Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Delightful]

59 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

@Erunion *hugs, go rest your head

@Jondesu I totally get you man.

*hugs

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[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

It's another one of those days when Formerly Pushy Coworker decides to police my timing (I wasn't at the desk a minute or two before I was supposed to be, so at the EXACT TIME my shift started--he didn't wait for me to be late--he came to the back to ask when I'd be out) and not answer a single question unless he absolutely has to. And it's just me and him tonight. 

Whoop dee doodle doo.  

[Briar King]

How long does a library stay open? I just assumed it had regular parish office hrs 7-5 but I haven't been in one since the 80's

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Briar King said:

How long does a library stay open? I just assumed it had regular parish office hrs 7-5 but I haven't been in one since the 80's

Depends on where the library is, but this one (and all those in this parish) stays open until 9 pm. 

[Delightful]

46 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

It's another one of those days when Formerly Pushy Coworker decides to police my timing (I wasn't at the desk a minute or two before I was supposed to be, so at the EXACT TIME my shift started--he didn't wait for me to be late--he came to the back to ask when I'd be out) and not answer a single question unless he absolutely has to. And it's just me and him tonight. 

Whoop dee doodle doo.  

On the bright side, maybe soon it'll be you and cute coworker?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Delightful said:

On the bright side, maybe soon it'll be you and cute coworker?

I sure hope so.  

....though with my luck, she'll probably think I'm weird and be crushing on Formerly Pushy Coworker in nothing flat.

[Briar King]

Goodness Lake Charles is in a sea of red on the weather radar. Power is pulsing, I can just faintly see the lights dimming every 2 sec or so.

[Delightful]

1 hour ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I sure hope so.  

....though with my luck, she'll probably think I'm weird and be crushing on Formerly Pushy Coworker in nothing flat.

She's a librarian. Weird is her profession. 

[Mestiv he/him]

1 hour ago, Briar King said:

Goodness Lake Charles is in a sea of red on the weather radar. Power is pulsing, I can just faintly see the lights dimming every 2 sec or so.

I keep my fingers cross that you won't lose the power and stay dry, warm and safe!

35 minutes ago, Delightful said:

She's a librarian. Weird is her profession. 

But what if she's an Evil Librarian? Will Twi be able to turn her to the light side of the Force?

[Delightful]

12 minutes ago, Mestiv said:

I keep my fingers cross that you won't lose the power and stay dry, warm and safe!

But what if she's an Evil Librarian? Will Twi be able to turn her to the light side of the Force?

I have faith in our resident adorable God Beyond

[Silverblade5 he/him]

2 hours ago, Delightful said:

I have faith in our resident adorable Goddess Beyond

Fixed that for you.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Just had one of the shittest days of my life.

Every storming day, things just keep piling on and on and on and on and on and on and on. At first they were little things and slowly they get bigger and bigger and bigger.

And I'm storming dying. 

 

[Erunion he/him]

@Darkness Ascendant - A huge, massive internet hug. Have yourself one /hug

[Mestiv he/him]

2 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Just had one of the shittest days of my life.

Every storming day, things just keep piling on and on and on and on and on and on and on. At first they were little things and slowly they get bigger and bigger and bigger.

And I'm storming dying. 

 

Here, have a DragonBall Z inspirational video:

Spoiler

 

Generally motivational videos on YouTube help me when I'm down, maybe give them a try

[Erandeni he/him]

2 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Just had one of the shittest days of my life.

Every storming day, things just keep piling on and on and on and on and on and on and on. At first they were little things and slowly they get bigger and bigger and bigger.

And I'm storming dying. 

 

*huge hug*

If you want to talk about it, you know where I am.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

@Erunion @Mestiv @Idealistic Mistborn

*hugs back

Thanks you guys. I'm afraid I'm not much better *sigh
I am just completely drained;emotionally, physically,mentally, spiritually even.

I feel so bad, in reaction to my bad day, I hurt a friend, hurt myself, hurt my sisters...

I tried drowning myself...I made a friend feel like a piece of crap...I nearly strangled my sisters...

I am just so damnation tired.

Edited March 30, 2017 by Darkness Ascendant

[A Budgie she/her]

@Darkness Ascendant *hugs*

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

7 minutes ago, A Budgie said:

@Darkness Ascendant *hugs*

Thanks

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I'm just feeling like a failure as an adult today. 

On the one hand, I know it's just circumstances seeming to take a turn for the worse—my car needing work done, SpongeBob's bullying, bad weather in nearby parts of the state, Formerly Pushy Coworker sinking back into his habit of ignoring patrons and subtly policing my work—but it's all compounded by the fact that I'm all alone down here. I don't have a sibling or a parent I could beg rides from. I don't have anyone I could stay with if I needed to evacuate. I'm handling the coworker thing as best I can, but there's no guarantee I'm handling them correctly. So if I storm up, I'll have to handle the fallout all alone. 

And I'm beginning to question my decision to come here. What was I thinking, taking Bruce to a place right in the path of every hurricane? What'll happen if there is a hurricane? And a move is out of the question right now, because I just don't have the money. I'm stuck, and Bruce is stuck here with me. 

I just….I feel like I'm not qualified for all of this. I got myself into a situation where a few well-placed financial punches would knock me down, and where I don't have a team to back me up. And it's not like I spend a ton of money on worthless crap; I stick to the basics and crem still piles up. My insurance company jacks up my rates because they can. The government sucks up a fair portion of my money every month because I had to get a Master's degree. 

I should just face facts: I'm going to watch every bit of my money dry up as the bills mount and mount. I'm not the kind of person who should own a pet or live so far away from her family because I suck at making friends. I'm going to fail, and I'm going to fail soon. 

[Delightful]

Hey, @TwiLyghtSansSparkles,

rule one of adulthood, nobody knows what they are doing

and rule two of adulthood, we all need support systems but sometimes you have to be a Strong Independent Woman and sort it out yourself. You're smart, you're tough, take it one step at a time and you can work this all out. I have faith in you, have some faith in yourself. 

Rule three: plenty people live pay check to pay check and it's hard and life isn't fair. Like I said, you're smart and you're tough and you'll figure it out.

 

Your slontzey coworkers are not your fault and are in no way indiciative of your worth or capability. You also have Cute Coworker who likely will be looking for friends at her new job. Make a point of talking to her. 

If you need to evacuate, ask your neighbour for help, or a coworker. They're not your best buds but I'm sure they won't leave you stranded in the path of a hurricane. Or ask those maintenance guys Bruce likes for help. There are people around who will look after someone living alone. 

Of course you deserve Bruce, you take really good care of him and he loves you. 

And.....if you fail, you fail. And then you take a few deep breaths and patch up your wounds and work out how to move on. There's always a way, somehow. Think Shallan post WoK - her plan fails, Jasnah hates her, Kabsal tried to murder her, she has nothing and no one and she figures it out. You can too. 

<3

[Mestiv he/him]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles I think more than 90% of people on earth are in a situation where couple of bigger expenses at once would ruin their financial situation. I'm in this situation for years now and just now I'm slowly starting to have some money saved just in case. Take every obstacle one by one and you'll be fine. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

7 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I'm just feeling like a failure as an adult today. 

On the one hand, I know it's just circumstances seeming to take a turn for the worse—my car needing work done, SpongeBob's bullying, bad weather in nearby parts of the state, Formerly Pushy Coworker sinking back into his habit of ignoring patrons and subtly policing my work—but it's all compounded by the fact that I'm all alone down here. I don't have a sibling or a parent I could beg rides from. I don't have anyone I could stay with if I needed to evacuate. I'm handling the coworker thing as best I can, but there's no guarantee I'm handling them correctly. So if I storm up, I'll have to handle the fallout all alone. 

And I'm beginning to question my decision to come here. What was I thinking, taking Bruce to a place right in the path of every hurricane? What'll happen if there is a hurricane? And a move is out of the question right now, because I just don't have the money. I'm stuck, and Bruce is stuck here with me. 

I just….I feel like I'm not qualified for all of this. I got myself into a situation where a few well-placed financial punches would knock me down, and where I don't have a team to back me up. And it's not like I spend a ton of money on worthless crap; I stick to the basics and crem still piles up. My insurance company jacks up my rates because they can. The government sucks up a fair portion of my money every month because I had to get a Master's degree. 

I should just face facts: I'm going to watch every bit of my money dry up as the bills mount and mount. I'm not the kind of person who should own a pet or live so far away from her family because I suck at making friends. I'm going to fail, and I'm going to fail soon. 

I know I'm a long drive away, but if you do need to evacuate for a hurricane, you are welcome to stay with us.

[A Budgie she/her]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles awwww *hugs*
I'm so sorry you have to go through all of that...

[ShadowLord_Lith he/him]

I've been thinking about the fine arts.

Spoiler

There was a time when almost anyone you picked up off the street could play (or would be willing to learn how to play) an instrument of some kind. Now however, especially with youthful children, those musical, artistic, and dramatic talents are being ignored and, in some cases I suspect, suppressed. For example:

Most kids at my school are impressed with the ability to whistle or play the drums. Yes I admit that keeping consistent rythem with the drums becomes difficult, if not an outright struggle, once other instruments join in, but still. And almost none of the kids in my school can sing. They can't even play-act!

Most kids in my drama class don't use anything but a monotone voice in their script reading. I know that kids voice act when they're younger, or, most do, so why is it difficult to talk like your actually speaking instead of just reading the lines in a robotic monotone?

It scares me to think that so many kids are willing to forget and suppress their history and culture simply because it's difficult. I understand that there are those that are musically or artistically or dramatically un-inclined, but surely that wouldn't be the case with the majority of my school, would it? 

 

Anyways, thank for listening to my ramble!

Also:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles,

You have been through things just as bad as this, but less prepared or emotionally stable than you are now. You've got this, no one can beat you down! You've proven you can take a terrible hand and make yourself a good life out of it; you'll repeat that feat. Everyone here believes in you, so go on! Forge your future in the fires of adversity and make yourself and your future stronger than solid steel as a result!

 The only advice I can give other than that is stuff you've already been doing. Live frugally, save when you can, and stay positive. You'll push through.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

18 hours ago, Delightful said:

Hey, @TwiLyghtSansSparkles,

rule one of adulthood, nobody knows what they are doing

and rule two of adulthood, we all need support systems but sometimes you have to be a Strong Independent Woman and sort it out yourself. You're smart, you're tough, take it one step at a time and you can work this all out. I have faith in you, have some faith in yourself. 

Rule three: plenty people live pay check to pay check and it's hard and life isn't fair. Like I said, you're smart and you're tough and you'll figure it out.

 

Your slontzey coworkers are not your fault and are in no way indiciative of your worth or capability. You also have Cute Coworker who likely will be looking for friends at her new job. Make a point of talking to her. 

If you need to evacuate, ask your neighbour for help, or a coworker. They're not your best buds but I'm sure they won't leave you stranded in the path of a hurricane. Or ask those maintenance guys Bruce likes for help. There are people around who will look after someone living alone. 

Of course you deserve Bruce, you take really good care of him and he loves you. 

And.....if you fail, you fail. And then you take a few deep breaths and patch up your wounds and work out how to move on. There's always a way, somehow. Think Shallan post WoK - her plan fails, Jasnah hates her, Kabsal tried to murder her, she has nothing and no one and she figures it out. You can too. 

<3

That's actually really inspiring.  

I'm working with SpongeBob today, but that's the only shift I'll truly share with him for the rest of the month; and I'm going to spend it well away from him. 

17 hours ago, Mestiv said:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles I think more than 90% of people on earth are in a situation where couple of bigger expenses at once would ruin their financial situation. I'm in this situation for years now and just now I'm slowly starting to have some money saved just in case. Take every obstacle one by one and you'll be fine. 

I've been saving a little from each paycheck, though it's still nerve-wracking. And thanks. I've been okay so far, but….still. 

16 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

I know I'm a long drive away, but if you do need to evacuate for a hurricane, you are welcome to stay with us.

Thank you.  

2 hours ago, A Budgie said:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles awwww *hugs*
I'm so sorry you have to go through all of that...

Thanks. *hugs back* 

12 minutes ago, ShadowLord_Lith said:

I've been thinking about the fine arts.

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There was a time when almost anyone you picked up off the street could play (or would be willing to learn how to play) an instrument of some kind. Now however, especially with youthful children, those musical, artistic, and dramatic talents are being ignored and, in some cases I suspect, suppressed. For example:

Most kids at my school are impressed with the ability to whistle or play the drums. Yes I admit that keeping consistent rythem with the drums becomes difficult, if not an outright struggle, once other instruments join in, but still. And almost none of the kids in my school can sing. They can't even play-act!

Most kids in my drama class don't use anything but a monotone voice in their script reading. I know that kids voice act when they're younger, or, most do, so why is it difficult to talk like your actually speaking instead of just reading the lines in a robotic monotone?

It scares me to think that so many kids are willing to forget and suppress their history and culture simply because it's difficult. I understand that there are those that are musically or artistically or dramatically un-inclined, but surely that wouldn't be the case with the majority of my school, would it? 

 

Anyways, thank for listening to my ramble!

Also:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles,

You have been through things just as bad as this, but less prepared or emotionally stable than you are now. You've got this, no one can beat you down! You've proven you can take a terrible hand and make yourself a good life out of it; you'll repeat that feat. Everyone here believes in you, so go on! Forge your future in the fires of adversity and make yourself and your future stronger than solid steel as a result!

 The only advice I can give other than that is stuff you've already been doing. Live frugally, save when you can, and stay positive. You'll push through.

And thanks.  Sometimes I tell myself that life is like a video game—you (ideally) start out with smaller problems that teach you how to handle obstacles, so that when bigger ones come along, you're mentally prepared and ready to conquer them. But then I wonder—if that's what's on this level, what unholy terror lurks on the next one? 

One at a time. I'll take it one at a time.