Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Draginon he/him]

Not exactly the best day for me:

A pallet of stuff came in for work and it was so dirty I needed to wash my hands twice while unloading, the boxes were pretty smashed and 4 had to thrown away because they were too damaged or had gotten wet recently.

Needed to get the pallet behind the building where we keep pallets and I couldn't get back there because the maintenance man had his truck parked in the way. I went to ask him if he could please move the white truck so that I could get the pallet back there, I don't have permission to drive company vehicles, and he was so belligerent about it like I had asked in the rudest way possible.

One of the campuses called and they decided to rearrange the prek rooms... and I'd already done the inventory work for those rooms so I had to redo them so they had the right stuff assigned to them. These people don't seem to realize that this is how mistakes in the count happen since it's trying to figure out what goes where now. Oh and they do this every year, I do the tickets and they change the rooms.

Then me and my mom went to Panera Bread for lunch before going to the campus and she was rude to the manager taking our order. She was trying to take my mom's order but she wouldn't listen to the girl at all. The girl kept asking her for the base of the sandwich so that she'd know which sandwich to click on but my mom kept going 'no, you listen to me!' and the girl would reply 'ma'am I need to know what your base is first before I can do the toppings' I mean how hard is it to say 'turkey w/ (insert toppings)' instead of saying bread, sauce, cheese, veggie, meat, especially since the meat is how the employees know what sandwich you want. So because she refused to listen to the girl my mom chose to punish herself by not ordering anything, wait for me to finish eating and then she picked something up from McDonald's. Then she started telling everyone that it was the girl who was rude! She does this all the time and yet she wonders why her food is messed up 90% of the time.

[Ink he/him]

I'm sorry @Draginon. I've got no advice, but have a hug. And this.

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[Nathrangking he/him]

Had to stay late in school on my hardest day because of a mandatory workshop on my birthday to boot!

[Silva]

*gives hug*

Required staying late is horrible. All you want to do is leave that building after a long day, but then they’re like “this is MANDATORY.” As if that makes you happy to stay.

Sorry that normally bad experience wound up on your birthday. 

Maybe the rest of the day will be better?

[Ink he/him]

*hugs*

happy Birthday! Sorry to hear that. Its always annoying. Hope the rest of your birthday is great!

[Ashspren]

Happy belated birthday! And here’s a hug. *hugs* 

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

Its been a bit of a bad week, hopefully, yall won't mind if I vent a bit. I started having panic attacks about 2 weeks ago, and asked for a leave of absence at work (I work at a local pizza joint) they were not at all understanding and tried to fire me until they realized the possible legal implications. So they gave me my leave in the most uncaring and condescending way they could. I went to the doctor and he got me on some medication but stuff didn't really get better (I guess it takes a while to get into my system), I had panic attacks almost every day for the next week and a half and even had some thoughts about cutting or burning myself. on top of this I used to have a really bad speech impediment that took 10 years of speech therapy to get over, and now its started to come back, which kind of really sucks. I started missing a lot of school and I have had to drop all my classes to focus on getting better. Rationally I know it's not quitting, but it still feels that way, and I don't like giving up. I finally got in to talk to some sort of therapist person and he's pretty sure I have Bipolar II and OCD and we've only just started to dig, who knows what else might turn up. On one hand, its good to be making progress to patching my mind back together, but its also kinda freaking me out, sometimes medications don't work, and bipolar has a fairly high suicide rate. This really scares me. Basically, everyone agrees that I'm pretty messed up, but we still don't have any concrete ideas on how to fix it. 

[Niteshado he/him]

@The Forgetful Archivist Panic attacks are NOT fun. I lived with them (about 3 a day) since i was young. Medicine helped me a lot with this. I was on Paxil from age 10-21, then stopped taking it. Panic attacks started back and i went back on it, then switched it around. Paxil tended to strip me of emotions so i wanted to try other things. Switched to Effexor and hated it, then swapped to Lexapro and thats where im at now and this medicine acts perfect for me. Takes a little patience to get the right one, plus you wont really notice anything until about 3 weeks in usually. Just hang in there. 

Thoughts of cutting or burning, They can be frightening. A trick i have picked up for this is oddly enough: Rubber bands. Keep one around your wrist, and if you feel the need, you can pull it back and snap it against your wrist. Safer alternative if you need it. 

Talking to a therapist is great. A lot of people tend to be afraid to go, or to talk out about what they are going through. Im glad you are able to speak out about it, and seek help. Just remember not to close up and withdraw. It can be hard sometimes but push through and you will be ok. It might take time, keep that in mind. Not every medicine you try will work, it can be annoying and disheartening, but finding the right medicine takes time sometimes, dont be afraid of speaking to whomever and telling them your medicine makes you feel weird, or you dont like it. Once you find the right one, you will know. 

Just keep your head up, and although i might not know you on a personal level, know I am always around if you need someone to talk to, or need support. I can relate a good bit. Ive got your back. 

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

Thanks, I'll bear it in mind. Your post was comforting, thank you.

[Silva]

I have a friend who has a life that you wouldn’t think actually exists in real life. She was adopted at birth along with her brother who isn’t biologically related to her. I don’t know exactly when it happened, but her parents are divorced and they split custody of the two. My friend hates her mother - she’s always telling her to be less religious and do things she doesn’t want to do. She’s fine with her dad, but she wishes she wouldn’t have to switch houses all the time and wants to stay by him. But she doesn’t know why he won’t file for full custody. Her brother is fine with their mom and isn’t nice to my friend, they’ve never been close.

Most recently her parents made them switch schools and she’s miserable. She’s trying again this year to be able to do school abroad, but it doesn’t look good. To make things worse, her best friend (she considered her home her second home after her dad) just moved out of country.

And all of this weighs down on me and my other friends. It’s hard. Not on the same level as other people’s problems, but it still hurts to see her this way.

[Ink he/him]

1 hour ago, Silva said:

I have a friend who has a life that you wouldn’t think actually exists in real life. She was adopted at birth along with her brother who isn’t biologically related to her. I don’t know exactly when it happened, but her parents are divorced and they split custody of the two. My friend hates her mother - she’s always telling her to be less religious and do things she doesn’t want to do. She’s fine with her dad, but she wishes she wouldn’t have to switch houses all the time and wants to stay by him. But she doesn’t know why he won’t file for full custody. Her brother is fine with their mom and isn’t nice to my friend, they’ve never been close.

Most recently her parents made them switch schools and she’s miserable. She’s trying again this year to be able to do school abroad, but it doesn’t look good. To make things worse, her best friend (she considered her home her second home after her dad) just moved out of country.

And all of this weighs down on me and my other friends. It’s hard. Not on the same level as other people’s problems, but it still hurts to see her this way.

Oh... well. Wow. I feel so bad for her, and the fact that you all share her burden. Well, they all get a hug from me. *hugs all*

Try to stay close to your friend. Especially. In tough times, its good to have someone stand by you.

[Life&Death]

I’m so sorry about this. I hope the things get better. Have some free hugs.

[sopranospren she/her]

Hnnnn I hate how my brother acts like he's god's gift to the universe all the time-

[Niteshado he/him]

14 hours ago, sopranospren said:

Hnnnn I hate how my brother acts like he's god's gift to the universe all the time-

Yeah that can be annoying. can you elaborate? maybe Myself or someone else could give advice?

Till then have a hug!

[Ink he/him]

Brothers can be a pain, older or younger. If they are younger, act more humble yourself, and they will sometimes follow the example.

[Paranoid King he/him]

So I signed up to take a test at 4:30. It was a review test covering last semester, and I could bring my notes. Easy peasy. I got there a few minutes early, and the test was closed. Turns out the testing center was open all day, but my professor had set the due date to noon. I sent an email to my professor about it, and he said it wouldn't hurt my grade too badly. But make sure I show up for the next one. Tests are worth 60% of my grade. There are 6 tests in the semester.

[Draginon he/him]

Not as bad as what most would say but here's my bad day:

My car is acting up. It was fine this morning and when my mom used it when coming from the office next door (she doesn't like to walk the 15 feet it takes to go over) but when I was getting it started when leaving it wouldn't turn on. It just kept clicking. Luckily one of our coworkers was still there and he jumpstarted the battery and it turned on so we're thinking the battery lost its charge somehow. My mom wanted to get it to the dealership where I get it serviced to see if they could take it in for service but it was half an hour before it closed and it takes that long to drive there from work. There's also traffic on the freeway that delayed me from getting there but my mom sure wasn't subtle on thinking I was to blame. What does she expect me to do when everyone is going 50 in a 70 area? Also once I got past where that holdup always is I actually was speeding to try making her deadline of getting there in time to no avail.

Others things at work is making working there a nightmare: 

We have to deliver stuff to the different campuses but they don't want us delivering that stuff because "a food truck might need to get in and your blocking the entrance" but they aren't saying that to anyone else, but on top of that they don't want our campus person to come to us to pick up the materials so the only possible time to deliver curriculum is after work on our own time and hoping the campus is still open and the alarms not set. They were also getting on my mom for 'lollygagging talking to teachers' but the times she's talking is when teachers stop her to ask curriculum related questions, but since sound isn't recorded on the 'big brother' cameras that's what they assume (oddly they claim there's microphones to capture sound so you can't even do any complaining so them not even knowing what the conversation makes that suspect).

Also yesterday we were making a delivery at the closest campus and a teacher let us know they didn't have some stuff in their teacher materials so we had to go back to the office to look if we had it. A couple people in the office asked if we could pick them up some lunch for them since we were coming back anyway so we did. Shortly after delivering their lunches an email went out about not leaving campuses to grab lunch or if you're going to be at a campus for lunch to not leave to get something, which with the timing is pretty suspicious. It's like they don't want the employees to eat at all since people do forget to pack lunches and others will steal others food (once someone stole my PB&J sandwich to feed their kid. Now that's a new low to teach your child it's okay to steal a coworkers food) so what are you supposed to do in these cases?

One thing they do that doesn't make sense to me (not a bad day thing but I'm on a roll here). The campuses keep complaining about not having enough classrooms for all the students they have. I've been to those campuses so much that I can say that space is one thing they aren't lacking. (Will be using different names for the campuses here), South does PreK-8 and last I counted they have 6-12 rooms not being used for classes, some are being used as 'storage', 3 are being used for an after school program that isn't even there all day and one is being used as a 'meeting room'. North is doing renovations so they really are strapped but they've got more rooms this year than they did last year before the renovations started. East is our high school with a main building, a gym building and the building where the cafeteria is. All the rooms in the main building are being used but the gym building has a good dozen rooms while the cafeteria building has ~4 rooms being 'used' by maintenance but they need major repairs before they can be used so I'm not counting those. West is the worst here. They do PreK-8 and they have a good dozen rooms not being used, they have furniture so they're ready to be used, and you know what got approved for them? Moving the 7th and 8th graders into the unused rooms at East! I don't know what the reason is but I think I heard it was because they didn't have room to have them there. WTF!? They tried shunting the 8th graders onto East before a couple years back and that got cancelled after a month so what makes them think having both 7th and 8th at the high school will work? And I haven't heard of them hiring new teachers to teach them so are they expecting the middle school teachers to drive between the two campuses all day long to keep the schedule? Having the high school teachers teach them along with teaching the high schoolers? I don't know what they're thinking here!

[Niteshado he/him]

On 9/7/2018 at 11:39 PM, Draginon said:

My car is acting up. It was fine this morning and when my mom used it when coming from the office next door (she doesn't like to walk the 15 feet it takes to go over) but when I was getting it started when leaving it wouldn't turn on. It just kept clicking. Luckily one of our coworkers was still there and he jumpstarted the battery and it turned on so we're thinking the battery lost its charge somehow.

I like working on cars. Could be that a light got left on and slow drained it? simple as parking lights or fog lights (didnt turn your headlights completely off, missed a click). Could be alternator gone bad or going bad, not charging the battery enough. 

On 9/7/2018 at 11:39 PM, Draginon said:

so what are you supposed to do in these cases?

Thats a good question. People simply suck sometimes. Im sorry

[Draginon he/him]

48 minutes ago, Niteshado said:

I like working on cars. Could be that a light got left on and slow drained it? simple as parking lights or fog lights (didnt turn your headlights completely off, missed a click). Could be alternator gone bad or going bad, not charging the battery enough. 

Thats a good question. People simply suck sometimes. Im sorry

Turned out to be a bad battery that needed to be replaced. Thankfully it still had a year of battery replacement warranty so it didn't cost me.

I work with 'geniuses' so that shows how bad my workplace is.

[Ink he/him]

I just need to vent my frustration, so sorry if this is whiny or anything. I'm also really tired so...

Last night: Wednsdays are my crazy days. Piano, karate, and mutual (Church of Jesus Christ lf Latter day Saints [mormon]) thing. I also had a band concert, and so homework had to go into the late hours of the night.

this morning: I woke up an HOUR before my alarm, and couldn't fall asleep again, so super tired yay...

first period: normal, except we have a quiz tomorrow (math)

Second: We have an ESSAY due tomorrow as well as some reading. (Both on the Giver. English)

Third: we had a test today that no one knew was coming, and thus 99% failed/didn't try. We have a test tomorrow and monday and tuesday and basically until the end of the term... and they are all hard (band)

fourth: normal day. Seminary.

fifth: we have a group project, and i have one of those groups. The one that leaves you to do everything. And the project is due tomorrow.

sixth: hasn't happened yet, but i anticipate nothing. Spanish.

seventh: AP Envriommental science. I have SO much homework to do in that class that's due the 22nd so less chaotic but still stressful.

after school: it's my mom's birthday, and we always make a big deal and go to a nicer resturaunt, and my parents and their friends/family talk for HOURS after we are finished. So that puts more strain on the homework load.

basically, I'm super stressed and don't want to stay up late tonight or do trombone for a hour or more to perfect the test songs, but I may have to... and I don't want to ruin my mom's birthday either as she makes a huge deal out of me and my siblings so I want to make a big deal out of hers. And I'm kinda struggling to cope with a psychological... abnormality that I have.

Edit: again, sorry, I just need a vent for all this... 

 

 

Edited October 11, 2018 by Inklingspren

[Niteshado he/him]

27 minutes ago, Inklingspren said:

And I'm kinda struggling to cope with a psychological... abnormality that I have.

This part interested me the most (probably cause im slightly off my rocker). hopefully you gain control over the issue tho! i wish you luck, and if you need help, ask! i like giving advice.

As to your day: Holy wow, thats a lot. I can understand the after school dinner issue, maybe tell your parents you need to leave to do work after a little bit of their chit-chat? 

Otherwise, hold your head up!! You trip over things when you look at your feet and cant see whats ahead of you  sometimes life throws curveballs and your day straight sucks. But you have tomorrow! Make it a better day. For today, focus on getting through it, and solving your issues when you get a chance. Tomorrow is always another day, new beginnings, dont let it trip you up!

You got this. 

[Ink he/him]

2 hours ago, Niteshado said:

This part interested me the most (probably cause im slightly off my rocker). hopefully you gain control over the issue tho! i wish you luck, and if you need help, ask! i like giving advice.

As to your day: Holy wow, thats a lot. I can understand the after school dinner issue, maybe tell your parents you need to leave to do work after a little bit of their chit-chat? 

Otherwise, hold your head up!! You trip over things when you look at your feet and cant see whats ahead of you  sometimes life throws curveballs and your day straight sucks. But you have tomorrow! Make it a better day. For today, focus on getting through it, and solving your issues when you get a chance. Tomorrow is always another day, new beginnings, dont let it trip you up!

You got this. 

Thanks. I'm feeling a bit better about this, thanks to you. Taking a step back, it isn't too bad, and luckly, someone else who didn't do anything on the project because they were gone offered to do the rest at home, so that is off my back. The edsay doesn't seem to hard if I take the easiest  prompt, either. When I stress I get more nervous and stress more.

If you wish to know the mental thing, I'll give you these clues. My about me is the key.

Rebellion 1 1, Gotta read 7 1, gotta read 1 1, gotta read 8 1 Knights 2 1, Volume one 1 2, alleyverse 2 1, fanwings 1 3, EBWI 1 9.

I'm pretty hesitant to let people know, but if you figure it out, good job. I'm just not sure its something I need everyone to know about me, as it could influence opinions quickly...

Edited October 11, 2018 by Inklingspren

[Niteshado he/him]

4 minutes ago, Inklingspren said:

I'm pretty hesitant to let people know, but if you figure it out, good job. I'm just not sure its something I need everyone to know about me, as it could influence opinions quickly...

I work in a prison. I dont let anything influence my opinion on a person accept their actions  

[Draginon he/him]

One of the mean, I'm using that lightly instead of the actual term, people at work decided to attack me and my mom through email. It was about these literacy carts we had to do over the summer, this person was in charge of the project and me and my mom had to get them inventoried, and this person is now claiming that one campus should have more carts than were assigned and is blaming us for having these carts at a different campus. Here's what's wrong with her argument:

1. There were post it notes taped to the carts on where they were going, what subject and what grade they were for. She's trying to claim the notes fell off. No, we had to really go at them just to remove them so they would look nice for the campuses.

2. She claimed in the email that she assigned 6 carts total for the one campus, which matches our count, and yet is trying to claim that K-2 should have 6. So is she trying to say there should be 6 or 10 carts total?

3. Some books on a middle school cart she's claiming should be on the K-2 carts. Problem here is one of the titles was originally supposed to be required reading for 6th and those were put on the carts after the campus with 6 were delivered so I know she's full of hooey here.

4. My mom had the principal there when calling this person and she was talking so horrible the principal had a look of 'What kind of crap is this lady spewing at us?' and the person was aware the principal was listening. Every time my mom did the explaining and it kept going back on the person's lap the person kept getting nastier.

This is just one person always attacking us for no reason.

[+Sorana she/her]

So I'm a bit frustrated right now. Or maybe more than a bit. A lot more.

Two and a half months (and yes it's MONTHS) a new colleague started at work. And today he ended a meeting with these words: "You're woman, you don'w know about that."
When you write him an E-Mail he doesn't even react, or (and I think that's even worse) he simply writes some unqualified commentary and doesn't even gives feedback, or takes feedback seriously. And it goes on and on. He's older than most of those in our department, and almost everybody had his/her moments with him, but what happened today, that left us speechless.

Oh, and we did adress it and our boss was like, well we can't change him and he's a friend of a CEO. Just try to find a way to work with(out) him.