Certified Gay Disasters

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

31 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

Yay!

How'd it go?

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i assume u mean abot bineg trans?

 

It went great we talked abt it for a lil and then moved on, ye

[Usseewa ✾ She♡They ✾]

Just now, Honors Spectral Image said:

lil

y

 

Just now, Honors Spectral Image said:

It went great we talked abt it for a lil and then moved on, ye

cooliozthatssgood

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

Just now, Usseewa said:

y

 

cooliozthatssgood

Ye, we talked abt how I’m a mess lollll was fun

[Usseewa ✾ She♡They ✾]

Just now, Honors Spectral Image said:

Ye, we talked abt how I’m a mess lollll was fun

loll

i need sumone like dat

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

21 hours ago, Honors Spectral Image said:

I told my therapist

Finally 

Yay!!!!!!!!! *hugs*

[momadrac they/them]

On 7/2/2026 at 1:07 PM, Honors Spectral Image said:

I told my therapist

Finally 

yayyy

was they chill abt it?

*were they chill about it?

Edited July 5 by momadrac
holy grammar fail

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

27 minutes ago, momadrac said:

yayyy

was they chill abt it?

*were they chill about it?

Yes definitely she’s a lesbian she said “cool that checks out, I’ve got another trans friend who’s name is Izzy she’s cool too, do you want me to tell your parents”

[Aeoryi she/her]

9 hours ago, Honors Spectral Image said:

Yes definitely she’s a lesbian she said “cool that checks out, I’ve got another trans friend who’s name is Izzy she’s cool too, do you want me to tell your parents”

lesbean

[Factor She/Her]

Hey, I know I'm not really on here... sorry...

But... I'm meeting with a new therapist, and if I can make sure my parents don't decide to sit in on the meeting, I'm going to try coming out to them... wish me luck?

*squeaks and disappears*

[GG0z He/Him]

1 minute ago, Factor said:

Hey, I know I'm not really on here... sorry...

But... I'm meeting with a new therapist, and if I can make sure my parents don't decide to sit in on the meeting, I'm going to try coming out to them... wish me luck?

*squeaks and disappears*

Best of luck!!

[Usseewa ✾ She♡They ✾]

56 minutes ago, Factor said:

Hey, I know I'm not really on here... sorry...

But... I'm meeting with a new therapist, and if I can make sure my parents don't decide to sit in on the meeting, I'm going to try coming out to them... wish me luck?

*squeaks and disappears*

good luck Fax!! ♥

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

20 hours ago, Factor said:

Hey, I know I'm not really on here... sorry...

But... I'm meeting with a new therapist, and if I can make sure my parents don't decide to sit in on the meeting, I'm going to try coming out to them... wish me luck?

*squeaks and disappears*

Good luck Fax!!!!! *hugs a lot a lot a lot*

[momadrac they/them]

On 7/4/2026 at 9:30 PM, Honors Spectral Image said:

Yes definitely she’s a lesbian she said “cool that checks out, I’ve got another trans friend who’s name is Izzy she’s cool too, do you want me to tell your parents”

that's excellent!

On 7/9/2026 at 9:31 AM, Factor said:

Hey, I know I'm not really on here... sorry...

But... I'm meeting with a new therapist, and if I can make sure my parents don't decide to sit in on the meeting, I'm going to try coming out to them... wish me luck?

*squeaks and disappears*

You got this!!!!! *emotional support squish*

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Friends
I'm flummoxed

What exactly is the difference between a romantic relationship and a purely platonic friendship

I know it sounds like the answer should be obvious, but it's not, at least for me

See my first inclination was to say "oh, the difference is physical intimacy"
But on further reflection, no, obviously not
Your partner doesn't stop being your partner if you're not currently cuddling or having sex

My second thought was "oh, the difference is emotional intensity"
But that's also... not exactly?
I care about my purely platonic friends extremely passionately
And recently I've discovered I'm actually extremely good at flirting
...but I do it by thinking of something I'd normally say to a friend and dialing it back a bit 

So
Mm

[Hmmm lies she/her]

3 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Friends
I'm flummoxed

What exactly is the difference between a romantic relationship and a purely platonic friendship

I know it sounds like the answer should be obvious, but it's not, at least for me

See my first inclination was to say "oh, the difference is physical intimacy"
But on further reflection, no, obviously not
Your partner doesn't stop being your partner if you're not currently cuddling or having sex

My second thought was "oh, the difference is emotional intensity"
But that's also... not exactly?
I care about my purely platonic friends extremely passionately
And recently I've discovered I'm actually extremely good at flirting
...but I do it by thinking of something I'd normally say to a friend and dialing it back a bit 

So
Mm

Aro-spec here, I honestly have no idea. But I feel a love to my partner that feels special, above all other loves. Maybe it's something like that?

[momadrac they/them]

4 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Friends
I'm flummoxed

What exactly is the difference between a romantic relationship and a purely platonic friendship

I know it sounds like the answer should be obvious, but it's not, at least for me

See my first inclination was to say "oh, the difference is physical intimacy"
But on further reflection, no, obviously not
Your partner doesn't stop being your partner if you're not currently cuddling or having sex

My second thought was "oh, the difference is emotional intensity"
But that's also... not exactly?
I care about my purely platonic friends extremely passionately
And recently I've discovered I'm actually extremely good at flirting
...but I do it by thinking of something I'd normally say to a friend and dialing it back a bit 

So
Mm

To say in a science way because I am a nerd

Romantic love is more exciting and volatile, like sodium + water, or like salt, a great addition to your dinner but can be terrible when done wrong. Attraction is usually a part of it, not necessarily physical. For example I am primarily attracted to people's personalities, ideas, way of speaking, and interests but not body at all (I feel nill physical attraction) except for hands for some reason

There's this one British person who has a YouTube channel where he is a barista and just makes coffee and his hands are *chef's kiss*

Platonic is more like noble gasses. Not really reactive and isn't attraction based. More grounded, patient, kind and not prone to jealosy.

I did get this metaphor off of reddit when I was questioning this myself about 3 months ago but it really worked for me 

I'm going to be so for real though, i personally think those are labels imposed by society because my definition is essentially 'would i be okay kissing this person' 

Because sexual/physical attraction does not exist for me, a romantic relationship is just my very best friend who I snuggle and kiss and its nice

Edited Tuesday at 08:08 PM by momadrac

[Aeoryi she/her]

qpr relationships also exist. Consider looking into them!

[Usseewa ✾ She♡They ✾]

5 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Friends
I'm flummoxed

What exactly is the difference between a romantic relationship and a purely platonic friendship

I know it sounds like the answer should be obvious, but it's not, at least for me

See my first inclination was to say "oh, the difference is physical intimacy"
But on further reflection, no, obviously not
Your partner doesn't stop being your partner if you're not currently cuddling or having sex

My second thought was "oh, the difference is emotional intensity"
But that's also... not exactly?
I care about my purely platonic friends extremely passionately
And recently I've discovered I'm actually extremely good at flirting
...but I do it by thinking of something I'd normally say to a friend and dialing it back a bit 

So
Mm

Tbh i still don't quite know for me when it's a crush or just wanting to be friends with them..

idk. maybe imagine you doing partner-y things like holding hands or wtvr (...idk how it works...)

idk

maybe.. like how much time sort of you spend with them, or.. like idk i feel like it'd be ... no nvm... 

like maybe a pull or at least at the start

vs like.. a looser tug for friends? a loose.. idk how to describe it

[Akimikoisthecutest]

Sooooooo, I got a girlfriend...

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13 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Sooooooo, I got a girlfriend...

AWESOME!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! What's she like?

[momadrac they/them]

16 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Sooooooo, I got a girlfriend...

YAYYYY EMOTIONAL SUPPORT IS ALWAYS THE BEST

I'm with Ink what's she like??

[Akimikoisthecutest]

12 hours ago, Ink and Embers said:

AWESOME!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! What's she like?

10 hours ago, momadrac said:

YAYYYY EMOTIONAL SUPPORT IS ALWAYS THE BEST

I'm with Ink what's she like??

She's pretty awesome. We've been together for about 8 months now, so it's been pretty awesome. She's blonde, and is a theatre kid, so we talk a lot about musicals, and she's just genuinely awesome

 

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

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10 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

She's pretty awesome. We've been together for about 8 months now, so it's been pretty awesome. She's blonde, and is a theatre kid, so we talk a lot about musicals, and she's just genuinely awesome

 

Awesome!!!!! I hope you're really happy together!!!!!

 

7 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

For me, it began as "I'm not sure the way I perceive other AFAB people is the way I perceive myself". Then one of my close friends came out as non-binary, and I felt weirdly jealous for reasons I didn't know how to explain. I also realised I felt like I could relate more to transmasc people's experiences of gender the transfem people's (knowing very few enbies), which ironically made me very concerned I was being transphobic for a few months (right data, wrong conclusion). At some point I began using different pronouns for myself, testing them in my head, and found what I was more comfortable with (which was a mixture for me). It took me a while to work out the specifics though. 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

9 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

I was thinking about gender expression, and realized I'd rather dress as a girl. I thought I was a femboy for a day, before waking up the next morning, thinking about my gender, and realized I was just completely a girl.