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[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, Hoid Slayer said:

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

Yay!

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

2 hours ago, Hoid Slayer said:

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

YAY CONGRATS

I've found the same 'no YouTube' hack... I just never use it..... 

[Keke They/he]

10 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*hugs*

*hugs* *wish I knew you irl*

I have a tendency to beat myself up too, over just about everything, so I know it's hard. Unfortunately I don't have any advice, and would also appreciate answers to those questions. All I got right now is hugs, so *more hugs*

*hugs*

5 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

Ugh

Scud yeah

Me too

*hugshugshugs*

*huggss*

3 hours ago, Hoid Slayer said:

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

YAYYYY

 

sh and religious confusion

Spoiler

Ok what?

I heard this 

"You don't have scars so you didn't actually self harm? Stop being a fake."

Ermmm what? 

Lil bro were did you get your information ️ 

Just bc you don't see scars doesnt mean they didn't hurt themselves!!!!!!!!

What the actual hell is wrong with this world? I see people all the time saying rust like this. Its honestly sickening seeing people hate on others for the stupidest reasons. One of my friends went to a church (they are a queer) and got literally bullied.they were told they were going to hell and to get out before they beat the gay away. 

*breaths* BRUH!!!!!

Please graciously tell me and inform me about how that makes sense? Please, if you agree with the above statement, then tell me how it makes sense??????  *about sh*

And for the second part. WHY DO PEOPLE SAY THAT WHEN QUEERS GO TO CHURCH!!! if you belive gays go to hell and you can"beat the gay away" or pray the gay away. H..m im going to scream about that. Of god created us how we are intentionally then....he made queers queer..... and trans people trans???..???????

Idk gang. People nowadays

Edited May 19, 2025 by Hawks
I forgot to spoiler the warned psrt xD

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

2 minutes ago, Hawks said:

*hugs*

*huggss*

YAYYYY

 

sh and religious confusion

Ok what?

I heard this 

"You don't have scars so you didn't actually self harm? Stop being a fake."

Ermmm what? 

Lil bro were did you get your information ️ 

Just bc you don't see scars doesnt mean they didn't hurt themselves!!!!!!!!

What the actual hell is wrong with this world? I see people all the time saying rust like this. Its honestly sickening seeing people hate on others for the stupidest reasons. One of my friends went to a church (they are a queer) and got literally bullied.they were told they were going to hell and to get out before they beat the gay away. 

*breaths* BRUH!!!!!

Please graciously tell me and inform me about how that makes sense? Please, if you agree with the above statement, then tell me how it makes sense??????  *about sh*

And for the second part. WHY DO PEOPLE SAY THAT WHEN QUEERS GO TO CHURCH!!! if you belive gays go to hell and you can"beat the gay away" or pray the gay away. H..m im going to scream about that. Of god created us how we are intentionally then....he made queers queer..... and trans people trans???..???????

Idk gang. People nowadays

Dang

All of that is just...I don't have words

The worst part is it doesn't wven surprise me anymore, it's like when I hear about yet another murder or something in the city, it doesn't startle me at all 'cause it feels like the horrible is everywhere

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Dang

All of that is just...I don't have words

The worst part is it doesn't wven surprise me anymore, it's like when I hear about yet another murder or something in the city, it doesn't startle me at all 'cause it feels like the horrible is everywhere

Fr Dude at this point im unfazed when my school gets put in lock down bc we are under shooting threat. Happens at least 1 a month

Edited May 19, 2025 by Hawks

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

12 minutes ago, Hawks said:

Fr Dude at this point im unfazed when my school gets put in lock down bc we are under shooting threat. Happens at least 1 a month

Same thing happens to schools around here, it's one of many reasons I homeschool

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Same thing happens to schools around here, it's one of many reasons I homeschool

Ah yes. *random hugs*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

Ah yes. *random hugs*

*hugs back*

[Keke They/he]

Well. storm. I overthinked so muhc I am currently crying so hard I can't breath and trying so hard to not scream Im hurting my jaw from my silent screams. 

I dont even know where to begin and I dont know HOW to begin. I am so close to begging my parents to let me go to Utah because I need help from you guys there in person because my mental health is so godawful words cant fix me. 

Im so messed up rn I had to imagine someone else talking to me so I can try to calm down.

I have so many nightmares of a specific thing im not gonna say here. But my mom said one time she had a nightmare it happened to me and so since its been in the back of my mind and I was unknowingly thinking avout it until it all came up and dots are dotting and I xant tell what's real or fake anymore. I am pulling my hair and silently wishing I could scratch myself. I dont know what to do anymore. I know it gets better but it hurts so bad. I dont wanna die but I dont wanna live like this.

Hence the new pfp because its how I am right now and im tired. Hopefully. Hopefully I'll sleep a bit after posting this and tomorrow I can talk to someone properly. 

[KaladinsSenseOfHumourSpren He/Him]

3 hours ago, Hawks said:

Fr Dude at this point im unfazed when my school gets put in lock down bc we are under shooting threat. Happens at least 1 a month

ONCE A MONTH? 

That has never happened to me in all my years of schooling. 

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

4 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well. storm. I overthinked so muhc I am currently crying so hard I can't breath and trying so hard to not scream Im hurting my jaw from my silent screams. 

I dont even know where to begin and I dont know HOW to begin. I am so close to begging my parents to let me go to Utah because I need help from you guys there in person because my mental health is so godawful words cant fix me. 

Im so messed up rn I had to imagine someone else talking to me so I can try to calm down.

I have so many nightmares of a specific thing im not gonna say here. But my mom said one time she had a nightmare it happened to me and so since its been in the back of my mind and I was unknowingly thinking avout it until it all came up and dots are dotting and I xant tell what's real or fake anymore. I am pulling my hair and silently wishing I could scratch myself. I dont know what to do anymore. I know it gets better but it hurts so bad. I dont wanna die but I dont wanna live like this.

Hence the new pfp because its how I am right now and im tired. Hopefully. Hopefully I'll sleep a bit after posting this and tomorrow I can talk to someone properly. 

*hugs tight*

PLEASE. Please don’t suffer alone. Please talk to someone. Talk to me.

We want to help you, Hawks. At the very least, we want to be there. I’m here.

*squeeze*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

4 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well. storm. I overthinked so muhc I am currently crying so hard I can't breath and trying so hard to not scream Im hurting my jaw from my silent screams. 

I dont even know where to begin and I dont know HOW to begin. I am so close to begging my parents to let me go to Utah because I need help from you guys there in person because my mental health is so godawful words cant fix me. 

Im so messed up rn I had to imagine someone else talking to me so I can try to calm down.

I have so many nightmares of a specific thing im not gonna say here. But my mom said one time she had a nightmare it happened to me and so since its been in the back of my mind and I was unknowingly thinking avout it until it all came up and dots are dotting and I xant tell what's real or fake anymore. I am pulling my hair and silently wishing I could scratch myself. I dont know what to do anymore. I know it gets better but it hurts so bad. I dont wanna die but I dont wanna live like this.

Hence the new pfp because its how I am right now and im tired. Hopefully. Hopefully I'll sleep a bit after posting this and tomorrow I can talk to someone properly. 

*hugs*

4 hours ago, KaladinsSenseOfHumorSpren said:

ONCE A MONTH? 

That has never happened to me in all my years of schooling. 

Really? Sheesh. Here it happens at least once a week

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

9 hours ago, Hawks said:

Fr Dude at this point im unfazed when my school gets put in lock down bc we are under shooting threat. Happens at least 1 a month

My school has a bomb threat the other day and it was my first experience with that kind of stuff but it didn’t surprise me it was just like “oh well now it’s us” or smthing bc it’s just so common in this country.

[Mags she/they]

I swear to all that is good and green that if I have to read one more article and answer questions about it for my English class I will go insane

worst part about today is I've already read this stupid thing before and it's the one about cannibalizing babies

[Through the Living Hope]

4 minutes ago, Mag said:

I swear to all that is good and green that if I have to read one more article and answer questions about it for my English class I will go insane

worst part about today is I've already read this stupid thing before and it's the one about cannibalizing babies

NO

EW

I had to read an article for sociology about a plane crash in the Andes where they had to cannibalise to survive and I was grossed out the whole time

[Mags she/they]

8 minutes ago, Spark of Hope said:

NO

EW

I had to read an article for sociology about a plane crash in the Andes where they had to cannibalise to survive and I was grossed out the whole time

at least this one is a satire, which is the point of reading it, but it still sucks

and I hate that class soooo much

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

*hugs for everyone*

[TwinStorm He/Him]

Cool poem that inspired me 

Invictus by William Earnest Heanley

Spoiler

Out of the night that covers me,

      Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

      For my unconquerable soul.

 

In the fell clutch of circumstance

      I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

      My head is bloody, but unbowed.

 

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

      Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

      Finds and shall find me unafraid.

 

It matters not how strait the gate,

      How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

      I am the captain of my soul.

 

 

[MirkerLurker she/her]

On 5/16/2025 at 11:49 AM, #1 Taln Fan said:

Hey all, how’s everyone been doing the last week? 

Doing ok, doing ok. Struggling some with getting things done. Fluctuating between doing things and not doing things. Kinda vague I realize. 

 

On 5/17/2025 at 1:56 AM, SpartanBrigade said:

Hi… everyone 
I’m not really sure how to introduce myself naturally but I’ve been really lost recently 

Trigger Warning: Discussions of SH/Suicide

It’s one of my best friends. I call her Rlain - she has no idea who that is - and I’m Starpan. She’s funny, bright, and likes to yell at people a lot (to give you an idea of what our friendship is like lol)

She also struggles with bipolar disorder as well as chronic depression and SH and thoughts of suicide among other things. She makes jokes and shouts and acts tough but underneath it all I know how much pain she’s in from the rare times she lets down her guard. She also genuinely thinks she’s a bad person and that she can’t be helped. She’s my best friend and one of the best people I’ve ever known but I have no idea how to help her. Her guard of being funny and tough is nearly always up as well. I would do anything but I don’t know or what. I’m sorry if I’m intruding here too I just really need some advice. Any advice. She means the world to me and I’m not doing nearly enough.

My advice always comes with the caveat that since I don't know anything other than this post and don't know you or her personally, take the advice as a suggestion and discard it if it doesn't work for you.

Avoid outright contradicting her; if she genuinely thinks she's a bad person, then if she's told "No you're not", she probably won't believe you. She'll think you're just being nice or something like that. Ask questions instead. "Why do you think you're a bad person?" "Does that make me a bad person too, since I like you and trust you?" Tailor your questions to her and her responses, obviously; but I like to ask questions, see what kind of logic the person is following, and then ask more questions that start to poke holes in those logic trains. Help her start to see for herself some of the ways her brain is tricking her. And that you won't judge her or dismiss her. 

And tell her she means the world to you. Maybe she'll believe you, maybe she won't; but we internalize the things we hear often. Tell her what you like about her, and tell it to her often. She may not believe you, but it will start to influence the way she thinks about herself.

And keep at it. We often have more effect than we know, but also change and growth can take a while. Don't give up.

 

On 5/18/2025 at 12:25 PM, alittleinsane said:

hi

i've returned from underneath the couch void

*hugs for everyone*

how's everyone doing?

vent 1:

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right so i have two best-best friends. one of them is very hard to be friends with. she's polite but also very critical, and she kind of blurts out her true opinions which usually start with "ok shut up, blahblah." and i love her but for obvious reasons the outbursts make her kind of difficult to be around. other times she's closed off and awkward and apologetic. her parents put a lot of pressure on her and i want to help but i don't think she notices what's wrong with her relationship with them. she feels lonely often and is sad when we don't include her but she doesn't reach out at all. she's busy almost every single day, and even when she is free, she won't ask to tag along even if she wants to. and we do have fun, but it takes hours of hanging out in one session until she feels comfortable. i really care about her but we're going to different high schools and it's hard to stay friends like that. and i really just need someone who i can fight with and argue with who will argue back instead of just wilt, and make me feel actually sorry instead of just guilty, and who doesn't mind when I get tired of them for a little bit and who will work things out instead of just brushing things off, and i have a friend like that. gah it's just hard to know that you've known someone for more than half your life and you are ready to let them go.

rant (this one is more complain-y lol):

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right so it's my last year of school, and there's a spring fair every year. normally it is established that it is For The 8th Graders. Yes, everyone comes, but it is For Us. we literally have a part of the school that's just us only, and has things Just For Us that we want. That didn't really work this year the way it has in past years. most people who set up for the spring fair are elementary school parents, and the parents of my classmates are particularly absent/reluctant to pitch in for school events. i don't want to say that they suck, but a lot of them do. it's pretty shallow, but Our Space wasn't as special as it was for past 8th grade classes and i kinda feel like i've been cheated. last year they had so much more fun. it got dark earlier so the little ones left earlier and it was kind of just them, together, for the last time and we didn't get that because our class group has never had a person to keep us all together. it's been established that no one wants to stay in contact and it really just sucks. ugh also the little kids crowded outside our little private area and tried to take our stuff and i had to beat them back by playing wack-a-mole with their fingers and a piñata bat ugh every single second of dealing with grubby grabby little eight year olds makes ROTS anakin seem more relatable.

oh yeah question:

how political am i allowed to get in vents? not like vents purely abt politics, but political decisions really affect me because of my identity. i'm a queer, jewish, biracial/asian, american girl so it's hard not to feel more-than-a-little down rn cause of what's happening. my actual concrete opinions will stay out of vents ofc, it'll just be like the feelings created as reactions to stuff happening

I don't have a good response, just *hugs*

 

 

On 5/18/2025 at 12:37 PM, Hawks said:

What i hate is when your productive then you realize the past few months you've been unproductive so much and then depression and you cant sleep so you just cry thinking about how you wish you could get yourself out of this depression. But no matter what you try to falls down again.

This hasn't been an issue before. Like yeah I would get depressed then eventually I would be able to get out and have life again after a month or two. But five months after I fell im still here. Now im trying to force myself to do stuff but I cantt. Yesterday I was super productive. I did a garage sale snd got my hair dyed and hung out with my mom and worked alot on my cosplay. Took my dog for a walk and met my neighbors girlfriend. Snd then I realized. Why cant I do that every day. And so I cried myself to sleep silently because I didn't want to wake my dad up and now I wish I could actually sleep so I can do stuff. 

I've been trying to give myself leaniace on not beating myself ip for it considering all thats happening with the divorce then the issues with my identity being against what my parents believe. 

I just wish I could have someone im comfortable hugging. Not you dad stop. Trying. I dont like hugging you. Please. Ahem. Someone im comfortable with just hold me bc I need it at this point. 

Why cant I fix myself from this. Anytime I try it fails and I go down again. Why is this different then the others and why cant I fix it!!!!

On 5/18/2025 at 1:38 PM, Hawks said:

*hugs*

I feel like im most productive when im talking to friends bc then I walk around doing stuff while im talking. 

Hence why i spam the discord server saying im bored but in reality i want to talk so I will do stuff. 

I get that. But its been unproductive days for a few months in a row and thats a bit to much for my taste. 

Sighhhhh

First: Remember that your best is not something you should expect every day. Our culture is awful about that. We can't sustain 100% effort 100% of the time. Great days are awesome, but we won't have them everyday. We'd burn out. 

Secondly, while what I said is true, it's also normal to want more good days. A sustainable good health level should have a number of good days; depression makes them few and far between, because depression gets in the way of having them. So when you do have one, celebrate it! I understand that grief, the awful realization that this good day should be something you have more of, but you don't, and it just highlights how not-good all the other days are. Go ahead and grieve that. But also celebrate the good day. Don't let depression steal the good from the good day too.

 

On 5/18/2025 at 8:57 PM, Hoid Slayer said:

Well

Guys

I thought this was worth posting here

All this week, I've had this recurring feeling that I've been doing nothing each day. Every morning, I promise to myself that I'm finally going to be productive, but all I do is procrastinate, and every evening I feel like crem for not doing anything.

So, today, I did something different. 

I decided not to watch any youtube all day, instead focusing on actually doing stuff.

And it worked!!!

I feel like I did so much today. I practiced my instrument, I finished a design summative project, I read my book, and I spent time with my family. So yeah. I'm just really satisfied right now. And I wanted to share it. 

YAY!

Yeah. Putting down devices is...irritatingly effective. For me it's books too. I use books to escape, and so I have to put them down too.

I'm so glad you had a good day!

22 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

YAY CONGRATS

I've found the same 'no YouTube' hack... I just never use it..... 

YEP
oh yeah, I know lots of things that help...I just don't like them. Sometimes I do them. Sometimes I don't. And then when I don't, I feel guilty, because I know better, and I should be doing better, and I'm doing worse because I'm not doing the things to help, so clearly it's all my fault that I'm not doing well, and those things people say about "if you just tried harder or applied yourself, you'd excel" are true, and I'm actually a rather useless person with no willpower who doesn't contribute anything...
I don't like that cycle.

 

21 hours ago, Hawks said:

sh and religious confusion

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Ok what?

I heard this 

"You don't have scars so you didn't actually self harm? Stop being a fake."

Ermmm what? 

Lil bro were did you get your information ️ 

Just bc you don't see scars doesnt mean they didn't hurt themselves!!!!!!!!

What the actual hell is wrong with this world? I see people all the time saying rust like this. Its honestly sickening seeing people hate on others for the stupidest reasons. One of my friends went to a church (they are a queer) and got literally bullied.they were told they were going to hell and to get out before they beat the gay away. 

*breaths* BRUH!!!!!

Please graciously tell me and inform me about how that makes sense? Please, if you agree with the above statement, then tell me how it makes sense??????  *about sh*

And for the second part. WHY DO PEOPLE SAY THAT WHEN QUEERS GO TO CHURCH!!! if you belive gays go to hell and you can"beat the gay away" or pray the gay away. H..m im going to scream about that. Of god created us how we are intentionally then....he made queers queer..... and trans people trans???..???????

Idk gang. People nowadays

Lots of people have misinformation about mental health. Lots of people repeat what their parents say, lots of people don't research it because they think that what they've been 'taught' is true and sufficient. It's miserable, and they're wrong, and it creates so much pain and misery. It is indeed sickening.

The sentence "if you don't have scars, you didn't self harm" is straight up not true. The clinical definition does not include that, and includes things that don't leave scars as self-harm. 

The second part...is horrid. It's an awful way in which the church as a whole is diseased. The church is a place for sinners, for people who are messed up and seeking help; unfortunately, that means it's also full of people who are...messed up. (Please note, I am not saying churches are bad. I think churches are incredibly important. But you can't look at the presence of the church in the world and not also acknowledge that it is imperfect, and sometimes twisted into hatred. Which is awful, and makes me angry and sad and bleh.)

Bit of a theological point - not sure if ok here? Taln (or anyone else), pls let me know if this is too religious, I'll pull the comment and put it in a pm or something, not sure what the specific boundaries on this are.
We should be careful using "God created us like this" as a defense of things. God created us perfect and sinless; and then humanity turned away, sin entered the world, and we got broken. How we are now is not how we were intended to be. (We weren't supposed to struggle with anxiety, or depression, or self-hm, or alcoholism, or drugs, or any number of things.) We are designed and created in God's image, and He loves us the way we are, but He also grieves over the ways we're broken. He's sad for us, He wants us to be healed and whole again, and He offers us a way to do that - because how we are now isn't fully how we're supposed to be.
I'm not saying "you're wrong", I'm saying "Be careful that you don't use that as your only way to defend something - you need biblical backing for why the trait you're defending is part of God's image and plan, and not part of the Fall and the breaking."
(sorry if that's not a point you want to go into - defending points based on faulty or low evidence bothers me, esp when the thing is important, so I commented - feel free to ignore!)
And I am NOT excusing ANYONE saying they will "beat" the ANYTHING out of ANYONE. That's not ok. We were never supposed to hurt one another, and that I can defend biblically. The statement those people made is horrible. And I'm not going to rant further about it because it makes me angry.

18 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well. storm. I overthinked so muhc I am currently crying so hard I can't breath and trying so hard to not scream Im hurting my jaw from my silent screams. 

I dont even know where to begin and I dont know HOW to begin. I am so close to begging my parents to let me go to Utah because I need help from you guys there in person because my mental health is so godawful words cant fix me. 

Im so messed up rn I had to imagine someone else talking to me so I can try to calm down.

I have so many nightmares of a specific thing im not gonna say here. But my mom said one time she had a nightmare it happened to me and so since its been in the back of my mind and I was unknowingly thinking avout it until it all came up and dots are dotting and I xant tell what's real or fake anymore. I am pulling my hair and silently wishing I could scratch myself. I dont know what to do anymore. I know it gets better but it hurts so bad. I dont wanna die but I dont wanna live like this.

Hence the new pfp because its how I am right now and im tired. Hopefully. Hopefully I'll sleep a bit after posting this and tomorrow I can talk to someone properly. 

*hug*
*bigger hug*

 

17 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

Cool poem that inspired me 

Invictus by William Earnest Heanley

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Out of the night that covers me,

      Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

      For my unconquerable soul.

 

In the fell clutch of circumstance

      I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

      My head is bloody, but unbowed.

 

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

      Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

      Finds and shall find me unafraid.

 

It matters not how strait the gate,

      How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

      I am the captain of my soul.

 

 

Oooh, Invictus!

Ok, on the one hand. It's cool, it's a neat poem. The last two lines especially get quoted a lot, they're powerful.

On the other hand, the last two lines also make me think of this, and I can't help laughing, which kind of breaks the drama of the poem :

[Keke They/he]

19 hours ago, KaladinsSenseOfHumorSpren said:

ONCE A MONTH? 

That has never happened to me in all my years of schooling. 

BRO I HAVE HAD A HIGHSPEED CHASE END IN MY SCHOOL PARKING LOT

I WAS IN KINDERGARTEN 

14 hours ago, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs tight*

PLEASE. Please don’t suffer alone. Please talk to someone. Talk to me.

We want to help you, Hawks. At the very least, we want to be there. I’m here.

*squeeze*

*hug*

Sorry not telling anyone is a bad habit. Whenever I get like that all the memories of the bad times when I used to be thar way come back and its just so much and I forget I have people to talk to. Kinda like a ptsd thing or something idk 

14 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*hugs*

Really? Sheesh. Here it happens at least once a week

*hugs*

13 hours ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

My school has a bomb threat the other day and it was my first experience with that kind of stuff but it didn’t surprise me it was just like “oh well now it’s us” or smthing bc it’s just so common in this country.

Eahhh life *sigh*

11 hours ago, Mag said:

I swear to all that is good and green that if I have to read one more article and answer questions about it for my English class I will go insane

worst part about today is I've already read this stupid thing before and it's the one about cannibalizing babies

*throws up*

*flashbacks to the trauma thar came from. A video we watched on the Connor party or smthng.*

*cries*

21 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Doing ok, doing ok. Struggling some with getting things done. Fluctuating between doing things and not doing things. Kinda vague I realize. 

 

My advice always comes with the caveat that since I don't know anything other than this post and don't know you or her personally, take the advice as a suggestion and discard it if it doesn't work for you.

Avoid outright contradicting her; if she genuinely thinks she's a bad person, then if she's told "No you're not", she probably won't believe you. She'll think you're just being nice or something like that. Ask questions instead. "Why do you think you're a bad person?" "Does that make me a bad person too, since I like you and trust you?" Tailor your questions to her and her responses, obviously; but I like to ask questions, see what kind of logic the person is following, and then ask more questions that start to poke holes in those logic trains. Help her start to see for herself some of the ways her brain is tricking her. And that you won't judge her or dismiss her. 

And tell her she means the world to you. Maybe she'll believe you, maybe she won't; but we internalize the things we hear often. Tell her what you like about her, and tell it to her often. She may not believe you, but it will start to influence the way she thinks about herself.

And keep at it. We often have more effect than we know, but also change and growth can take a while. Don't give up.

 

I don't have a good response, just *hugs*

 

 

First: Remember that your best is not something you should expect every day. Our culture is awful about that. We can't sustain 100% effort 100% of the time. Great days are awesome, but we won't have them everyday. We'd burn out. 

Secondly, while what I said is true, it's also normal to want more good days. A sustainable good health level should have a number of good days; depression makes them few and far between, because depression gets in the way of having them. So when you do have one, celebrate it! I understand that grief, the awful realization that this good day should be something you have more of, but you don't, and it just highlights how not-good all the other days are. Go ahead and grieve that. But also celebrate the good day. Don't let depression steal the good from the good day too.

 

YAY!

Yeah. Putting down devices is...irritatingly effective. For me it's books too. I use books to escape, and so I have to put them down too.

I'm so glad you had a good day!

YEP
oh yeah, I know lots of things that help...I just don't like them. Sometimes I do them. Sometimes I don't. And then when I don't, I feel guilty, because I know better, and I should be doing better, and I'm doing worse because I'm not doing the things to help, so clearly it's all my fault that I'm not doing well, and those things people say about "if you just tried harder or applied yourself, you'd excel" are true, and I'm actually a rather useless person with no willpower who doesn't contribute anything...
I don't like that cycle.

 

Lots of people have misinformation about mental health. Lots of people repeat what their parents say, lots of people don't research it because they think that what they've been 'taught' is true and sufficient. It's miserable, and they're wrong, and it creates so much pain and misery. It is indeed sickening.

The sentence "if you don't have scars, you didn't self harm" is straight up not true. The clinical definition does not include that, and includes things that don't leave scars as self-harm. 

The second part...is horrid. It's an awful way in which the church as a whole is diseased. The church is a place for sinners, for people who are messed up and seeking help; unfortunately, that means it's also full of people who are...messed up. (Please note, I am not saying churches are bad. I think churches are incredibly important. But you can't look at the presence of the church in the world and not also acknowledge that it is imperfect, and sometimes twisted into hatred. Which is awful, and makes me angry and sad and bleh.)

Bit of a theological point - not sure if ok here? Taln (or anyone else), pls let me know if this is too religious, I'll pull the comment and put it in a pm or something, not sure what the specific boundaries on this are.
We should be careful using "God created us like this" as a defense of things. God created us perfect and sinless; and then humanity turned away, sin entered the world, and we got broken. How we are now is not how we were intended to be. (We weren't supposed to struggle with anxiety, or depression, or self-hm, or alcoholism, or drugs, or any number of things.) We are designed and created in God's image, and He loves us the way we are, but He also grieves over the ways we're broken. He's sad for us, He wants us to be healed and whole again, and He offers us a way to do that - because how we are now isn't fully how we're supposed to be.
I'm not saying "you're wrong", I'm saying "Be careful that you don't use that as your only way to defend something - you need biblical backing for why the trait you're defending is part of God's image and plan, and not part of the Fall and the breaking."
(sorry if that's not a point you want to go into - defending points based on faulty or low evidence bothers me, esp when the thing is important, so I commented - feel free to ignore!)
And I am NOT excusing ANYONE saying they will "beat" the ANYTHING out of ANYONE. That's not ok. We were never supposed to hurt one another, and that I can defend biblically. The statement those people made is horrible. And I'm not going to rant further about it because it makes me angry.

*hug*
*bigger hug*

 

Oooh, Invictus!

Ok, on the one hand. It's cool, it's a neat poem. The last two lines especially get quoted a lot, they're powerful.

On the other hand, the last two lines also make me think of this, and I can't help laughing, which kind of breaks the drama of the poem :

Well thars alot.

 

First hugs *hugs*

*sigh* im managing.

Ok and to the religious talks

So idk about the whole we were offered to have a perfect life. Adam and eve were but they were MEANT to break either one of the rules. And I am speaking from the LDS side of belief. We were msde to be imperfect. And throught the entirety of the doctorine and covenants it says how god loves everyone and so long as we keep his commandments and make sacred covenants then we are loved. 

Granted as I say this I realize the doctorine and covenants is an LDS thing so..... ahem.

 

Side note: GAH I keep forgetting to take my meds. This is the thing causing it all and I forgot AGAIN

tonight is gonna be rust and I can tell

[MirkerLurker she/her]

7 minutes ago, Hawks said:

First hugs *hugs*

*sigh* im managing.

Ok and to the religious talks

So idk about the whole we were offered to have a perfect life. Adam and eve were but they were MEANT to break either one of the rules. And I am speaking from the LDS side of belief. We were msde to be imperfect. And throught the entirety of the doctorine and covenants it says how god loves everyone and so long as we keep his commandments and make sacred covenants then we are loved. 

Granted as I say this I realize the doctorine and covenants is an LDS thing so..... ahem.

 

Side note: GAH I keep forgetting to take my meds. This is the thing causing it all and I forgot AGAIN

tonight is gonna be rust and I can tell

Ah hmm. Yeah I'm unfamiliar with the LDS specific doctrines and covenants, so I don't have a response to that. I'll look them up someone when I'm not supposed to be sleeping. 

As for the side note: yes omg  I feel you. My doc changed when I'm supposed to take them, and I keep forgetting and teaching them at the wrong time. But forgetting then altogether is even worse *hug* at least you realized why it's awful at the moment ..

[Keke They/he]

2 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Ah hmm. Yeah I'm unfamiliar with the LDS specific doctrines and covenants, so I don't have a response to that. I'll look them up someone when I'm not supposed to be sleeping. 

As for the side note: yes omg  I feel you. My doc changed when I'm supposed to take them, and I keep forgetting and teaching them at the wrong time. But forgetting then altogether is even worse *hug* at least you realized why it's awful at the moment ..

*hugs*

*sighs*

I wanna ve cosplaying instead of lifing but I lost my spare hair 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

*sad sigh*

just stuff

idk

all the things

tired

sleep now

*sleep*

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

1 hour ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*sad sigh*

just stuff

idk

all the things

tired

sleep now

*sleep*

*hugs tight*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

Hey guys I wanted to let you know I’m doing a lot better than I had been but even despite all that I still have like a feeling in the back of my mind that just bc it’s better now doesn’t mean it will stay better and that it’ll just get bad again. But I’m having my friends over for a pool party next Saturday so that’ll be fun