Certified Gay Disasters

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

My grandpa gave me this  

He’s trying 

He’s great

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

6 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

My grandpa gave me this  

He’s trying 

He’s great

That’s nice

go him

[Keke They/he]

On 8/1/2025 at 11:46 PM, SpartanBrigade said:

My grandpa gave me this  

He’s trying 

He’s great

Awwww thats so sweeet

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

On 8/2/2025 at 12:46 AM, SpartanBrigade said:

My grandpa gave me this  

He’s trying 

He’s great

Awwww that’s great

I have a bookmark like that too

[Cinnamon]

On 8/2/2025 at 3:46 PM, SpartanBrigade said:

My grandpa gave me this  

He’s trying 

He’s great

So sweet! 

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Hello, disasters. I have a dilemma that I would like some help with. In eight days, my mom is going to an appointment with a doctor to talk about HRT, and it's possible that by the end of it I will have a proscription. However, as of right now, my mom is not completely sure about this (I am, though). I do believe that the doctor would argue in favor of starting estrogen, but I'm not sure she would convince my mom on her own.

One of her main concerns is fertility, and while I do not wish to have kids, and I've stated that if I did want kids, I would adopt them, she still seems concerned that my mind could change at some point.

The other concern she has is potential changes in the way I feel about sexuality, which I would be fine with, and would even welcome.

So I was wondering if any of you had any idea about anything I could tell her to sway her mind?

 

(She's not transphobic but storms she can be close-minded sometimes. I'll update you if anything changes, or if you have any questions.)

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Hello, disasters. I have a dilemma that I would like some help with. In eight days, my mom is going to an appointment with a doctor to talk about HRT, and it's possible that by the end of it I will have a proscription. However, as of right now, my mom is not completely sure about this (I am, though). I do believe that the doctor would argue in favor of starting estrogen, but I'm not sure she would convince my mom on her own.

One of her main concerns is fertility, and while I do not wish to have kids, and I've stated that if I did want kids, I would adopt them, she still seems concerned that my mind could change at some point.

The other concern she has is potential changes in the way I feel about sexuality, which I would be fine with, and would even welcome.

So I was wondering if any of you had any idea about anything I could tell her to sway her mind?

 

(She's not transphobic but storms she can be close-minded sometimes. I'll update you if anything changes, or if you have any questions.)

First off *hugs* second does she think the HRT/estrogen will make you not want kids? Also is there like a particular reason she’s concerned with your sexuality bc you could try to make sure she knows that your totally okay with your sexuality and it’s not gonna change bc you start HRT third and final thing *another hug* and I hope you get approved for it and your mom understands good luckkk

[Hmmm lies she/her]

21 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

First off *hugs* second does she think the HRT/estrogen will make you not want kids? Also is there like a particular reason she’s concerned with your sexuality bc you could try to make sure she knows that your totally okay with your sexuality and it’s not gonna change bc you start HRT third and final thing *another hug* and I hope you get approved for it and your mom understands good luckkk

For the first point, no, I already don't want kids, the concern she has is that going on hormones can make you infertile, and that I could later change my mind about wanting kids.

For the second, it's a little more complicated. It actually is possible that HRT can change ones sexuality, not necessarily in who you like, but usually how you like them (it's complicated I guess), but the argument I'm trying to make is that I wouldn't care if that happened, and would be fine with any changes that happen.

For the third: Thank you so muchhhh.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Hmmm lies said:

For the first point, no, I already don't want kids, the concern she has is that going on hormones can make you infertile, and that I could later change my mind about wanting kids.

For the second, it's a little more complicated. It actually is possible that HRT can change ones sexuality, not necessarily in who you like, but usually how you like them (it's complicated I guess), but the argument I'm trying to make is that I wouldn't care if that happened, and would be fine with any changes that happen.

For the third: Thank you so muchhhh.

Unfamiliar with the details, what is the likelihood of the hormones causing infertility?

Have you tried making that argument? (Not meaning to insult, just sometimes people don't catch the obvious arguments) Like could demonstrating that you are fully aware of the possible consequences and accept them help your case?

Also, *hugs* luck regardless

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

5 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

For the first point, no, I already don't want kids, the concern she has is that going on hormones can make you infertile, and that I could later change my mind about wanting kids.

For the second, it's a little more complicated. It actually is possible that HRT can change ones sexuality, not necessarily in who you like, but usually how you like them (it's complicated I guess), but the argument I'm trying to make is that I wouldn't care if that happened, and would be fine with any changes that happen.

For the third: Thank you so muchhhh.

ohhh I think I get it she’s just not understanding that like while those things matter to you it’s more important to you that you get this gender affirming treatment? Idk in this case I would try to make it clear to her that those things are secondary priorities and that in case you still do want children you can adopt. (Also I rly appreciate the details on all that I have been considering looking into the side affects of HRT as well)

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Eeee thanks for all the help everyone! I'll talk more when it's not so late, but I have part of an idea on how to refute her concerns.

I think communicating just how important it is to me would be a good idea, but I'm not quite sure how to do that, so let me know if you have ideas.

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

So...

Obergefell v. Hodges huh?

This isn't good

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

13 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

So...

Obergefell v. Hodges huh?

This isn't good

Who???

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

13 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

Who???

It was the court case legalizing gay/lesbian marriage in the US

And an anti-LGBTQ+ woman (stronger words than just "woman' needed) just requested that the Supreme Court review the case and overturn it on the grounds of religious freedom

And considering who the court justices are right now and the administration 

It doesn't look great

[Keke They/he]

50 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

So...

Obergefell v. Hodges huh?

This isn't good

 

37 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

Who???

Literally my honest reaction 

20 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

It was the court case legalizing gay/lesbian marriage in the US

And an anti-LGBTQ+ woman (stronger words than just "woman' needed) just requested that the Supreme Court review the case and overturn it on the grounds of religious freedom

And considering who the court justices are right now and the administration 

It doesn't look great

NO NO NOOOO

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

22 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

It was the court case legalizing gay/lesbian marriage in the US

And an anti-LGBTQ+ woman (stronger words than just "woman' needed) just requested that the Supreme Court review the case and overturn it on the grounds of religious freedom

And considering who the court justices are right now and the administration 

It doesn't look great

oh no your right that’s not great… do you perchance know where this “woman” lives… just curious 

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

6 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

oh no your right that’s not great… do you perchance know where this “woman” lives… just curious 

Kentucky 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

38 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Kentucky 

Heh lemme go pack my bags I’m headed to kentucky

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

2 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

It was the court case legalizing gay/lesbian marriage in the US

And an anti-LGBTQ+ woman (stronger words than just "woman' needed) just requested that the Supreme Court review the case and overturn it on the grounds of religious freedom

And considering who the court justices are right now and the administration 

It doesn't look great

WOULDN'T RELIGOUS FREEDOM ALOW THAT?

this is RUSTING INSANE

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

11 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

WOULDN'T RELIGOUS FREEDOM ALOW THAT?

this is RUSTING INSANE

Yeah it should but these Christian nationalists are in fact "Rusting insane"

And also they run our country
So
Yaay

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

2 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

It was the court case legalizing gay/lesbian marriage in the US

And an anti-LGBTQ+ woman (stronger words than just "woman' needed) just requested that the Supreme Court review the case and overturn it on the grounds of religious freedom

And considering who the court justices are right now and the administration 

It doesn't look great

WHAT THE ABSOLUTE *REDACTED*

16 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

WOULDN'T RELIGOUS FREEDOM ALOW THAT?

this is RUSTING INSANE

I mean...no, but the case doesn't even fall under religious freedom at all. The whole thing is so dumb

4 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Yeah it should but these Christian nationalists are in fact "Rusting insane"

And also they run our country
So
Yaay

Joy

[Hmmm lies she/her]

I don't think we're supposed to talk about politics here but just to make sure y'all are informed on exactly what could happen, I'll explain a little stuff. If this is overturned, gay marriage will still be legal in all states except: Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas, Georgia, Tennessee, Kentucky, Alabama, Iowa, Nebraska, South Dakota, North Dakota, Ohio, and Michigan

 

Does that still suck? Of course, it's horrible. But, not everyone knows the exact details, so just wanted to clear up the details.

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

3 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

I don't think we're supposed to talk about politics here but just to make sure y'all are informed on exactly what could happen, I'll explain a little stuff. If this is overturned, gay marriage will still be legal in all states except: Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas, Georgia, Tennessee, Kentucky, Alabama, Iowa, Nebraska, South Dakota, North Dakota, Ohio, and Michigan

 

Does that still suck? Of course, it's horrible. But, not everyone knows the exact details, so just wanted to clear up the details.

Either way
I have the right to get married if I want to, so does Kansas, so does everyone in the South

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

7 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

I don't think we're supposed to talk about politics here but just to make sure y'all are informed on exactly what could happen, I'll explain a little stuff. If this is overturned, gay marriage will still be legal in all states except: Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas, Georgia, Tennessee, Kentucky, Alabama, Iowa, Nebraska, South Dakota, North Dakota, Ohio, and Michigan

 

Does that still suck? Of course, it's horrible. But, not everyone knows the exact details, so just wanted to clear up the details.

Yay Arkansas...yay South...hip hip...nah

3 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Either way
I have the right to get married if I want to, so does Kansas, so does everyone in the South

Yeah at this point I just assume everything affects the South

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

But yeah skrry I got a bit carried away