Certified Gay Disasters

[RoyalBeeMage he/him]

I’m… questioning whether I am gay or not…

when/how did all of you know. Was there a aha moment or did you always know or what?

[Hmmm lies she/her]

7 hours ago, RoyalBeeMage said:

I’m… questioning whether I am gay or not…

when/how did all of you know. Was there a aha moment or did you always know or what?

Well for me I knew I was gay as soon as I knew I was trans, so I can't exactly relate to questioning sexuality, but as I understand it, for cis people it varies from person to person, some realize very early in life, others learn very late.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

On 8/15/2024 at 4:20 PM, Comatose said:

Wait, are you saying Bi King Adolin Kholin isn't "definitely bi" and that's only in my head?  After Chapter 12 of RoW?

Welcome here!

I mean he is, I just can’t confirm it. Also he’s too well-known for me to use as a username.

Forgot my login, I’m back now

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

On 10/30/2024 at 10:11 PM, Drehy said:

I mean he is, I just can’t confirm it. Also he’s too well-known for me to use as a username.

Forgot my login, I’m back now

Welcome back!

[Hmmm lies she/her]

And so we return after two months.

 

So, an interesting side effect of not knowing I was a girl for 14+ years is that I didn't care at all about having friends back then, but now I do. However, I am so inexperienced that I have no idea how to do so. It sucks.

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

On 11/8/2024 at 10:28 PM, Hmmm lies said:

And so we return after two months.

 

So, an interesting side effect of not knowing I was a girl for 14+ years is that I didn't care at all about having friends back then, but now I do. However, I am so inexperienced that I have no idea how to do so. It sucks.

I AM GAY AND A GIRL.

just put yourself out there!!!!

there is a pressure to fit in, but no-one forces you to do anything. I most certianly do not fit in, with gayness and rock bands and a touch of dark humor. BUT, i am not the only one who doesn´t fit in, and together we fit in in a different way!!

just find your people. it is not too hard, and I belive in you. YOU GO GIRL!!

On 8/20/2024 at 3:44 AM, RoyalBeeMage said:

I’m… questioning whether I am gay or not…

when/how did all of you know. Was there a aha moment or did you always know or what?

Hi. I didn´t know i was a lesbien for a very long time. ( i go by gay and les-bean. helps straight people understand)

I was eleven. I was watching the little mermaid. and i thought, OH MY GOSH, ARIEL IS HOT. 

and that was my gaywakening. I still was not totally sure then, and I came out as Bi before coming out as Gay. It was kind of a gradual process for me. I realize it has been a while since you posted this, but I felt like I should let you know my experience.

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Hey y'all! Still socially awkward, but I have a question.

Specifically for the trans people: How did you pick your name, if you have chosen a new name? 

For me, I first considered a fem version of my deadname, but I didn't like how it reminded me of my deadname, so I asked my friend for help. They gave me a bunch of suggestions, and one of them stood out to me, and so I picked it.

(btw if anyone from the future is reading this, this question is always open to answers!)

Edited November 22, 2024 by Hmmm lies

[Koloss17 She/They]

On 11/16/2024 at 10:56 PM, Hmmm lies said:

Hey y'all! Still socially awkward, but I have a question.

Specifically for the trans people: How did you pick your name, if you have chosen a new name? 

For me, I first considered a fem version of my deadname, but I didn't like how it reminded me of my deadname, so I asked my friend for help. They gave me a bunch of suggestions, and one of them stood out to me, and so I picked it.

So here was my process: I picked a few topics that I loved (In my case, it was Brandon Sanderson, Magic: The Gathering, and Greek Mythology), and picked a bunch of names from there that I liked the sound of. From there, it was just narrowing down the options to ones that I liked most.

I believe the three that I landed on after that process was Vin, Belbe, and Athene. I ended up with Athene, and I have no regrets.

Just brainstorming names is a good way to get somewhere, methinks.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

4 hours ago, Koloss17 said:

So here was my process: I picked a few topics that I loved (In my case, it was Brandon Sanderson, Magic: The Gathering, and Greek Mythology), and picked a bunch of names from there that I liked the sound of. From there, it was just narrowing down the options to ones that I liked most.

I believe the three that I landed on after that process was Vin, Belbe, and Athene. I ended up with Athene, and I have no regrets.

Just brainstorming names is a good way to get somewhere, methinks.

That’s really cool

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

I got a question if anybody’s got any advice: what do you do if you’ve got a crush on a friend who insists he’s straight? (He may or may not be, I don’t think he is but I might be biased) ‘Cause it kinda sucks

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Don't think there's anything you could/should do. I assume all girls are gay until proven otherwise, but usually they're not, so I think we're definitely biased. It's simply something that lots of us have to go through, and I'll agree, this does suck.

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

L- is for you are a, Lesbien

O- is for you Only like girls,

V- is Very very, intrested in women,

E- is Everybody, can tell that your gay.

[Hmmm lies she/her]

1 hour ago, LIV_SB-DustBringer said:

L- is for you are a, Lesbien

O- is for you Only like girls,

V- is Very very, intrested in women,

E- is Everybody, can tell that your gay.

:3 maybe

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

31 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

:3 maybe

well, this is certianly the thread for that to be true.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

On 11/22/2024 at 7:05 AM, Hmmm lies said:

Don't think there's anything you could/should do. I assume all girls are gay until proven otherwise, but usually they're not, so I think we're definitely biased. It's simply something that lots of us have to go through, and I'll agree, this does suck.

Thanks, that’s honestly what I needed to hear.

11 hours ago, LIV_SB-DustBringer said:

L- is for you are a, Lesbien

O- is for you Only like girls,

V- is Very very, intrested in women,

E- is Everybody, can tell that your gay.

Nice

[Hmmm lies she/her]

18 hours ago, Drehy said:

Thanks, that’s honestly what I needed to hear.

Glad I could help. 

Though the whole situation does remind me of an embarrassing story.

Back when I thought I was a guy and thought I was str*ight, I had a crush on this girl in late elementary/middle school. But eventually, I found out she was gay. So, I was naturally sad, but I moved on.

But then, when I realized I was a girl, after all the shock was gone, I was like "Wait, so it could have worked out with her all along!1!1!2!!1!"

(We go to different high schools now btw)

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

53 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Glad I could help. 

Though the whole situation does remind me of an embarrassing story.

Back when I thought I was a guy and thought I was str*ight, I had a crush on this girl in late elementary/middle school. But eventually, I found out she was gay. So, I was naturally sad, but I moved on.

But then, when I realized I was a girl, after all the shock was gone, I was like "Wait, so it could have worked out with her all along!1!1!2!!1!"

(We go to different high schools now btw)

AWWWW...

back when i first found out that i was gay, I crushed on my best friend....... who i later found out was both str8 and a lil homophob!c..... YEAH, suffice to say i dont talk to her now.

 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

1 hour ago, LIV_SB-DustBringer said:

AWWWW...

back when i first found out that i was gay, I crushed on my best friend....... who i later found out was both str8 and a lil homophob!c..... YEAH, suffice to say i dont talk to her now.

 

OOF, must've sucked.

I've temporarily sworn off romance, because I want to get comfortable in my own body before I get into a relationship. Hasn't stopped me from having romantic fantasies though.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

4 hours ago, LIV_SB-DustBringer said:

AWWWW...

back when i first found out that i was gay, I crushed on my best friend....... who i later found out was both str8 and a lil homophob!c..... YEAH, suffice to say i dont talk to her now.

 

Ah man, that sucks.

[AtrusAgeWriter he/him]

On 11/21/2024 at 11:59 PM, Ookla the Awkward said:

I got a question if anybody’s got any advice: what do you do if you’ve got a crush on a friend who insists he’s straight? (He may or may not be, I don’t think he is but I might be biased) ‘Cause it kinda sucks

I feel you... I quietly crushed on someone for something like eight months then finally confessed it to him. I know that confessing doesn't help for everyone, and it doesn't make all the feelings instantly go away, but it helped me. 
We're not as good of friends anymore... I think he's avoiding me somewhat (Devout LDS). I still don't know if he's actually straight or not... He didn't say. Just kindly rejected me.

I'm less than a year from college, so I'm subsisting off gay books/tv shows until I can go somewhere with guys I can date. Growing up gay in a rural conservative area has been... interesting, to say the least.

On the upside, I've only been out to myself for a year, so there's a LOT of good media out there that I don't even know about.

[Hmmm lies she/her]

2 hours ago, AtrusAgeWriter said:

I feel you... I quietly crushed on someone for something like eight months then finally confessed it to him. I know that confessing doesn't help for everyone, and it doesn't make all the feelings instantly go away, but it helped me. 
We're not as good of friends anymore... I think he's avoiding me somewhat (Devout LDS). I still don't know if he's actually straight or not... He didn't say. Just kindly rejected me.

I'm less than a year from college, so I'm subsisting off gay books/tv shows until I can go somewhere with guys I can date. Growing up gay in a rural conservative area has been... interesting, to say the least.

On the upside, I've only been out to myself for a year, so there's a LOT of good media out there that I don't even know about.

Oh that must've sucked. Glad you'll finally get to be yourself soon though.

Also for research purposes, what was it like to realize you're gay? I know it's probably different for cis people, since when you learn it it's not tied directly to your gender identity.

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

Okay.

I came here to talk about my amazing hoco proposal that I did because it was kinda recent and this is the thread for gayness.

My parents areeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....... less than supportive.

So i couldnt ask them to order the thing I was getting for my Gf, SO, I turned too my Bi best friend, who ordered it for me happily. I payed her back in full, and did my Hoco proposal with a sign that said,

Id be a silly goose not to take you to hoco,

And a giant, 6 foot long Goose stuffed animal from amazon.

It made me so happy, and hoco was awesome.  

I..... also feel like I should talk about something else.

I am female I think, but am sometimes not sure. I have an older sibling who is gender-fluid, they go by El, Ella or Elliot, depending on the day. I also have a cousin who is a trans man.

I think I might be non-binary, or gender-fluid, but I dont completely fit into either of those categories, and I feel like if I come out as one of those, my family, or at least older sibling, will feel like I copied them. (they can get very..... defensive.)

So I am not sure what I should do. I feel like a girl most of the time, but I also have days, somewhat often, where I just want to be a dude. be friends with them. to have..... yeah. so I am not positive.

ALSO, if i did come out as trans, that would make me a str8, white man. like, WHO AM I?? 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

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I think I might be non-binary, or gender-fluid, but I dont completely fit into either of those categories, and I feel like if I come out as one of those, my family, or at least older sibling, will feel like I copied them. (they can get very..... defensive.)

Well, just so you know, gender-fluid people are considered non-binary, and I don't exactly know what you mean when you say you don't fit into either of those categories. Non-binary is just any gender identity that isn't just plan male or female.  

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I feel like a girl most of the time, but I also have days, somewhat often, where I just want to be a dude.

To me, that sounds genderfluid. My own transness manifested as a constant desire to be a girl, so while I'm not genderfluid myself, I imagine that sometimes longing to be a man could be a symptom of being genderfluid. Still, I can't say I know for sure.

If I were you, I'd try to find someone you trust enough to talk about it.

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ALSO, if i did come out as trans, that would make me a str8, white man. like, WHO AM I?? 

Well, if you're non-binary, you're still not necessarily straight, and you can think of a label that works best for you.

[OOKLA_the LIV She/They/Lesbian/hungry]

On 12/10/2024 at 1:07 PM, Hmmm lies said:

Well, just so you know, gender-fluid people are considered non-binary, and I don't exactly know what you mean when you say you don't fit into either of those categories. Non-binary is just any gender identity that isn't just plan male or female.  

To me, that sounds genderfluid. My own transness manifested as a constant desire to be a girl, so while I'm not genderfluid myself, I imagine that sometimes longing to be a man could be a symptom of being genderfluid. Still, I can't say I know for sure.

If I were you, I'd try to find someone you trust enough to talk about it.

Well, if you're non-binary, you're still not necessarily straight, and you can think of a label that works best for you.

Thanks.

Im gonna think about it a little longer and then hopefully figure out whats going on. i am leaning towards genderfluid, or maybe Demigirl.

[Koloss17 She/They]

What rep we got so far in the books? 
 

from my count we got

-gay men

-trans men

-nonbinary (ish, as I don’t think there is actual nonbinary humans)

-bisexuality (ish)

-trans women (not really tho, just big allegory)

-asexual (I don’t think aro tho)

-lesbian 

Edited December 25, 2024 by Koloss17