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[Ink he/him]

On 10/13/2018 at 7:35 AM, Draginon said:

One of the mean, I'm using that lightly instead of the actual term, people at work decided to attack me and my mom through email. It was about these literacy carts we had to do over the summer, this person was in charge of the project and me and my mom had to get them inventoried, and this person is now claiming that one campus should have more carts than were assigned and is blaming us for having these carts at a different campus. Here's what's wrong with her argument:

1. There were post it notes taped to the carts on where they were going, what subject and what grade they were for. She's trying to claim the notes fell off. No, we had to really go at them just to remove them so they would look nice for the campuses.

2. She claimed in the email that she assigned 6 carts total for the one campus, which matches our count, and yet is trying to claim that K-2 should have 6. So is she trying to say there should be 6 or 10 carts total?

3. Some books on a middle school cart she's claiming should be on the K-2 carts. Problem here is one of the titles was originally supposed to be required reading for 6th and those were put on the carts after the campus with 6 were delivered so I know she's full of hooey here.

4. My mom had the principal there when calling this person and she was talking so horrible the principal had a look of 'What kind of crap is this lady spewing at us?' and the person was aware the principal was listening. Every time my mom did the explaining and it kept going back on the person's lap the person kept getting nastier.

This is just one person always attacking us for no reason.

 

51 minutes ago, Sorana said:

So I'm a bit frustrated right now. Or maybe more than a bit. A lot more.

Two and a half months (and yes it's MONTHS) a new colleague started at work. And today he ended a meeting with these words: "You're woman, you don'w know about that."
When you write him an E-Mail he doesn't even react, or (and I think that's even worse) he simply writes some unqualified commentary and doesn't even gives feedback, or takes feedback seriously. And it goes on and on. He's older than most of those in our department, and almost everybody had his/her moments with him, but what happened today, that left us speechless.

Oh, and we did adress it and our boss was like, well we can't change him and he's a friend of a CEO. Just try to find a way to work with(out) him.

Both of you, that really sucks. People can be really inconsiderate and rude. Best way I have found to deal with both of these types is

a: calmly and rationally explain what is wrong. Try not to force all the blame onto them, even if they are responsible for all of that.

B: ignore them, though in both cases, that won't really work.

Draginon, I would go around, showing the person why everything is where it is and who requested what, if it hasn't been resolved.

Sorana, male supremicists are really ignorant and rude. Ignore him, and if he tries to do something because "you can't cause you're a girl." Calmly do the thing, and if he protests, say something along the lines of "even if you can do it better, it doesn't hurt to let me at least try." For the ignorance of emails... I don't really know.

[Briar King]

Meh 1st world problems.

im bored. No cable,Netflix, online gaming for 24 hrs and growing till they come tomorrow to look at problem. Stupid modem. Just sitting here reading while it pours outside.

[Draginon he/him]

@Inklingspren My problem is this person is one of those who refuses to meet in person for anything so everything has to be over phone or email.

[Ink he/him]

Just now, Draginon said:

@Inklingspren My problem is this person is one of those who refuses to meet in person for anything so everything has to be over phone or email.

oh, well... then I'm not really sure what to say. good luck with it if it isn't over already.

[+Sorana she/her]

On 16.10.2018 at 10:10 PM, Inklingspren said:

Sorana, male supremicists are really ignorant and rude. Ignore him, and if he tries to do something because "you can't cause you're a girl." Calmly do the thing, and if he protests, say something along the lines of "even if you can do it better, it doesn't hurt to let me at least try." For the ignorance of emails... I don't really know.

Thank you. You're right and there is this rational part of me that knows this, but sometimes there is this urge to simply take my laptop and hit him square with it. And this meeting left me speechless. Being hindered in my own job is one thing, but something like that, I don't know. And I'm not sure if the fact, that my boss closes her ears is the worst part of this mess. Yeah, I'll stay calm and professional and simply be better.

[Draginon he/him]

@Sorana I can't understand the whole "You're a woman, you can't do..." mentality. It's not like having two mounds on ones chests makes one less capable than someone with a sausage. Heck at my workplace I've encountered plenty of men that refuse to do any heavy lifting, quite a few were the type built for that, so that mindset is so stupid and right out of 1185.

But I also can't understand the whole "You have to treat me better, I'm a (insert gender)" like everyone has to treat you better just because you're a man or a woman since that attitude is a type of misogyny since it's about putting your own gender as better (which is what that guy you're describing is do by practically saying that men are better and women are meek housewives)

[SilverTiger she/her]

A guy in my chorus class has apparently decided that I'm racist. It is rather annoying. While the guy in question is dark-skinned, and I am very pale, I am definitely not racist. The reason he seems to have decided it (from what I can tell) is that one day during class, I informed the teacher that he was eating something. I did that because one of the biggest rules in chorus is that there is absolutely no eating or drinking (except water) in that room. If another teacher found out that someone had been eating in the classroom, then there would be repercussions, and our chorus teacher would likely be reprimanded (more like reemed out). So I quietly went up to the teacher and told her that so-so was eating, then returned to my seat. Now so-so has started calling me racist, because I clearly dislike him. *Sigh*

[Silva]

12 hours ago, SilverTiger said:

A guy in my chorus class has apparently decided that I'm racist. It is rather annoying. While the guy in question is dark-skinned, and I am very pale, I am definitely not racist. The reason he seems to have decided it (from what I can tell) is that one day during class, I informed the teacher that he was eating something. I did that because one of the biggest rules in chorus is that there is absolutely no eating or drinking (except water) in that room. If another teacher found out that someone had been eating in the classroom, then there would be repercussions, and our chorus teacher would likely be reprimanded (more like reemed out). So I quietly went up to the teacher and told her that so-so was eating, then returned to my seat. Now so-so has started calling me racist, because I clearly dislike him. *Sigh*

*sighs as well*

Sorry. People like that are annoying.

 

My own bad day that's all petty first world problems:

First, a sort of friend calls me a nickname I hate and have told her not to many times. I (not actually) swear, she does it because she knows I hate it.

Then, I discover how my one totally failed quiz in a class is literally bringing my grade down and that without that fail I'd have a perfect score in that class for the section of the year. Pretty sure it's directly altering my GPA.

One of my closest friends halfway across the world still hasn't answered my messages in almost week.

And finally, my other friend halfway across the world and I had a fight for the first time ever. It was stupid, but when you don't see eachother regularly, even small things become larger.

[Ink he/him]

13 hours ago, SilverTiger said:

A guy in my chorus class has apparently decided that I'm racist. It is rather annoying. While the guy in question is dark-skinned, and I am very pale, I am definitely not racist. The reason he seems to have decided it (from what I can tell) is that one day during class, I informed the teacher that he was eating something. I did that because one of the biggest rules in chorus is that there is absolutely no eating or drinking (except water) in that room. If another teacher found out that someone had been eating in the classroom, then there would be repercussions, and our chorus teacher would likely be reprimanded (more like reemed out). So I quietly went up to the teacher and told her that so-so was eating, then returned to my seat. Now so-so has started calling me racist, because I clearly dislike him. *Sigh*

 

51 minutes ago, Silva said:

*sighs as well*

Sorry. People like that are annoying.

 

My own bad day that's all petty first world problems:

First, a sort of friend calls me a nickname I hate and have told her not to many times. I (not actually) swear, she does it because she knows I hate it.

Then, I discover how my one totally failed quiz in a class is literally bringing my grade down and that without that fail I'd have a perfect score in that class for the section of the year. Pretty sure it's directly altering my GPA.

One of my closest friends halfway across the world still hasn't answered my messages in almost week.

And finally, my other friend halfway across the world and I had a fight for the first time ever. It was stupid, but when you don't see eachother regularly, even small things become larger.

Ah, those both suck. People who always think you're making fun of them for whatever reason, they aren't so great. I got one, a fellow trombone, but I just act like normal, don't think I've done anything to him. Anyways, that sucks.

A lot of people call me a nickname I don't like (which actually lengthens my name, which is weird) I just learned to accept it, but I get your annoyance. 

with the GPA, i totally get you. I care a ton about grades, and when there is that ONE thing dragging it down... ugh.

Umm... dunno what to do about the not answering... that's a bit worrying.

I hope you two get over it and get back to being friends!

Okay, now my little rant:

My neighborhood had a halloween party, and it was alright. The bad part is, one of my best friends (not a sanderfan yet, I'm trying.) was riding his skateboard down a hill, tried to do an ollie, and landed wrong and broke his femur. It was scary, an ambulance had to take him to the hospital, and I'm going to visit him tomorrow, but that just scared me. It's hard when friends are hurt. Who knows though, i could convert him while he's recovering...

[SilverTiger she/her]

10 hours ago, Silva said:

*sighs as well*

Sorry. People like that are annoying.

 

My own bad day that's all petty first world problems:

First, a sort of friend calls me a nickname I hate and have told her not to many times. I (not actually) swear, she does it because she knows I hate it.

Then, I discover how my one totally failed quiz in a class is literally bringing my grade down and that without that fail I'd have a perfect score in that class for the section of the year. Pretty sure it's directly altering my GPA.

One of my closest friends halfway across the world still hasn't answered my messages in almost week.

And finally, my other friend halfway across the world and I had a fight for the first time ever. It was stupid, but when you don't see eachother regularly, even small things become larger.

Ehh... the nickname could be an attempt at friendly teasing; I have called a sister a nickname that she absolutely loathes plenty of times. But that's what siblings and close friends are for. If you really want the sort-of friend to stop, I recommend that you don't answer to the nickname at all, just ignore it.

The bane of high school students: that one assignment that is just killing your grade. I completely sympathize, being in (senior year) high school myself.

Don't be too worried, they could have lost or broken their phone. I had a friend who stopped answering suddenly, and it turned out she'd washed her phone. In the washing machine. Just be patient.

9 hours ago, Inklingspren said:

 

Ah, those both suck. People who always think you're making fun of them for whatever reason, they aren't so great. I got one, a fellow trombone, but I just act like normal, don't think I've done anything to him. Anyways, that sucks.

A lot of people call me a nickname I don't like (which actually lengthens my name, which is weird) I just learned to accept it, but I get your annoyance. 

with the GPA, i totally get you. I care a ton about grades, and when there is that ONE thing dragging it down... ugh.

Umm... dunno what to do about the not answering... that's a bit worrying.

I hope you two get over it and get back to being friends!

Okay, now my little rant:

My neighborhood had a halloween party, and it was alright. The bad part is, one of my best friends (not a sanderfan yet, I'm trying.) was riding his skateboard down a hill, tried to do an ollie, and landed wrong and broke his femur. It was scary, an ambulance had to take him to the hospital, and I'm going to visit him tomorrow, but that just scared me. It's hard when friends are hurt. Who knows though, i could convert him while he's recovering...

That is scary, seeing a friend hurt badly. At least it was a broken bone; those are fairly routine injuries, so little chance of complications. Try bringing him some cosmere books for hospital reading in case he gets bored :)

[Lucy]

Is it Friday yet?? 

[Ink he/him]

17 minutes ago, Lucy said:

Is it Friday yet?? 

Almost. Almost... only 4 days.

Literally probably the smallest thing here. I had a great day today, but now there is a fly buzzing around my room and it WONT STOP LANDING ON MY FACE GAHHHH!!! 

^^^^^^ that was extremely petty but yeah. I’m slightly irritated. Ignore it.

Uhh, otherwise, I’m here for you guys. Whenever you need it. Whatever you need. Unless it’s cooking or drawing. Then look to someone else.

[Lucy]

10 hours ago, Inklingspren said:

Almost. Almost... only 4 days.

Literally probably the smallest thing here. I had a great day today, but now there is a fly buzzing around my room and it WONT STOP LANDING ON MY FACE GAHHHH!!! 

^^^^^^ that was extremely petty but yeah. I’m slightly irritated. Ignore it.

Uhh, otherwise, I’m here for you guys. Whenever you need it. Whatever you need. Unless it’s cooking or drawing. Then look to someone else.

Hopefully you got the fly! I will admit a drawing would be cool.. But I totally get it!  how about a hug? 

You guys are awesome on this forum. I was having a rough night (rough month to be exact) and when I got on here it's all positive. Makes my heart happy! 

Ps I hope your friend is doing ok. And that you attempt to convert him to a sanderfan is successful

[Ink he/him]

It went away eventually. I’m glad we can help you be more happy! Sure, I like hugs.

Yeah, my friend is out of the hospital, but he’ll be in a wheelchair for at least 5 more weeks. He turned down sanderson  saying it was “too long.” He’s been playing CoD a lot...

[Niteshado he/him]

37 minutes ago, Inklingspren said:

Yeah, my friend is out of the hospital, but he’ll be in a wheelchair for at least 5 more weeks. He turned down sanderson  saying it was “too long.” He’s been playing CoD a lot...

Sorry about the wheelchair but you need new friends 

[Ink he/him]

I’m trying, but some of my friends aren’t huge readers. Some are book nerds some are science nerds and some are video game nerds. This one is the third.

[+Sorana she/her]

3 hours ago, Inklingspren said:

I’m trying, but some of my friends aren’t huge readers. Some are book nerds some are science nerds and some are video game nerds. This one is the third.

Still I hope he will recover soon!

 

4 hours ago, Lucy said:

You guys are awesome on this forum. I was having a rough night (rough month to be exact) and when I got on here it's all positive. Makes my heart happy! 

I hope you life will get easier/ better!

[Ink he/him]

A really weird one this time.

As some people may already know, I’m a furry, a human who likes anthropomorphized animals. Furries get a lot of scorn and hate from some people, and my friends are some of those people. None of them know yet, but every time I consider telling them, they make some remark that keeps me quiet. I’ve been discussing this with another sharder, who I will not state by name in case they don’t want it known, but who is also a furry. They gave me advice, but it didn’t really work. I’m just afraid they’ll find out some other way besides me, and get the wrong ideas, or shun me for being what I am. I almost was pushed over the line today but nobody noticed, but I’m afraid if this happens again, they’ll find out and I’ll be left alone again. I say I’m an introvert, but I need friends, and not just shard ones (you guys are great BTW). It took a long time to form these friendships and I’m afraid I could wipe out most or all if I don’t do this in the right way.

[+Sorana she/her]

*hugs*

Being different is never easy and especially if you fear that you might loose friends over this.

Since I know that you're writing with some others in a pm about this, only a few lines to offer some hope:

We had something like that with some of my friends too (though it was about being a lesbian). I was a bit in the middle back then, because the one with secret asked for my advice and I felt like choosing sides, but the moment it got personal and they knew her, their attitude changed. So it can work. Though probably we were also really lucky in that regard.

Edited November 1, 2018 by Sorana

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Car just broke down and my phone battery is low. 

[+Sorana she/her]

20 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Car just broke down and my phone battery is low. 

oh no. I hope you still got home/ some help!

[Ink he/him]

On 11/3/2018 at 9:49 AM, Silverblade5 said:

Car just broke down and my phone battery is low. 

That sucks. You get home okay? Also, why are you on the shard if your battery is low? I mean, I can’t judge, but...

[Silverblade5 he/him]

15 hours ago, Sorana said:

oh no. I hope you still got home/ some help!

 

7 hours ago, Inklingspren said:

That sucks. You get home okay? Also, why are you on the shard if your battery is low? I mean, I can’t judge, but...

I got home fine. It was actually one of the less bad places I could've broken down. Had a sign for directions and a bridge for shelter from the rain when attempting to hail other drivers  

 

Edited November 5, 2018 by Silverblade5

[Ink he/him]

That’s good

[+Sorana she/her]

1 hour ago, Silverblade5 said:

I got home fine. It was actually one of the less bad places I could've broken down. Had a sign for directions and a bridge for shelter from the rain when attempting to hail other drivers  

Good to hear that! And I hope it's nothing too grave/ expensive that broke down!