats priority anymore and I have ten urgent things instead of five and I go into overload. And that happens every day or every other day so I'm slipping further behind........my brain feels like a very sore and tired head muscle. 

[Calderis he/him]

Just now, Delightful said:

The problem is that I keep doing that, and then every couple hours someone calls me with a different priority and suddenly I don't know whats priority anymore and I have ten urgent things instead of five and I go into overload. And that happens every day or every other day so I'm slipping further behind........my brain feels like a very sore and tired head muscle. 

Ugh. I wish I had a suggestion. I'm sorry.