Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[+ZincAboutIt she/her]

8 minutes ago, AonEne said:

*hugs tightly* I'm also here for listening, or anything that might help. I haven't known you long, but I like you, Zinc. There's no possible way to humiliate yourself on here by saying you have anxiety, because the people who know you know that you're amazing. Lots of people suffer from this. You're not alone and never will be, IRL or on here.

:3 you're too sweet, Ene. Thank you!

[Jaywalk he/him]

You’re awesome, @ZincAboutIt! *hugs*

[Silverblade5 he/him]

That moment, when you realize you've been up for 20+ hours 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Reliable sources have recently linked autism with genetics, and have also developed a gene sequencing test for the relevant genes that can be carried out pre birth. This makes me worry that people might end up determining abortion to be a proper course of action, similar to what happened in Iceland with Down syndrome. 

[+Slowswift]

15 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Reliable sources have recently linked autism with genetics, and have also developed a gene sequencing test for the relevant genes that can be carried out pre birth. This makes me worry that people might end up determining abortion to be a proper course of action, similar to what happened in Iceland with Down syndrome. 

*bleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep*

[+Wax he/him]

Found out today that my best friend from college days has had a brain stroke and is bed ridden.  He’s 38 and has 2 kids 

life is not fair 

[+ZincAboutIt she/her]

6 hours ago, Wax said:

Found out today that my best friend from college days has had a brain stroke and is bed ridden.  He’s 38 and has 2 kids 

life is not fair 

I'm so sorry! This is terrible news, and my heart goes out to his family and you and anyone else.  I hope they find a light through that darkness.

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

This will be somewhat lengthy, a little bit rambling, and possibly quite petty. almost a year ago I decided I liked a certain girl, she was funny nice and I had introduced her to her first Sanderson book (the Emporer's Soul) a few months later I asked her if she wanted to attend the Skyward release party with me that night we decided to start dating. I find that she is more often than not factoring into my longterm plans and I into hers. Now you might be saying "TFA, what part of this is bad news" well it's not, yet. Unfortunately, I have a beef with her family. As a rule, I strive to expect honor from those I interact with as well as giving them a chance to live up to it. On several occasions he had ignored her when she wanted to talk in favor of a video game, he imposes ridiculous and nonsensical curfews that range from 8:00 PM to 2:00 AM with no apparent pattern or reason. She is an adult who lives at home who has acted out once 8 years ago. However, I trusted his judgment and trying to remind myself that he was just doing his best, that he was just attempting to shelter her from a cruel world. But yesterday he asked me not to see her for a week. Now a week isn't long but the idea of him trying to control her really bothers me, she is an adult, admittedly one that lives under his roof, but still. I cannot see control as honorable it is against a lot of stuff I believe in but it seems her sister and her father is always trying to manipulate her through her unconditional love towards them. The last thing I want is to come between her and her family, I don't want to be the person that drives a wedge between them but I find it increasingly hard to respect him. 

I tend to think of life as a game of chess, every move is important (some more than others) and sometimes when one focuses on a few pieces one gets outmaneuvered and into trouble. It's better to separate yourself and look at the whole board and make calculated and informed decisions that move you towards goals or protect me from others. But more and more I find that view him as an opponent, one whose goals clash with my own. I find myself weighing moves to outmaneuver him, all while protecting myself from potential offensives. I know this is as nonsensical as an 8:00 curfew on a Friday, perhaps more so, but I can't seem to help it. This piece of me scares me, it sees friends, enemies, and strangers as pieces to be manipulated. It is coldly calculating and Machiavellian. I don't think I want to be that person though. I am constantly questioning who I am and how I factor into the world. And more importantly, I can't help wondering if I'm secretly a villain in disguise. I worry that when I am an immoral scumbag who masquerades as a paragon (or at the least a practitioner) of ethics. There is a quote from Hamlet that comes to mind, "That one may smile, and smile, and be a villain" I wonder if this describes me. 

Edited March 24, 2019 by The Forgetful Archivist

[Silva]

*hugs*

The fact that you worry about it is proof enough. By being concerned that you aren't who you want to be, you're proving that you aren't who you don't want to be to an extent.

[+Sorana she/her]

*hugs*

I agree with Silva. As long as you take a look at your actions, and question what you do, you have control over what ideas you really execute, and what stays in your imagination.

[AonEne he/him]

On 3/23/2019 at 11:20 PM, The Forgetful Archivist said:

This will be somewhat lengthy, a little bit rambling, and possibly quite petty. almost a year ago I decided I liked a certain girl, she was funny nice and I had introduced her to her first Sanderson book (the Emporer's Soul) a few months later I asked her if she wanted to attend the Skyward release party with me that night we decided to start dating. I find that she is more often than not factoring into my longterm plans and I into hers. Now you might be saying "TFA, what part of this is bad news" well it's not, yet. Unfortunately, I have a beef with her family. As a rule, I strive to expect honor from those I interact with as well as giving them a chance to live up to it. On several occasions he had ignored her when she wanted to talk in favor of a video game, he imposes ridiculous and nonsensical curfews that range from 8:00 PM to 2:00 AM with no apparent pattern or reason. She is an adult who lives at home who has acted out once 8 years ago. However, I trusted his judgment and trying to remind myself that he was just doing his best, that he was just attempting to shelter her from a cruel world. But yesterday he asked me not to see her for a week. Now a week isn't long but the idea of him trying to control her really bothers me, she is an adult, admittedly one that lives under his roof, but still. I cannot see control as honorable it is against a lot of stuff I believe in but it seems her sister and her father is always trying to manipulate her through her unconditional love towards them. The last thing I want is to come between her and her family, I don't want to be the person that drives a wedge between them but I find it increasingly hard to respect him. 

I tend to think of life as a game of chess, every move is important (some more than others) and sometimes when one focuses on a few pieces one gets outmaneuvered and into trouble. It's better to separate yourself and look at the whole board and make calculated and informed decisions that move you towards goals or protect me from others. But more and more I find that view him as an opponent, one whose goals clash with my own. I find myself weighing moves to outmaneuver him, all while protecting myself from potential offensives. I know this is as nonsensical as an 8:00 curfew on a Friday, perhaps more so, but I can't seem to help it. This piece of me scares me, it sees friends, enemies, and strangers as pieces to be manipulated. It is coldly calculating and Machiavellian. I don't think I want to be that person though. I am constantly questioning who I am and how I factor into the world. And more importantly, I can't help wondering if I'm secretly a villain in disguise. I worry that when I am an immoral scumbag who masquerades as a paragon (or at the least a practitioner) of ethics. There is a quote from Hamlet that comes to mind, "That one may smile, and smile, and be a villain" I wonder if this describes me. 

No.

What they said, also, cause it's true and great advice, but no. That is not you. You're a good person. You yourself have shown honor to me. You're one of the good guys, TFA. I believe in you.

*hugs tightly*

And yeah, her family's actions don't make sense. I'm sorry you have to put up with that. Can you still contact her? Maybe you can pass the time by texting or calling.

[Draginon he/him]

This happened to one of my coworkers, not me.

Its state testing time at work so we're having to get the test booklets and answer documents separated by group, grade and campus. This coworker is at the high school and is Nigerian. We were getting one of her testing buckets packed when she got a call from her son's school. He got in trouble because another student was bullying him, assaulted him, called him ugly and used the n word (she actually said it since the majority of Africans don't make as much of a big deal of the word but she knows the context in use)

As you can tell she was furious and said that she will be pressing charges against the other student. I've never met her son but I was angry as well since I hate bullying (was a victim of that throughout my schooling days in Texas from 5th grade onwards) and knowing her and her husband that her son is most likely a sweet kid who wouldn't resort to violence.

When she left for the day I told her to tell her son that he's beautiful and give him a hug. She did appreciate that since she needed it and I'm sure her son will as well.

[Draginon he/him]

The exploding mailboxes stoke again!

The street I live on the mailboxes keep getting hit with at least every single one getting destroyed at least once. Me and my mother had gone out and when we were about to turn into our street we saw police cars and a car that appeared to be in our yard. Thankfully it wasn't in ours but our neighbor two houses down lost her mailbox for the fourth time, will give the city's 'preventive measures' at the end, and pieces of her mailbox and the car were in her yard, the neighbor between us and ours. She's an older woman, I think in her 60's, and me, another neighbor and the tow truck driver spent over an hour cleaning all the debris out of the three yards. The lady was so grateful for our help since she would've had to do it herself.

The driver apparently was a early 20 year old girl and she hit the mailbox because she dropped her phone. Her punishment? Her parents are buying her a new car! Our immediate neighbor said if that had been her child she would've made them clean the mess up.

Also our neighbor was lucky because she was at the store and had gotten a minor delay, something like 5 minutes, and the car was already there but not the police meaning if she hadn't been delayed that little bit the car would've hit her car and injured, or worse killed, her and her two young sons.

Now onto how the city tried to 'prevent' this stuff from happening. 1. They installed a speed limit sign that flashes a small white light. 2. They put small bumps along the gutters that are practically gone because the mailtruck is going over it so often it's broken into pieces. Everyone on the street wanted them to put rolling speed bumps and install additional street lights, we only have one total and this street has an s curve, but apparently that was too much to ask. To show the priorities of our town: they fix up the street going into the high school stadium, build a brand new high school no one wanted and approving the 50th Mexican food restaurant while 80% of the streets, most are residential, are pockmarked with potholes, the downtown area is becoming a ghost town because no business can stay very long since they only want antiques and lawyers down there and businesses that would be great to have they don't want so everyone has to go to the other towns just to go to those establishments (for me I have to go two towns away, or to the other side of Dallas, just to go to a bookstore since we no longer have one here)

[AonEne he/him]

That sounds...awful. I'm sorry. *hugs your whole town* Hopefully the people in charge can get their act together soon.

[Draginon he/him]

18 hours ago, AonEne said:

That sounds...awful. I'm sorry. *hugs your whole town* Hopefully the people in charge can get their act together soon.

My mother talked with one of the neighbors down the street and he said the council won't do anything to help us. Heck they want all of us to pay out of our pockets to install extra streetlights, that's City property as far as I know.

Also with this it makes 33 mailboxes that have been destroyed and that's more mailboxes than there are houses on the stretch in question.

It's so maddening how accident prone our street is but the council's attitude is "not our problem" so I'm to the point I want to find their houses and destroy their mailboxes just so they can feel how we are feeling. Yes I'm mad enough to consider property damage.

The only way I can possibly see things changing is if some young blood gets injected since the entire council is filled with old farts who don't understand anything past the 50's.

[+Ark1002]

It's my spring break.

But I have to spend three days babysitting...

[Ammanas]

Got bitten by a neighborhood dog on my walk today. People never keep their dogs on leashes and say they wouldn't hurt anyone, but they do and it's happened to me before and other family members. It's so frustrating. I didnt approach it or anything...just walking on the sidewalk. It barely broke skin, and its up to date on all shots so I told the owner I wouldn't press charges but will call animal control if I see it roaming free again. Please all dog owners keep your beasts under control and stop letting them roam free in public places!

[AonEne he/him]

2 hours ago, Ark1002 said:

It's my spring break.

But I have to spend three days babysitting...

RIP. Are they good kids, at least?

1 hour ago, Ammanas said:

Got bitten by a neighborhood dog on my walk today. People never keep their dogs on leashes and say they wouldn't hurt anyone, but they do and it's happened to me before and other family members. It's so frustrating. I didnt approach it or anything...just walking on the sidewalk. It barely broke skin, and its up to date on all shots so I told the owner I wouldn't press charges but will call animal control if I see it roaming free again. Please all dog owners keep your beasts under control and stop letting them roam free in public places!

In the defense of dogs, some are good and wouldn't hurt anyone even without leashes. Others would, for some reason or another that we humans usually don't understand. Maybe it was in pain or something. I'm sorry you were bitten, and I hope the more aggressive dogs where you live can be calmed down.

[Ammanas]

28 minutes ago, AonEne said:

some are good and wouldn't hurt anyone even without leashes.

Every time its happened the dog owners are completely shocked and say nothing like this has ever happened before and is completely out of character for the dog...and yet its happened to me before, my wife, and my son; all different dogs in different states. What all of the situations have in common is that it happened when we were minding our own business and a dog was off a leash. I have owned dogs before (not recently) and have always kept them in a yard with a good fence or on a leash. However thank you for your other kind words.

[Shallan&Pattern she/her]

My bestie just decided that Way of Kings is boring. She's on chapter 4. I mean. Come on. Stormlight spoiler

 

She was at the part where Kaladin was on bridge runs! How is that boring?

Edited April 15, 2019 by Shallan&Pattern

[Wander89 he/him]

On 15/04/2019 at 9:39 PM, Shallan&Pattern said:

My bestie just decided that Way of Kings is boring. She's on chapter 4. I mean. Come on. Stormlight spoiler

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She was at the part where Kaladin was on bridge runs! How is that boring?

Does she usually read fantasy books? My first readthrough was a slog and I DNF'd it about a third of the way through. I seen the light after reading Mistborn and giving this another shot though.

[Shallan&Pattern she/her]

1 hour ago, Wander89 said:

Does she usually read fantasy books? My first readthrough was a slog and I DNF'd it about a third of the way through. I seen the light after reading Mistborn and giving this another shot though.

yes.

[TheGirlWhoLookedUp she/her]

On 4/15/2019 at 2:39 PM, Shallan&Pattern said:

My bestie just decided that Way of Kings is boring. She's on chapter 4. I mean. Come on. Stormlight spoiler

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She was at the part where Kaladin was on bridge runs! How is that boring?

I had the same problem with my sister. It took her eighty-six days just to read the Way of Kings! The funny thing is, she really liked the series, just got bored with Dalinar.

[Wander89 he/him]

7 hours ago, Shallan&Pattern said:

yes.

Some people just won't be able to get into it, which is okay too. At least they gave it a shot!

[Shallan&Pattern she/her]

Okay, so I have a sanderfan in my class, and I was talking to her. I was quoting stormlight characters and doing impressions, we made a little game. Then one of my non sanderfan friends hears. All she knows is that Syl and Pattern are both spren. So she ships them together. She shipped Syl and Pattern together. Honor Spren and Lie Spren. I mean, come on. It makes zero sense. I told her that their species kinda hate eachothers guts. She still goes around saying Syltern.