Boys. Not ONLY boys, but... Boys.

[I Am A Fish he/him]

2 minutes ago, revelryintheart said:

I think this is for Wind

but there is that one guy simping for Fadran.....

I answer questions in my AMA..

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Really wanna revive it  

Though the best way to say no, involves a friends help...

Edited October 14, 2020 by I Am A Fish
I'm a literal con-fish

[DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns]

16 minutes ago, A Windrunner said:

Hmmm... good to know. Any other opinions? 

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Arise thread!

 

Develop feelings for her.
Not really. Feelings can't just change like that.

Umm...I'm not the greatest person to ask, I was in a very similar situation about a year and a half ago and my response was basically Fadran's first suggestion. I didn't talk to him all summer, went out of my way to completely avoid him, etc. I did try to let him know I wasn't interested by ranting about this guy I was obsessed with right to the first guys face. But then he was still giving me like hinting looks??? Not sure how to describe it. But I didn't want to say it straight out because some of our friends who were nearby at the time didn't know and I didn't want to make a huge scene. So I basically typed him up a personal invitation to the friendzone.

Whoops, this is supposed to be giving advice. Umm... ask for her advice with a girl that you do like (if you like anyone) and she'll kind of get the point. Don't act obvious about it, otherwise she'll feel like you are expressly full-on rejecting her. Just sincerely ask for advice, she'll probably give you some, and then she might go cry on her own time, but she'll get over it eventually and you can still be friends.

[Wind he/him]

2 minutes ago, DramaQueen said:

Develop feelings for her.
Not really. Feelings can't just change like that.

Umm...I'm not the greatest person to ask, I was in a very similar situation about a year and a half ago and my response was basically Fadran's first suggestion. I didn't talk to him all summer, went out of my way to completely avoid him, etc. I did try to let him know I wasn't interested by ranting about this guy I was obsessed with right to the first guys face. But then he was still giving me like hinting looks??? Not sure how to describe it. But I didn't want to say it straight out because some of our friends who were nearby at the time didn't know and I didn't want to make a huge scene. So I basically typed him up a personal invitation to the friendzone.

Whoops, this is supposed to be giving advice. Umm... ask for her advice with a girl that you do like (if you like anyone) and she'll kind of get the point. Don't act obvious about it, otherwise she'll feel like you are expressly full-on rejecting her. Just sincerely ask for advice, she'll probably give you some, and then she might go cry on her own time, but she'll get over it eventually and you can still be friends.

What if they are a random person you don't really know, and you don't like anyone?

Edited October 14, 2020 by A Windrunner

[Channelknight Fadran]

6 minutes ago, I Am A Fish said:

Does somebody like Fadran?

Poor poor soul...

Right?

2 minutes ago, DramaQueen said:

Develop feelings for her.
Not really. Feelings can't just change like that.

Umm...I'm not the greatest person to ask, I was in a very similar situation about a year and a half ago and my response was basically Fadran's first suggestion. I didn't talk to him all summer, went out of my way to completely avoid him, etc. I did try to let him know I wasn't interested by ranting about this guy I was obsessed with right to the first guys face. But then he was still giving me like hinting looks??? Not sure how to describe it. But I didn't want to say it straight out because some of our friends who were nearby at the time didn't know and I didn't want to make a huge scene. So I basically typed him up a personal invitation to the friendzone.

Whoops, this is supposed to be giving advice. Umm... ask for her advice with a girl that you do like (if you like anyone) and she'll kind of get the point. Don't act obvious about it, otherwise she'll feel like you are expressly full-on rejecting her. Just sincerely ask for advice, she'll probably give you some, and then she might go cry on her own time, but she'll get over it eventually and you can still be friends.

Do you need guy advice? Because I totally got guy advice for you.

[I Am A Fish he/him]

Or you can get one of her friends to tell her that you're not interested.

It will leave her feeling dead inside, but ya'know that's sometimes how it goes...

*War flashback scene*

Be nice, and really try not to make it awkward, either that or pull a friendzone, surprisingly people generally feel better hanging out with their crush, even if feelings are one way.

I say this from @Experience...

*Goes back to sobbing*

Edited October 14, 2020 by I Am A Fish
Go back to your drinks, fishy business.

[revelryintheart she/her]

1 minute ago, I Am A Fish said:

Or you can get one of her friends to tell her that you're not interested.

It will leave her feeling dead inside, but ya'know that's sometimes how it goes...

*War flashback scene*

Be nice, and really try not to make it awkward, either that or pull a friendzone, surprisingly people generally feel better hanging out with their crush, even if feelings are one way.

I say this from @Experience...

*Goes back to sobbing*

do fish have feelings

[I Am A Fish he/him]

Just now, revelryintheart said:

do fish have feelings

I. Don't. Want. To. Talk. About. It.

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Questions can be asked...

 

 

[Vapor she/her]

5 minutes ago, Channelknight Fadran said:

WHAT DO WE DO IF A GIRL LIKES US AND WE DON'T LIKE THEM BACK? HOW DO WE SAY NO WITHOUT BEING MEAN?

WHY IS THIS IN ALL CAPS?

Ooh this one's tricky. Tell her you hate her then run.

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Don't do that, even if it's true. (Also, why is it true?)

All joking aside, I think it would be best to either do what Queen said or to say "Hey, I know how you feel about me, and I don't feel the same. Could we just be friends?" or something like that. I'm not completely sure, as I am only thirteen and have never dated. But I've had to do that to a boy before.

[I Am A Fish he/him]

2 minutes ago, Vapor said:

Ooh this one's tricky. Tell her you hate her then run.

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Don't do that, even if it's true. (Also, why is it true?)

All joking aside, I think it would be best to either do what Queen said or to say "Hey, I know how you feel about me, and I don't feel the same. Could we just be friends?" or something like that. I'm not completely sure, as I am only thirteen and have never dated. But I've had to do that to a boy before.

Consider yourself lucky... Or maybe unlucky you've never had a guy into you?

Wind, find that girl. And say you hate her, then kiss her, and run.

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Mind games...

It's all about mind games...

 

[revelryintheart she/her]

Just now, I Am A Fish said:

Consider yourself lucky... Or maybe unlucky you've never had a guy into you?

Wind, find that girl. And say you hate her, then kiss her, and run.

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Mind games...

It's all about mind games...

 

but then you wouldn't be a part of the VL club

[Experience he/him]

14 minutes ago, I Am A Fish said:

I say this from @Experience...

Hmm. At first I read this as in I had told you this before, but I'm guessing thats not what you meant.  

So. Really, I think the best thing to do, @A Windrunner, especially because you don't know her, is just go on and don't worry about it. There really isn't much reason for you to do anything and I think it's probably just fine to go on with life and let it be. 

I may be wrong, but that's just my thoughts.

[I Am A Fish he/him]

Just now, Experience said:

Hmm. At first I read this as in I had told you this before, but I'm guessing thats not what you meant.  

So. Really, I think the best thing to do, @A Windrunner, especially because you don't know her, is just go on and don't worry about it. There really isn't much reason for you to do anything and I think it's probably just fine to go on with life and let it be. 

I may be wrong, but that's just my thoughts.

I was saying I know the thing from experience, as in having experienced it... 

Don't worry I'm doing it to cause @Frustration  

[Wind he/him]

Just now, Experience said:

Hmm. At first I read this as in I had told you this before, but I'm guessing thats not what you meant.  

So. Really, I think the best thing to do, @A Windrunner, especially because you don't know her, is just go on and don't worry about it. There really isn't much reason for you to do anything and I think it's probably just fine to go on with life and let it be. 

I may be wrong, but that's just my thoughts.

Thanks, what if there was another girl who you did know, and they liked you?

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This is hypothetical...

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It's not hypothetical.

 

 

[revelryintheart she/her]

what's with all of y'all and tons of people liking you as far as i know only one guy has ever liked me

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not that i even care

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because....y'know

 

 

[I Am A Fish he/him]

2 minutes ago, A Windrunner said:

Thanks, what if there was another girl who you did know, and they liked you?

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This is hypothetical...

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It's not hypothetical.

 

 

Make sure you get it across that you don't like her, either by telling her yourself, or getting a friend to do it.

Be chill, and don't make a big deal about it. 

Make it clear that you ARE NOT going to make a big deal about it.

Be nice to said person.

And don't screw up, like I do Every. Single. Storming. Time.

[Wind he/him]

3 minutes ago, revelryintheart said:

what's with all of y'all and tons of people liking you as far as i know only one guy has ever liked me

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not that i even care

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because....y'know

 

 

It's cause most of the boys around where I live are disrespectful jocs.

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Isn't it nice being a decent human being.

 

[DramaQueen she/he/neopronouns]

33 minutes ago, Channelknight Fadran said:

Do you need guy advice? Because I totally got guy advice for you.

No, not anymore. Like I said, it's been over a year since that happened. I've been crushless for about three months now, and I've never felt better!

[I Am A Fish he/him]

*Goes back to sobbing*

[Channelknight Fadran]

5 minutes ago, DramaQueen said:

No, not anymore. Like I said, it's been over a year since that happened. I've been crushless for about three months now, and I've never felt better!

I've been dateless for about six months now, and I've never felt worse!

[I Am A Fish he/him]

Just now, Channelknight Fadran said:

I've been dateless for about six months now, and I've never felt worse!

[Wind he/him]

I haven't liked anyone in nearly a year and I'm getting kinda sad.

 

[I Am A Fish he/him]

1 minute ago, A Windrunner said:

I haven't liked anyone in nearly a year and I'm getting kinda sad.

 

You gotta laugh away the pain.

Because it hurts...

[Wind he/him]

1 minute ago, I Am A Fish said:

You gotta laugh away the pain.

Because it hurts...

"hehe" *starts sobbing*

[I Am A Fish he/him]

Just now, A Windrunner said:

"hehe" *starts sobbing*

*Sniffle*

Hey that's my line!

*Keeps on sobbing*

[Condensation she/her]

1 hour ago, A Windrunner said:

Um, conversation to get the thread started, what do you do if a girl likes you, but you don't like her back?

Make sure she knows that you don't like her, and try to be her friend. She'll likely get over it, but it might take a little while, so don't push her. If you find out that you end up liking her, awkward! and also let her know, she'll ultimately be the one to tell.

1 hour ago, Matrim's Dice said:

This is actually a good plan.

Follow up question: Say that other girl is one you aren't attracted to. What do you do if she thinks you are?

Figure out what it is that makes her think you are attracted to her and stop. You don't need to tell her that you're not attracted to her, just stop.

1 hour ago, Channelknight Fadran said:

I know just who to ask...

@Condensation

Hello! Technically this should be on Ask Connie For Advice but whatever.

1 hour ago, revelryintheart said:

im aro and no nothing about romance byeeeeeeeee

edit: i mean to say "know nothing" but i think it's funny to leave it like this

cue annoyed condensation

 It's funny when you try to annoy me!

1 hour ago, A Windrunner said:

Thanks, what if there was another girl who you did know, and they liked you?

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This is hypothetical...

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It's not hypothetical.

 

 

See above. If you really need to, like she won't stop doing awkward stuff, it's okay to stop being friends.