Mental health club!

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Hey all, how’s everyone been doing the last week? 

Not very well but it’s getting better how abt you?

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

2 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Hey all, how’s everyone been doing the last week? 

Working out stuff, so on the whole a little better than usual

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

*hugs for whomever needs them*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

57 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs for whomever needs them*

*falls into hug and crys*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

6 minutes ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

*falls into hug and crys*

oh . . .

*hugs tightly*

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

46 minutes ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

*falls into hug and crys*

 

39 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

oh . . .

*hugs tightly*

*joins hug*

*pats*

*gives fluffy bunny rabbit*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

48 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

oh . . .

*hugs tightly*

 

8 minutes ago, Bird Furious said:

 

*joins hug*

*pats*

*gives fluffy bunny rabbit*

Thank you guys I rly needed that

[Keke They/he]

On 5/15/2025 at 7:15 PM, MirkerLurker said:

*hugs*

You are most welcome. *hug*

Ooh, that's a good one!

*hug*

I'm barely noticeably autistic; I have the sensory stuff, but I actually thought I was ADHD and went and got evaluated and they were like nope, no adhd, but yes autistic. And I went "...huh?"
...but then I considered how stressed I get when my routines are messed with, or when something unexpected happens, and. Well. It jives.
I lost my watch chain  I keep telling myself to get a new one and forgetting.

Yay! Good job going and trying it out.

It took numerous months for me to feel like I was even remotely comfortable with my psychologist. Don't be too concerned if it feels like it's not really doing something, or just feels weird. Give it some time. And don't be afraid to try a different psychologist, if you're not liking the one you have after a couple months or visits.

But really tho, whether it ends up helping or not, you're trying things. So good job. Hooray!

 

Oh wait! I came on to share a song! I forgot!

 

I shall listen to it in a little bit

23 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

That song was beautiful

Thanks 

 

Unrelated edit from several hours later: 

I started working through a serious backlog today. It was around eleven P.M. and I went downstairs to see my folk’s and such. Conversation turned to a place we’d lived before that my dad really loved. He talked about the doghouse we built for a dog who never used it, as she prefers to be inside with us. He talked about the coconut trees. He talked about going back when that house was demolished and standing on the grass and thinking how so much house can be crammed in a small space. 

I usually push the past away because it doesn’t matter anymore, and because it’ll make me sad. But I didn’t tonight. Instead I listened to him describe the interior layout of our house there. 

Eventually he went to bed. I was petting the dog, and mom was in the couch. I told her how I don’t remember much from when I was younger— just moments here and there. Some of the moments I remember— many of them— are associated with a moment of chagrin or regret, but they remind me of someone or something that made me happy. Others are moments when I was happy. 

I remembered some good friends from a long time ago. I remembered moments with them or things about them that made me sad because I wish I knew where they are now and how they’re doing. I wish they were part of my life. I don’t know if I ever let myself feel the loss before. I generally don’t let myself feel those things. Tonight I cried tears that were years overdue. 

This isn’t a sad thing. I’m trying to confront a past that I blocked out BECAUSE it was happy, and come to terms with the fact that I’ll never get it back. Maybe once I do that, I’ll be able to trust the future again. Maybe I’ll be able to open up to disappointment for the sake of feeling that joy again. I’m gonna write down as much as I can possibly remember. 

Guys… I think I’m gonna be okay. 

*HUGS* HALY YOUR THE BEST YOUR AWESOME IM GLADDD

14 hours ago, MirkerLurker said:

I'm so glad, I'm so glad you found this feeling. Yes, write it down. And reread it whenever you're having trouble believing it. 

Halyyyyyyyyyyyy  

*hug*

yes. Also the emoji are so cutexD

12 hours ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

lol same.

*quiet hugs*

you WILL be okay

Get a journal just for this purpose.

we love you Haly.

SHATTERED *HUGS* U NEED THIS 

12 hours ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

also I have a song I'd like to share.

It's by someone who survived the Nova Music Festival but her best friend was murdered

it's very emotional

it makes me want to cry and just release the tension

 

I will listen I. A little but in doing this so I rememver

11 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Hey all, how’s everyone been doing the last week? 

Horrible and I want to die or cry my eyes out and scream at the world I feel like I was jusr stabbed in the heart for the second time from the same thing and I've been trying to hold it in all day and i can anymore and *SCREAMS*

6 hours ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs for whomever needs them*

*cries uncontrollably*

Yall I cant with today.

Its a very very long story so if you want to hear it I'll pm you but it starts a few years back so its long.

Essentially my brother left and idk if I'll ever see him again *cries*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

2 minutes ago, Hawks said:

I shall listen to it in a little bit

*HUGS* HALY YOUR THE BEST YOUR AWESOME IM GLADDD

yes. Also the emoji are so cutexD

SHATTERED *HUGS* U NEED THIS 

I will listen I. A little but in doing this so I rememver

Horrible and I want to die or cry my eyes out and scream at the world I feel like I was jusr stabbed in the heart for the second time from the same thing and I've been trying to hold it in all day and i can anymore and *SCREAMS*

*cries uncontrollably*

Yall I cant with today.

Its a very very long story so if you want to hear it I'll pm you but it starts a few years back so its long.

Essentially my brother left and idk if I'll ever see him again *cries*

*hugs*

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

11 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Hey all, how’s everyone been doing the last week? 

*sigh*

It’s… not been great

but there have been some high points too!

We finally had our science fair, and I feel pretty happy with how we did

AND I saw a psychologist, so there’s that

7 hours ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs for whomever needs them*

*accepts hugs*

6 hours ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

*falls into hug and crys*

*hugs too*

13 minutes ago, Hawks said:

I shall listen to it in a little bit

*HUGS* HALY YOUR THE BEST YOUR AWESOME IM GLADDD

yes. Also the emoji are so cutexD

SHATTERED *HUGS* U NEED THIS 

I will listen I. A little but in doing this so I rememver

Horrible and I want to die or cry my eyes out and scream at the world I feel like I was jusr stabbed in the heart for the second time from the same thing and I've been trying to hold it in all day and i can anymore and *SCREAMS*

*cries uncontrollably*

Yall I cant with today.

Its a very very long story so if you want to hear it I'll pm you but it starts a few years back so its long.

Essentially my brother left and idk if I'll ever see him again *cries*

*squeeze tight*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, Hoid Slayer said:

*sigh*

It’s… not been great

but there have been some high points too!

We finally had our science fair, and I feel pretty happy with how we did

AND I saw a psychologist, so there’s that

*accepts hugs*

*hugs too*

*squeeze tight*

*hugs*

Yay to the yay things! Yay things are good!

[Keke They/he]

20 minutes ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*hugs*

 

7 minutes ago, Hoid Slayer said:

*sigh*

It’s… not been great

but there have been some high points too!

We finally had our science fair, and I feel pretty happy with how we did

AND I saw a psychologist, so there’s that

*accepts hugs*

*hugs too*

*squeeze tight*

*hugs*

 

@MirkerLurker

The song made me cry more   *hugs*

@The Shattered Cosmere

Ahahahahahah the song is just beutifl *hugs*

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Hi… everyone 
I’m not really sure how to introduce myself naturally but I’ve been really lost recently 

Trigger Warning: Discussions of SH/Suicide

It’s one of my best friends. I call her Rlain - she has no idea who that is - and I’m Starpan. She’s funny, bright, and likes to yell at people a lot (to give you an idea of what our friendship is like lol)

She also struggles with bipolar disorder as well as chronic depression and SH and thoughts of suicide among other things. She makes jokes and shouts and acts tough but underneath it all I know how much pain she’s in from the rare times she lets down her guard. She also genuinely thinks she’s a bad person and that she can’t be helped. She’s my best friend and one of the best people I’ve ever known but I have no idea how to help her. Her guard of being funny and tough is nearly always up as well. I would do anything but I don’t know or what. I’m sorry if I’m intruding here too I just really need some advice. Any advice. She means the world to me and I’m not doing nearly enough.

Edited May 17, 2025 by SpartanBrigade

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

3 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Hi… everyone 
I’m not really sure how to introduce myself naturally but I’ve been really lost recently 

Trigger Warning: Discussions of SH/Suicide

It’s one of my best friends. She’s funny, bright, and likes to yell at people a lot (to give you an idea of what our friendship is like lol)

She also struggles with bipolar disorder as well as chronic depression and SH and thoughts of suicide among other things. She makes jokes and shouts and acts tough but underneath it all I know how much pain she’s in from the rare times she lets down her guard. She also genuinely thinks she’s a bad person and that she can’t be helped. She’s my best friend and one of the best people I’ve ever known but I have no idea how to help her. Her guard of being funny and tough is nearly always up as well. I would do anything but I don’t know or what. I’m sorry if I’m intruding here too I just really need some advice. Any advice. She means the world to me and I’m not doing nearly enough.

First: *hugs*

Second: yeah that's really hard. I tend to keep a mask/shield up even around my closest friends and not really let them help me, so I kinda know how hard that can be from the other side. I will say I'm not really the most put-together person by a long shot, so take my words with a hefty handful of salt, but, at least for me, I really need to figure my stuff out on my own and really have friends there just to offer support or help when I need it. Now, obviously your friend is a different person than I, so I'm just going off of what you've described and what I know, and others probably have better responses.

[Through the Living Hope]

9 hours ago, Hawks said:

I shall listen to it in a little bit

*HUGS* HALY YOUR THE BEST YOUR AWESOME IM GLADDD

yes. Also the emoji are so cutexD

SHATTERED *HUGS* U NEED THIS 

I will listen I. A little but in doing this so I rememver

Horrible and I want to die or cry my eyes out and scream at the world I feel like I was jusr stabbed in the heart for the second time from the same thing and I've been trying to hold it in all day and i can anymore and *SCREAMS*

*cries uncontrollably*

Yall I cant with today.

Its a very very long story so if you want to hear it I'll pm you but it starts a few years back so its long.

Essentially my brother left and idk if I'll ever see him again *cries*

*sqiz*

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

hi

i've returned from underneath the couch void

*hugs for everyone*

how's everyone doing?

vent 1:

Spoiler

right so i have two best-best friends. one of them is very hard to be friends with. she's polite but also very critical, and she kind of blurts out her true opinions which usually start with "ok shut up, blahblah." and i love her but for obvious reasons the outbursts make her kind of difficult to be around. other times she's closed off and awkward and apologetic. her parents put a lot of pressure on her and i want to help but i don't think she notices what's wrong with her relationship with them. she feels lonely often and is sad when we don't include her but she doesn't reach out at all. she's busy almost every single day, and even when she is free, she won't ask to tag along even if she wants to. and we do have fun, but it takes hours of hanging out in one session until she feels comfortable. i really care about her but we're going to different high schools and it's hard to stay friends like that. and i really just need someone who i can fight with and argue with who will argue back instead of just wilt, and make me feel actually sorry instead of just guilty, and who doesn't mind when I get tired of them for a little bit and who will work things out instead of just brushing things off, and i have a friend like that. gah it's just hard to know that you've known someone for more than half your life and you are ready to let them go.

rant (this one is more complain-y lol):

Spoiler

right so it's my last year of school, and there's a spring fair every year. normally it is established that it is For The 8th Graders. Yes, everyone comes, but it is For Us. we literally have a part of the school that's just us only, and has things Just For Us that we want. That didn't really work this year the way it has in past years. most people who set up for the spring fair are elementary school parents, and the parents of my classmates are particularly absent/reluctant to pitch in for school events. i don't want to say that they suck, but a lot of them do. it's pretty shallow, but Our Space wasn't as special as it was for past 8th grade classes and i kinda feel like i've been cheated. last year they had so much more fun. it got dark earlier so the little ones left earlier and it was kind of just them, together, for the last time and we didn't get that because our class group has never had a person to keep us all together. it's been established that no one wants to stay in contact and it really just sucks. ugh also the little kids crowded outside our little private area and tried to take our stuff and i had to beat them back by playing wack-a-mole with their fingers and a piñata bat ugh every single second of dealing with grubby grabby little eight year olds makes ROTS anakin seem more relatable.

oh yeah question:

how political am i allowed to get in vents? not like vents purely abt politics, but political decisions really affect me because of my identity. i'm a queer, jewish, biracial/asian, american girl so it's hard not to feel more-than-a-little down rn cause of what's happening. my actual concrete opinions will stay out of vents ofc, it'll just be like the feelings created as reactions to stuff happening

[Keke They/he]

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

I've been trying to give myself leaniace on not beating myself ip for it considering all thats happening with the divorce then the issues with my identity being against what my parents believe. 

I just wish I could have someone im comfortable hugging. Not you dad stop. Trying. I dont like hugging you. Please. Ahem. Someone im comfortable with just hold me bc I need it at this point. 

Why cant I fix myself from this. Anytime I try it fails and I go down again. Why is this different then the others and why cant I fix it!!!!

10 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

hi

i've returned from underneath the couch void

*hugs for everyone*

how's everyone doing?

vent 1:

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right so i have two best-best friends. one of them is very hard to be friends with. she's polite but also very critical, and she kind of blurts out her true opinions which usually start with "ok shut up, blahblah." and i love her but for obvious reasons the outbursts make her kind of difficult to be around. other times she's closed off and awkward and apologetic. her parents put a lot of pressure on her and i want to help but i don't think she notices what's wrong with her relationship with them. she feels lonely often and is sad when we don't include her but she doesn't reach out at all. she's busy almost every single day, and even when she is free, she won't ask to tag along even if she wants to. and we do have fun, but it takes hours of hanging out in one session until she feels comfortable. i really care about her but we're going to different high schools and it's hard to stay friends like that. and i really just need someone who i can fight with and argue with who will argue back instead of just wilt, and make me feel actually sorry instead of just guilty, and who doesn't mind when I get tired of them for a little bit and who will work things out instead of just brushing things off, and i have a friend like that. gah it's just hard to know that you've known someone for more than half your life and you are ready to let them go.

rant (this one is more complain-y lol):

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right so it's my last year of school, and there's a spring fair every year. normally it is established that it is For The 8th Graders. Yes, everyone comes, but it is For Us. we literally have a part of the school that's just us only, and has things Just For Us that we want. That didn't really work this year the way it has in past years. most people who set up for the spring fair are elementary school parents, and the parents of my classmates are particularly absent/reluctant to pitch in for school events. i don't want to say that they suck, but a lot of them do. it's pretty shallow, but Our Space wasn't as special as it was for past 8th grade classes and i kinda feel like i've been cheated. last year they had so much more fun. it got dark earlier so the little ones left earlier and it was kind of just them, together, for the last time and we didn't get that because our class group has never had a person to keep us all together. it's been established that no one wants to stay in contact and it really just sucks. ugh also the little kids crowded outside our little private area and tried to take our stuff and i had to beat them back by playing wack-a-mole with their fingers and a piñata bat ugh every single second of dealing with grubby grabby little eight year olds makes ROTS anakin seem more relatable.

oh yeah question:

how political am i allowed to get in vents? not like vents purely abt politics, but political decisions really affect me because of my identity. i'm a queer, jewish, biracial/asian, american girl so it's hard not to feel more-than-a-little down rn cause of what's happening. my actual concrete opinions will stay out of vents ofc, it'll just be like the feelings created as reactions to stuff happening

*hugs*. That's all I can do rn so *hugs*

 

Ik. I want to rant about politics in the US rn so much bc its making me like hurt bc my dad doesnt see any issues! And I dont want to go into detail bc I dont wanna get in trouble so im shutting up rn. (Dont hide rhis post pls. If needed i will edit this part out but I need the rant of before.... snd i require alot of hugs)

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

23 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

hi

i've returned from underneath the couch void

*hugs for everyone*

how's everyone doing?

vent 1:

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right so i have two best-best friends. one of them is very hard to be friends with. she's polite but also very critical, and she kind of blurts out her true opinions which usually start with "ok shut up, blahblah." and i love her but for obvious reasons the outbursts make her kind of difficult to be around. other times she's closed off and awkward and apologetic. her parents put a lot of pressure on her and i want to help but i don't think she notices what's wrong with her relationship with them. she feels lonely often and is sad when we don't include her but she doesn't reach out at all. she's busy almost every single day, and even when she is free, she won't ask to tag along even if she wants to. and we do have fun, but it takes hours of hanging out in one session until she feels comfortable. i really care about her but we're going to different high schools and it's hard to stay friends like that. and i really just need someone who i can fight with and argue with who will argue back instead of just wilt, and make me feel actually sorry instead of just guilty, and who doesn't mind when I get tired of them for a little bit and who will work things out instead of just brushing things off, and i have a friend like that. gah it's just hard to know that you've known someone for more than half your life and you are ready to let them go.

rant (this one is more complain-y lol):

  Hide contents

right so it's my last year of school, and there's a spring fair every year. normally it is established that it is For The 8th Graders. Yes, everyone comes, but it is For Us. we literally have a part of the school that's just us only, and has things Just For Us that we want. That didn't really work this year the way it has in past years. most people who set up for the spring fair are elementary school parents, and the parents of my classmates are particularly absent/reluctant to pitch in for school events. i don't want to say that they suck, but a lot of them do. it's pretty shallow, but Our Space wasn't as special as it was for past 8th grade classes and i kinda feel like i've been cheated. last year they had so much more fun. it got dark earlier so the little ones left earlier and it was kind of just them, together, for the last time and we didn't get that because our class group has never had a person to keep us all together. it's been established that no one wants to stay in contact and it really just sucks. ugh also the little kids crowded outside our little private area and tried to take our stuff and i had to beat them back by playing wack-a-mole with their fingers and a piñata bat ugh every single second of dealing with grubby grabby little eight year olds makes ROTS anakin seem more relatable.

oh yeah question:

how political am i allowed to get in vents? not like vents purely abt politics, but political decisions really affect me because of my identity. i'm a queer, jewish, biracial/asian, american girl so it's hard not to feel more-than-a-little down rn cause of what's happening. my actual concrete opinions will stay out of vents ofc, it'll just be like the feelings created as reactions to stuff happening

*hugs*

I feel you on the political stuff. But I get why the Shard isn't the best place for that, cause we don't want people fighting over that stuff.

If you ever need anyone to talk politics with, though, or just scream at the world, I'm here.

12 minutes ago, Hawks said:

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

I've been trying to give myself leaniace on not beating myself ip for it considering all thats happening with the divorce then the issues with my identity being against what my parents believe. 

I just wish I could have someone im comfortable hugging. Not you dad stop. Trying. I dont like hugging you. Please. Ahem. Someone im comfortable with just hold me bc I need it at this point. 

Why cant I fix myself from this. Anytime I try it fails and I go down again. Why is this different then the others and why cant I fix it!!!!

*hugs*. That's all I can do rn so *hugs*

 

Ik. I want to rant about politics in the US rn so much bc its making me like hurt bc my dad doesnt see any issues! And I dont want to go into detail bc I dont wanna get in trouble so im shutting up rn. (Dont hide rhis post pls. If needed i will edit this part out but I need the rant of before.... snd i require alot of hugs)

*lots of hugs*

I get the productivity thing. A lot. Every night, its the same. I feel like I just wasted the day away entirely, and then I make a promise to be productive the next day. And the next. But I can never keep it.

So yeah, I get it. I'm trying to do better today, in particular. And I'm here if you need to talk with someone.

*hugs again*

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

11 minutes ago, Hawks said:

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

I've been trying to give myself leaniace on not beating myself ip for it considering all thats happening with the divorce then the issues with my identity being against what my parents believe. 

I just wish I could have someone im comfortable hugging. Not you dad stop. Trying. I dont like hugging you. Please. Ahem. Someone im comfortable with just hold me bc I need it at this point. 

Why cant I fix myself from this. Anytime I try it fails and I go down again. Why is this different then the others and why cant I fix it!!!!

*hugs*. That's all I can do rn so *hugs*

 

Ik. I want to rant about politics in the US rn so much bc its making me like hurt bc my dad doesnt see any issues! And I dont want to go into detail bc I dont wanna get in trouble so im shutting up rn. (Dont hide rhis post pls. If needed i will edit this part out but I need the rant of before.... snd i require alot of hugs)

*hugshugshugshugshugs*

yeah like i don't WANT to get political but on another level there's very much a NEED to. it's like part of the context y'know???

on the topic of productivity: if you have a productive day, good! if you have an "unproductive day," still good! you had a day!!! every single day is a day, you're still alive, that's pretty productive!

if you need to take a day to cry then that's still productive because you're getting a bit more of the cry out, which is progress!!!

hugs for all!!! small victories!!!

 

[Keke They/he]

42 minutes ago, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs*

I feel you on the political stuff. But I get why the Shard isn't the best place for that, cause we don't want people fighting over that stuff.

If you ever need anyone to talk politics with, though, or just scream at the world, I'm here.

*lots of hugs*

I get the productivity thing. A lot. Every night, its the same. I feel like I just wasted the day away entirely, and then I make a promise to be productive the next day. And the next. But I can never keep it.

So yeah, I get it. I'm trying to do better today, in particular. And I'm here if you need to talk with someone.

*hugs again*

*hugs*

I feel like im most productive when im talking to friends bc then I walk around doing stuff while im talking. 

Hence why i spam the discord server saying im bored but in reality i want to talk so I will do stuff. 

36 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

*hugshugshugshugshugs*

yeah like i don't WANT to get political but on another level there's very much a NEED to. it's like part of the context y'know???

on the topic of productivity: if you have a productive day, good! if you have an "unproductive day," still good! you had a day!!! every single day is a day, you're still alive, that's pretty productive!

if you need to take a day to cry then that's still productive because you're getting a bit more of the cry out, which is progress!!!

hugs for all!!! small victories!!!

 

I get that. But its been unproductive days for a few months in a row and thats a bit to much for my taste. 

Sighhhhh

*hugs*

Gr can we talk about politics in a pm? @#1 Taln Fan

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 hour ago, alittleinsane said:

hi

i've returned from underneath the couch void

*hugs for everyone*

how's everyone doing?

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right so i have two best-best friends. one of them is very hard to be friends with. she's polite but also very critical, and she kind of blurts out her true opinions which usually start with "ok shut up, blahblah." and i love her but for obvious reasons the outbursts make her kind of difficult to be around. other times she's closed off and awkward and apologetic. her parents put a lot of pressure on her and i want to help but i don't think she notices what's wrong with her relationship with them. she feels lonely often and is sad when we don't include her but she doesn't reach out at all. she's busy almost every single day, and even when she is free, she won't ask to tag along even if she wants to. and we do have fun, but it takes hours of hanging out in one session until she feels comfortable. i really care about her but we're going to different high schools and it's hard to stay friends like that. and i really just need someone who i can fight with and argue with who will argue back instead of just wilt, and make me feel actually sorry instead of just guilty, and who doesn't mind when I get tired of them for a little bit and who will work things out instead of just brushing things off, and i have a friend like that. gah it's just hard to know that you've known someone for more than half your life and you are ready to let them go.

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right so it's my last year of school, and there's a spring fair every year. normally it is established that it is For The 8th Graders. Yes, everyone comes, but it is For Us. we literally have a part of the school that's just us only, and has things Just For Us that we want. That didn't really work this year the way it has in past years. most people who set up for the spring fair are elementary school parents, and the parents of my classmates are particularly absent/reluctant to pitch in for school events. i don't want to say that they suck, but a lot of them do. it's pretty shallow, but Our Space wasn't as special as it was for past 8th grade classes and i kinda feel like i've been cheated. last year they had so much more fun. it got dark earlier so the little ones left earlier and it was kind of just them, together, for the last time and we didn't get that because our class group has never had a person to keep us all together. it's been established that no one wants to stay in contact and it really just sucks. ugh also the little kids crowded outside our little private area and tried to take our stuff and i had to beat them back by playing wack-a-mole with their fingers and a piñata bat ugh every single second of dealing with grubby grabby little eight year olds makes ROTS anakin seem more relatable.

oh yeah question:

how political am i allowed to get in vents? not like vents purely abt politics, but political decisions really affect me because of my identity. i'm a queer, jewish, biracial/asian, american girl so it's hard not to feel more-than-a-little down rn cause of what's happening. my actual concrete opinions will stay out of vents ofc, it'll just be like the feelings created as reactions to stuff happening

*hugs*

1 hour ago, Hawks said:

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

I've been trying to give myself leaniace on not beating myself ip for it considering all thats happening with the divorce then the issues with my identity being against what my parents believe. 

I just wish I could have someone im comfortable hugging. Not you dad stop. Trying. I dont like hugging you. Please. Ahem. Someone im comfortable with just hold me bc I need it at this point. 

Why cant I fix myself from this. Anytime I try it fails and I go down again. Why is this different then the others and why cant I fix it!!!!

*hugs*. That's all I can do rn so *hugs*

 

Ik. I want to rant about politics in the US rn so much bc its making me like hurt bc my dad doesnt see any issues! And I dont want to go into detail bc I dont wanna get in trouble so im shutting up rn. (Dont hide rhis post pls. If needed i will edit this part out but I need the rant of before.... snd i require alot of hugs)

*hugs* *wish I knew you irl*

I have a tendency to beat myself up too, over just about everything, so I know it's hard. Unfortunately I don't have any advice, and would also appreciate answers to those questions. All I got right now is hugs, so *more hugs*

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

6 hours ago, Hawks said:

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

Ugh

Scud yeah

Me too

*hugshugshugs*

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

On 5/17/2025 at 1:04 AM, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

First: *hugs*

Second: yeah that's really hard. I tend to keep a mask/shield up even around my closest friends and not really let them help me, so I kinda know how hard that can be from the other side. I will say I'm not really the most put-together person by a long shot, so take my words with a hefty handful of salt, but, at least for me, I really need to figure my stuff out on my own and really have friends there just to offer support or help when I need it. Now, obviously your friend is a different person than I, so I'm just going off of what you've described and what I know, and others probably have better responses.

Thank you this is helpfu;l

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

Just now, Hoid Slayer said:

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

yay!!!