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[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

You might need a sort of filter before you're ready to cry. When I was a teen, I hardly shed a tear at anything—except for Pixar movies. The end of Toy Story 3? Waterworks. WALL-E and EVE's ballet dance in space? Bawling. The first fifteen minutes of Up? Sobbing. I also cried for hours during and after reading The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane. One theory postulates that, while watching animated movies, our guards are down—we're seeing the characters as extensions of our loved ones or ourselves, and so it's easier to connect to their stories. 

So, if you really want to cry, cue up WALL-E.

The first fifteen minutes of Up (is? are?) an emotional journey. I cry every time I watch (it? them?). 

[ShadowLord_Lith he/him]

6 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

You might need a sort of filter before you're ready to cry. When I was a teen, I hardly shed a tear at anything—except for Pixar movies. The end of Toy Story 3? Waterworks. WALL-E and EVE's ballet dance in space? Bawling. The first fifteen minutes of Up? Sobbing. I also cried for hours during and after reading The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane. One theory postulates that, while watching animated movies, our guards are down—we're seeing the characters as extensions of our loved ones or ourselves, and so it's easier to connect to their stories. 

So, if you really want to cry, cue up WALL-E.

Thank you, I'll try it out. I really appreciate it. 

[Briar King]

Crying is hard for me to. I mostly just wind up gasping for a few moments when it hits. Heck I only shed about 4 actual tears when my mom died. My ducts just don't flow I guess.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Help, please. I was recently sent this.

I may not be actively suicidal but do know that if I were to die I wouldn't care.

You saw the car earlier, if it had hit me I'd be happy. I'd be okay.

Why do I not want to be on this planet anymore? I haven't a clue.

If you figure it out, tell me. Will ya? I'd love to not not want to die.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

13 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Help, please. I was recently sent this.

 

I may not be actively suicidal but do know that if I were to die I wouldn't care.

You saw the car earlier, if it had hit me I'd be happy. I'd be okay.

Why do I not want to be on this planet anymore? I haven't a clue.

If you figure it out, tell me. Will ya? I'd love to not not want to die.

Your poor friend.  I've been there, actually—and to be honest, I couldn't articulate my reasons for feeling that way in retrospect any better than I could've articulated them back then. It's a confused mishmash of both emotions and a lack thereof, bundled together with low self-esteem and a pervading sense that the future isn't going to be any better than the present. The tricky thing there, though, is that it's hard to convince someone who's that deeply depressed that things are going to improve, because deep down, she might find it hard to believe that she deserves any better. 

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't challenge that mindset, that it's all downhill from here and that's all she deserves. Tell her that she has a chance at something better. Heck, when I was a teen, that's how I felt—that the best future I could have was living in a horrible apartment, eating bad food, without even a dog to keep me company—and now here I am, with a decent apartment in a cool city, with a well-stocked pantry and an adorable pug. You could say I'm proof that things change for the better, even if those changes are years in the making. 

So if you're going to tell your friend one thing, tell her that things get better. They've gotten better for other people, and they'll get better for her. She just has to hang on long enough to see. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

7 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Your poor friend.  I've been there, actually—and to be honest, I couldn't articulate my reasons for feeling that way in retrospect any better than I could've articulated them back then. It's a confused mishmash of both emotions and a lack thereof, bundled together with low self-esteem and a pervading sense that the future isn't going to be any better than the present. The tricky thing there, though, is that it's hard to convince someone who's that deeply depressed that things are going to improve, because deep down, she might find it hard to believe that she deserves any better. 

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't challenge that mindset, that it's all downhill from here and that's all she deserves. Tell her that she has a chance at something better. Heck, when I was a teen, that's how I felt—that the best future I could have was living in a horrible apartment, eating bad food, without even a dog to keep me company—and now here I am, with a decent apartment in a cool city, with a well-stocked pantry and an adorable pug. You could say I'm proof that things change for the better, even if those changes are years in the making. 

So if you're going to tell your friend one thing, tell her that things get better. They've gotten better for other people, and they'll get better for her. She just has to hang on long enough to see. 

Twilyght, I just want you to know that you deserve every bit of reputation you have as one of the kindest and most supportive people on the shard. You're an awesome person, and I really need you to keep being awesome right now.

[Sunbird she/her]

@Silverblade5, my heart has been breaking for you and your friend as I've read your posts about her struggles and your valiant and steadfast support. I'm not sure how much stock you put in religion, but I have been praying daily for you both. I wish I had some sage advice to impart, but all I can really do is echo what Twi said--keep talking to her and encouraging her and letting her know that you value her as a person and as a friend, and YOU would be devastatingly sad if she died.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

1 minute ago, Sunbird said:

@Silverblade5, my heart has been breaking for you and your friend as I've read your posts about her struggles and your valiant and steadfast support. I'm not sure how much stock you put in religion, but I have been praying daily for you both. I wish I had some sage advice to impart, but all I can really do is echo what Twi said--keep talking to her and encouraging her and letting her know that you value her as a person and as a friend, and YOU would be devastatingly sad if she died.

I greatly appreciate that Sunbird. Thank you.

[ShadowLord_Lith he/him]

2 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Help, please. I was recently sent this.

 

I may not be actively suicidal but do know that if I were to die I wouldn't care.

You saw the car earlier, if it had hit me I'd be happy. I'd be okay.

Why do I not want to be on this planet anymore? I haven't a clue.

If you figure it out, tell me. Will ya? I'd love to not not want to die.

@Silverblade5, I agree with twi. Just keep talking to her, let her know how you feel. Tell her that, no matter how dark the world gets, no matter how terrible thing appear, YOU, at least, don't see her as a demon, you don't see her as worthless. Tell her that she's simply a diamond among the rocks. Sure she's a little rough right now, sure she's a little dirty; but if she keeps going, she will clean and polish herself with every passing day, and soon... soon she'll glow brighter than any diamond has ever shone before. Remind her that, YOU, care for her, and that your care proves that she has worth, enough worth to make you love her, whether as a friend, or something else. Remind her that: She. Has. Worth.

Edited October 29, 2016 by ShadowLord_Lith

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I am 99 percent sure SpongeBob just tattled on me for a minor incident HE caused.

[marsoupial they/them]

12 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Help, please. I was recently sent this.

 

I may not be actively suicidal but do know that if I were to die I wouldn't care.

You saw the car earlier, if it had hit me I'd be happy. I'd be okay.

Why do I not want to be on this planet anymore? I haven't a clue.

If you figure it out, tell me. Will ya? I'd love to not not want to die.

Most of my friends have moderate-to-severe depression. I'm basically the only one who does not hate their life/want to die. They joke about it from time to time, but when things get tough, they send me messages like this. And I tell them (because it's the truth) that if they were to die, they would be leaving behind people who love and care about them and would miss them. I tell them that it's difficult to live sometimes, but it may be worth it. I know this is vague, but it's all I got. 

 

Also, @TwiLyghtSansSparkles, Jesus Christ. He sounds less mature than most people I go to school with.

[Sunbird she/her]

7 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I am 99 percent sure SpongeBob just tattled on me for a minor incident HE caused.

I've been wondering for a while--of all the ways you could've chosen to refer to Spongebob!Coworker on the Shard, why'd you pick Spongebob?

5 hours ago, bleeder said:

Also, @TwiLyghtSansSparkles, Jesus Christ. He sounds less mature than most people I go to school with.

Is it because of his immaturity?

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Sunbird said:

Is it because of his immaturity?

I'm not sure I follow your meaning.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Sunbird said:

I've been wondering for a while--of all the ways you could've chosen to refer to Spongebob!Coworker on the Shard, why'd you pick Spongebob?

Is it because of his immaturity?

He's always talking. Always. Talking. 

He's immature, refuses to take responsibility for his mistakes, and makes excuses hours after the fact. 

He'll yammer for hours with patrons, in a library where we aren't supposed to spend more than 10 minutes with one patron because it's unfair to the rest. 

He talks a lot about subjects the rest of us aren't interested in and are made a tad uncomfortable by, like the End Times. 

Although, I mostly came up with the name when his humming was driving me nuts and I thought "Great, I'm Squidward....so he must be SpongeBob!"

[Sunbird she/her]

3 minutes ago, bleeder said:

I'm not sure I follow your meaning.

I was asking that as a followup question to my previous one about why Twi calls her coworker Spongebob when talking about him on the Shard.

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles Does he have an annoying laugh too? He sounds like the kind of person who would.

Edited October 29, 2016 by Sunbird

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

8 minutes ago, Sunbird said:

I was asking that as a followup question to my previous one about why Twi calls her coworker Spongebob when talking about him on the Shard.

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles Does he have an annoying laugh too? He sounds like the kind of person who would.

I haven't noticed it as annoying, but then again, he's annoying enough without an awful laugh. 

[Quiver he/him]

1 hour ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

He's always talking. Always. Talking. 

He's immature, refuses to take responsibility for his mistakes, and makes excuses hours after the fact. 

He'll yammer for hours with patrons, in a library where we aren't supposed to spend more than 10 minutes with one patron because it's unfair to the rest. 

He talks a lot about subjects the rest of us aren't interested in and are made a tad uncomfortable by, like the End Times. 

Although, I mostly came up with the name when his humming was driving me nuts and I thought "Great, I'm Squidward....so he must be SpongeBob!"

See, everything I read stuff like this, I worry hat it sounds like me.

Fortunately, I have yet to Master bilocation and don't have a library job yet, but still. Sympathies for not being safe in your online or offline worlds.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

21 minutes ago, Quiver said:

See, everything I read stuff like this, I worry hat it sounds like me.

Fortunately, I have yet to Master bilocation and don't have a library job yet, but still. Sympathies for not being safe in your online or offline worlds.

I highly doubt you're anything like this guy. 

Not too long ago, he was looking over my shoulder and commenting on what I had on my computer screen. That being the second time that day he'd done it, I told him politely that I felt it was an invasion of privacy when he looked at my computer screen. He sat back in my chair, looked me in the eye, and said "Did I?" 

Yesterday, when another coworker did the same thing to me and I minimized the screen to get him to stop, SpongeBob started talking about how it really wasn't possible not to look because we're all behind the same desk and we walk behind each other, and if you walked behind someone and saw them looking at porn, wouldn't it be wrong not to comment? 

In other words, this guy is an immature cremhole. You are anything but. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

VALIANT HEARTS.

My friend has the biggest drama queen for a sister. Her mother yelled at her for I think the first time in a fair bit, and according to my mate, she went to the bathroom and cried a fair bit. then when my mate went into the bathroom to do a dump, he found a note that said "Depression is fun" 

That put me into a bad mood for the rest of the day.

[Briar King]

I'm so hot right now. 2 weeks ago someone tried to hack my FB forcing me to change my stuff today I begin getting txt asking why I'm tagging people or what pic was I tagging them in. They got in my FB, twitter & yahoo today. So mad.

[Mestiv he/him]

3 hours ago, Briar King said:

I'm so hot right now. 2 weeks ago someone tried to hack my FB forcing me to change my stuff today I begin getting txt asking why I'm tagging people or what pic was I tagging them in. They got in my FB, twitter & yahoo today. So mad.

Enable two-factor authentication wherever you can (I know twitter and Facebook have it). This way it won't be possible to hack your account without access to your mobile. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

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Hey.  Did you know being in a hospital is boring. Ya I'm learning that. My heart did stop and I was found not breathing around 5 am and was breathing again by 7 after being taken to the ER.

 

Last night, she was talking about how she was hyperventilating, and that texting me was what was primarily keeping her focused on her breathing. Now I feel bad for not taking that a bit more seriously.

[Straw he/him]

@Silverblade5 Looking at the circumstances your friend obviously needs to get help. Is there any way to get the police/school involved?

[Mestiv he/him]

I bet someone in the hospital saw her scars on her wrists. I wonder if that will get her some professional help... 

I wonder if her parents reacted to get state with laughter and criticizing her like they did last time :/

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Remember how earlier I said she had a habit of passing out? Turns out, each time was an instance of her heart stopping.