Mental health club!

[GG0z He/Him]

7 hours ago, Deception said:

AHH NOOOOO HEEEEEELP

Luckily for me, autism makes it hard for me to switch tasks, so if I'm enjoying myself and not currently playing video games, sometimes I don't even want to start.

But...

Autism also makes it harder to stop, so once I start playing, I play all day. I can solve this by just starting an hour before dinner time, though, so I have to get off for dinner.

Doesn't help that I really like coding... which can only be done on an unrestricted computer... does this happen to anyone else here, where you are doing something good and having lots of fun, then you hit some sort of problem, then instead of fixing the problem you start doing something stupid like video games?

Happens to me a lot, but I always thought I was just procrastinating

[Usseewa]

Just now, GG0z said:

Happens to me a lot, but I always thought I was just procrastinating

Maybe it is ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Verdance he/him]

2 hours ago, GG0z said:

Happens to me a lot, but I always thought I was just procrastinating

As my bineurodivergence is lind if intertwined, its hard to say “autism makes me focus” or “adhd makes me procrastinate”. However, I can say that my behaviors as more polarized, likely to either get everything done or nothing at all 

procrastination exists and i don’t like to blame neurodivergence on it but it is definitely a factor

[Keteᛕ He/Him/His]

2 hours ago, Verdance said:

As my bineurodivergence is lind if intertwined, its hard to say “autism makes me focus” or “adhd makes me procrastinate”. However, I can say that my behaviors as more polarized, likely to either get everything done or nothing at all 

Note: No harm or offense meant here. I feel the same way.

I feel like people who blame everything on their ADHD aren't entirely the way they are because of the ADHD.

Edited June 7 by Through The Living Ketek

[Deception He/Him]

11 hours ago, Through The Living Ketek said:

 

I feel like people who blame everything on their ADHD aren't entirely the way they are because of the ADHD.

How many people have you heard saying "It's my ADHD" whenever they do something wrong, but they clearly don't have ADHD?

 

Completely unrelated:

@6 7 Change your name back!!!

I had this whole "67 party" today (June 7th). This rich guy threw a huge party and he had a robot that did the arm gesture and said 67 constantly and there were a ton of massive banners with 67 on them. And a 67 cake. He had drones drop ice cream from the sky, too.

[Verdance he/him]

8 minutes ago, Deception said:

How many people have you heard saying "It's my ADHD" whenever they do something wrong, but they clearly don't have ADHD?

 

Completely unrelated:

@6 7 Change your name back!!!

I had this whole "67 party" today (June 7th). This rich guy threw a huge party and he had a robot that did the arm gesture and said 67 constantly and there were a ton of massive banners with 67 on them. And a 67 cake. He had drones drop ice cream from the sky, too.

Agreed, it’s really not an excuse

yes

ew

[Aeoryi she/her]

8 minutes ago, Deception said:

How many people have you heard saying "It's my ADHD" whenever they do something wrong, but they clearly don't have ADHD?

I really really dislike people who self-diagnose or claim to have mental disorders that they don't have a diagnosis (such as ADHD or OCD). it detracts from the difficulties of people who actually struggle with that thing, who don't get to arbitrarily decide when it gets to affect them or not and honestly it is just disrespectful to the people who have that disorder. 

As for people who legitimately believe they may have something... If you seriously believe you might have something like a mental disorder then you should consider going to a professional to figure out what's going on and how best to help yourself. 

[Deception He/Him]

On 6/7/2026 at 11:11 PM, Aeoryi said:

I really really dislike people who self-diagnose or claim to have mental disorders that they don't have a diagnosis (such as ADHD or OCD). it detracts from the difficulties of people who actually struggle with that thing, who don't get to arbitrarily decide when it gets to affect them or not and honestly it is just disrespectful to the people who have that disorder. 

As for people who legitimately believe they may have something... If you seriously believe you might have something like a mental disorder then you should consider going to a professional to figure out what's going on and how best to help yourself. 

Yes exactly!

 

Completely random goofy comeback list (use ethically):

Spoiler

Edit: I removed it because I was being attacked for what I said here

Lol

Anyone else know any good ones?

Edited Wednesday at 01:23 AM by Deception

[Aeoryi she/her]

Just now, Deception said:

Completely random goofy comeback list (use ethically):

  Hide contents

"That's so autistic"

  Reveal hidden contents

"Thanks!"

"That's a bad thing, idiot"

"But then you would be disabled"

"I'm not autistic!"

"So you're dumber than me?"

"AUTISM IS BAD"

"But I just said it was good"

*continue looping until thoroughly ragebaited*

"You're retarded":

  Reveal hidden contents

"What does that mean?"

"A): It means you B): it means autistic idiot C) that proves my point you're retarded"

if A:

"Thank you. Being me is so great!"

if B:

use the "that's so autistic" response

if C):

repeat the question again

"Crash out"

  Reveal hidden contents

"Oh, sorry to hear that. Can I help you?"

"Huh?"

"You said you were crashing out, right?"

"Go cry about it"

  Reveal hidden contents

"Good advice. Crying actually gets rid of bad chemicals in your body, making you feel better. Actually, maybe you should do it yourself. That breakup with <insert name> must have been really bad" - *loud enough for bystanders to hear*

 

I've only ever used #1 and #4 irl unfortunately (I think I've used all of them online). It's really funny when they work.

Lol

Anyone else know any good ones?

some people consider the second one a slur so please be careful. it was used in a  derogatory way to refer to people with mental illnesses in the past (it means "slow" in French) and so some people might really not like you using it

[Deception He/Him]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

some people consider the second one a slur so please be careful

I don't really think that's a slur. It's bad, but not a slur exactly. Besides in this use case it would be fine.

But yes, I have been and will be careful using it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me that, and I won't use it on anyone else in that way. I still can't believe it used to be a medical term. According to a random google search, autism used to be called "developmental retardation". Imagine living back then...

[Aeoryi she/her]

4 minutes ago, Deception said:

I don't really think that's a slur. It's bad, but not a slur exactly. Besides in this use case it would be fine.

But yes, I have been and will be careful using it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me that, and I won't use it on anyone else in that way. I still can't believe it used to be a medical term. According to a random google search, autism used to be called "developmental retardation". Imagine living back then...

it doesn't matter whether or not you consider it a slur it's still polite to be respectful to how other people will react. Especially if you wouldn't want anyone calling you by that term then maybe it isn't okay to be using for other people either, mmm? treat other people the way you want to be treated.

[Deception He/Him]

3 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

it doesn't matter whether or not you consider it a slur it's still polite to be respectful to how other people will react. Especially if you wouldn't want anyone calling you by that term then maybe it isn't okay to be using for other people either, mmm? treat other people the way you want to be treated.

When did I "use that term for other people"?

Sorry, but isn't all of this exactly what I just said?

12 minutes ago, Deception said:

yes, I have been and will be careful using it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me that, and I won't use it on anyone else

 

Please don't act like I'm being offensive every time I make a post. I know you mean well but sometimes it feels like twisting my words.

 

If you want to respond to this, PM me. I don't want to derail the thread any more.

[Aeoryi she/her]

No worries. I have a lot of personal history with hearing that word be used as a method of hate speech, so I'm a little bit more sensitive to it and want to really hammer in the point that it's not something that's okay to just be encouraging people to do, even as a joke.

Edited June 8 by Aeoryi

[Usseewa]

11 hours ago, Aeoryi said:

some people consider the second one a slur so please be careful. it was used in a  derogatory way to refer to people with mental illnesses in the past (it means "slow" in French) and so some people might really not like you using it

I agree with Tess here, and was going to say this, actually.

@Deception

Edited Monday at 06:31 PM by 6 7

[Deception He/Him]

13 hours ago, Aeoryi said:

No worries. I have a lot of personal history with hearing that word be used as a method of hate speech, so I'm a little bit more sensitive to it and want to really hammer in the point that it's not something that's okay to just be encouraging people to do, even as a joke.

So

When was I "encouraging people to do" it?

???

[Aeoryi she/her]

I think you can find the answer to that question yourself.

Edited Monday at 10:45 PM by Aeoryi

[Deception He/Him]

38 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I think you can find the answer to that question yourself.

I don't.

Quote the exact section where I encouraged someone to say that, and tell me how.

[Usseewa]

MentalHEALTH

yeah

Im not gonna say much here, 'side from that sometimes/a lot, the thought doesn't even cross my mind to consider an alternative or to share something I'm thinking with someone. Don't know if that makes sense.

Also how to uhhh deal with believing you're a bad person and basically spread negativity wherever you go and everytime you talk/contribute and all your thoughts and everything you do is selfish or manipulative or otherwise bad?

edit: including posting this.......

like even talking about my mental health feels like I'm being a bad person or doing something wrong

Edited Thursday at 02:15 AM by Usseewa

[Deception He/Him]

3 hours ago, Usseewa said:

the thought doesn't even cross my mind to consider an alternative or to share something I'm thinking with someone. Don't know if that makes sense

Yes, that makes sense. It sometimes happens to me too, just because either:

• I think that someone will interpret what I say as offensive
• I think that I will get shamed
• General social anxiety stuff
• Absolutely no reason at all

3 hours ago, Usseewa said:

Also how to uhhh deal with believing you're a bad person and basically spread negativity wherever you go and everytime you talk/contribute and all your thoughts and everything you do is selfish or manipulative or otherwise bad?

I don't like to play favorites but...

Spoiler

Ima just say that you're not a bad Sharder.

I mean my mood improves when I read your posts, so you're definitely not spreading negativity here.

 

3 hours ago, Usseewa said:

like even talking about my mental health feels like I'm being a bad person or doing something wrong

The only thing you could do wrong is to not talk to anyone.

And by posting about your own problems, you not only receive answers and get things off your chest, but also voice problems that many other people deal with and are too scared to explain.

The act of typing my response here is helping me to understand more about myself.

 

EDIT:

If you don't mind me asking, when did your pronouns change to they (u don't need to answer if u don't want to)? 

Spoiler

Also...

 

Sorry for arguing on this thread. I should have moved to a PM sooner.

Edited Thursday at 06:05 AM by Deception
Added the part under "EDIT" duh

[Usseewa]

4 hours ago, Deception said:

Yes, that makes sense. It sometimes happens to me too, just because either:

• I think that someone will interpret what I say as offensive
• I think that I will get shamed
• General social anxiety stuff
• Absolutely no reason at all

I don't like to play favorites but...

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Ima just say that you're not a bad Sharder.

I mean my mood improves when I read your posts, so you're definitely not spreading negativity here.

 

The only thing you could do wrong is to not talk to anyone.

And by posting about your own problems, you not only receive answers and get things off your chest, but also voice problems that many other people deal with and are too scared to explain.

The act of typing my response here is helping me to understand more about myself.

 

EDIT:

If you don't mind me asking, when did your pronouns change to they (u don't need to answer if u don't want to)? 

  Hide contents

Also...

 

Sorry for arguing on this thread. I should have moved to a PM sooner.

Thanks, that helps

Sorry i can't respond thoroughly right now.

 

I changed my pronouns to they(/them) yesterday. I'm just trying it out.

All good, just try to remember that next time or smt. It's fine tho

[coldfuzion76 he/him]

Hey everyone. I kinda feel like I'm interrupting a little. Been away for a little bit, but I just need to say this I think. I started on this forum when I was feeling kinda better and hoped to be of more help here. But my meds have been messing with me pretty bad. I had been feeling better, or thought I was, then my anxiety starting coming back and now has surpassed what it ever was to begin with with. Luckily I see my doc today. Hopefully we can find out a solution.

I feel like I've been on so many now, I can't believe any more are left. I'm not even sure what's me and what's the medicine at this point. I don't feel like I even know what's actually the problem. According to several different doctors, I'm like borderline for all kinds of stuff, but nothing definitive other than depression and anxiety. Makes it feel like a generic diagnosis, even though I think that's still enough on it's own.

This week has been the first time in a little while that I wanted nothing more than just to give up. Just pack my things, get my girlfriend, then drive into the woods and disappear. I'm no outdoorsman, I'd definitely cry the first time I had to kill anything at all to survive, so that probably isn't a great idea. Still seems better than the alternative of sitting at work trembling and fidgeting because I can't sit still.

How does everyone deal with these changes? The constant up and down? 

[Usseewa]

24 minutes ago, coldfuzion76 said:

Hey everyone. I kinda feel like I'm interrupting a little. Been away for a little bit, but I just need to say this I think. I started on this forum when I was feeling kinda better and hoped to be of more help here. But my meds have been messing with me pretty bad. I had been feeling better, or thought I was, then my anxiety starting coming back and now has surpassed what it ever was to begin with with. Luckily I see my doc today. Hopefully we can find out a solution.

I feel like I've been on so many now, I can't believe any more are left. I'm not even sure what's me and what's the medicine at this point. I don't feel like I even know what's actually the problem. According to several different doctors, I'm like borderline for all kinds of stuff, but nothing definitive other than depression and anxiety. Makes it feel like a generic diagnosis, even though I think that's still enough on it's own.

This week has been the first time in a little while that I wanted nothing more than just to give up. Just pack my things, get my girlfriend, then drive into the woods and disappear. I'm no outdoorsman, I'd definitely cry the first time I had to kill anything at all to survive, so that probably isn't a great idea. Still seems better than the alternative of sitting at work trembling and fidgeting because I can't sit still.

How does everyone deal with these changes? The constant up and down? 

I relate to you

I've tried a handful of different meds over the years, not just for depression and anxiety but also for my ADHD. I honestly didn't know which ones worked or not, and I'm not sure any did. I'm on new meds now (again), and they're possibly working, even if they didn't solve anything (I meant to type "everything"?)

For the doctor/psychiatrist appointment, that's a thing to look forward to! You can bring up feeling like meds haven't been working. Make sure you are honest, because being honest can get you help sooner. Not just not lying, but telling a fuller or the full extent, or not withholding something. It doesn't even have to be bad stuff. But I know that in many meetings/appointments/check-ins, I've said "I'm fine" or "everything's good" to avoid thinking about it, get it over with, not confront the truth, not tell them that I'm doing bad because I wanted to solve ot myself (spoiler: didn't work for me). Idk.

I don't really wanna give any medical advice type stuff, so I won't hehe. But... find people, even if that's us, to talk to about all of it. Maybe your girlfriend, or any other friends or family that you're close to if you have them.

For me, I just... keep going, I guess. At least in the past it was... easier. To just be depressed most/all the time and go through the days months and years. It's gotten harder lately and I needed to get help, which I did, and it was hard.

 

edit: might be able to say more later idk, hope that helps

Edited Thursday at 02:32 PM by Usseewa

[coldfuzion76 he/him]

10 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

I relate to you

I've tried a handful of different meds over the years, not just for depression and anxiety but also for my ADHD. I honestly didn't know which ones worked or not, and I'm not sure any did. I'm on new meds now (again), and they're possibly working, even if they didn't solve anything (I meant to type "everything"?)

For the doctor/psychiatrist appointment, that's a thing to look forward to! You can bring up feeling like meds haven't been working. Make sure you are honest, because being honest can get you help sooner. Not just not lying, but telling a fuller or the full extent, or not withholding something. It doesn't even have to be bad stuff. But I know that in many meetings/appointments/check-ins, I've said "I'm fine" or "everything's good" to avoid thinking about it, get it over with, not confront the truth, not tell them that I'm doing bad because I wanted to solve ot myself (spoiler: didn't work for me). Idk.

I don't really wanna give any medical advice type stuff, so I won't hehe. But... find people, even if that's us, to talk to about all of it. Maybe your girlfriend, or any other friends or family that you're close to if you have them.

For me, I just... keep going, I guess. At least in the past it was... easier. To just be depressed most/all the time and go through the days months and years. It's gotten harder lately and I needed to get help, which I did, and it was hard.

 

edit: might be able to say more later idk, hope that helps

Yeah, ADHD, is one of the things I'm borderline on. They gave me some meds for that once, and it made my anxiety worse, as it seems like most of them seem to do for some reason. I've been at this for 20 years at this point off-and-on, I just really wish there was a better answer. 

You make a good point about telling my doctor everything. I was actually planning today to do just that. I have been better about not holding back, but today is probably the worst I've felt in months, so I really just want to lay it all out. 

I'm also in a fight with my bankruptcy lawyer (a rather one-sided one since I can never actually reach him), so that's not helping any. 

As for family and friends, those are pretty limited in my life right now. Things have just either pushed them away, or I've drawn myself away from them in some cases. I have one friend that's really helpful in some ways, but talking to him about things like this seems to make him uncomfortable. Same thing for my dad. I don't talk to the rest of my family. My mom thinks I need a lecture, not therapy. Her words, not mine. I don't like to burden my girlfriend with too much, but we do talk about most things. She's about all I have outside of this forum. 

And I know I'm too hard on myself, but I feel like I should have this figured out by this point in my life. 

[Deception He/Him]

On 6/11/2026 at 7:52 AM, coldfuzion76 said:

I'm also in a fight with my bankruptcy lawyer (a rather one-sided one since I can never actually reach him), so that's not helping any. 

Ugh, that sounds bad.

It's the worst, to be depressed because of a brain condition but to also be depressed because of external problems at the same time.

For me I would solve the external problem first but idk whatever works for you.

On 6/11/2026 at 7:52 AM, coldfuzion76 said:

And I know I'm too hard on myself, but I feel like I should have this figured out by this point in my life. 

You aren't being too hard on yourself. Mental health can be a very challenging problem to deal with, and a lot of times issues spike later in life... yap yap yap yap yap

I wouldn't be surprised if you could predict exactly what I was about to say after the first three words. I know it sounds like a very generic reassurance, but it is still true.

[coldfuzion76 he/him]

4 minutes ago, Deception said:

Ugh, that sounds bad.

It's the worst, to be depressed because of a brain condition but to also be depressed because of external problems at the same time.

The last few years have been really hard. Got laid off from my dream job, couldn't find work for a while, so I moved back to my home state hoping it would be better. Soon after, we lost both of our dogs, one to cancer, the other was attacked three weeks later at a dog park. Plus the jobs haven't been any easier to get. I've had 4 in the last 3 years just trying to make ends meet, all while taking care of a disabled girlfriend. Hence the bankruptcy. I also had to let my truck and camper be repossessed.

Most of my depression just feels so damn justified. It's hard to see past it, even though I know others have it worse.