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[momadrac they/them]

9 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

I have never really felt like a "girl" and I also feel like gender is used too often to objectify people or force them in a box

I kinda was fine with she/her and still am fine (thats a lie) but one day my enby friend referred to me as they/them because they do that for everyone and it sent me into a questioning rabbit hole

I dunno bottom line is that it feels better and I don't really have a connection to either femininity or masculinity

[Usseewa ✾ She♡They ✾]

On 7/14/2026 at 7:14 PM, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Sooooooo, I got a girlfriend...

Yay! Congrats, that's amazing :3

On 7/16/2026 at 1:25 AM, SpartanBrigade said:

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

Honeslty sometimes (and sometimes way more than "sometimes") I still question if I'm just making it up. I hope that isn't proof I am but... I've also had more moments lately where I felt like a girl and was happy about that, or thought of myself as one... But that's after realizing.

As more time goes on and I become more human and have more time to think, I think I'm more able to describe things better. So, if you asked me a month ago, or two months ago as someone did, I would've had.. a different answer- a less detailed one.

So I hope this new answer is true.

I don't really feel like I "figured it out," tbh, or at least I don't feel like I had a realization. More, I had a feeling for years, of someone I wanted to be. I don't think I ever wanted to be a... "stereotypical" guy, if such a thing exists. Honestly sometimes though, I might've made some efforts toward it... if only to fit in, or have something I could feel proud of, because others were? I don't know, I don't understand it yet.

But... I (think?) I had a lot of envy to... a certain vibe, and clothing style, hair styles, appearances, personalities, etc. I mean it was all mainly one.. but yeah. Idk if that makes sense.

I don't really know much of my feelings from like when i was young, but like i started secretly wanting to be different. I started doing it somewhat, or trying, but it was kinda hard idk. My hair didn't look right - though it started to eventually - and i could never find the right clothing I wanted.

Shopping for clothing was kinda either hellish or frustrating or numbing. Probably a good amount of numbing, tbh. Now I can't remember much of what it was like... oh well. Nearing the end of last year (I started questioning in January of this year), I just hated my clothing. I felt I had no style, it was boring, it was old, I hated it. I wanted "a style," I wanted clothing I loved. I tried shopping, kinda, but idk, there wasn't much I liked. I thought I liked something, but idk. Now I have clothes I adore that I actually feel good in and that I don't mind going out in public in.

Now, I usually love my hair (idk if it's weird or not but honestly a big part of everything is my hair..), when back then I kinda hated it, at least until it started getting more how I wanted.

I felt weird talking about women and men, girls and guys, especially when it came to attraction/crushes/attractiveness. I don't know.

I don't think I liked my body/facial hair either, and.. my body shape just felt wrong, at least I noticed that after I realized i was trans, idk if i did before.

I liked, online, when I did not have to tell anyone my pronouns, when I could just leave it blank or smth. I also envied people who used she/her pronouns... idk. I didn't like when the uncertainty dropped and I realized they just saw me as a guy- whether from assumption or something else. I... tried to make my language/typing style feminine? Or at least be aware of what that meant? To be honest I don't know if that had any basis in reality but.. yeah. Uhm.

I just wasn't satisfied... being seen as a guy, being one? I was disappointed... I think.

I wanted... *something.* Something about being a girl was just... it was what I wanted, though I was left out? Maybe. Reality disappointed me, though.

I don't know.

I didn't like my masculine characteristics being called attention to or pointed out.

And I so desperately wanted to meet s girl version of me- as a friend or girlfriend, I don't know. Now I think maybe I wanted to *be* a girl version of me...

sigh, i dont know.

 

I did feel out of place in queer groups, though. Like, "I'm not queer, right? So why are you accepting me?"

 

also what started questioning was uh small ill say later

 

edit: ok basically I just saw someone talk about being trans and i was like idk tbh i actually forget some of it but i just started wondering if i was... which is also part of why i doubt cuz then it could just be an anxiety thing or intrusive thoughts or something .....

Edited Saturday at 05:40 PM by Usseewa

[Aeoryi she/her]

On 7/15/2026 at 10:25 PM, SpartanBrigade said:

How did you all figure out you were trans?
Hypothetically speaking 
Don’t get any ideas

basically I realized that a lot of the things I had been doing for years lined up with behavior of repressed trans people and I decided to give it a spin

a lot of experimentation online helped a bit

On 7/16/2026 at 8:06 AM, Hmmm lies said:

I was thinking about gender expression, and realized I'd rather dress as a girl. I thought I was a femboy for a day, before waking up the next morning, thinking about my gender, and realized I was just completely a girl.

also I kinda knew this but never acted on it

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

1 hour ago, Aeoryi said:

basically I realized that a lot of the things I had been doing for years lined up with behavior of repressed trans people and I decided to give it a spin

a lot of experimentation online helped a bit

also I kinda knew this but never acted on it

Whoa

Cool new PFP

[Aeoryi she/her]

4 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Whoa

Cool new PFP

yeah

[Akimikoisthecutest]

On 7/16/2026 at 6:57 AM, Ink and Embers said:

Awesome!!!!! I hope you're really happy together!!!!!

her parents found out I am trans, and now we can't see each other

[Aeoryi she/her]

36 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

her parents found out I am trans, and now we can't see each other

noooooo

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

3 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

her parents found out I am trans, and now we can't see each other

NOOOOO

Fck transphobes