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[Orlion Blight he/him]

She's doing this exactly because she is losing control and has no idea how to treat someone else as anything but a subordinate.

Her futility galls her and she is too small a person to improve herself.

I'm sorry you have to put up with this, just hang in there and keep swimming!

[Delightful]

Twi, you're a great friend and you deserve it. Of course we're always here for you.

Besides, you're the Forum Supplier of Cute Pugs. We *need* you.

[+Slowswift]

Something I think everybody could stand to hear once in a while:

"If you have a bad thought about yourself, tell it to go to hell because that is exactly where it came from."

[Haelbarde he/him]

But dear G-D, someone get me a punching bag.

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Does that work for you?

[Mistrunner]

I just….if you don't mind my getting all soppy for a minute, I want to say thanks. For being here and listening, really listening. Having a group of friends I can vent to and receive support for it makes all the difference in the world.

*triple hug*

It really is awesome. Even if I don't post here, I always feel better because of all the support and hugs going on.

*hugs everybody*

[little wilson she/her]

So I've been feeling very drained of energy lately. No motivation or desire to really do anything that I usually like to do. It's a feeling that started in May/June and has been getting progressively worse until now I come home from work feeling like my soul has been sucked out of me.

I thought it was my thyroid, since my family has a history of that. So I went to the doctor a few weeks ago. He had me get a blood test. Went back in today for the results hoping and expecting to hear that I have hypothyroidism (which the doctor was also expecting it to be).

I don't. At least, my levels were normal. You'd think that would be a good thing to hear, right? It's not. Because my antibodies levels were very much not normal. And that's not treatable like hypothyroidism is. So here I was expecting to figure out exactly what's been going on with me so I can fix it and start feeling like myself again and now I still don't know anything really. I'm just sitting in Costco waiting for the nurse to call me back to tell me they sent this prescription over, so I can take a pill to get another blood test that will hopefully tell me what's wrong but it probably won't because why would it? I hate my thoughts right now.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I'm kind of worried my mom will kick me out now.

I know I'm in the right here. I know such an act would say more about her than it does about me. I know her reasons ("my fully grown daughter has a mind of her own and doesn't looovvvveeee me enough! :-( ) are ridiculous. And I don't think it would be her first move; she likes having her kids close because she'll have more control over us that way.

I'm still worried it'll happen because I really don't have anywhere to go. I don't know if there's a shelter that would take me and Bruce together--though that might not matter because if she kicks me out, she could very well decide to just keep Bruce.

There's one couple in town who might take me in. Maybe. But that's what scares me--it's only a maybe at this point.

Just...pray, hope, send out good thoughts for me? All I need is a job, and then I can be on my way.

[+Slowswift]

I'm kind of worried my mom will kick me out now.

I know I'm in the right here. I know such an act would say more about her than it does about me. I know her reasons ("my fully grown daughter has a mind of her own and doesn't looovvvveeee me enough! :-( ) are ridiculous. And I don't think it would be her first move; she likes having her kids close because she'll have more control over us that way.

I'm still worried it'll happen because I really don't have anywhere to go. I don't know if there's a shelter that would take me and Bruce together--though that might not matter because if she kicks me out, she could very well decide to just keep Bruce.

There's one couple in town who might take me in. Maybe. But that's what scares me--it's only a maybe at this point.

Just...pray, hope, send out good thoughts for me? All I need is a job, and then I can be on my way.

 

If that happens...

 

You will absolutely be in my prayers.

[Kobold King he/him]

I'm kind of worried my mom will kick me out now.

I know I'm in the right here. I know such an act would say more about her than it does about me. I know her reasons ("my fully grown daughter has a mind of her own and doesn't looovvvveeee me enough! :-( ) are ridiculous. And I don't think it would be her first move; she likes having her kids close because she'll have more control over us that way.

I'm still worried it'll happen because I really don't have anywhere to go. I don't know if there's a shelter that would take me and Bruce together--though that might not matter because if she kicks me out, she could very well decide to just keep Bruce.

There's one couple in town who might take me in. Maybe. But that's what scares me--it's only a maybe at this point.

Just...pray, hope, send out good thoughts for me? All I need is a job, and then I can be on my way.

 

 

I'll definitely pray. I wish you were close enough to Texas to make staying with us a possibility--we'd take you in, if you weren't creeped out by the idea of staying with a family you know over a fantasy forum.

 

But as is, all I can do is pray. And pray I will.

[Mistrunner]

I'm kind of worried my mom will kick me out now.

I know I'm in the right here. I know such an act would say more about her than it does about me. I know her reasons ("my fully grown daughter has a mind of her own and doesn't looovvvveeee me enough! :-( ) are ridiculous. And I don't think it would be her first move; she likes having her kids close because she'll have more control over us that way.

I'm still worried it'll happen because I really don't have anywhere to go. I don't know if there's a shelter that would take me and Bruce together--though that might not matter because if she kicks me out, she could very well decide to just keep Bruce.

There's one couple in town who might take me in. Maybe. But that's what scares me--it's only a maybe at this point.

Just...pray, hope, send out good thoughts for me? All I need is a job, and then I can be on my way.

I'm joining the rest of the people in saying that you'll be in my prayers. I hope you can find a way out of this mess soon.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I'm kind of worried my mom will kick me out now.

I know I'm in the right here. I know such an act would say more about her than it does about me. I know her reasons ("my fully grown daughter has a mind of her own and doesn't looovvvveeee me enough! :-( ) are ridiculous. And I don't think it would be her first move; she likes having her kids close because she'll have more control over us that way.

I'm still worried it'll happen because I really don't have anywhere to go. I don't know if there's a shelter that would take me and Bruce together--though that might not matter because if she kicks me out, she could very well decide to just keep Bruce.

There's one couple in town who might take me in. Maybe. But that's what scares me--it's only a maybe at this point.

Just...pray, hope, send out good thoughts for me? All I need is a job, and then I can be on my way.

...

Anyone that can afford a round trip road trip to Spokane, while also being able to support an extra mouth?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Thanks, everyone.

I just got home from work. She's still mad; I can tell by her tone and the fact she made something she knows I don't like for dinner. Waiting to see what happens.

[Mistrunner]

...

Anyone that can afford a round trip road trip to Spokane, while also being able to support an extra mouth?

I can't drive, but there's a tandem bike in the garage...

 

Thanks, everyone.

I just got home from work. She's still mad; I can tell by her tone and the fact she made something she knows I don't like for dinner. Waiting to see what happens.

*hugs muchly*

[Kobold King he/him]

Thanks, everyone.

I just got home from work. She's still mad; I can tell by her tone and the fact she made something she knows I don't like for dinner. Waiting to see what happens.

 

 

I want to go on the record saying that your mom sucks.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I want to go on the record saying that your mom sucks.

Now she's on the phone with my dad, spilling her side of the story. Not that my side matters, because he's always been her hatchet man. I used to think he was more reasonable than she was because he didn't yell or slam doors, but he's not. He's not reasonable at all. He once shamed me for taking my mom to a movie for her birthday because I told him I had to finish a paper instead of folding laundry when I got home. Still can't watch that movie.

Anyway, she does suck. So does he. I'm not afraid, though. Of getting kicked out, yes, but not of her anger. She can't control me with it anymore.

Edited November 20, 2015 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Orlion Blight he/him]

I'm sorry you have to go through this rust, Twi

For what it's worth, I don't think she will directly kick you out... It does not jive with her perceived role of "benevolent victim". She'll still make your life hell, but her precious pseudo suffering is too precious for her to cut it off immediately.

And you know better what practical steps to take, so I won't bother with any suggestions on that part

It does suck, but you'll get through it, and the worse case will remain hypothetical. So it is written, so it will be done

[Kaymyth she/her]

I'll definitely pray. I wish you were close enough to Texas to make staying with us a possibility--we'd take you in, if you weren't creeped out by the idea of staying with a family you know over a fantasy forum.

 

But as is, all I can do is pray. And pray I will.

 

Echoing Kobold here...alas, the commute from Kansas to your current job would suck.

 

Thanks, everyone.

I just got home from work. She's still mad; I can tell by her tone and the fact she made something she knows I don't like for dinner. Waiting to see what happens.

 

She made something you don't like for dinner as revenge.  Ye gods, that woman is petty.

 

(And any mother who would kick her daughter out the week before Thanksgiving has to turn in her Mom Card.  By law.  It's a thing.)

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I think Orlion is right. Kicking me out right away doesn't seem like her style. She might sit me down and say I have until January to find a job, and then it's up to me to find a place to live whether I'm hired somewhere or not. She might graciously extend the deadline if I don't have a job by then, reminding me of how nice she is all the while. And I might be in for a long lecture from my dad when he comes home for Thanksgiving, but I don't think she'll kick me out right away. I hope not, at any rate.

I'm done cowering, though. She's acting like a child, and I'm not going to be afraid of her.

[ThirdGen]

If she ever pretends the deadline or conditions are your fault, I'm confident you already know what's up.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

If she ever pretends the deadline or conditions are your fault, I'm confident you already know what's up.

 

Yep. Childish manipulation and self-imposed martyrdom. Kind of like what she's doing now—ignoring me, presumably in hopes freezing me out will make me see the error of my ways. Little does she know, I actually prefer this to long lectures designed to make me see the error of my ways.  

 

And, because I didn't say it earlier, I'll say it now: 

 

"As a pastor" holds no logical weight, Mom. Just because you're a pastor doesn't mean that everything you say is correct, factually or morally. 

[Delightful]

How.....how can she keep Bruce? Isn't he legally yours?

'm done cowering, though. She's acting like a child, and I'm not going to be afraid of her.

I'm so proud of you.

And I'm so sorry Twi.

*hugs*

Edited November 20, 2015 by Delightful

[The Honor Spren she/her]

I found out a couple of years ago that it makes me really angry to read about things that are super unfair. Umbridge was the first character to do this to me, so I compare everyone who makes me feel that way just by reading about it to her.

Totally comparing your mom to Umbridge right now.

Here's a small effort to make you smile:

I'm unable to imagine what you're even going through, Twi, but you're in my prayers.

Edited November 20, 2015 by The Honor Spren

[Delightful]

Praying for a quiet and peaceful weekend for all of us. ❤️

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

How.....how can she keep Bruce? Isn't he legally yours?

I'm so proud of you.

And I'm so sorry Twi.

*hugs*

 

He is, but she did pitch in a substantial amount of money to help me buy him, so she could claim "I helped you get him, so he's partly mine." If I took it to court, she'd lose—not only is my name on his paperwork, but I paid nearly half again what she did—but I wouldn't put it past her to separate me from Bruce for as long as she could. 

 

I found out a couple of years ago that it makes me really angry to read about things that are super unfair. Umbridge was the first character to do this to me, so I compare everyone who makes me feel that way just by reading about it to her.

Totally comparing your mom to Umbridge right now.

Here's a small effort to make you smile:

I'm unable to imagine what you're even going through, Twi, but you're in my prayers.

 

Oh, I have more stories. Stories that would make you even angrier. Thanks for the pug and the prayers.  

 

Praying for a quiet and peaceful weekend for all of us. ❤️

 

Yes indeed. 

[Voidus]

So I've been opting for the medication route to deal with the problem but it's really messing with my study, my attention span is just completely gone to hell and I keep getting distracted by wondering what my arm tastes like.

I hate my brain.