Even if you are really bad at predicting someone's responses, odds are your target would think something is wrong with themself emotionally before they suspect you of being the world's only allomancer. However, I definitely think that out of zinc/brass and pewter, no one either wants to emotionally manipulate people or admit to wanting it, so pewter comes out as the preferred allomantic metal. We have virtually no reason to pewter drag, so there is little risk of savantism in real life. It has no other downsides and is not immediately noticeable like iron/steel or cadmium/bendalloy, and isn't useless (in real life) like aluminum/duralumin/nicrosil/chromium/copper/bronze. Gold and electrum are situational at best in real life, and I don't think anyone really prefers them. Tin is the only comparable metal, imo. But the real-world choice probably has to be between tin, pewter, zinc, brass, cadmium, bendalloy, and maybe gold and electrum. And out of those, I'd prefer pewter