Certified Gay Disasters

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

13 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

Hehehehe thxxxxx Gwen Stacy is my queen

I won’t be back til January good luck getting meere

I can’t do that anymore they hid my phone so instead I get on my Nintendo and play Minecraft and watch trans TikTok compilations bc they make me happy

heheheh this is so fun more trans people :3333

Ah, they figured out your tricks

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

7 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Ah, they figured out your tricks

Indeed but I can still get my Nintendo so it’s okay lack of sleep prevails

[Chara She/her]

59 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Huh, that's exactly 1 day before I realized I was trans. Interesting.

Also hi, I'm one of the resident transfems you've heard so much about. I wasn't here when you joined, but it's nice to see another egg possibly begin to crack

(egg as slang term definition if you don't know)

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A trans person who hasn't yet realized they're trans.

We'll all be here to help if you need it or have questions or stuff.

The hidden comment

5 hours ago, Ink and Embers said:

The ones I know are platonic, alterous, romantic, sexual, aesthetic, and sensual. There are probably more. 

Platonic: I want to be friends with you

Alterous: I want to be friends with you or date you? Either is cool?

Romantic: I want to date you

Sexual: I want to sleep with you

Aesthetic: Wow that's pretty

Sensual: I want to hug you

As I said, there are almost certainly more!

Personally as an ace I Do Not Understand sexual attraction. Whenever my friends start talking about it I just sit there going "?!! What?!!!". My family automatically assumes anyone who doesn't want to sleep with people is a nun, which is wrong on so many levels. So that's fun

 @Ruku Welcome to the Shard, fellow questioning trans person!!!!! Good luck figuring out your gender!!! (That is not supposed to sound sarcastic; I'm just terrible at tone)

Uhh... what- you'll have to explain a few kf those, most I heard was platonic, alterous, and sexual.

[momadrac they/them]

5 hours ago, Ink and Embers said:

Personally as an ace I Do Not Understand sexual attraction. Whenever my friends start talking about it I just sit there going "?!! What?!!!". My family automatically assumes anyone who doesn't want to sleep with people is a nun, which is wrong on so many levels. So that's fun

This is so real

I half came out as sort of like "Have you ever thought about people who are ace and what life means to them....?" and the response I got is "so.... their choosing. nothing more to it." and I wanted to hit someone with a book

The same question with demi the response was 'isn't that everyone' NO

Safe to say I will not be coming out anytime soon to them, I am only really out to my ace demiromantic lesbian irl bestie

 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

I noticed a lot of discussion about how people feel attraction, especially it being weird to feel stuff toward people you have only just met, and wanted to put forward my own opinion.

I think there's a significant different between immediate thoughts, and more tempered, conscious thoughts.

For example, I don't think it's necessarily wrong to immediately feel "I want to date them" soon after meeting something. Hell, that's just how a lot of non-demi people feel. However, the problem is if, after giving it thought, you think "I think going on a date with them right now is something that I should do." Then, I think it's more questionable if you act on these thoughts.

We can't control what we feel, but we can control what we do.

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

But like... what?
Love at first sight doesn't exist 
It just objectively does not
Going "ooh pretty" and immediately wanting to get together is so
Bizarre 
Cretin behavior 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

15 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

But like... what?
Love at first sight doesn't exist 
It just objectively does not
Going "ooh pretty" and immediately wanting to get together is so
Bizarre 
Cretin behavior 

Ooh, is it philosophy debate time? I love philosophy debates!

I think impulses are different from actions. Sure it's weird when someone makes advances on someone within days of meeting them, but I don't think it's their fault if they just think about it, but aren't actually planning on doing so. Humans think weird stuff sometimes, and we can't blame them for what they think, only for what they do.

 

Also, what is love anyway? Romantic attraction? Sexual attraction? Does there need to be a long-standing relationship? How long? Can "love at first sight" be platonic attraction? Humans usually do look at people's attractiveness within 0.13 seconds of seeing them, and might feel things based on that. Maybe that's not love, but it objectively does happen.

This study thinks there's a basis for LAFS

Spoiler

https://web.archive.org/web/20091125154944/http://www.bcheights.com/2.6173/health-science-love-at-first-sight-may-not-be-as-implausible-as-it-seems-1.913678

This one is more skeptical, but claims that what people call LAFS is really just an initial reaction to physical attractiveness

Spoiler

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/pere.12218

 

What I'm trying to get at is that it's complicated. There is no one consensus about how this all works/should work 

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

31 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Ooh, is it philosophy debate time? I love philosophy debates!

I think impulses are different from actions. Sure it's weird when someone makes advances on someone within days of meeting them, but I don't think it's their fault if they just think about it, but aren't actually planning on doing so. Humans think weird stuff sometimes, and we can't blame them for what they think, only for what they do.

 

Also, what is love anyway? Romantic attraction? Sexual attraction? Does there need to be a long-standing relationship? How long? Can "love at first sight" be platonic attraction? Humans usually do look at people's attractiveness within 0.13 seconds of seeing them, and might feel things based on that. Maybe that's not love, but it objectively does happen.

This study thinks there's a basis for LAFS

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https://web.archive.org/web/20091125154944/http://www.bcheights.com/2.6173/health-science-love-at-first-sight-may-not-be-as-implausible-as-it-seems-1.913678

This one is more skeptical, but claims that what people call LAFS is really just an initial reaction to physical attractiveness

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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/pere.12218

 

What I'm trying to get at is that it's complicated. There is no one consensus about how this all works/should work 

Yeah you can have attraction at first sight
But not love
To actually love someone you have to really know them
Both the best and worst of them
That applies to both romantic and platonic love
And I don't think sexual attraction alone is love that's more just lust
If you already have a relationship and have sexual attraction then yes that can be a part of love
But not just on its own

[Keke They/he]

Oh by the way @Ruku

HA I GEUSSED IT MWUAHHAHA

[Chara She/her]

5 minutes ago, Hawks said:

Oh by the way @Ruku

HA I GEUSSED IT MWUAHHAHA

Guessed what? And how long ago?

[Keke They/he]

3 minutes ago, Ruku said:

Guessed what? And how long ago?

That you were more then just probably bi

heahah! 

It was when we were talking abt life and you were like “ohh me be like bi or smthng” i was like he ha yeah no your a lil more queer then that.

I WAS RIGHT

[Chara She/her]

2 minutes ago, Hawks said:

That you were more then just probably bi

heahah! 

It was when we were talking abt life and you were like “ohh me be like bi or smthng” i was like he ha yeah no your a lil more queer then that.

I WAS RIGHT

Dawg I've been questioning it for a month

10 minutes ago, Hawks said:

That you were more then just probably bi

heahah! 

It was when we were talking abt life and you were like “ohh me be like bi or smthng” i was like he ha yeah no your a lil more queer then that.

I WAS RIGHT

I think my exact sentence was "Yeah, actually I might be Bi." But no now I'm questioning if I'm Transgender egg...

[Keke They/he]

12 minutes ago, Ruku said:

Dawg I've been questioning it for a month

I think my exact sentence was "Yeah, actually I might be Bi." But no now I'm questioning if I'm Transgender egg...

Real bro

i went like this

mm bi? Mmm pan? Mmm tr… no no pan aroace. Trans CREPE IM TRANS

[Chara She/her]

1 hour ago, Hawks said:

Real bro

i went like this

mm bi? Mmm pan? Mmm tr… no no pan aroace. Trans CREPE IM TRANS

What- in the gosh dang heck is aroace? I keep seeing that everywhere but... what is it?

Edited October 27, 2025 by Kaymyth
killing a sneaky swear

[Clarkmon22 He/Him]

57 minutes ago, Ruku said:

What- in the gosh dang heck is aroace? I keep seeing that everywhere but... what is it?

aromantic + asexual, usually

Aromantic (aro)

Asexual (ace)

Aroace

[Chara She/her]

20 minutes ago, Clarkmon22 said:

aromantic + asexual, usually

Aromantic (aro)

Asexual (ace)

Aroace

Oh so like, not having the main 2 types of attraction? That makes sense.

[Keke They/he]

58 minutes ago, Ruku said:

What- in the gosh dang heck is aroace? I keep seeing that everywhere but... what is it?

 

22 minutes ago, Ruku said:

Oh so like, not having the main 2 types of attraction? That makes sense.

BY THE WAY

there isnt cursing on the shard xD

[Kaymyth she/her]

55 minutes ago, Ruku said:

What- in the gosh dang heck is aroace? I keep seeing that everywhere but... what is it?

Ahem. As Hawks said, harder swears are not permitted on the Shard, nor is using creative spelling to get around the swear filter.

I've taken the liberty of editing the problem word. Consider this a gentle warning, and please make sure you read our full Code of Conduct: 

 

[Chara She/her]

1 minute ago, Kaymyth said:

Ahem. As Hawks said, harder swears are not permitted on the Shard, nor is using creative spelling to get around the swear filter.

I've taken the liberty of editing the problem word. Consider this a gentle warning, and please make sure you read our full Code of Conduct: 

 

Yes Ma'am, sorry for that.

7 minutes ago, Hawks said:

 

BY THE WAY

there isnt cursing on the shard xD

Just found this, mb gang

[Kaymyth she/her]

1 minute ago, Ruku said:

Yes Ma'am, sorry for that.

Not a problem! Our rules are a lot stricter than most of the internet, so sometimes it takes a minute to calibrate. I constantly have to remind myself which Discords I can swear on and which ones I can't. xD

[Chara She/her]

Just now, Kaymyth said:

Not a problem! Our rules are a lot stricter than most of the internet, so sometimes it takes a minute to calibrate. I constantly have to remind myself which Discords I can swear on and which ones I can't. xD

I don't really cuss much. Mainly because I mostly play Roblox(very hecka strict) and it doesn't allow people to just say "Yes" sometimes. And it constantly censors numbers.

2 hours ago, Hawks said:

That you were more then just probably bi

heahah! 

It was when we were talking abt life and you were like “ohh me be like bi or smthng” i was like he ha yeah no your a lil more queer then that.

I WAS RIGHT

@Hawks I think we argued this once, actually at our Grandma's...

[Chara She/her]

29 minutes ago, Ruku said:

I don't really cuss much. Mainly because I mostly play Roblox(very hecka strict) and it doesn't allow people to just say "Yes" sometimes. And it constantly censors numbers.

@Hawks I think we argued this once, actually at our Grandma's...

@Hawks wya???

[Keke They/he]

32 minutes ago, Ruku said:

I don't really cuss much. Mainly because I mostly play Roblox(very hecka strict) and it doesn't allow people to just say "Yes" sometimes. And it constantly censors numbers.

@Hawks I think we argued this once, actually at our Grandma's...

Probably

2 minutes ago, Ruku said:

@Hawks wya???

UNLIKE YOU IM AT SCHOOL. It was lunch then now im in art 

also btw you double posted so dont do that in the future 

[Chara She/her]

2 minutes ago, Hawks said:

Probably

UNLIKE YOU IM AT SCHOOL. It was lunch then now im in art 

also btw you double posted so dont do that in the future 

I didn't notice that

My phone is lagging today

[Keke They/he]

1 hour ago, Ruku said:

I didn't notice that

My phone is lagging today

Yeah ms *ehheuehueh im homeshcooled* shurt uorp

Edited October 27, 2025 by Hawks