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[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

3 minutes ago, Delightful said:

Isn't  soft chocolate better than hard sweets re noise?

Not if you chew it with your mouth open and make a loud smacking noise every time you use your tongue to clean caramel from your teeth and the corners of your mouth.  

(Seriously, there is no guarantee when it comes to food. When I worked at Penney's, a woman's daughter brought a banana up to my register. I still shudder thinking about the noises she made. And at my previous job, I had a coworker who would make loud smacking noises while cleaning stray food from his mouth with his tongue while his mouth was wide open….yes, it was just as disgusting as it sounds.) 

 

[Delightful]

5 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Not if you chew it with your mouth open and make a loud smacking noise every time you use your tongue to clean caramel from your teeth and the corners of your mouth.  

(Seriously, there is no guarantee when it comes to food. When I worked at Penney's, a woman's daughter brought a banana up to my register. I still shudder thinking about the noises she made. And at my previous job, I had a coworker who would make loud smacking noises while cleaning stray food from his mouth with his tongue while his mouth was wide open….yes, it was just as disgusting as it sounds.) 

 

Mouth wide open is plain rude regardless of wether .....i forgot what its called....your thing where these types of noises bother you. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just now, Delightful said:

Mouth wide open is plain rude regardless of wether .....i forgot what its called....your thing where these types of noises bother you. 

Misophonia. 

What's really aggravating about the whole thing is that if I tell someone "Hey, please chew with your mouth closed, you're making loud noises and it's making it hard for me to concentrate," chances are good they'd find it funny to smack their food louder. Twidad has done that—he was smacking his lips on frozen cherries, somehow or another he saw I was uncomfortable, and when I told him why, he leaned over until he was right up against my ear and sucked on his fingers one by one, making a loud smacking noise each time. 

Somehow, my moving to the other end of the sofa was more offensive than what he did. #Twidadlogic  

[marsoupial they/them]

3 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Misophonia. 

What's really aggravating about the whole thing is that if I tell someone "Hey, please chew with your mouth closed, you're making loud noises and it's making it hard for me to concentrate," chances are good they'd find it funny to smack their food louder. Twidad has done that—he was smacking his lips on frozen cherries, somehow or another he saw I was uncomfortable, and when I told him why, he leaned over until he was right up against my ear and sucked on his fingers one by one, making a loud smacking noise each time. 

Somehow, my moving to the other end of the sofa was more offensive than what he did. #Twidadlogic  

That's terrible. Twiparents don't sound like folks I'd get along with.

[Sunbird she/her]

@bleeder I wouldn't get along with people who take pleasure in tormenting their children either. (Or in tormenting anyone else, for that matter. I have no tolerance for bullies of any kind.)

[Kaymyth she/her]

3 hours ago, bleeder said:

That's terrible. Twiparents don't sound like folks I'd get along with.

Twiparents are generally awful people.  You haven't been around for the worst of the saga, but if you go back and peruse through the early iterations of the Bad Day thread and through the reams and reams of Random Stuff threads, you'll find most of it.

That's an awful lot of reading, though.  You might want to take some snacks if you attempt it.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

11 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Twiparents are generally awful people.  You haven't been around for the worst of the saga, but if you go back and peruse through the early iterations of the Bad Day thread and through the reams and reams of Random Stuff threads, you'll find most of it.

That's an awful lot of reading, though.  You might want to take some snacks if you attempt it.

I might be able to summarize it, but a lot of it was written in the moment, so I don't remember exactly what I wrote as I wrote it then, and I might leave something out. 

So, yeah, bring snacks. 

[Delightful]

The tl;dr version is: Twi moved out of home which was a wonderful decision, none of us like her parents. 

[marsoupial they/them]

2 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I might be able to summarize it, but a lot of it was written in the moment, so I don't remember exactly what I wrote as I wrote it then, and I might leave something out. 

So, yeah, bring snacks. 

I've got time (and popcorn). 

I'd welcome a story to lend some context, if you're cool with telling it. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

1 hour ago, bleeder said:

I've got time (and popcorn). 

I'd welcome a story to lend some context, if you're cool with telling it. 

Certainly. Let me think about what all to include—because if I were to recount the entire Twiparent Saga, I could honestly go back to my childhood—but I wouldn't mind lending context. Should I post it here, or send it in a PM? 

[Assassin in Burgundy he/him]

5 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Certainly. Let me think about what all to include—because if I were to recount the entire Twiparent Saga, I could honestly go back to my childhood—but I wouldn't mind lending context. Should I post it here, or send it in a PM? 

I'd kind of like to hear it too, if you don't mind. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I have a credit card that allows you to see your FICO score for free. 

I also have student loans. 

I pay off both the full balance of my credit card and make a payment on my loans each month. 

And my credit score has been slipping. Not much—just a point or two every few months—but enough that I wondered what the storms was going on. So I did a quick Google search and found this answer. For those of you who don't want to read the article: Basically, paying off your student loans can hurt your credit score because stupid financial mumbo-jumbo that makes no sense to anyone who isn't laughing at the proles from their rooftop pool filled with gold coins. Yeah. You're punished for being responsible and not taking out more credit than you feel you can manage at one time. 

Noodly One, I hate this financial system we have here.  

Edited September 25, 2016 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Mistrunner]

Sometimes I wish I was normal.

I know I should appreciate my uniqueness and all that jazz, but it's hard when I see people talking and connecting in a way I just can't with most anyone, no matter how I try. I'm strange. I embrace that. I guess I just wish there were more people who were strange like me.

[marsoupial they/them]

4 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

Sometimes I wish I was normal.

I know I should appreciate my uniqueness and all that jazz, but it's hard when I see people talking and connecting in a way I just can't with most anyone, no matter how I try. I'm strange. I embrace that. I guess I just wish there were more people who were strange like me.

*raises hand*

[Jondesu he/him]

44 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I have a credit card that allows you to see your FICO score for free. 

I also have student loans. 

I pay off both the full balance of my credit card and make a payment on my loans each month. 

And my credit score has been slipping. Not much—just a point or two every few months—but enough that I wondered what the storms was going on. So I did a quick Google search and found this answer. For those of you who don't want to read the article: Basically, paying off your student loans can hurt your credit score because stupid financial mumbo-jumbo that makes no sense to anyone who isn't laughing at the proles from their rooftop pool filled with gold coins. Yeah. You're punished for being responsible and not taking out more credit than you feel you can manage at one time. 

Noodly One, I hate this financial system we have here.  

Yeah, the credit system is bonkers.  Not using the credit lines you have open?  We don't like that.  Don't have open far more than you should ever need? Don't like that either.

For my day: Most people find a child's laughter to be a very pleasant sound.  Those that don't find it irritating or annoying.

Today, my son's laughter caused me intense physical pain.  I had to retreat to the bedroom because my head felt like it was swelling up and about to burst (you can look through my other posts here if you want to know more about that headache).  Noise isn't usually a trigger; I actually listen to loud music sometimes to relieve or at least distract from the pain, but that laughter was just impossible to handle.  And it's my four year old son.

jW

[Mistrunner]

7 minutes ago, bleeder said:

*raises hand*

Are you raising your hand because you relate, or because you're strange like me?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

10 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

Sometimes I wish I was normal.

I know I should appreciate my uniqueness and all that jazz, but it's hard when I see people talking and connecting in a way I just can't with most anyone, no matter how I try. I'm strange. I embrace that. I guess I just wish there were more people who were strange like me.

 

5 minutes ago, bleeder said:

*raises hand*

No one is truly normal. Some people fit into that box better than others, while others are waiting on someone to come along and give them permission to be as strange as they want to be. 

4 minutes ago, Jondesu said:

Yeah, the credit system is bonkers.  Not using the credit lines you have open?  We don't like that.  Don't have open far more than you should ever need? Don't like that either.

For my day: Most people find a child's laughter to be a very pleasant sound.  Those that don't find it irritating or annoying.

Today, my son's laughter caused me intense physical pain.  I had to retreat to the bedroom because my head felt like it was swelling up and about to burst (you can look through my other posts here if you want to know more about that headache).  Noise isn't usually a trigger; I actually listen to loud music sometimes to relieve or at least distract from the pain, but that laughter was just impossible to handle.  And it's my four year old son.

jW

My inner conspiracy theorist insists that those in charge of this system want people to spend irresponsibly and ruin their credit, which is why they punish people for being responsible. But, haha, no one's that evil….right? 

And—yikes, that sucks.  Are you okay now? 

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Mistrunner said:

Are you raising your hand because you relate, or because you're strange like me?

Because I'm strange like you. 

And I relate. I have a whole group of strange friends irl, and they happen to be my closest friends. We've got the nihilistic satirist, the chill junkie, the stoic listener, the troubled martyr, and the gay hipster. You can decide which one is me.

I'll be your strange friend.

Just never, ever, wish you were normal. You are special and one of a kind and wonderfully weird and you should stay that way. I speak from experience. 

[Mistrunner]

2 minutes ago, bleeder said:

Because I'm strange like you. 

And I relate. I have a whole group of strange friends irl, and they happen to be my closest friends. We've got the nihilistic satirist, the chill junkie, the stoic listener, the troubled martyr, and the gay hipster. You can decide which one is me.

I'll be your strange friend.

Just never, ever, wish you were normal. You are special and one of a kind and wonderfully weird and you should stay that way. I speak from experience. 

Thanks. It helps.

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Mistrunner said:

Thanks. It helps.

Anytime. Internet-stranger-friends help internet-stranger-friends, after all.

[Delightful]

Stupid argument with the parents. Apparently I shouldn't "go out of my way" to make a cake with milk in it to feed friends because "people don't expect cakes to have milk in them."

I'm not doing it for the sake of being difficult. I just like the recipe. I can put up a sign that says "there is milk in this cake."

No. Im excluding people who've had meat for lunch.

I'm going against community standards.

I..........I don't even understand with this is such an issue. 

What if people are lactose intolerant?

.....Or gluten free or allergic to eggs?

yeah but people don't expect cake to have milk in it. They expect flour.

 

(For context: People don't eat meat and milk together, usually no milk 3-6 hours after meat. Most people do make food without milk or milk products in it because its easier like that and said food can be eaten whenever. Apparently this makes it not ok for me to use a perfectly good recipe that makes delicious cake because somehow I'll be causing everyone to break laws about meat and milk by signposting a cake I happen to like as containing milk?")

 

So ok whatever I won't make a cake with milk in it. But why the sudden insistence on doing what everyone else does? Just because? There is literally no rule thou shalt not eat milky cake. I don't know what's going on here.

[marsoupial they/them]

3 minutes ago, Delightful said:

Stupid argument with the parents. Apparently I shouldn't "go out of my way" to make a cake with milk in it to feed friends because "people don't expect cakes to have milk in them."

I'm not doing it for the sake of being difficult. I just like the recipe. I can put up a sign that says "there is milk in this cake."

No. Im excluding people who've had meat for lunch.

I'm going against community standards.

I..........I don't even understand with this is such an issue. 

What if people are lactose intolerant?

.....Or gluten free or allergic to eggs?

yeah but people don't expect cake to have milk in it. They expect flour.

 

(For context: People don't eat meat and milk together, usually no milk 3-6 hours after meat. Most people do make food without milk or milk products in it because its easier like that and said food can be eaten whenever. Apparently this makes it not ok for me to use a perfectly good recipe that makes delicious cake because somehow I'll be causing everyone to break laws about meat and milk by signposting a cake I happen to like as containing milk?")

 

So ok whatever I won't make a cake with milk in it. But why the sudden insistence on doing what everyone else does? Just because? There is literally no rule thou shalt not eat milky cake. I don't know what's going on here.

That sounds confusing, and unnecessarily semantical. Is there a reason for the meat/milk thing?

Cake with milk sounds good, Del. D'you bake often?

[Delightful]

Just now, bleeder said:

That sounds confusing, and unnecessarily semantical. Is there a reason for the meat/milk thing?

Cake with milk sounds good, Del. D'you bake often?

"Do not cook a kid in it's mothers milk." is the reason. Which translates to "do not eat milk and eat together" which translates to "don't eat milk 3-6 hours after eating meat".
(If you haven't yet picked, up, I'm Jewish. The 3-6 hour thing is dependant on community. Apparently Dutch Jews wait one hour only, I have a friend who waits 5 hours and 1 minute so its 'into the 6th hour'. Jewish law minutia of the day!)

 

If I have time and ingredients I do. Often cookies but we were out of choc chips and I was in the mood for cake last week; the recipe I've used before is a touch dry, and every recipe I could find wanted either milk or vinegar for some reason. I decided I preferred milk.  
Sometimes milk can be switched out in a recipe for water or juice but I don't really want chocolate cake that tastes like apple juice so I don't really want to risk it. Water might work if I could be bothered now.

My parents also get "offended" when I won't make cookies for lack of chocolate chips. "My mother and grandmother used to make cookies without chocolate chips!" 
yeah well, I aint her.   
 

I don't know. Apparently baked goods have strong emotional ties. 

[marsoupial they/them]

2 minutes ago, Delightful said:

"Do not cook a kid in it's mothers milk." is the reason. Which translates to "do not eat milk and eat together" which translates to "don't eat milk 3-6 hours after eating meat".
(If you haven't yet picked, up, I'm Jewish. The 3-6 hour thing is dependant on community. Apparently Dutch Jews wait one hour only, I have a friend who waits 5 hours and 1 minute so its 'into the 6th hour'. Jewish law minutia of the day!)

 

If I have time and ingredients I do. Often cookies but we were out of choc chips and I was in the mood for cake last week; the recipe I've used before is a touch dry, and every recipe I could find wanted either milk or vinegar for some reason. I decided I preferred milk.  
Sometimes milk can be switched out in a recipe for water or juice but I don't really want chocolate cake that tastes like apple juice so I don't really want to risk it. Water might work if I could be bothered now.

My parents also get "offended" when I won't make cookies for lack of chocolate chips. "My mother and grandmother used to make cookies without chocolate chips!" 
yeah well, I aint her.   
 

I don't know. Apparently baked goods have strong emotional ties. 

Interesting! You should give us more Jewish law minutia more often! Try vegetable oil, if that's not already in the recipe. Milk might be good, though. Just make sure you take all the necessary precautions. I wish you the best in your baking ventures!

[Delightful]

Just now, bleeder said:

Interesting! You should give us more Jewish law minutia more often! Try vegetable oil, if that's not already in the recipe. Milk might be good, though. Just make sure you take all the necessary precautions. I wish you the best in your baking ventures!

There is already oil in the recipe, thats an interesting idea though. It has more texture than water, closer to milk. 

Yay making cake even less healthy!