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[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

8 hours ago, Delightful said:

Am I the only one who didn't really get The Breakfast Club? It just didn't do anything emotional for me.

Twi, firstly, there are some wonderful people in the world who absolutely love having guests over, and you make their holiday significantly better by being there. So if you can find someone like that, no need to feel guilty!

You could also look for other people without family who are getting together for Christmas, is there, like, I dunno, a New Orleans singles Facebook group? Are there other singles who work with you at the library? Or you could start a Christmas dinner (lunch? breakfast?) group and invite other people who might be lonely and make friends that way! Or at least, put up posters in the library asking for interest in the idea? I'm sure you're not the only one without local family. Put "love of pugs a bonus" and maybe Bruce can find a good friend too!

 

.....Ok I don't know if i'd be brave enough to do that myself. But its an idea. I'd definitely keep eyes are ears open for opportunities.

The thought occurred to me, but my apartment is pretty small. My couch can seat two and the chair can seat one, but I'd either have to ask someone to bring a folding table or set out the dishes on my bed, since I've been using a plastic storage bin as a table; and even if did use my bed as a buffet line, Bruce is allowed on all the furniture, so I'd have to watch him or leash him, lest he help himself while we were saying grace (or "Nitwit! Oddment! Blubber! Tweak!" or whatever else we decided to say). 

So. Yeah. Studio apartments = not good for entertaining.  

7 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

Making friends usually starts with finding similar interests.  A lot of gaming stores have open board game nights, and they tend to be highly populated with geeks of many stripes.  Go find one that happens on a night you can make it, learn some new games, and make some new friends.

I don't know what my interests are, though.  I'll try a game night, if I can, but I don't know that I'll be any good at them. 

 

Thanks for all the support, by the way. It really helped.  

Edited September 18, 2016 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Oversleep]

38 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

 I'll try a game night, if I can, but I don't know that I'll be any good at them.

Playing games is not only about winning... or to put it into more cosmere words: Journey before destination

Edited September 18, 2016 by Oversleep

[marsoupial they/them]

2 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

The thought occurred to me, but my apartment is pretty small. My couch can seat two and the chair can seat one, but I'd either have to ask someone to bring a folding table or set out the dishes on my bed, since I've been using a plastic storage bin as a table; and even if did use my bed as a buffet line, Bruce is allowed on all the furniture, so I'd have to watch him or leash him, lest he help himself while we were saying grace (or "Nitwit! Oddment! Blubber! Tweak!" or whatever else we decided to say). 

So. Yeah. Studio apartments = not good for entertaining.  

I don't know what my interests are, though.  I'll try a game night, if I can, but I don't know that I'll be any good at them. 

 

Thanks for all the support, by the way. It really helped.  

 

That...actually sounds fun. 

Nice Dumbledore reference.

Quality of entertaining really depends on the entertain-ees.

And I'm glad it helped! We're here for you anytime, Twi!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

14 minutes ago, bleeder said:

 

That...actually sounds fun. 

Nice Dumbledore reference.

Quality of entertaining really depends on the entertain-ees.

And I'm glad it helped! We're here for you anytime, Twi!

"The year we managed to squeeze eight people into a studio apartment and sat around telling dirty jokes about the moon* while a pug helped himself to the mashed potatoes"….there are worse ways to remember a holiday.  

Thank you.  

*One free internet cookie for anyone who gets that reference.  

[Kaymyth she/her]

4 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

The thought occurred to me, but my apartment is pretty small. My couch can seat two and the chair can seat one, but I'd either have to ask someone to bring a folding table or set out the dishes on my bed, since I've been using a plastic storage bin as a table; and even if did use my bed as a buffet line, Bruce is allowed on all the furniture, so I'd have to watch him or leash him, lest he help himself while we were saying grace (or "Nitwit! Oddment! Blubber! Tweak!" or whatever else we decided to say). 

So. Yeah. Studio apartments = not good for entertaining.  

I don't know what my interests are, though.  I'll try a game night, if I can, but I don't know that I'll be any good at them. 

 

Thanks for all the support, by the way. It really helped.  

Your interests?  Gee, let me see...

Books

Harry Potter

Sanderson

Buffy

More books

You're a librarian, ALL THE BOOKS

Marvel movies

Costumes

Fanfic

Edited September 18, 2016 by Kaymyth

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Kaymyth said:

Your interests?  Gee, let me see...

Books

Sanderson

Buffy

More books

You're a librarian, ALL THE BOOKS

Marvel movies

Costumes

Fanfic

Putting up with teenagers and foreign strangers on a forum website for a fandom that no one's ever heard of

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Your interests?  Gee, let me see...

Books

Harry Potter

Sanderson

Buffy

More books

You're a librarian, ALL THE BOOKS

Marvel movies

Costumes

Fanfic

 

1 minute ago, bleeder said:

Putting up with teenagers and foreign strangers on a forum website for a fandom that no one's ever heard of

Then there's also things like...

Pugs 

WWII

20th century history in general 

Cooking 

WTNV

Armchair philosophy (though, oddly enough, not the philosophy of armchairs) 

So I guess maybe it's not that I don't know what my interests are so much as I have all of these weird interests that don't really gel into a complete identity. Like having a plate of fried chicken, and a side of spaghetti, and another side of stuffed grape leaves, and a dish of cranberry relish, and a rhubarb pie with hot chocolate and baklava. There's all of these things that are delicious on their own, but they don't really go together as a meal. 

[marsoupial they/them]

10 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

 

Then there's also things like...

Pugs 

WWII

20th century history in general 

Cooking 

WTNV

Armchair philosophy (though, oddly enough, not the philosophy of armchairs) 

So I guess maybe it's not that I don't know what my interests are so much as I have all of these weird interests that don't really gel into a complete identity. Like having a plate of fried chicken, and a side of spaghetti, and another side of stuffed grape leaves, and a dish of cranberry relish, and a rhubarb pie with hot chocolate and baklava. There's all of these things that are delicious on their own, but they don't really go together as a meal. 

So all we need to do is find a fandom-loving, artistic, foodie, Freudian, introverted history buff with a penchant for pugs. And you're all set!

But seriously, Twi, any guy would be crazy not to be crazy for you. You're awesome!

Edited September 18, 2016 by bleeder

[Kaymyth she/her]

Just now, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

 

Then there's also things like...

Pugs 

WWII

20th century history in general 

Cooking 

WTNV

Armchair philosophy (though, oddly enough, not the philosophy of armchairs) 

So I guess maybe it's not that I don't know what my interests are so much as I have all of these weird interests that don't really gel into a complete identity. Like having a plate of fried chicken, and a side of spaghetti, and another side of stuffed grape leaves, and a dish of cranberry relish, and a rhubarb pie with hot chocolate and baklava. There's all of these things that are delicious on their own, but they don't really go together as a meal. 

Ah, but your interests are not your identity.  They're just things you like to do and/or talk about.  Your identity is so much more than that; who a person is just happens to be too complex to break down into an easily categorizeable set of things.  That's why getting to know someone takes time.  And how even after 5 years of marriage, I can ask my husband a question (you know the one, Twi) and get exactly the opposite answer I was expecting.

[Edgedancer he/him]

2 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

 

Then there's also things like...

Pugs 

WWII

20th century history in general 

Cooking 

WTNV

Armchair philosophy (though, oddly enough, not the philosophy of armchairs) 

So I guess maybe it's not that I don't know what my interests are so much as I have all of these weird interests that don't really gel into a complete identity. Like having a plate of fried chicken, and a side of spaghetti, and another side of stuffed grape leaves, and a dish of cranberry relish, and a rhubarb pie with hot chocolate and baklava. There's all of these things that are delicious on their own, but they don't really go together as a meal. 

I object, as far as people go you are highly delicious. People's interest are more like a multiple course meal than a single plate, so being varied is a good thing.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

7 minutes ago, bleeder said:

So all we need to do is find a fandom-loving, artistic, foodie, Freudian, introverted history buff with a penchant for pugs. And you're all set!

But, Twi, any guy would be crazy not to be crazy for you. You're awesome!

Thanks.  

6 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Ah, but your interests are not your identity.  They're just things you like to do and/or talk about.  Your identity is so much more than that; who a person is just happens to be too complex to break down into an easily categorizeable set of things.  That's why getting to know someone takes time.  And how even after 5 years of marriage, I can ask my husband a question (you know the one, Twi) and get exactly the opposite answer I was expecting.

Too complex for even me to figure out, apparently. I know that people aren't labels, and I don't want to be the kind of person who's obsessed with them, but I don't even know the sort of labels I would wear if I were. I know some things that I value, but so far as worldview and identity go, I'm at the "flail my arms wildly and shout 'I DON'T KNOW, STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS, I'M NOT WEIRD YOU'RE WEIRD' and run screaming into the nearest donut shop" stage. 

5 minutes ago, Edgedancer said:

I object, as far as people go you are highly delicious. People's interest are more like a multiple course meal than a single plate, so being varied is a good thing.

That's true. One-note people aren't very interesting. Especially if that one note is "I'm a soil scientist and I like dirt." 

[Kaymyth she/her]

16 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Thanks.  

Too complex for even me to figure out, apparently. I know that people aren't labels, and I don't want to be the kind of person who's obsessed with them, but I don't even know the sort of labels I would wear if I were. I know some things that I value, but so far as worldview and identity go, I'm at the "flail my arms wildly and shout 'I DON'T KNOW, STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS, I'M NOT WEIRD YOU'RE WEIRD' and run screaming into the nearest donut shop" stage. 

That's true. One-note people aren't very interesting. Especially if that one note is "I'm a soil scientist and I like dirt." 

What you are feeling is perfectly normal.  Welcome to the standard issue human quarter-life crisis.

(And seriously, barring unexpected contact with the Vorlons, nobody is going to be asking, "Who are you?" and expecting you to come up with an all-encompassing answer.)

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

What you are feeling is perfectly normal.  Welcome to the standard issue human quarter-life crisis.

(And seriously, barring unexpected contact with the Vorlons, nobody is going to be asking, "Who are you?" and expecting you to come up with an all-encompassing answer.)

At least it's normal, I guess. It's still kind of unnerving, waking up and going "Oh Great Noodly One, I've been living a lie! I hate my clothes! I need a tattoo! And who put that topiary in here?"  

Though if someone did ask "Who are you?" I might just do what Mushu does: 

 

[Briar King]

I'm trying to put vids up on YouTube from my PS4 for 1st time. I can log in lnto YouTube but when I try to create channel and it asks for 1st/last name I can't type one single letter in tab on my phone, PC or PS4. What is going on smart people?? I'm not tech savvy and getting hella mad right now.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

16 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

"I'm a soil scientist and I like dirt." 

AHA! MLP reference! Pinkie's sister am I right? OOOR am I RIGHT?

13 hours ago, Briar King said:

I'm trying to put vids up on YouTube from my PS4 for 1st time. I can log in lnto YouTube but when I try to create channel and it asks for 1st/last name I can't type one single letter in tab on my phone, PC or PS4. What is going on smart people?? I'm not tech savvy and getting hella mad right now.

Huh, try again in a month, best I can say (jk) I recommend checking the FAQ or sending google some questions, or troubleshooting it.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

After not seeing them since I last treated for them, the fleas are back. 

Those foul cretins are back. 

I WILL NOT GO QUIETLY INTO THAT ITCHY NIGHT

THIS IS WAR, YOU HEAR ME?

WAR

[Elsecaller3414 she/her]

Those times where people ask for your opinion in a survey and you agree, and then they tell you you don't qualify for the survey, even though you are a member of whatever society is surveying... >:(

[Quiver he/him]

This is going to be the third day this week I'm going to work with only about four hours sleep under my belt.

Urgh.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

7 hours ago, Quiver said:

This is going to be the third day this week I'm going to work with only about four hours sleep under my belt.

Urgh.

That's not fun.  Why no sleep? 

My bad day: Last night, a lady came up to the desk, wanting me to print out approximately 15 separate jobs for her. Since the computer doesn't tally the total automatically, I had to add them up by hand. Standard annoyance, nothing huge….except for the fact that she was loudly sucking on a piece of hard candy the whole time.  It was so bad that I actually had to start over more than once, and I seriously considered asking her to step away from the desk because I couldn't concentrate. The worst part? She came up to the desk four minutes before close, so I couldn't even access her jobs to print them when the system booted me off. So she's coming back. The jobs stay in the system for 24 hours, so she'll be back today and I really, really, really hope she doesn't come in when I'm on the desk, because I legit might lose it over her horrible smacking lips. 

#misophoniasucksyouguys

[Edgedancer he/him]

22 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

That's not fun.  Why no sleep? 

My bad day: Last night, a lady came up to the desk, wanting me to print out approximately 15 separate jobs for her. Since the computer doesn't tally the total automatically, I had to add them up by hand. Standard annoyance, nothing huge….except for the fact that she was loudly sucking on a piece of hard candy the whole time.  It was so bad that I actually had to start over more than once, and I seriously considered asking her to step away from the desk because I couldn't concentrate. The worst part? She came up to the desk four minutes before close, so I couldn't even access her jobs to print them when the system booted me off. So she's coming back. The jobs stay in the system for 24 hours, so she'll be back today and I really, really, really hope she doesn't come in when I'm on the desk, because I legit might lose it over her horrible smacking lips. 

#misophoniasucksyouguys

Any chance you can add them up in advance, just in case?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

1 minute ago, Edgedancer said:

Any chance you can add them up in advance, just in case?

I still remember her total, and I can double check it when I get there--assuming she hasn't been by yet. So that'll cut down on the amount of time I have to spend with her. 

[Edgedancer he/him]

1 minute ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I still remember her total, and I can double check it when I get there--assuming she hasn't been by yet. So that'll cut down on the amount of time I have to spend with her. 

Small mercies I suppose.

[Sunbird she/her]

On 9/22/2016 at 6:45 AM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

My bad day: Last night, a lady came up to the desk, wanting me to print out approximately 15 separate jobs for her. Since the computer doesn't tally the total automatically, I had to add them up by hand. Standard annoyance, nothing huge….except for the fact that she was loudly sucking on a piece of hard candy the whole time.  It was so bad that I actually had to start over more than once, and I seriously considered asking her to step away from the desk because I couldn't concentrate. The worst part? She came up to the desk four minutes before close, so I couldn't even access her jobs to print them when the system booted me off. So she's coming back. The jobs stay in the system for 24 hours, so she'll be back today and I really, really, really hope she doesn't come in when I'm on the desk, because I legit might lose it over her horrible smacking lips. 

#misophoniasucksyouguys

Misophonia DOES suck.

I had a similar experience when I was in the pit orchestra for a musical one year in high school. We rehearsed for like 3-4 hours after school every day, and one day our band director decided it would be a good idea if he sucked on a Tootsie Pop during rehearsal. That was one of the most difficult evenings of my life because he, too, was smacking his lips loudly and constantly. I was literally trying not to break down in tears by the end of the night. If it had been another student being obnoxious with a sucker, I would have asked them to please try to eat it more quietly, but my band director was not the kind of guy who would take kindly to that sort of request. (When I tried to back out of being in the pit orchestra after I found out that one of the performances was at the same time as my church services, he threatened to kick me off of the marching band's planned trip to New York City in the spring without a refund if I didn't stay.)

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

6 hours ago, Sunbird said:

Misophonia DOES suck.

I had a similar experience when I was in the pit orchestra for a musical one year in high school. We rehearsed for like 3-4 hours after school every day, and one day our band director decided it would be a good idea if he sucked on a Tootsie Pop during rehearsal. That was one of the most difficult evenings of my life because he, too, was smacking his lips loudly and constantly. I was literally trying not to break down in tears by the end of the night. If it had been another student being obnoxious with a sucker, I would have asked them to please try to eat it more quietly, but my band director was not the kind of guy who would take kindly to that sort of request. (When I tried to back out of being in the pit orchestra after I found out that one of the performances was at the same time as my church services, he threatened to kick me off of the marching band's planned trip to New York City in the spring without a refund if I didn't stay.)

I feel this so much. 

At my previous place of employment, we had a big dish that was filled first with peppermints and then, when Costco stopped carrying them, Jolly Ranchers. They were the bane of my existence. I had one or two coworkers who'd smack them, and if it was just them and there was nothing I had to do at the moment, I'd forward the phone and go to the back under the pretense of fetching more office supplies. But if it was a customer…..well, I just had to suffer through it. One night near Christmas, someone had put out some chocolates. I have food sensitivities, so I didn't eat any, but a customer came in after close and helped herself to a caramel…..

*eye twitch* 

I am not ashamed to say I hid the box.  

[Delightful]

7 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I feel this so much. 

At my previous place of employment, we had a big dish that was filled first with peppermints and then, when Costco stopped carrying them, Jolly Ranchers. They were the bane of my existence. I had one or two coworkers who'd smack them, and if it was just them and there was nothing I had to do at the moment, I'd forward the phone and go to the back under the pretense of fetching more office supplies. But if it was a customer…..well, I just had to suffer through it. One night near Christmas, someone had put out some chocolates. I have food sensitivities, so I didn't eat any, but a customer came in after close and helped herself to a caramel…..

*eye twitch* 

I am not ashamed to say I hid the box.  

Isn't  soft chocolate better than hard sweets re noise?