Shatter He/Him Posted January 18 Posted January 18 10 hours ago, Theory said: no one knows what its like to be the bad woman to be the sad woman behind blue eyes yeah...i was gonna say like "i wonder what it's like..." and then devolved into reciting (with some changes) a song also @Hmmm lies now what I love Behind Blue Eyes. Such a good song. Makes me feel sad when I listen to it. 1
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) ignore this maybe Spoiler guys is it weird that for, like, a while, i tried to avoid using gendered terms, at least IRL? Perhaps especially for girl/woman/she/her. But like I usually say "they/them" "the person" etc., even when i know or assume their gender. Edited January 18 by Theory 2
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted January 18 Posted January 18 32 minutes ago, Theory said: guys is it weird that for, like, a while, i tried to avoid using gendered terms, at least IRL? Perhaps especially for girl/woman/she/her. But like I usually say "they/them" "the person" etc., even when i know or assume their gender. That’s good I’m trying to get myself to do that more
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) 12 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said: That’s good I’m trying to get myself to do that more Do what? maybe u missed the point nvm eeeep ignore it Edited January 18 by Theory
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 18 Posted January 18 52 minutes ago, Theory said: Spoiler guys is it weird that for, like, a while, i tried to avoid using gendered terms, at least IRL? Perhaps especially for girl/woman/she/her. But like I usually say "they/them" "the person" etc., even when i know or assume their gender. Not really. I do it all the time
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: Not really. I do it all the time (meaning, it's not weird?) phew edit: yall, is it still okay to say "transgender"? Or do ppl just say "trans" now? Edited January 18 by Theory
Shatter He/Him Posted January 18 Posted January 18 1 hour ago, Theory said: ignore this maybe Hide contents guys is it weird that for, like, a while, i tried to avoid using gendered terms, at least IRL? Perhaps especially for girl/woman/she/her. But like I usually say "they/them" "the person" etc., even when i know or assume their gender. same lol. It's just easier. I think everyone does it
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) ok...so i just watched a YT video about doubts and stuff and it was basically a perfect description of me. ughh...... but the person said that i gotta see a therapist or something..... or talk out loud about it... so maybe ill just talk to myself... but...i guess my fear is that as soon as I start talking ill just realize im not trans. which i guess would be... fine...as in i'd have an answer at least. Edited January 18 by Theory
Shatter He/Him Posted January 18 Posted January 18 20 minutes ago, Theory said: ok...so i just watched a YT video about doubts and stuff and it was basically a perfect description of me. ughh...... but the person said that i gotta see a therapist or something..... or talk out loud about it... so maybe ill just talk to myself... but...i guess my fear is that as soon as I start talking ill just realize im not trans. which i guess would be... fine...as in i'd have an answer at least. It's good to question yourself. *hugs* Find someone to talk to in person. Or talk to a pet if you have one. Pets are good therapists. 1
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted January 18 Posted January 18 2 hours ago, Theory said: Do what? maybe u missed the point nvm eeeep ignore it Just default to addressing people with gender neutral pronouns? Also listen to shatter he knows what he’s talkin bout 1
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) Omg @Theory is already one of the top posters. I've been here almost the whole time and I'm still not even up there... It's been 24 days since you showed up! 615 posts in that short of time! OMG Edited January 18 by Akimikoisthecutest
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) 41 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: Omg @Theory is already one of the top posters. I've been here almost the whole time and I'm still not even up there... It's been 24 days since you showed up! 615 posts in that short of time! OMG :3 I post a lot I guess. Very active. Especially in the last week, since i started questioning. @Shatter Also, y'all I went for a walk and talked to myself and I think it helped. Probably gonna do it again. Spoiler also im in love with my new pfp (meaning I like using it...) and...probably using she/her pronouns too and Lily basically the combination of them all Edited January 18 by Theory
The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns Posted January 18 Posted January 18 19 hours ago, Theory said: Guysguysguys why does it feel weird like now that I'm actually starting to realize that I might actually be trans. Also what if: I don't feel euphoria, am I not trans? I do feel it but don't know how to recognize it. I don't feel it but make myself feel it I don't feel it but make myself pretend or think I feel it I feel it but make myself not If feel it but make myself pretend or think I don't I don't feel it enough My thoughts and expectations are contaminating my euphoria or absence thereof ...And more Well, something I've heard sometimes is that cis people don't generally think about it that much. It's okay not to label it or make any big decisions until you're ready, but I think it's good to acknowledge there's something you're questioning instead of worrying too much about the specifics of how you think you're supposed to feel. Whatever the case, your feelings aren't fake, even if they're confusing. 2
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 17 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said: Well, something I've heard sometimes is that cis people don't generally think about it that much. maybe unless they have ocd...
The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns Posted January 18 Posted January 18 3 minutes ago, Theory said: maybe unless they have ocd... Hmm... I can't speak very well to that. I'd think it might contribute to the second guessing of one's thoughts, or being worried you're making yourself feel a certain way or aren't really feeling something. But ultimately there is something going on. Let yourself explore it. Keep an open mind about the outcome as you adjust.
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) 3 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said: Hmm... I can't speak very well to that. I'd think it might contribute to the second guessing of one's thoughts, or being worried you're making yourself feel a certain way or aren't really feeling something. But ultimately there is something going on. Let yourself explore it. Keep an open mind about the outcome as you adjust. I don't even know if I have OCD but I might. I could see myself obsessing over if I have OCD or not...but luckily not rn. And yes... I think the walk helped (I went on a walk and basically just talked to myself (rather than a therapist/gender specialist, which I may see in the future) about all this). Yeah... Idk how many of the previous posts you read, but I watched a YT video where this person basically described almost exactly what I've been feeling - with all the doubts and stuff - and said I needed to voice my thoughts. So I did. To myself. Edited January 18 by Theory
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted January 18 Posted January 18 1 hour ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: Omg @Theory is already one of the top posters. I've been here almost the whole time and I'm still not even up there... It's been 24 days since you showed up! 615 posts in that short of time! OMG Hollyyyy cowww
The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns Posted January 18 Posted January 18 1 minute ago, Theory said: I don't even know if I have OCD but I might. And yes... I think the walk helped (I went on a walk and basically just talked to myself (rather than a therapist/gender specialist, which I may see in the future) about all this). Yeah... Idk how many of the previous posts you read, but I watched a YT video where this person basically described almost exactly what I've been feeling - with all the doubts and stuff - and said I needed to voice my thoughts. So I did. To myself. Well I'm glad it helped! I wish you luck figuring things out further. 1
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 (edited) Just now, The Aspiring Archivist said: Well I'm glad it helped! I wish you luck figuring things out further. Yep, thx! Edited January 18 by Theory 1
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 18 Posted January 18 I guess I need to be more active... 5 minutes ago, Theory said: I don't even know if I have OCD but I might. I could see myself obsessing over if I have OCD or not...but luckily not rn. Do you just have to organize things a certain way, like having your pottery tools at a specific angle every time?
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 18 Posted January 18 6 minutes ago, Theory said: don't even know if I have OCD but I might. I could see myself obsessing over if I have OCD or not...but luckily not rn OCD associated characteristics include: having an intense interest in being orderly, having control; seeking perfection. OCD is caused by compulsive thoughts (obsessions) and compulsive coping mechanisms (compulsions), large conflated with anxiety and personality disorders. Either way, you could probably talk to someone about these kinds of things
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 Just now, Akimikoisthecutest said: I guess I need to be more active... You don't need to; it's not like being online all the time is particularly healthy... Just now, Akimikoisthecutest said: Do you just have to organize things a certain way, like having your pottery tools at a specific angle every time? Oddly specific, is that something you do? Uhm...sometimes. I also just obsess a lot and then get new anxieties and intrusive thoughts. But anyway, I don't rlly wanna possibly have a new anxiety to obsess over. So yeah. Just now, Aeoryi said: Either way, you could probably talk to someone about these kinds of things Yeah, don't worry.
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 18 Posted January 18 Just now, Theory said: You don't need to; it's not like being online all the time is particularly healthy... Well, I'm on here a lot, I just don't say much 1 minute ago, Theory said: Oddly specific, is that something you do? Uhm...sometimes. I also just obsess a lot and then get new anxieties and intrusive thoughts. But anyway, I don't rlly wanna possibly have a new anxiety to obsess over. So yeah. Yeah, I bring a protractor all the time so that I can get set up very quickly.
Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾ Posted January 18 Posted January 18 Just now, Akimikoisthecutest said: (Totally not OCD I'm just pedantic hehe) Ur siggy says "Sharbuds," is that intentional? Or should it be "Shardbuds"? "Shardbuddies?" Also I don't like exhibiting a possible symptom after just talking about the thing cuz then ppl are like "oMg YoU tOtAlLy HaVe ___"
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 18 Posted January 18 3 minutes ago, Theory said: You don't need to; it's not like being online all the time is particularly healthy... There's not much to do on the shard tbh 3 minutes ago, Theory said: Yeah, don't worry. Ok good. Because it does quell worries if you talk to someone. Someone who cares.
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