#1 Taln Fan
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What'd I do that's bad I'll add tho, hidden posts don't count so we're still officially at 3000 today
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*Me who can see it's been page 3000 since October 28th* My page counts are all inflated cuz of hidden messages (Also I win)
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Welcome to the Shard! Mine is probably either Yumi or Words of Radiance (Or Skyward if we count non-Cosmere) How would you rank the Stormlight books from favorite to least? And if you could spend the day hanging out with 3 cosmere characters, who would they be?
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It's been a while and so for newer Sharders an AMA
#1 Taln Fan replied to Nathrangking's topic in AMAs
How'd ya get into reading Sanderson? How do you feel the culture of the forums has changed from when you were first here, to covid, to now? -
Actually, it's spikes. We give you a hemalurgic spike which transfers the various Modomancy powers
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Not anymore
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Good, cuz it's about to go away
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Got a 90.6 with the curve
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Prob helps that I don't post a ton xD I'm more likely to do one long essay post in MCH than to do a bunch of smaller posts
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I have a screenshot of the exact method you used to find my real name, which I won't share here for obvious reasons xD But I'll DM to you and Kansas lol
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.... @Hawks we all know that's bullcrap xD Well I take the test in 3 hours or so, and it's online multiple choice so I'll get results immediately
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I'll know in about 4 hours xD
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I'd strongly encourage telling her, as tough as it may be to get out. You got this
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Seconding what Kansas said. Expanding on forgiving yourself, please don't be hard on yourself. It already sucks enough in the moment, don't prolong your suffering with shame and guilt about the SH after the fact. About a fifth of people SH at some point during their life. It's something that tons of people struggle with, and you're not alone in it. One of the most important things is to just feel your feelings. Ik it's way easier said than done, it's easier to numb the pain, push it down via SH, or scrolling, or whatever it is. But I promise that if you sit with the feelings for a bit, think about what messages those emotions are trying to tell you, you'll have less distress from them in the long run. And when possible, take action to address those emotional messages. Most important is to talk about it, as Kansas said. Yes, online friends are great, but ultimately not as helpful as IRL friends are. Idk how your family is or your exact situation, but your parents are generally the best suited people in your life to help. They can book you therapy, which I always recommend, or take away sharp things/check in on you more, or whatever you need. And part of relationships (familial, friends, or romantic) is telling the other person when something they say/do hurts you. That applies to parents too. If you don't tell them when something they say hurts you, how will they ever know to change? They're not trying to inflict emotional suffering on you, they just don't know their words are having that effect. Again, I don't know your parents, and that's up to you, but if they love you and are fairly reasonable, I'd strongly recommend just being honest with them. Aside from parents, I'd also recommend having at least one close IRL friend you trust, and can tell everything. If they're a good friend who cares about you, they're not gonna judge you or shame you, they'll want to help and support you. But having someone you can turn to in those moments, or seek comfort from afterwards, is a must.
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Yup, I got a small Havanese doggo named Samson, tho I'm too lazy to dig up a pic atm xD
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Yep, that's correct
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I don't particularly mind, I'd rather be pinged than not. Feel free to ping me if you are asking me something, talking about me, or if there's something you want me to see, tho don't just spam me if you don't actually have something to say xD And if there's something that needs moderation, like a bot or a thread that needs to be moved, just use the report button instead of pinging me individually.
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Lets not If you want to tag a mod to ask a genuine question, sure. But just pinging one for fun or for a meme, let's not (unless someone specified that they're okay with it)
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You seemed so confident earlier? Why would a god need to worry about a simple smiley face? After all, you said you can't be banned
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How bout this - If I make an A on my genetics test tmrw morning I'll change it just for ya'll
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So if I change it to this I'd be less scary? ....
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So glad you're feeling better Yeppp seconding all of these! I take your essay and raise you one longer essay xD #1 is key! There's research that legit just naming the exact emotion you're feeling, acknowledging "I'm anxious" or "I feel guilty" instead of "I feel bad/depressed" makes those emotions easier to manage. And then digging deeper to find where those emotions are coming from. Same with bad coping mechanisms, like SH. SH itself isn't the problem, you have to figure out what's happening in your brain. Something's happening to make you feel a certain way, and we often turn to poor coping mechanisms or distractions to avoid those negative feelings. But accept those feelings, know that they're valid, and take time to actually *feel* them. Journaling and meditation are both great for this. And yeah, highly recommend working out, it's proven to be great for mental health as well as physical. (Also when your physical health is better, it helps your mental health) Even if it's not working out, one of the best ways to fight depression is having concrete, achievable goals to accomplish. Even if it's small, working towards that goal gives you something to live for, and completing the goal is something to look forward to. The important thing is to have them be concrete, and have a way to mark when you've completed it. Not "lose weight", or "get stronger", or "Get better at drawing". "Lose 20 lbs by the end of the year", "Be able to bench 135 by the end of the year", or "Practice drawing at least 2 hours a week". Making that measurable progress brings a lot of satisfaction. And yeah, procrastination is a dangerous trap. Don't start tmrw, or you never will. Start today. And procrastination can apply to mental health too, like "oh I'll start journalling tmrw" or "I'll tell my friends about my problems someday, just not this week". And yeah you hit the nail on the head with support. Talk to anyone. Doesn't have to be several people, as long as there's just one person you trust that you can (and do) tell everything, so you're not keeping it inside. There's something so freeing about having someone who knows literally every secret and struggle you wrestle with, and can support you. And then yeah, go to therapy! Even if you don't think it'll help, or you've had a bad therapist before. Friends are great, Sharders can be helpful, but ultimately professional help is often very beneficial, and they know what to do better than some teenagers xD There's lots of diff therapists with different therapy styles, so don't give up, and find one that suits you.
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I put /s! That ofc eliminates all scariness
