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[Steeldancer he/him]

Well I'm annoyed. More or less the girl who I asked to ball told me she won't go to ball with me unless I go to hers. All sorts of reasons, but at the heart its just because she doesn't want to go to a different ball and meet new people. I mean, isn't that what you signed up for when you said yes?! And I can't go to hers because its way more expensive than going to mine, and I need to save money as it is. 
I'm not mean, I'm not going to press the issue. It's just really frustrating that everything I set up with her originally is met with excitement, and then it falls apart before it can happen. Whatever. I don't have the mental energy to deal with it after all the stuff I've been doing today. 

Edited April 15, 2018 by Steeldancer

[thegatorgirl00 she/her]

3 hours ago, Steeldancer said:

Well I'm annoyed. More or less the girl who I asked to ball told me she won't go to ball with me unless I go to hers. All sorts of reasons, but at the heart its just because she doesn't want to go to a different ball and meet new people. I mean, isn't that what you signed up for when you said yes?! And I can't go to hers because its way more expensive than going to mine, and I need to save money as it is. 
I'm not mean, I'm not going to press the issue. It's just really frustrating that everything I set up with her originally is met with excitement, and then it falls apart before it can happen. Whatever. I don't have the mental energy to deal with it after all the stuff I've been doing today. 

She just doesn't realize how lucky she is getting to go with a guy into the Cosmere and the Avengers. 

i don't even know if I'm going to prom this year. Earlier in they year, my friends and I talked about going as a group, but now they're mostly saying they don't want to go. I don't have a date, so I'd have to awkwardly join a group of people I'm only kind of friends with if I don't want to go alone. That just doesn't sound that fun to me. 

[Niteshado he/him]

16 hours ago, thegatorgirl00 said:

i don't even know if I'm going to prom this year. Earlier in they year, my friends and I talked about going as a group, but now they're mostly saying they don't want to go. I don't have a date, so I'd have to awkwardly join a group of people I'm only kind of friends with if I don't want to go alone. That just doesn't sound that fun to me. 

skipped both my proms. My band i was in in highschool played the during the first one, second one we all just goofed off instead. SSOOOO dont feel bad, theyre overrated i think, with a good group of friends, you can still have fun! 

19 hours ago, Steeldancer said:

Well I'm annoyed. More or less the girl who I asked to ball told me she won't go to ball with me unless I go to hers. All sorts of reasons, but at the heart its just because she doesn't want to go to a different ball and meet new people. I mean, isn't that what you signed up for when you said yes?! And I can't go to hers because its way more expensive than going to mine, and I need to save money as it is. 
I'm not mean, I'm not going to press the issue. It's just really frustrating that everything I set up with her originally is met with excitement, and then it falls apart before it can happen. Whatever. I don't have the mental energy to deal with it after all the stuff I've been doing today. 

That sucks. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Sometimes life is about compromises though. If you like her, and you overall think shes worth it, why not maybe try to catch some odd side jobs for a little extra money? Its a possible option, seeing as you need to save  if anything, sit down and talk with her? explain your feelings and thoughts on the subject. Ask hers as well, that is extreeemmelllyy important. communication is key. Just know sometimes meeting an agreement is harder than it might seem. They wont all work out, some might be easy to reach, others you might need to really work for. Its all about how much you BOTH want to put in and work together.

Edited April 15, 2018 by Niteshado

[Steeldancer he/him]

1 hour ago, Niteshado said:

skipped both my proms. My band i was in in highschool played the during the first one, second one we all just goofed off instead. SSOOOO dont feel bad, theyre overrated i think, with a good group of friends, you can still have fun! 

That sucks. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Sometimes life is about compromises though. If you like her, and you overall think shes worth it, why not maybe try to catch some odd side jobs for a little extra money? Its a possible option, seeing as you need to save  if anything, sit down and talk with her? explain your feelings and thoughts on the subject. Ask hers as well, that is extreeemmelllyy important. communication is key. Just know sometimes meeting an agreement is harder than it might seem. They wont all work out, some might be easy to reach, others you might need to really work for. Its all about how much you BOTH want to put in and work together.

Yeah she hasn’t shown much willingness to compromise 

[Niteshado he/him]

2 hours ago, Steeldancer said:

Yeah she hasn’t shown much willingness to compromise 

That isnt fun.. sometimes then you need to sit back and think about yourself too. I know it sounds a bit selfish, but your well being is most important. Its hard to ask yourself, but ask "is it worth it? Is this something i want to invest in?" It is not easy, at all, especially if you have more in depth feelings towards the person. 

You sometimes gotta focus on you. 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

I accidentally touched an Imagine Dragons album today! Gross! 

[+Slowswift]

4 minutes ago, TheOrlionThatComesBefore said:

I accidentally touched an Imagine Dragons album today! Gross! 

*squints*

[Zelly]

I had a Murphy's Law day today at work.....7:30-4:00 was just a nonstop cascading waterfall of tiny disasters. 

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

I sympathize and offer comfort, I have found that all the bad seems to pile up on one day so who knows maybe stuff will be bad free for the next few days.

[Draginon he/him]

Had to get some work done on my teeth to prepare for a crown. It's one of the back molars and I'm in so much pain right now. Have to go back to get the actual crown put in.

[Steeldancer he/him]

I have the stomach bug.

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

Today I took my final exam in math, I thought I had done well but I failed it and as a result the class. I am reeling, I have never failed a test or a class before, part of me still can't comprehend what happened. The worst part is that I can look back and know what I could have done better, I can see every step that lead me to this point. Knowing that I could have done better but willfully made decisions that made me fail hurts worse than anything I have ever known. I was set to graduate with an associates degree this Friday, now that I have failed math I am not sure if I have enough credits to graduate. I want to blame the professor for writing a hard test or my counselor who convinced me to take a math class I didn't need, but in the end, I know that this was on me. I guess all I can do is try to use this as a lesson to ensure that this never happens again. However, this seems like an empty comfort for it holds no solace for me. I usually try to keep my failure inside, hide my weakness from others so posting this confession is new for me. I think it helps the act of typing this is helping me cut through the haze of emotion, whoever started this thread is awesome. Thanks for listening.

Edited May 3, 2018 by The Forgetful Archivist

[Nathrangking he/him]

20 hours ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

Today I took my final exam in math, I thought I had done well but I failed it and as a result the class. I am reeling, I have never failed a test or a class before, part of me still can't comprehend what happened. The worst part is that I can look back and know what I could have done better, I can see every step that lead me to this point. Knowing that I could have done better but willfully made decisions that made me fail hurts worse than anything I have ever known. I was set to graduate with an associates degree this Friday, now that I have failed math I am not sure if I have enough credits to graduate. I want to blame the professor for writing a hard test or my counselor who convinced me to take a math class I didn't need, but in the end, I know that this was on me. I guess all I can do is try to use this as a lesson to ensure that this never happens again. However, this seems like an empty comfort for it holds no solace for me. I usually try to keep my failure inside, hide my weakness from others so posting this confession is new for me. I think it helps the act of typing this is helping me cut through the haze of emotion, whoever started this thread is awesome. Thanks for listening.

*Hugs* As someone who is a perfectionist and someone who takes pride in their academic achievements I totally get where you are coming from. The pain of failure is nothing to be laughed at. It is very real and it can twist you up inside. I experienced something similar in high school where math was my bane. It almost cost me graduation and my status as class valedictorian. Hang in there. The agony will fade and in time you may come to realize that the standards that you hold yourself to can be the very thing which puts you over the top. It is easy to second guess your decisions and drive yourself crazy with "what if" scenarios. While at times this is unavoidable I speaking from experience can tell you that all that it does is salt the wound. Hold your head high and push forward. You can and will succeed despite this set back.  

Edited May 4, 2018 by Nathrangking

[SilverTiger she/her]

*Hugs* to @The Forgetful Archivist, I understand and sympathize. I have several problems, not the least of which is that finals are coming up (I'm in high school, btw) and I do not have the best grades. So, if I don't do well on the finals, then I may fail some classes.

The worst part is, the bad grades are entirely my fault. I could have all A's if I tried. But instead, I just don't do my homework. And then I get zeros on the homework, which brings down my grades. It's not that I don't understand the material, or that I don't have time, or anything. Mostly I just forget it, or am too lazy/bored to do it. And I could ace it. For context: I got a 32 overall score on my ACT test (36 is the highest score possible). I am highly intelligent; I read books incredibly fast (1000+ pgs in 2 days); I have a bigger vocabulary than some adults; I can remember the scientific classification of most of the family Felidae (cats); blah-blah-blah, etc., etc., etc. And other stuff my mom brings up when she's mad about me failing.

Basically, I am a very smart junior in high school who is kind-of failing some classes. I have two weeks left of school, so I can hopefully pull up my grades enough to pass. And then, senior year, focus on school enough to do all the work and get a scholarship for college.

Also, for some reason both the hand-dryers in the school bathroom are broken, have been for several weeks, and have yet to be fixed. And the other bathroom in the girls' locker room has one soap dispenser, which is empty and has been the entire storming year.

*Sigh*

[ljósmóður she/her]

On 03/05/2018 at 5:29 AM, The Forgetful Archivist said:

Today I took my final exam in math, I thought I had done well but I failed it and as a result the class. I am reeling, I have never failed a test or a class before, part of me still can't comprehend what happened. The worst part is that I can look back and know what I could have done better, I can see every step that lead me to this point. Knowing that I could have done better but willfully made decisions that made me fail hurts worse than anything I have ever known. I was set to graduate with an associates degree this Friday, now that I have failed math I am not sure if I have enough credits to graduate. I want to blame the professor for writing a hard test or my counselor who convinced me to take a math class I didn't need, but in the end, I know that this was on me. I guess all I can do is try to use this as a lesson to ensure that this never happens again. However, this seems like an empty comfort for it holds no solace for me. I usually try to keep my failure inside, hide my weakness from others so posting this confession is new for me. I think it helps the act of typing this is helping me cut through the haze of emotion, whoever started this thread is awesome. Thanks for listening.

I'm sorry. I understand feeling like this. I have always strived for academic excellence and I struggle when I know I haven't met my full potential (especially, as you say, when I feel like it's my own fault that it has happened).

Have you been able to establish if you are able to graduate? I hope so. If you can't, I hope you have enough support around you - both academic and emotional - to get a plan in place for going forward.

[Mestiv he/him]

On 3.05.2018 at 6:29 AM, The Forgetful Archivist said:

I guess all I can do is try to use this as a lesson to ensure that this never happens again.

 That's very mature! After all,  the most important step a man  takes is the next one

[Truthweaver she/her]

Woke up this morning and found my cat in the basement, huddled under a chair, unable to walk with his two front paws bent inwards. He couldn't straighten them, just inch-worm himself forward using his back legs. There were puffs of cat hair all over the floor, and the litter box was messed up, as if he'd had a major shock. He was also breathing heavily, even while lying down.

We took him to the vet and they did x-rays. An area of concern was two vertebra in his upper back and something about his lungs. They're going to refer the x-rays to a radiologist and keep him at the vet in the meantime.

I'm extremely worried for him. He's my buddy, and I have no idea what's happened to him. Last night he was fine, this morning he isn't. I really hope whatever it is will be treatable.

[A Budgie she/her]

15 hours ago, Truthweaver said:

Woke up this morning and found my cat in the basement, huddled under a chair, unable to walk with his two front paws bent inwards. He couldn't straighten them, just inch-worm himself forward using his back legs. There were puffs of cat hair all over the floor, and the litter box was messed up, as if he'd had a major shock. He was also breathing heavily, even while lying down.

We took him to the vet and they did x-rays. An area of concern was two vertebra in his upper back and something about his lungs. They're going to refer the x-rays to a radiologist and keep him at the vet in the meantime.

I'm extremely worried for him. He's my buddy, and I have no idea what's happened to him. Last night he was fine, this morning he isn't. I really hope whatever it is will be treatable.

I hope he'll be alright.

[Zelly]

Hugs to you @Truthweaver 

[Truthweaver she/her]

@Zellyia Thanks. We had to put him down this morning because he got worse overnight. It was an enlarged heart that was causing his partial paralysis. He was only two years old. 

[Zelly]

Just now, Truthweaver said:

@Zellyia Thanks. We had to put him down this morning because he got worse overnight. It was an enlarged heart that was causing his partial paralysis. He was only two years old. 

I'm so sorry! Been there...pets are family.  Wish I could send you more than just internet hugs. 

[Sunbird she/her]

I'm so sorry about your kitty, @Truthweaver! Having lost pet cats myself, I feel your pain. *hugs*

[SilverTiger she/her]

So many hugs for you, @Truthweaver. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Truthweaver she/her]

@Zellyia @Sunbird @SilverTiger Thanks everyone for your comments. It's very lonely today without him around, I keep half-expecting to see him saunter into the room and do that cat slow-blink at me. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

On 5/2/2018 at 10:29 PM, The Forgetful Archivist said:

Today I took my final exam in math, I thought I had done well but I failed it and as a result the class. I am reeling, I have never failed a test or a class before, part of me still can't comprehend what happened. The worst part is that I can look back and know what I could have done better, I can see every step that lead me to this point. Knowing that I could have done better but willfully made decisions that made me fail hurts worse than anything I have ever known. I was set to graduate with an associates degree this Friday, now that I have failed math I am not sure if I have enough credits to graduate. I want to blame the professor for writing a hard test or my counselor who convinced me to take a math class I didn't need, but in the end, I know that this was on me. I guess all I can do is try to use this as a lesson to ensure that this never happens again. However, this seems like an empty comfort for it holds no solace for me. I usually try to keep my failure inside, hide my weakness from others so posting this confession is new for me. I think it helps the act of typing this is helping me cut through the haze of emotion, whoever started this thread is awesome. Thanks for listening.

In the future, message myself or Chaos for math help. We will help you.