Usseewa
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Did you simply "mention" it? I find that sometimes I can hint at something or mention it in passing but the person doesn't catch on or doesn't actually get what I'm saying. Sometimes it's better to be direct or repeat yourself if they don't seem to know what you mean. For instance, I did this sometimes when talking about my anxieties because, honestly, I was embarrassed by them or thought they made me a bad person, or didn't want them to worry, etc. etc. But if I just explained the fears in a general way, or not fully, then it didn't help as much as when I - later - clarified, elaborated, or double-checked. Idk if that's what you're dealing with, but it could be. Honestly, using the online space to express your gender through pronouns or name or etc. is one of the signs your trans, but also one of the things that is recommended when you're questioning. Lastly, if you've known for what sounds like a long time, then...say that. If they think it's a "trend" or "phase," then saying "I've known for years" or even "I've known for months" might help. Is my advice helpful at all?
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Did you see my edits? How long have you known/suspected you were trans? Did you tell them that?
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They should care. You're their daughter; parents should care. May I ask what your seeming hesitation is? https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/printable Well, are you feeling you aren't "trans enough" (no such thing) or not "real" or starting to doubt yourself (perhaps bcz of ur family idk) Ik, ik. Same here. @Aeoryi I would at least read the chapters I highlighted here:
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Frfr Also, "GUYS"?????????????????? Jk I'm fine w/that lol
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Nice! I kinda wanna try black too PARSHENDIIIIII
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Hmmm, idk. Maybe direct them to a convincing YT video or the GDB? Did you finish the GDB?
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Purple like this but mb a little darker. Kinda purple-blue or lavender.
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Cool, cool. We'll see how this works out anyway
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What about your mom? I recall you saying something about her opinion/stance based on your dad's? Have you talked to her? Do you know why your dad is unwilling? Is he anti-trans or anti-LQBTQ+ in general? Is he/has he been supportive of you before (in general)? Are you feeling imposter syndrome or doubting yourself?
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Well...maybe think about asking them. If you don't want to, that's fine, but I think it's worth a shot at least. Or at least consider it. But also you probably know your family better than I do. Only you can know what and how you feel. Maybe someone (like a therapist) can help coax it out of you, but ultimately it's you answering the questions and you saying what you feel.
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See below for trans resources and info! Welcome all trans people! And people who aren't sure if they're trans! This is a space for us to talk about stuff. We decided to make a separate thread from Certified Gay Disasters (CGD) since we were kinda dominating that thread's conversation. Mainly this is for trans or questioning people, but of course anyone can chime in. It's just that we made this thread us trans people to talk, since CGD is for all LGBTQ+ people (and allies and stuff), and we realized/had it pointed out that we were basically overrunning it with trans talk. Let me know if you have any suggested edits to this post. I also may edit it in the future of course. - Trans Resources - Remember, you don't need dysphoria or intense dysphoria to be trans! I'll write more about this soon... because I think this is a very important thing to mention. The Gender Dysphoria Bible (GDB) - READ IT!! This is written by a trans woman and is basically explaining some basics of gender, different types of dysphoria, and some stuff about hormones and Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It can help if you are having doubts, think you aren't "trans enough," or just in general. Read it and maybe you'll relate! It's also okay if you don't relate, or not a lot. Trust me. Depersonalization in Gender Dysphoria - This has a lot of accounts/experiences from trans people, as well as an explanation of, well, depersonalization in gender dysphoria lol. It was pretty helpful for me. Feel free to ask us any questions or talk about your experiences! - Lily :3
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Well that's fine!
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Is it because they don't believe/respect you? Do they use your chosen (is that the right word?) name and pronouns? Why isn't it making you feel better? Oof, yeah... I feel like you have a lot of fear that's holding you back. Maybe it's well-placed, but it still seems to be doing so nonetheless. Ah, well that's fine. So, it sounds like u have at least a few things. For the hair, maybe see a barber/haircutter person or go online to make ur hair look better?
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My preciousss! (is this the right emoji? I don't rlly use 'em lol) All lined up! And 0, 1, 2, 3!
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Ok, sorry. Good idea though.
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Ah, yes. But those are pretty much always going to be a swear. What if I'm talking about SHI International Corp? (Don't ask me what that is, idek.) It would be obvious if I was trying to swear or not (I was not. Not really) based on context, which is for mods, not automatic filters. Hence not using creative spelling.
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Maybe...come out? Continue voice training? Makeup? More fem clothes? More comfortable clothes? Style your hair differently? Different shoes? Jewelry?
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Oh now that's definitely "creative spelling"
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What I'm saying is you probably shouldn't say it. If someone assumes what goes there, that's even worse imo. Wdym "I don't believe it would be obstructed"?
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I don't believe you are allowed to use "creative spelling" (@Chaos's or someone's words I think not mine) to circumvent swears. https://www.17thshard.com/forums/topic/89568-17s-code-of-conduct/#findComment-975374
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Yes, good point........................
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Lol (I realize the meaning of this "lol" is probably lost to y'all but trust me it's funny) I know what estrogen is, just not the "trans agenda" and the whole joke in general. I know HRT involves taking estrogen, right? You shaved your legs, use nail polish, did some voice training, and got new clothes (didn't you say you have a skirt?) Maybe...maybe it's your parents, idk. I mean, my parents are supportive, and I believe Izzy's and Aki's are supportive too. Or it could be...that you need to push yourself more? I mean I wasn't even considering wearing new clothes or doing my nails; I was just gonna be "content" for a while just...not rlly doing anything (aside from here on the Shard). But then I was "convinced"/helped and now it's actually cool. You're the one who convinced me to shave. If you feel that you aren't "doing enough," then maybe you aren't.
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Me I feel like me, Whoever that may be. I feel like me, For perhaps the first time, you see. I start losing that feeling, It slips between my fingers. No matter how tight I hold on, It finds a way to escape. I may not post as much in the future. Or for a few days. I may even stop. But I'll try not to. May miss a few days though. Also for anyone who actually reads this, sorry I've just been posting these short poems... - Lily
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Almost 700 lol
