Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Nathrangking he/him]

19 hours ago, Ookla the Imperium said:

Oh, @Nathrangking that sounds so frustrating!  Good on you for not getting frustrated, that's impressive. I think you did the best you could have done. *hugs*

There is a part of me which knows that I did what I could. However, I needed to hear it from someone else. The whole thing was just so unsettling that it cuts deep. Thank you!!

[Scarletfox]

19 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

It has been 5 minutes and so I'm back to vent. I just had one of the singularly most stressful moments of my professional career. In my line of work I help college students of many backgrounds improve their writing. This means that there are times when care and patience a needed because for some the English language is unfamiliar. I do my best to move slowly and clearly through the work at hand so that the students will get the maximum benefit from the sessions. I am always respectful of the students and never lose my temper with them. Any frustration that I may feel is never vented at the students. I have never been accused of being anything other than professional. This afternoon a student for whom English was a second language came for help and well things did not go well. There was a time limit on the session as I had another an hour after this one (that is the standard length of a session.) The student's paper required work so we went through it step by step. However, the more that I explained the more frustrated and confused the student became. I calmly kept reexplaining what I was saying to ensure that there was no misunderstanding. No matter what I said the student insisted that this is what they had done. I never lost my temper. I stayed calm and collected throughout despite my rising annoyance. Things boiled over when the student lost their temper at me. They accused me of not being professional and not caring about their work. I was almost speechless as I have never been called to task like that ever!! I didn't know what to say. Time ran out and I even gave them more to try and explain things again, but it was hopeless. I ended up apologizing for not being helpful and then I ended the session. I'm just so drained. There is little more that I could have done, but the whole thing rattled me.

Now ya'll can go back to your regularly scheduled programming which I rudely interrupted.

You did really really well considering the circumstances, I doubt I could have kept my cool as you did! *hugs*

[Nathrangking he/him]

Just now, Ookla the Sly said:

You did really really well considering the circumstances, I doubt I could have kept my cool as you did! *hugs*

I was so close to losing it with the student. It takes a great deal to get under my skin. Those accusations those hit a chink in my armor. It took a massive level of control. That was where my questioned professionalism was needed. It was not just about not being fired. I refused to allow the student to have that kind of power over me, but how close I got to giving in is very uncomfortable.

[Condensation she/her]

Wow, that's so much self control. Impressive, and I hope it gets better!

[Nathrangking he/him]

5 minutes ago, Ookla the Grammatical said:

Wow, that's so much self control. Impressive, and I hope it gets better!

I hope to never end up in such a situation again. My self control will likely grow in time. For now I needed the support system and I am truly grateful for all of you!!

[Condensation she/her]

Just now, Nathrangking said:

I hope to never end up in such a situation again. My self control will likely grow in time. For now I needed the support system and I am truly grateful for all of you!!

We'll always be here to help, just let us know!

*hugs*

[Mist she/her]

6 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

When you finally admit you can't do something because you were never as good at it as you thought and you give it up because you suck at it….that shouldn't make you feel worse, but here we are. 

*hugs* I know that must feel bad.

[AonEne he/him]

I had an awful day, but recovered it, so I'll live. Would like hugs, though.

[Zephrun’s Imperium they/he]

[Darth Woodrack he/him]

I’ll always be here to hug you Ene.

Hugs with the infinite arms of a DM.

[Nathrangking he/him]

16 minutes ago, AonEne said:

I had an awful day, but recovered it, so I'll live. Would like hugs, though.

*Hugs.* 

and a hot off the presses haiku

Gentle hands soothe sad
Branches. Bright beams enlighten.
Willow's soft aura.

 

Edited January 20, 2021 by Nathrangking

[Condensation she/her]

24 minutes ago, AonEne said:

I had an awful day, but recovered it, so I'll live. Would like hugs, though.

*hugs*

Any way I can help?

[AonEne he/him]

*hugs everyone back* Today is better, thank you all! 

[Mist she/her]

*hugs Ene*

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

*Hugs*

[midnight13 she/her]

20 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

*Hugs.* 

and a hot off the presses haiku

Gentle hands soothe sad
Branches. Bright beams enlighten.
Willow's soft aura.

 

That’s an amazing haiku! Poetry is one of the long list of things I do not have a knack for.

And to everyone: *hugs*

[Nathrangking he/him]

Looks like I could not stay well forever. I don't get sick often, but when I do it is always a bother. Since I got Covid I have been slightly run down, but healthy. Now I may have strep throat. Strep is annoying at any time, but during a pandemic where even confirming it may not be possible is so much worse. Stuck at home with my parents and strep is not going to be fun at all. 

End Mini Rant

[midnight13 she/her]

7 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

Looks like I could not stay well forever. I don't get sick often, but when I do it is always a bother. Since I got Covid I have been slightly run down, but healthy. Now I may have strep throat. Strep is annoying at any time, but during a pandemic where even confirming it may not be possible is so much worse. Stuck at home with my parents and strep is not going to be fun at all. 

End Mini Rant

*hugs* Hope you get better soon!

I had a pretty bad mental health moment this morning, but after spending some time on the Shard talking to people I'm much better.

[Mist she/her]

Spoiler

14 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

Looks like I could not stay well forever. I don't get sick often, but when I do it is always a bother. Since I got Covid I have been slightly run down, but healthy. Now I may have strep throat. Strep is annoying at any time, but during a pandemic where even confirming it may not be possible is so much worse. Stuck at home with my parents and strep is not going to be fun at all. 

End Mini Rant

 

7 hours ago, midnight13 said:

*hugs* Hope you get better soon!

I had a pretty bad mental health moment this morning, but after spending some time on the Shard talking to people I'm much better.

 

*hugs* oof. Strep is never fun, especially if you can't get treated

*hugs* I'm glad the Shard could help! I know many of us have been able to find support or just a way to forget our burdens here. 

[midnight13 she/her]

Thank you  

*hugs*

[Silva]

Today has been...long. I haven't been able to focus on much anything which is unfortunate. (Yay to starting a new semester with a poor test score in a tough class because your brain doesn't want to do physics! ) (And, to make matters even better, my friend did not seem to believe my self-assessment or comprehend that such a thing could be possible for me. Yay for friends who have higher expectations of you than reality despite your many efforts to dissuade them of the notion! Makes you feel great when you're looking for reassurance that fallibility is okay! [insert long rant on this here]! ) Today has been...a true joy. ...hoping for a better tomorrow.

On 1/22/2021 at 7:42 AM, Nathrangking said:

Looks like I could not stay well forever. I don't get sick often, but when I do it is always a bother. Since I got Covid I have been slightly run down, but healthy. Now I may have strep throat. Strep is annoying at any time, but during a pandemic where even confirming it may not be possible is so much worse. Stuck at home with my parents and strep is not going to be fun at all. 

End Mini Rant

רפואה שלמה! *hugs*

[Condensation she/her]

*hugs everyone*

Y'all are amazing.

[Nathrangking he/him]

Just now, Silva said:

Today has been...long. I haven't been able to focus on much anything which is unfortunate. (Yay to starting a new semester with a poor test score in a tough class because your brain doesn't want to do physics! ) (And, to make matters even better, my friend did not seem to believe my self-assessment or comprehend that such a thing could be possible for me. Yay for friends who have higher expectations of you than reality despite your many efforts to dissuade them of the notion! Makes you feel great when you're looking for reassurance that fallibility is okay! [insert long rant on this here]! ) Today has been...a true joy. ...hoping for a better tomorrow.

רפואה שלמה! *hugs*

*Hugs.* Hang in there. You are greater than you know. 

Thank You. I'm doing ok. Thankfully it is not terrible.

Just now, Condensation said:

*hugs everyone*

Y'all are amazing.

Same to you!

[AonEne he/him]

@Silva It's okay to not be perfect!! That's something I've struggled with as well, but there're always other classes to take to make up the credit or other assignments to do. Failing a physics class is not a measure of your worth as a human being, and it's okay to try your hardest and not get As or 100%s. If you make it through the class, that's a win.

(Sorry I haven't talked to you much lately, have I!)

[Mist she/her]

Spoiler

3 hours ago, Silva said:

Today has been...long. I haven't been able to focus on much anything which is unfortunate. (Yay to starting a new semester with a poor test score in a tough class because your brain doesn't want to do physics! ) (And, to make matters even better, my friend did not seem to believe my self-assessment or comprehend that such a thing could be possible for me. Yay for friends who have higher expectations of you than reality despite your many efforts to dissuade them of the notion! Makes you feel great when you're looking for reassurance that fallibility is okay! [insert long rant on this here]! ) Today has been...a true joy. ...hoping for a better tomorrow.

*hugs* It's okay to be imperfect. We're all imperfect. I hope tomorrow is better too!