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[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

Just now, Edema Rue said:

(Not contradicting you, but just so you know: LDS is a form of Christian :))

im aware, just using that as a "are you christian, and if so are you lds"

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

11 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

... wow. im so sorry. weird question, but are you christian or lds? 

I am not lds. As to whether I'm christian... it's complicated. I don't believe in God, but I feel generally close to christian values. (Meaning in very short: consider everyone as your family, do good around you, be ready to forgive people. I feel obligated to clarify, because sadly over the centuries people have put lots of things I completely disagree with under the "christian values" umbrella.) And some of my happiest memories are from my time in a church group a couple years ago.

So I would sum myself up as "agnostic but close to the line with christian". Wow, this took way more time to explain than I thought it would.

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

1 hour ago, Just a Silvereye said:

I am not lds. As to whether I'm christian... it's complicated. I don't believe in God, but I feel generally close to christian values. (Meaning in very short: consider everyone as your family, do good around you, be ready to forgive people. I feel obligated to clarify, because sadly over the centuries people have put lots of things I completely disagree with under the "christian values" umbrella.) And some of my happiest memories are from my time in a church group a couple years ago.

So I would sum myself up as "agnostic but close to the line with christian". Wow, this took way more time to explain than I thought it would.

alright. well, i dont know what to say. I was just gonna say pray, not necessarily to God in any case, just pray to some higher power for help. idk what to say beyond that. going to therapy can help, finding friends who text you every once in awhile to tell you to stop, etc.

[Mags she/they]

It feels like my school finds something new to slap a policy on for every new semester . . . Ever since I was a freshmen they've been adding more and more rules and deadlines and systems and hoops to jump through and honestly I'm not even surprised anymore. It's so frustrating but at this point, I've realized that being frustrated with it isn't going to fix anything.

I get the fact that lots of students are failing or not attending at all, but in my opinion adding more rules won't help that. Those kids who don't care aren't going to start caring when you add more rules, they were already willing to break the rules before, so the new polices won't change anything. The problem isn't that we don't have good enough rules, it's that the students don't care, no matter what the rules are.

(I'm not talking about anyone in particular, I just know that this is why the school comes up with new rules)

Meanwhile, those of us who do care and are trying really hard start to struggle more and more as things get stricter. I'm a pretty good student, so I'm not too worried about failing, but I can't imagine what it'd be like to be a kid who does care, but has a really hard time. 

In the end though, it's not to big of a change and I'll live through it, but it frustrates me to no end. I realize the admin have a different perspective, but from my perspective, this is not working.

I'm just gonna keep reminding myself that I'm only here for another year and half.

Spoiler

I'm just hangry right now I guess . . .

 

[Wittles he/him]

1 hour ago, justice magician said:

It feels like my school finds something new to slap a policy on for every new semester . . . Ever since I was a freshmen they've been adding more and more rules and deadlines and systems and hoops to jump through and honestly I'm not even surprised anymore. It's so frustrating but at this point, I've realized that being frustrated with it isn't going to fix anything.

I get the fact that lots of students are failing or not attending at all, but in my opinion adding more rules won't help that. Those kids who don't care aren't going to start caring when you add more rules, they were already willing to break the rules before, so the new polices won't change anything. The problem isn't that we don't have good enough rules, it's that the students don't care, no matter what the rules are.

(I'm not talking about anyone in particular, I just know that this is why the school comes up with new rules)

Meanwhile, those of us who do care and are trying really hard start to struggle more and more as things get stricter. I'm a pretty good student, so I'm not too worried about failing, but I can't imagine what it'd be like to be a kid who does care, but has a really hard time. 

In the end though, it's not to big of a change and I'll live through it, but it frustrates me to no end. I realize the admin have a different perspective, but from my perspective, this is not working.

I'm just gonna keep reminding myself that I'm only here for another year and half.

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I'm just hangry right now I guess . . .

 

I understand that. School is...unbelievably frustrating at times. You can make it though, I believe in you

[Edema Rue she/her]

6 hours ago, justice magician said:

It feels like my school finds something new to slap a policy on for every new semester . . . Ever since I was a freshmen they've been adding more and more rules and deadlines and systems and hoops to jump through and honestly I'm not even surprised anymore. It's so frustrating but at this point, I've realized that being frustrated with it isn't going to fix anything.

I get the fact that lots of students are failing or not attending at all, but in my opinion adding more rules won't help that. Those kids who don't care aren't going to start caring when you add more rules, they were already willing to break the rules before, so the new polices won't change anything. The problem isn't that we don't have good enough rules, it's that the students don't care, no matter what the rules are.

(I'm not talking about anyone in particular, I just know that this is why the school comes up with new rules)

Meanwhile, those of us who do care and are trying really hard start to struggle more and more as things get stricter. I'm a pretty good student, so I'm not too worried about failing, but I can't imagine what it'd be like to be a kid who does care, but has a really hard time. 

In the end though, it's not to big of a change and I'll live through it, but it frustrates me to no end. I realize the admin have a different perspective, but from my perspective, this is not working.

I'm just gonna keep reminding myself that I'm only here for another year and half.

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I'm just hangry right now I guess . . .

 

*many hugs*

Keep breathing. Keep caring, even though it’s awful that no one else does. It won’t always be this way <33

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

Noise... cursing... being accused of eating people's food(?)... i hate school sometimes...

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

4 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

Noise... cursing... being accused of eating people's food(?)... i hate school sometimes...

*hugs fiercely*

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

7 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

Noise... cursing... being accused of eating people's food(?)... i hate school sometimes...

*many, many hugs*
School is hard. People are dumb, and they often don’t care for the people around them like they should. It’s not fair that you have to deal with it, but you can get through it.

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

2 minutes ago, Lightweaver2 said:

*many, many hugs*
School is hard. People are dumb, and they often don’t care for the people around them like they should. It’s not fair that you have to deal with it, but you can get through it.

... thank you.

4 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

... thank you.

a little better. maybe should have gone to seminary despite the late night? idk.

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

*more hugs* 

I'm sorry you have to go through all that and to deal with people like this. But as Lightweaver said, you can get through it. Just keep going, I know you can do it.

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

5 minutes ago, Just a Silvereye said:

*more hugs* 

I'm sorry you have to go through all that and to deal with people like this. But as Lightweaver said, you can get through it. Just keep going, I know you can do it.

thank you. now go tell yourself that, you need it more than i do.

[+Wax he/him]

On 12/14/2023 at 5:56 AM, Just a Silvereye said:

*hugs*

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. And also I'm amazed by the fact that you are able to have the game still installed and not play it, like I haven't played since almost a month but only because I made it absolutely impossible to download Steam. And even then I've still been filling the void with... literally anything else but studying

How did you not get sucked in something else (watching YT videos, browsing social media... idk there are so many mindless timekilling distractions these days)?

Good luck on your job search! 

There’s always the next frontier in distraction:)

YT, solitaire, Microsoft tiles, surfing….

I can just say this is like the Lord Ruler’s situation. Each solution creates its own set of problems. It works as long as the new problems created are smaller than the original problem.

Lots of strategies... The ones that work for me are are:-

"If I apply for these 5 jobs, I get 1 games of solitaire or freecell, AFTER I've finished applying"

"Music in the background... great way to make it easier to work on something rather than playing games"

Edited January 21, 2024 by Wax

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

one word: NOISE

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

10 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

one word: NOISE

*many hugs*

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

10 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

one word: NOISE

*also gives many hugs*

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

49 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

one word: NOISE

*more hugs*

*the quiet kind of hug*

 

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

Just now, Just a Silvereye said:

*more hugs*

*the quiet kind of hug*

 

pfff- thank you. oh yeah, hows it going with your addictions?

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

1 hour ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

pfff- thank you. oh yeah, hows it going with your addictions?

Trying new things recently, didn't work out too bad.

Tell you more later, I have a big school project that is due tomorrow morning (and which has been stressing the heck out of me those last few weeks). Actually, I shouldn't even be here now.

[Edema Rue she/her]

11 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

Trying new things recently, didn't work out too bad.

Tell you more later, I have a big school project that is due tomorrow morning (and which has been stressing the heck out of me those last few weeks). Actually, I shouldn't even be here now.

*so many scudding hugs*

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

So actually... I restarted playing. And somehow, it is not taking over my life.

The thing is, when I uninstalled, what I ended up doing was looking for other similar games and latch on it like before. I think I have installed half of this genre games available on Android. One of them turned out to be so insanely addictive, it might have done worse than the other one in just 3 days (and played a big role in my failure at the physics exam). That really put things back into perspective for me.

So what I decided was that if I was going to keep gaming anyway, might as well set up rules for it. I tried a first time earlier this month, which as you know was a total failure. And I went back into the loop of trying everything else. So this time, I am making things much harsher for myself: daily limit enforced through a software that I can't bypass (not that it is flawless, but I have blocked in some way every way to bypass it I could find of.) Then, a strict time limit on gaming, with the rule that if I ever bypass it somehow I will have to uninstall for a long time (a day for every minute above the limit. My phone sends me a daily reminder.) All related YT/Twitch channels share this timer, so that I can't just go watch gaming videos after I'm done playing. And finally, after 10PM the game locks itself whatever happens.

It's been 3-4 days and so far it's been working okay, to my great surprise. I believe that I actually think less about it now I can't watch videos as much as I want. But there was of course this incredibly stressful and annoying project that we're presenting in a few hours, that took up quite a bit of time recently. I actually somewhat pulled my  weight here, even though some days weren’t great but it's still better overall than before. But when this will be done and I will have no other immediate deadline, I am a bit scared of what will happen. Ah, at worst I'll uninstall again. I've done it before, I can do it a nth time.

 

Edit: I know it's not a good solution, but everything else I've tried was worse.

Also, presentation happened and went surprisingly well! We have now to finish the report, but we've got a week so I'm not really worried about it. That mess is finally over.

Edited January 24, 2024 by Just a Silvereye
Later update

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

4 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

So actually... I restarted playing. And somehow, it is not taking over my life.

The thing is, when I uninstalled, what I ended up doing was looking for other similar games and latch on it like before. I think I have installed half of this genre games available on Android. One of them turned out to be so insanely addictive, it might have done worse than the other one in just 3 days (and played a big role in my failure at the physics exam). That really put things back into perspective for me.

So what I decided was that if I was going to keep gaming anyway, might as well set up rules for it. I tried a first time earlier this month, which as you know was a total failure. And I went back into the loop of trying everything else. So this time, I am making things much harsher for myself: daily limit enforced through a software that I can't bypass (not that it is flawless, but I have blocked in some way every way to bypass it I could find of.) Then, a strict time limit on gaming, with the rule that if I ever bypass it somehow I will have to uninstall for a long time (a day for every minute above the limit. My phone sends me a daily reminder.) All related YT/Twitch channels share this timer, so that I can't just go watch gaming videos after I'm done playing. And finally, after 10PM the game locks itself whatever happens.

It's been 3-4 days and so far it's been working okay, to my great surprise. I believe that I actually think less about it now I can't watch videos as much as I want. But there was of course this incredibly stressful and annoying project that we're presenting in a few hours, that took up quite a bit of time recently. I actually somewhat pulled my  weight here, even though some days weren’t great but it's still better overall than before. But when this will be done and I will have no other immediate deadline, I am a bit scared of what will happen. Ah, at worst I'll uninstall again. I've done it before, I can do it a nth time.

 

Edit: I know it's not a good solution, but everything else I've tried was worse.

Also, presentation happened and went surprisingly well! We have now to finish the report, but we've got a week so I'm not really worried about it. That mess is finally over.

CONGRATS! Now keep it up, thats the hardest part. if you need a reminder, i can always PM you and ask how thats going.

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

4 hours ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

CONGRATS! Now keep it up, thats the hardest part. if you need a reminder, i can always PM you and ask how thats going.

Thanks a lot mate!

Also, unrelated but would you be my Shardbuddy?

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

2 minutes ago, Just a Silvereye said:

Thanks a lot mate!

Also, unrelated but would you be my Shardbuddy?

yes, thank you for the reminder to update that lol.

[Edema Rue she/her]

9 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

So actually... I restarted playing. And somehow, it is not taking over my life.

The thing is, when I uninstalled, what I ended up doing was looking for other similar games and latch on it like before. I think I have installed half of this genre games available on Android. One of them turned out to be so insanely addictive, it might have done worse than the other one in just 3 days (and played a big role in my failure at the physics exam). That really put things back into perspective for me.

So what I decided was that if I was going to keep gaming anyway, might as well set up rules for it. I tried a first time earlier this month, which as you know was a total failure. And I went back into the loop of trying everything else. So this time, I am making things much harsher for myself: daily limit enforced through a software that I can't bypass (not that it is flawless, but I have blocked in some way every way to bypass it I could find of.) Then, a strict time limit on gaming, with the rule that if I ever bypass it somehow I will have to uninstall for a long time (a day for every minute above the limit. My phone sends me a daily reminder.) All related YT/Twitch channels share this timer, so that I can't just go watch gaming videos after I'm done playing. And finally, after 10PM the game locks itself whatever happens.

It's been 3-4 days and so far it's been working okay, to my great surprise. I believe that I actually think less about it now I can't watch videos as much as I want. But there was of course this incredibly stressful and annoying project that we're presenting in a few hours, that took up quite a bit of time recently. I actually somewhat pulled my  weight here, even though some days weren’t great but it's still better overall than before. But when this will be done and I will have no other immediate deadline, I am a bit scared of what will happen. Ah, at worst I'll uninstall again. I've done it before, I can do it a nth time.

 

Edit: I know it's not a good solution, but everything else I've tried was worse.

Also, presentation happened and went surprisingly well! We have now to finish the report, but we've got a week so I'm not really worried about it. That mess is finally over.

Well done. If that's what works for you, that's what works, so there's no need to feel like it's not a solution. I hope it helps!