Condensation she/her Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 Honestly, I think I would tell him while you guys are at the pool. It's worse when you can't actually see them, or at least that's what all the books I've read say.
DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) 23 minutes ago, Condensation said: Honestly, I think I would tell him while you guys are at the pool. It's worse when you can't actually see them, or at least that's what all the books I've read say. But I'm not even sure if he still likes me. It could just be that he considers me a good friend and wants to hang out. The question is, how do I make sure of that? Edit: Didn't see @Scout_Fox's reply, so I'll respond to that now. Quote Ah well if all that's the case then I would tell him literally what you just put up there in that first part. Make sure to extra emphasize that he's your best (or one of the best) guy friends you have and you don't want to lose that. Basically while you're giving him bad news you emphasize the part that is good so it gives him something to not be sad about. And put it after too. Guy Brian be all sequential. Focus meter look like dis: (start bad < END GOOD). Emphasizing that A he is one of your best guy friends makes him feel special and B that you wouldn't want to lose that makes him feel appreciated even if you might be sorta kinda rejecting him. So other people might have a different take on it but I think if you want to have him as a friend it's probably best to just say it (and then actively show that you said what you mean by being friends afterwards) cuz if you just make an excuse he might ask again and it keeps being awkward. Also don't set it up as high stakes. Just like talk with him normally be like "Hey I'm looking forward to going (praising his suggestion too ) but I just wanted to clear something up first. I know last year I said.... but I realized that I was confused because you were my only good guy friend.... and it just wasn't quite working out (lets him pin it to not working out rather than himself)... and I really just want to make sure I let you know cuz I really value you, you're so x,y,z and I really wouldn't want to lose you as my friend... that make sense (makes him focus on logic of what you said rather than emotion)??" something like that and then let him chat about it a bit afterwards too cuz he might be feeling the same. If you are sincere but chill about it and act like it's not an awkward situation it will be less awkward. And then like right after divert the conversation to something else fun to talk about to make it normal. It's really not that big of a deal people like who they like and feel how they feel everyone just makes it worse than it is. If you just be chill about it and then afterward just like continue as good friends (don't take a long awkward break... makes it seem worse) then it'll help him be like ah un poco sucks but whatevskies this'll work. Besides since it already kinda didn't work it all seems quite valid to say This is all of course if you actually want to go if you don't then just make up an excuse and yeeet outta there I don't think I consider him one of my best guy friends anymore. I did last year, but it's just been awkward and we haven't talked a lot since. We're still friends, but...eh. Is there a way to make it clear that I still don't have feelings without saying straight-out that I think he has feelings for me? I'll be fine tho, sorry for asking for advice then taking none of it... Edited September 10, 2020 by DramaQueen
Bearer of all agonies he/him Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 3 hours ago, DramaQueen said: I am not sure he doesn't like me, he might still. However, I am sure that I don't like him in that way. Oh. I didn’t see this. Sorry! Hope you are still here. Ok. If you think he doesn’t like you and you just want to be friends, go, and maybe. . . I don’t know, tell him that? This stuff works in middle school i don’t know how it will in hs.
Scout_Fox he/him Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, DramaQueen said: Edit: Didn't see @Scout_Fox's reply, so I'll respond to that now. I don't think I consider him one of my best guy friends anymore. I did last year, but it's just been awkward and we haven't talked a lot since. We're still friends, but...eh. Is there a way to make it clear that I still don't have feelings without saying straight-out that I think he has feelings for me? I'll be fine tho, sorry for asking for advice then taking none of it... Lol advice is there to be given but doesn't always have to be taken, no worries at all. I mean another way to say all of that without having to say any of it is to talk about a different guy when you're with him or ask him for advice on how to approach someone else and then end it with a "Thanks you're a great FRIEND" (as hard as that is on my soul it is effective for a reason). Basically just act like you're interested (or actually be interested lol) in someone else and by talking about them with him around (pretending like you completely don't think he likes you ofc) he'll take the hint and be like oh she likes someone else. Idk if that's better but might work more in the situation?? Edited September 11, 2020 by Scout_Fox
DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 11 hours ago, Scout_Fox said: Lol advice is there to be given but doesn't always have to be taken, no worries at all. I mean another way to say all of that without having to say any of it is to talk about a different guy when you're with him or ask him for advice on how to approach someone else and then end it with a "Thanks you're a great FRIEND" (as hard as that is on my soul it is effective for a reason). Basically just act like you're interested (or actually be interested lol) in someone else and by talking about them with him around (pretending like you completely don't think he likes you ofc) he'll take the hint and be like oh she likes someone else. Idk if that's better but might work more in the situation?? That's a good idea! I might try that. I went last night, by the way. We weren't actually able to swim, and it was definitely not a date. We watched Phineas and Ferb with a group of friends. It was a fun time.
Condensation she/her Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 That's awesome. I like spending time with my friends, and Phineas and Ferb is top-notch.
DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 11 minutes ago, Condensation said: That's awesome. I like spending time with my friends, and Phineas and Ferb is top-notch. It was absolute prime time. One of the episodes we watched was "Act Your Age," the ten years later episode, so now I have "What Might Have Been" stuck in my head... Isabella: I could have been your girlfriend. Phineas: I could have been your fella. We could have been an item. I: They would have called us... Phinabella! P: I would have held the door for you, would have shared my umbrella. I: You could have held my hair back...when I was sick with salmonella. Other generations of Isabelle in harmony: SICK WITH SALMONELLAAAAAA! *actual tears stream down my face*
DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 2 minutes ago, Condensation said: I love that song! Me too! Even though it makes me sob. 1
theTruthshaper Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 Comedy and Music both peaked at Phineas and Ferb.
DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 1 minute ago, The_Truthwatcher said: Comedy and Music both peaked at Phineas and Ferb. ^ Facts. 1
Condensation she/her Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 Truth. I'm no Truthwatcher, but that is clear truth.
theTruthshaper Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 I did steal it from somewhere. My brain is but a conduit for the internet.
revelryintheart she/her Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 3 hours ago, The_Truthwatcher said: I did steal it from somewhere. My brain is but a conduit for the internet. Yeah I'm not funny I just steal things from the internet then people think I'm funny. 1
Ironwill2112 he/him Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 *says waaaaffles in an understanding way*
Condensation she/her Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 9 hours ago, revelryintheart said: Yeah I'm not funny I just steal things from the internet then people think I'm funny. 1
theTruthshaper Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 Just now, Condensation said: Can't relate. I never stop reading.
Honorless he/him Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 Some theme songs for the boys A positive "boys will be boys" song! Alongside "I was busy thinking about- Boys"
revelryintheart she/her Posted September 13, 2020 Posted September 13, 2020 You forgot the greatest: 1
Scout_Fox he/him Posted September 15, 2020 Posted September 15, 2020 Anddddd part two.... (tis a yoke) 2
Bearer of all agonies he/him Posted September 27, 2020 Posted September 27, 2020 You killed it! Noooo! I thought you were a pacifist!
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