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[Kaymyth she/her]

Arrrrggghhhhh I'm probably being too hard on them. Or maybe not. I know they want me to move back with them, and part of me does want to go back to Spokane because I love that city, but I really want to strike out on my own. It was so much less frustrating when they didn't know where they were going, because they seemed supportive of me "going off on an adventure" and all that, but now it's just SPOKANE SPOKANE SPOKANE MUST MOVE TO SPOKANE SPOKANE IS THE ONLY CITY THAT MATTERS IN THE WORLD. 

 

And I get it. My mom has dreamed her whole life about having all of her kids living in the same city, close enough that she or we can drop by for dinner or a cup of coffee, and for a while, I wanted that too. But now that's the last thing I want, partly because my first act of rebellion after moving out will be make housework more of a very strong suggestion than a lifestyle. 

 

Edit: I have a Master's degree in Information Resources and Library Science, which qualifies me for many entry-level librarian jobs. What I really want to do is go into teen librarianship—plan programs for teens, manage acquisitions, that sort of thing. 

 

And convince all the teens to read Reckoners, I bet.

[Haelbarde he/him]

Can I have a dozen pugbots?

This is actually something I am going to try and do tomorrow.

[Joe ST he/him]

make robots? 

 

and *sends so many pugbots and cuddleswarms to Twy* your parents sound possessive and controlling, and you totally should strike out and be a librarian wherever you want to be. I hope it works out for you

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

And convince all the teens to read Reckoners, I bet.

 

Of course. I'm currently envisioning a teens-only book club with Steelheart as our first book.  

 

This is actually something I am going to try and do tomorrow.

 

I approve of this idea.  

 

make robots? 

 

and *sends so many pugbots and cuddleswarms to Twy* your parents sound possessive and controlling, and you totally should strike out and be a librarian wherever you want to be. I hope it works out for you

 

Thanks. And part of me wonders if I'm seeing this all wrong, and if I'll wake up one morning and realize that they were right all along and I should have stayed in the same city because after moving into my first apartment I immediately got robbed and mugged so often my landlord evicted me because my bad luck was causing so much trouble….

 

Okay, I'm not Backtrack, so that probably won't happen. But I do worry that I'm taking all this wrong. 

[Joe ST he/him]

Thanks. And part of me wonders if I'm seeing this all wrong, and if I'll wake up one morning and realize that they were right all along and I should have stayed in the same city because after moving into my first apartment I immediately got robbed and mugged so often my landlord evicted me because my bad luck was causing so much trouble….

 

Okay, I'm not Backtrack, so that probably won't happen. But I do worry that I'm taking all this wrong.

That situation wouldn't make them right, it would just suck massively *cuddleswarms*

tell me if I get too overly-supportive for those who get weirded out by me, I don't want to overstep bounds

[Orlion Blight he/him]

 And part of me wonders if I'm seeing this all wrong, and if I'll wake up one morning and realize that they were right all along and I should have stayed in the same city because after moving into my first apartment I immediately got robbed and mugged so often my landlord evicted me because my bad luck was causing so much trouble….

 

Okay, I'm not Backtrack, so that probably won't happen. But I do worry that I'm taking all this wrong. 

 

You'll never know unless you try... besides, a landlord never evicts someone unless compelled by the law or the tenant does not pay rent. And even then, it's a toss up 

 

Sounds like your parents were disappointed to begin with, slept on it, and decided that their parental responsibilities entailed helping you anyway. They did the right thing, it was just too little, too late. It's like what Wit said at the end of WoK:

 

What is it we value? Innovation. Originality. Novelty. But most importantly... timeliness. I fear you may be too late, my confused, unfortunate friend.  

 

[Kobold King he/him]

Thanks. And part of me wonders if I'm seeing this all wrong, and if I'll wake up one morning and realize that they were right all along and I should have stayed in the same city because after moving into my first apartment I immediately got robbed and mugged so often my landlord evicted me because my bad luck was causing so much trouble….

 

Okay, I'm not Backtrack, so that probably won't happen. But I do worry that I'm taking all this wrong. 

 

You'll be fine. Plenty of people move away from their parents without immediately getting mugged by gangs of unsavory criminals. While caution is always good to have, I don't think you have anything to worry about on that front.

 

Besides, most of Backtrack's bad luck is purely karmic. Remain the non-slontze that I know you are and you'll be fine.

 

 

tell me if I get too overly-supportive for those who get weirded out by me, I don't want to overstep bounds

 

Oh, I know just what you mean. For a month I was convinced that Twi saw me as a creepy stalker prying into her personal life. It probably took more effort from her to dissuade me of that than it took me to give sympathy for her troubles.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

That situation wouldn't make them right, it would just suck massively *cuddleswarms*

tell me if I get too overly-supportive for those who get weirded out by me, I don't want to overstep bounds

 

No, you're fine.  

 

You'll never know unless you try... besides, a landlord never evicts someone unless compelled by the law or the tenant does not pay rent. And even then, it's a toss up 

 

Sounds like your parents were disappointed to begin with, slept on it, and decided that their parental responsibilities entailed helping you anyway. They did the right thing, it was just too little, too late. It's like what Wit said at the end of WoK:

 

 

That makes sense. I'll think of it that way, especially if I imagine them being visited by a Herald in the middle of the night.  

 

You'll be fine. Plenty of people move away from their parents without immediately getting mugged by gangs of unsavory criminals. While caution is always good to have, I don't think you have anything to worry about on that front.

 

Besides, most of Backtrack's bad luck is purely karmic. Remain the non-slontze that I know you are and you'll be fine.

 

There aren't a ton of opportunities for being a slontze in public librarianship, so I think I'll be okay.  

[Comatose he/him]

If they are anything like my parents (or my mother at least, my father always pretends he doesn't care), their behavior, though frustrating, is likely coming from a place of love and a desire to see you more often.  That, and grandchildren.  If they are anything like my parents, or other parents I've encountered, (*cough-inlaws-*cough), no matter how remote the possibility of actually obtaining grandchildren, whether or not there is already a plan in place, or if grandchildren already exist, the desire to have them (or have more), and to have them close by, is always an acceptable motivation for doing things.  

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

If they are anything like my parents (or my mother at least, my father always pretends he doesn't care), their behavior, though frustrating, is likely coming from a place of love and a desire to see you more often.  That, and grandchildren.  If they are anything like my parents, or other parents I've encountered, (*cough-inlaws-*cough), no matter how remote the possibility of actually obtaining grandchildren, whether or not there is already a plan in place, or if grandchildren already exist, the desire to have them (or have more), and to have them close by, is always an acceptable motivation for doing things.  

 

Sounds about right. I don't even know if I'll get married, and my mom is already talking about grandkids. 

[Kobold King he/him]

Sounds about right. I don't even know if I'll get married, and my mom is already talking about grandkids. 

 

 

What, you don't know how to asexually fertilize yourself and give birth to a clone? What planet have you been living on?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

What, you don't know how to asexually fertilize yourself and give birth to a clone? What planet have you been living on?

 

The wrong one? Right one? I….I don't know what my parents would say if I introduced them to their new grandchild, Mini-Me.  

[Kobold King he/him]

The wrong one? Right one? I….I don't know what my parents would say if I introduced them to their new grandchild, Mini-Me.

 

"Congratulations, Danielle, we knew you had it in you"? That or "OH MY GOSH WHAT SORCERY IS THIS." I don't know them well enough to judge.

 

My primary interest is seeing what the Question thread would be like with two TwiLyghts posting on it regularly.

[Joe ST he/him]

aye Matt has it about right, (lots of) parents have this weird desire to acquire grandkids, possibly in order to inflict the suffering of childbearing upon their children and possibly because they want to do more baby things without having to pay for it. *rolls eyes* parents

[Kobold King he/him]

aye Matt has it about right, (lots of) parents have this weird desire to acquire grandkids, possibly in order to inflict the suffering of childbearing upon their children and possibly because they want to do more baby things without having to pay for it. *rolls eyes* parents

 

I've stopped telling my parents when I interact with a female of my species. The desire to pass one's genetics down the generations is strong.

 

* rolls eyes *  Genetic forebears.

[Joe ST he/him]

if only they were genetic shardbears in space XD

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

if only they were genetic shardbears in space XD

 

That settles it. 

 

I am going to adopt a child. And when people ask "Is he/she yours?" I'll tell them it's my spren. 

 

…..

 

I think this is why I shouldn't have children.  

[+Slowswift]

That settles it. 

 

I am going to adopt a child. And when people ask "Is he/she yours?" I'll tell them it's my spren. 

 

…..

 

I think this is why I shouldn't have children.

 

Are you kidding? If I had kids, they'd all be named after fictional characters, and not just anybody's. My fictional characters.   

 

Of course, other people's fictional characters, too. Because having a son named Kaladin and a daughter named Vivenna would just be awesome.

[Jo and the Bush all/any]

That settles it.

I am going to adopt a child. And when people ask "Is he/she yours?" I'll tell them it's my spren.

…..

I think this is why I shouldn't have children.

Don't you mean should?

[Guest]

 

aye Matt has it about right, (lots of) parents have this weird desire to acquire grandkids, possibly in order to inflict the suffering of childbearing upon their children and possibly because they want to do more baby things without having to pay for it. *rolls eyes* parents

 

 

It is an absolutely normal thing to do for a parent   My eldest child is 5. I do think of grand-children, someday  Who says that we have to become rational the day we become a parent?

 

I think this is why I shouldn't have children.

 

You have time to change your mind about that one 

[Briar King]

I really hate being so on edge the past decade around the 4th. This isn't the same mostly secure world I grew up in that my kids now share.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I really hate being so on edge the past decade around the 4th. This isn't the same mostly secure world I grew up in that my kids now share.

I'm sorry.

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

I really hate being so on edge the past decade around the 4th. This isn't the same mostly secure world I grew up in that my kids now share.

 

What happens on the 4th?

 

If it's something that seems really obvious remember that I live under a rock.

Edited July 4, 2015 by SmurfAquamarineBodies

[Briar King]

The 4th of July. Independence Day.

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

Yes, independence day.