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[nicocoberru she/her]

My neighbor, probably mid20's to 30's confessed to me months ago and ever since he's been trying to get my attention everytime I step out of our house. A few minutes ago, I was going out of our subdivision, he saw me and invited me to ride with him. He said he was going out and I might as well ride with him to safe time.

IDK but I've always gotten bad vibes from this guy. I said no, he kept on insisting, I kept saying no. Alarms were ringing in my head and there was no way I'll get inside a car with him. Then he asked me to help him with a problem on his car brake and I just. I'm just so creeped out. I made some excuses and it took all my willpower not to actually run away.He's ten, twenty years my senior. He's always with a kid who could be his son for all I know.

The worst it, I'm 19. I don't look nineteen. People think I'm 15. Heck I could pass off as a first year high school if I want to and this guy is just... uuuuuggghhh

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

My neighbor, probably mid20's to 30's confessed to me months ago and ever since he's been trying to get my attention everytime I step out of our house. A few minutes ago, I was going out of our subdivision, he saw me and invited me to ride with him. He said he was going out and I might as well ride with him to safe time.

IDK but I've always gotten bad vibes from this guy. I said no, he kept on insisting, I kept saying no. Alarms were ringing in my head and there was no way I'll get inside a car with him. Then he asked me to help him with a problem on his car brake and I just. I'm just so creeped out. I made some excuses and it took all my willpower not to actually run away.He's ten, twenty years my senior. He's always with a kid who could be his son for all I know.

The worst it, I'm 19. I don't look nineteen. People think I'm 15. Heck I could pass off as a first year high school if I want to and this guy is just... uuuuuggghhh

That's nerve-wracking. If you've said no, and he doesn't respect that, then he's a creep.

Do you have a brother? Or a male friend you could have hang near you while this guy is around? It's sad and awful, but if he doesn't respect your no when it's just you, he might feel the need to respect it if another man is there to back you up. Like I said, it's super sexist on his part, but if it gets him to leave you alone, it might be worth it.

And invest in some pepper spray, if you can. Just in case.

[nicocoberru she/her]

Unfortunately no. I'm the eldest child and we're all girls. And if I do tell my Uncle or my Father I'm pretty sure their gonna go march to tht guy's house and punch him or something and I really don't want that mess. Even if I do want to punch him.

The only good thing with this is that I go home only during weekends. Still, two days of seeing this guy is two days too many.

[azninvasion99 he/him]

Unfortunately no. I'm the eldest child and we're all girls. And if I do tell my Uncle or my Father I'm pretty sure their gonna go march to tht guy's house and punch him or something and I really don't want that mess. Even if I do want to punch him.

The only good thing with this is that I go home only during weekends. Still, two days of seeing this guy is two days too many.

I totally understand not wanting to cause an escalation to the problem but if this is how he acts towards you, and you have younger sisters still living at home...I feel like some sort of intervention could be beneficial for the long term. I also second the suggestion for some sort of self defense just in case. 

[MrMistborn he/him]

I got nearly trampled on the way to class today, and during class when I made a joke, only the teacher and my friend laughed, and I got numerous reminders from the horrible people in my class that "no one likes you, shut up!" People then began to sing a song about me, mocking my enjoyment of reading, looks, and different worldview and ways of thinking. Then, during an argument, one of the most hated people in our year, when given a slight taunt by an amazing person I've known for years, whose mother died of cancer recently, proceeded to say to him "at least I have a mum", then mock his tears, and when confronted after nearly THE ENTIRE YEAR had finished comforting the victim, said he felt no remorse since the other ha insulted him first, and that the other was a complete wimp.

I JUST HATE HIM SO MUCH. He's called a Muslim kid terrorist numerous times, has beaten up many of the "nerd herd" as we call ourselves, and is just the most horrible person I've ever met

[Mestiv he/him]

I got nearly trampled on the way to class today, and during class when I made a joke, only the teacher and my friend laughed, and I got numerous reminders from the horrible people in my class that "no one likes you, shut up!" People then began to sing a song about me, mocking my enjoyment of reading, looks, and different worldview and ways of thinking. Then, during an argument, one of the most hated people in our year, when given a slight taunt by an amazing person I've known for years, whose mother died of cancer recently, proceeded to say to him "at least I have a mum", then mock his tears, and when confronted after nearly THE ENTIRE YEAR had finished comforting the victim, said he felt no remorse since the other ha insulted him first, and that the other was a complete wimp.

I JUST HATE HIM SO MUCH. He's called a Muslim kid terrorist numerous times, has beaten up many of the "nerd herd" as we call ourselves, and is just the most horrible person I've ever met

 

Maybe that wouldn't be much, but you can send that person a Glitter Bomb. Not directly harmful, but mighty annoying. And you'll have satisfaction when you spot some glitter on his hands/clothes

[Kaymyth she/her]

No. With cross country, black belt testing, and ap classes, there just isn't enough time. I'm not even able to practice at home because I play saxophone and I normally bike to and from school.

 

This is the problem, I'm afraid.  You're not a bad musician, you're just overstretched.  You do not have enough spoons!

 

What type of saxophone?  If it's an alto, they do make gig bags that can be backpacked.  I wouldn't want to try biking with a tenor or a bari, though.

 

My neighbor, probably mid20's to 30's confessed to me months ago and ever since he's been trying to get my attention everytime I step out of our house. A few minutes ago, I was going out of our subdivision, he saw me and invited me to ride with him. He said he was going out and I might as well ride with him to safe time.

IDK but I've always gotten bad vibes from this guy. I said no, he kept on insisting, I kept saying no. Alarms were ringing in my head and there was no way I'll get inside a car with him. Then he asked me to help him with a problem on his car brake and I just. I'm just so creeped out. I made some excuses and it took all my willpower not to actually run away.He's ten, twenty years my senior. He's always with a kid who could be his son for all I know.

The worst it, I'm 19. I don't look nineteen. People think I'm 15. Heck I could pass off as a first year high school if I want to and this guy is just... uuuuuggghhh

 

I'm with Twi on the pepper spray.  And I know you're worried about your parents' reaction but tell them anyway.  What if he does step over the line and grab you?  Your family needs to know where to start looking.

 

And this might sound weird, but start keeping a Creeper Diary.  Document every incident.  Keep a running log.  This will be exceedingly useful should you need to pursue something like a restraining order or (gods forbid it's necessary) criminal charges.

 

 

Maybe that wouldn't be much, but you can send that person a Glitter Bomb. Not directly harmful, but mighty annoying. And you'll have satisfaction when you spot some glitter on his hands/clothes

 

I kind of love this idea.  There's a reason why glitter is called the herpes of the craft world.  Glitterbomb his locker and he'll be sparkling for the entire rest of the school year.  And then you can call him Glitterboy!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I'm with Twi on the pepper spray. And I know you're worried about your parents' reaction but tell them anyway. What if he does step over the line and grab you? Your family needs to know where to start looking.

And this might sound weird, but start keeping a Creeper Diary. Document every incident. Keep a running log. This will be exceedingly useful should you need to pursue something like a restraining order or (gods forbid it's necessary) criminal charges.

You might also want to use your phone to record his interactions with you, in case you need a solid body of evidence. It doesn't sound like he's taking things further than unwanted flirting and offers to ride in his car, but if he ever does, you'll want to show the police where it started and how long it's been going on.

[Delightful]

My neighbor, probably mid20's to 30's confessed to me months ago and ever since he's been trying to get my attention everytime I step out of our house. A few minutes ago, I was going out of our subdivision, he saw me and invited me to ride with him. He said he was going out and I might as well ride with him to safe time.

IDK but I've always gotten bad vibes from this guy. I said no, he kept on insisting, I kept saying no. Alarms were ringing in my head and there was no way I'll get inside a car with him. Then he asked me to help him with a problem on his car brake and I just. I'm just so creeped out. I made some excuses and it took all my willpower not to actually run away.He's ten, twenty years my senior. He's always with a kid who could be his son for all I know.

The worst it, I'm 19. I don't look nineteen. People think I'm 15. Heck I could pass off as a first year high school if I want to and this guy is just... uuuuuggghhh

I'm going to add to what's already been said:

This guy is a total creep, more than that, I would guess that there's a fairly high chance that he's actively dangerous. Stay away, buy pepper spray, tell *someone* - if not your parents, at least a friend so if G-D forbid you disappear, people know where to look for you.

And I don't know exactly how to phrase this without encouraging violence but......you should probably tell your dad. If him telling the neighbour to back off will be effective, I'd go for it. Your life and your safety comes before everything else, and if he's harassing you, he might be /thinking of going after your sisters as well.

Let me repeat that.

Your life and your safety comes before everything and anything else.

Be careful. Wishing you the best of luck.

Edited October 29, 2015 by Delightful

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Cute pug story:

I finished knitting my Fourth Doctor scarf today, and since I was a little short on time, I washed it in the bathtub. Bruce stood up next to me to see what was going on. I don't think he quite understood what the scarf was, because every time I swirled it through the water, he barked at it. I think he took its movement as evidence that it was both alive and malicious.

Leaving that here in case anyone needs it.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I lost my phone today. In a field of grass. I called it 30 times using a different one. I still haven't found my phone.

[Creccio he/him]

I lost my phone today. In a field of grass. I called it 30 times using a different one. I still haven't found my phone.

 

If it is an iPphone device i believe there is a way to find it via GPS with an app. and your phone is not dead.. What type of phone is it if you don't mind

[Silverblade5 he/him]

If it is an iPphone device i believe there is a way to find it via GPS with an app. and your phone is not dead.. What type of phone is it if you don't mind

Iphone. I know what you're thinking, and I've tried it. Turns out, none of my devices are connected to find your iphone.

[+Slowswift]

Oh dear. Um... rent a metal detector? Seriously, that sucks.

[Mistrunner]

You can be like me! I don't have a phone! Of course, I also have no social life and a plentiful lack of wit... wait a second, that's Hamlet. But anyways!

 

That's awful. Hope you can find it. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

You can be like me! I don't have a phone! Of course, I also have no social life and a plentiful lack of wit... wait a second, that's Hamlet. But anyways!

That's awful. Hope you can find it.

We outside the Cosmere have a tragic lack of Wit.

Hope you can find it too, Silverblade.

[Creccio he/him]

Iphone. I know what you're thinking, and I've tried it. Turns out, none of my devices are connected to find your iphone.

 

Do you have any special ringtone related to x or y activity? An alarm for a set hour? Last resort would be metal detector :/

[Haelbarde he/him]

This is why I've considered getting a smartwatch/fitness band, or a Bluetooth tag for my keys, so that it notifies me if I get too far from my phone...

[nicocoberru she/her]

Thank you for all the advice. My cousin knows about it and I told her I'll tell my father if it happens again.

A Creeper Diary seems great. I'll make one.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Knee and ankle heart real bad right now. Ongoing for a month now, but today's especially bad.

[Mistrunner]

English homework.

 

Lots of it.

 

It's due tomorrow.

 

All of it.

 

I may be pulling an all-nighter like Honor Spren to get this done.

[+Slowswift]

English homework.

Lots of it.

It's due tomorrow.

All of it.

I may be pulling an all-nighter like Honor Spren to get this done.

Oh dear. I'm sorry. Edited October 30, 2015 by Slowswift

[Mistrunner]

Oh dear. I'm sorry.

Thanks. I'm... tired. But I shall prevail. Eventually. I hope. 

[Mashadar Mistborn he/him]

One of my best friends on my cross country team had a bad day at the last meet, And today the coaches told her that she was on junior varsity until she got back in our top seven( she did that today). But she was upset and crying about it before she got to run, and I couldn't do anything to help. I couldn't even be comforting. I hate being powerless when it is just me concerned, but with a friend, it is a hundred times worse. She told me that it is okay, but I still feel horrible.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

One of my best friends on my cross country team had a bad day at the last meet, And today the coaches told her that she was on junior varsity until she got back in our top seven( she did that today). But she was upset and crying about it before she got to run, and I couldn't do anything to help. I couldn't even be comforting. I hate being powerless when it is just me concerned, but with a friend, it is a hundred times worse. She told me that it is okay, but I still feel horrible.

Reminds me of how my end of the season went. I was constantly getting new PRs. From 23:42, to 23:29,  to 23:25. Then, the very next week, I got a bucking 30:15. That was a lifetime low for me. That's also when the pain started picking up.