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[Mestiv he/him]

How the hell is she not at the hospital right now? O.o she should have a peacekeeper installed on her heart or something!

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

@Silverblade5 Should we send the cards to ur email? Or should we not send them at all?

[marsoupial they/them]

Next time this happens, couldn't you call 9-1-1?

[Silverblade5 he/him]

5 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

@Silverblade5 Should we send the cards to ur email? Or should we not send them at all?

Pm them to me

1 hour ago, bleeder said:

Next time this happens, couldn't you call 9-1-1?

I'd been unaware that it'd stopped at the time. The only way I'd know if if I checked her pulse and didn't feel anything. She's normally waking up by that point.

[Delightful]

3 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Pm them to me

I'd been unaware that it'd stopped at the time. The only way I'd know if if I checked her pulse and didn't feel anything. She's normally waking up by that point.

She should call 9-11 when she feels it starting. Heart skipping beats is something you want medical observation on. 

Silverblade, it's also important that you look after yourself emotionally and mentally. By being he friend, which is awesome, you're also under a lot of stress yourself, and it's ok the recognise that. Be there when she needs you but make sure you have time for yourself when she doesn't. And I'd say feeling powerless is pretty normal, you don't need to feel guilty too. You shouldn't feel guilty. You are being a fantastic compassionate friend. 

(Also when someone just wants to know you're there, blab about the colour of the sky if you have to. Talk nonsense if you have nothing to say) 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

 Alexander, this is Alex's mom. I am sorry but everything Alex has been saying is not true. She was just trying to find ways to talk to you. I am working with her on different ways she can communicate. Thank you, Carrie 

 

@TwiLyghtSansSparklesOn a scale from one to ten, how shocked should I be that this happened?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

3 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

 Alexander, this is Alex's mom. I am sorry but everything Alex has been saying is not true. She was just trying to find ways to talk to you. I am working with her on different ways she can communicate. Thank you, Carrie 

 

@TwiLyghtSansSparklesOn a scale from one to ten, how shocked should I be that this happened?

Assuming that 1 means "Not shocked at all" and 10 means "absolutely flabbergasted," I'd say you should be a -4. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

1 minute ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Assuming that 1 means "Not shocked at all" and 10 means "absolutely flabbergasted," I'd say you should be a -4. 

Noted

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Silverblade5 said:

Noted

Just assume that, when her parents try to tell you that she's lying, they're lying to save face. "Working with her on different ways she can communicate" probably means "accusing her of stretching the truth and fabricating a medical condition to make her poor, poor parents look bad." Don't trust this woman. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

2 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Just assume that, when her parents try to tell you that she's lying, they're lying to save face. "Working with her on different ways she can communicate" probably means "accusing her of stretching the truth and fabricating a medical condition to make her poor, poor parents look bad." Don't trust this woman. 

On the other hand...I'm sorry, but if her heart is actually stopping randomly, there's no way the hospital would release her without massive testing and observation. 

Edited To Add:  That's not to say there isn't genuinely stuff going on with her.  I think she's definitely got some mental health issues that need treatment, and it is absolutely her parents' responsibility to make sure she gets that help.  But there are also definitely pieces of her story that aren't adding up.

 

And now one of my own:

My husband's uncle has been diagnosed with non Hodgkin's lymphoma.  The docs are talking chemotherapy, which would indicate that it's a more aggressive form.

Edited November 3, 2016 by Kaymyth

[Silverblade5 he/him]

So, I had a talk with my friend today. Her mom confiscated her phone. She gave an apology for lying about her heart stopping and for faking her blackouts. The first one, I can kind of believe the first, but faking a feint when on the edge of a staircase is something that just isn't done. 

[Delightful]

1 hour ago, Silverblade5 said:

So, I had a talk with my friend today. Her mom confiscated her phone. She gave an apology for lying about her heart stopping and for faking her blackouts. The first one, I can kind of believe the first, but faking a feint when on the edge of a staircase is something that just isn't done. 

Regardless of wether the blackouts are real, she's crying for help. Something's up. 

[ThirdGen]

7 hours ago, Delightful said:

Regardless of wether the blackouts are real, she's crying for help. Something's up. 

Definitely.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I just finished talking with my new girlfriend about exactly why she shouldn't kill herself. It came down to me stating that I couldn't her choose her actions for her, and that I'd talk to her again at school tomorrow.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

1 hour ago, Silverblade5 said:

I just finished talking with my new girlfriend about exactly why she shouldn't kill herself. It came down to me stating that I couldn't her choose her actions for her, and that I'd talk to her again at school tomorrow.

I'm not sure if that was the right thing to say, I guess it was alright, seeing as you gave her a reason to fight till tomorrow. You shouldn't have stopped it so abruptly, she needs you Silver.

16 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

 Alexander, this is Alex's mom. I am sorry but everything Alex has been saying is not true. She was just trying to find ways to talk to you. I am working with her on different ways she can communicate. Thank you, Carrie 

 

@TwiLyghtSansSparklesOn a scale from one to ten, how shocked should I be that this happened?

How bad can these people get. Ok people, I vow from now on, never to complain about my parents.

[marsoupial they/them]

5 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

I just finished talking with my new girlfriend about exactly why she shouldn't kill herself. It came down to me stating that I couldn't her choose her actions for her, and that I'd talk to her again at school tomorrow.

So, did she only do all this to get closer to you, or what? I'm not being critical, I'm just uber-confused.

3 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

I'm not sure if that was the right thing to say, I guess it was alright, seeing as you gave her a reason to fight till tomorrow. You shouldn't have stopped it so abruptly, she needs you Silver.

How bad can these people get. Ok people, I vow from now on, never to complain about my parents.

Hey, man. We all have troubles. Just because some of them seem more imminent doesn't mean that not all of them are important.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Alright, I had another talk wit her, and I learned a few things. I was able to get her to vent at me a little, so that's good. She's the one her friends generally go to with they're problems for venting. SHe has a habit of building up walls, and has been hurt every time in the past when she's tried to let them down. I believe I'm breaking them down bit by bit. Oh, and her step father is apparently the kind of person who tells a child that her bio father didn't love her because he ran off to have another kid with another woman. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

23 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Alright, I had another talk wit her, and I learned a few things. I was able to get her to vent at me a little, so that's good. She's the one her friends generally go to with they're problems for venting. SHe has a habit of building up walls, and has been hurt every time in the past when she's tried to let them down. I believe I'm breaking them down bit by bit. Oh, and her step father is apparently the kind of person who tells a child that her bio father didn't love her because he ran off to have another kid with another woman. 

Why are you trying to break down the walls. They are a necessary survival instinct, unless you think it's safe of course. I build a wall between me and yesterday everyday, because it's easier. Makes me happier. 

Oh wait, your not intentionally breaking them sorry.

Her step-father sounds like a drunk as well. This analogy may offend, but the more and more I hear about all this I can't help but relate her life to a sewer, with her parents dumping more and more into it.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Why are you trying to break down the walls. They are a necessary survival instinct, unless you think it's safe of course. I build a wall between me and yesterday everyday, because it's easier. Makes me happier. 

Yes, but when you wall yourself off from others, everything that's making your life awful just keeps piling up. To continue with your sewer analogy, if she's walling herself off from other people, then the raw sewage her parents are dumping into her life isn't going to go away. It's going to keep filling her room, and eventually she's going to drown. When one of the walls gets a hole, some of that sewage can spill out, making the deluge more manageable. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

3 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Yes, but when you wall yourself off from others, everything that's making your life awful just keeps piling up. To continue with your sewer analogy, if she's walling herself off from other people, then the raw sewage her parents are dumping into her life isn't going to go away. It's going to keep filling her room, and eventually she's going to drown. When one of the walls gets a hole, some of that sewage can spill out, making the deluge more manageable. 

that, makes sense, but what if it's like breaking a dam open?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

that, makes sense, but what if it's like breaking a dam open?

If it's a dam holding back raw sewage, then what seems like a disaster in the short run will be best in the long run. Better if she gets it out of her system all at once than not at all. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

3 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

If it's a dam holding back raw sewage, then what seems like a disaster in the short run will be best in the long run. Better if she gets it out of her system all at once than not at all. 

what if she drowns in the onslaught?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

5 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

what if she drowns in the onslaught?

I can't say this with certainty, but I have a feeling she'll survive. 

When it happened to me, it was more like….you know how on Inside Out, Riley finally starts to recover when she lets Sadness touch all of her memories of Minnesota? For me, the same thing happened with Anger. I'd spent so long convincing myself that I had no right or reason to be angry about anything my parents had done to me, and when I finally let Anger come in and touch all of those memories, it was like I'd finally gained a sense of power over my life. I was angry for a while—everything irritated me, and there were many moments when I could barely stand to be around Twimom—but eventually the rush of it faded and I was left feeling more in control and confident. 

I don't know what it'll look like for this girl. I don't know what emotion will need to come in and touch all of her memories, but when she finally lets herself feel all of the things she's been forbidden to feel, I think it's going to start her down the path to recovery. It won't be an easy road, but it'll be quicker than she thinks. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

2 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I can't say this with certainty, but I have a feeling she'll survive. 

When it happened to me, it was more like….you know how on Inside Out, Riley finally starts to recover when she lets Sadness touch all of her memories of Minnesota? For me, the same thing happened with Anger. I'd spent so long convincing myself that I had no right or reason to be angry about anything my parents had done to me, and when I finally let Anger come in and touch all of those memories, it was like I'd finally gained a sense of power over my life. I was angry for a while—everything irritated me, and there were many moments when I could barely stand to be around Twimom—but eventually the rush of it faded and I was left feeling more in control and confident. 

I don't know what it'll look like for this girl. I don't know what emotion will need to come in and touch all of her memories, but when she finally lets herself feel all of the things she's been forbidden to feel, I think it's going to start her down the path to recovery. It won't be an easy road, but it'll be quicker than she thinks. 

I've never watched inside out.  but I was, and still am, kinda like that. But it's more like a twisted happiness. I can't hold on to emotions like sadness and anger. Yes, I've felt them, in brutal bursts of me and I am ashamed to admit it, me imaging myself beating my dad up and saying, you like that don't you, you like that now. I can't help but be happy on the outside. I don't think anyone in RL suspects who I really am :/

It won't be an easy road, no it won't. But life will become better for her, I feel like McGonaggal right now, swearing to Harry that she will try for all her might that he will become an Auror, except this way, we're trying to help this person out of the sewer. I sincerely hope it will be quick for her. I believe I can let go of everything that has happened to me, but it won't be quick I don't think so. Storms take us, we will be there for her, or at least Silver will.

[Briar King]

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