Don’t count on Cloth for anything. Pretend she isn’t there and you’ll do better. Besides that, The Traitor Lord only has like three or four moves, which with enough practice become super super easy to dodge. The only reason they’re dangerous is because they deal two damage. But stay on the defensive, and strike right after he’s attacked. There’s no right or wrong charm layout for this battle, but sharp shadow would be particularly helpful.
AND YEAH I feel very bad killing ghost people too. I have yet to touch any spirits inside the graveyard (except for one, as an experiment).
I vanished the Grimm Troupe, but I’m regretting it now because I don’t get the best minion in the game. On the plus side, (small spoiler)