Kaymyth she/her Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Using passive-aggressive techniques on passive-aggressive parents to calm them….I will never understand the minds of crazy parents. It's hard to imagine you being like that, though. You recognize what she's doing as passive-aggressive and wrong, so that'll give you a built-in kill switch in case you ever catch yourself starting to act or think along those same lines. Plus, I think your natural awesomeness will keep the becoming-your-mother spren at bay. It was kind of funny. "Well, we can't come this weekend, but we could probably make next weekend. I mean, I'd prefer to stay home and not skip out on the trick-or-treaters, but if you really want us to..." And her response was, no, no, we'll find another time. I felt kind of bad about doing it, but that sort of thing actually offends her less than just being direct. It's weird. There's a huge streak of passive-aggressive that runs in that side of the family. What's hilarious is that my mom, grandmother, and aunt all recognize the tendencies in each other, just not in themselves. Me, I recognized it in myself when I was in my 20's and deliberately went on an internal P/A killing spree. But I have to be careful, because the seeds are still there. I can't let them sprout. Constant Vigiliance! 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 A message to all wealthy retirees: You are not always entitled to get everything you want when you want it. Sometimes, you have to settle for second best. Sometimes, you have to wait. Sometimes, you have to wait while settling for second best. This is life. It does not entitle you to be a jerk to those who are helping you. Why you didn't learn this lesson when you were four is beyond me. 1
+Slowswift Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I need a hug Well, that's what this thread is for! *hug* 1
The Honor Spren she/her Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 My family doesn't exactly prescribe things. They just use an old family adage: "It's probably a tumor." My family is not good at consolation. My family just quotes Dr. Seuss at each other. I do not like green eggs and ham. I do not like them Sam I am. Except when you don't, because sometimes you won't. You must not hop on Pop. I meant what I said and I said what I meant. An elaphant's faithful one hundred percent. One fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish. We also quote our poetry memorization to each other. Home is the best place for all people like me. Celery raw develops the jaw, but celery stewed is more quietly chewed. I poke out my head, and I sit up in bed, and I sing, and I sing, and I sing. Jonathan Blake ate too much cake. Oh what a lesson for us all, to only eat at dinner. A trick that everyone abhors in little girls, is slamming doors. You would be surprised how much we mock each other with these quotes.(But here, just consider them inspirational quotes I put together for you guys) *hugs everybody here* 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Applying for jobs again. *flump* What's the point.
Allomancy she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Twi, can you magically send your pugs to me. I feel like I need a pug-hug right now. For no specific reason at all.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Twi, can you magically send your pugs to me. I feel like I need a pug-hug right now. For no specific reason at all. I can give you a video. Would you prefer Bruce purring? Or Mollie with a good morning shoe? 1
Kestrel she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Tips for when sad 1. whisper beep boop to self 2. repeat until not sad 6
ThirdGen Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Applying for jobs again. *flump* What's the point. Don't stop. Never stop. Fight for your life. As someone who was doing this for literal years while the recession was in full swing, giving up is your enemy. Hopelessness is your villain. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Don't stop. Never stop. Fight for your life. As someone who was doing this for literal years while the recession was in full swing, giving up is your enemy. Hopelessness is your villain. I don't want it to go on for years….I'd be stuck here with my mom asking a billion questions to make me feel like an idiot and my dad constantly tweaking my resume. Forever. I'm just sick of it, and I'm sick of them. My mom wants me to get a job so she'll have everything settled for the move to Spokane (even though the house hasn't sold yet so we're stuck here for a while; she seems to think micromanaging us helps her stress levels somehow) so when she gets back from her stupid trip, she's going to nag me even more than she already was. And she basically forced me to send my resume and cover letter to my dad, who had one of his HR employees look at it. I know that's an amazing opportunity and my complaining about it probably sounds like a first world problem—and it probably is, which just makes it worse—but when they sent it back pointing out all of the mistakes I'd made, it made me feel like, "oh, so I just screwed myself out of all of those jobs I've already applied for, some of which I really wanted, and I'll just make even more rookie mistakes later on, so what's even the point of continuing. I'll just bomb every other interview I have." It's like, the more I keep going, the worse my future looks, and I can't make it look any better. 1
Allomancy she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop beep boop Okay. I'm good now. 6
Delightful Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Twi, we believe in you. Hang in there, keep going, you'll get something eventually. It's really hard but you can't stop and you can't let despair get to you. Be an optimist as much as you can. *pug hugs* 2
The Honor Spren she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You can do it, Twi! You're total rockets, and someone is bound to realize it eventually! I'll keep you in my prayers. 2
Kestrel she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Twi I'm hesitant to post this but maybe next year (I think its too late for this one), my school will probably have an opening. I could pm you the info then, if all else fails and you haven't found a place by then I might also talk with the librarian too. They might still hire librarians in the mid-semester. If not, there's always the public library. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Twi, we believe in you. Hang in there, keep going, you'll get something eventually. It's really hard but you can't stop and you can't let despair get to you. Be an optimist as much as you can. *pug hugs* You can do it, Twi! You're total rockets, and someone is bound to realize it eventually! I'll keep you in my prayers. Thanks. And if nothing else, I learned I have the best dog ever—when Bruce saw me curled up on the bed crying, he lay down next to me, rested his chin on my shoulder, and purred. Twi I'm hesitant to post this but maybe next year (I think its too late for this one), my school will probably have an opening. I could pm you the info then, if all else fails and you haven't found a place by then I might also talk with the librarian too. They might still hire librarians in the mid-semester. If not, there's always the public library. I'd definitely want to take a look. The only thing about school library jobs is that they usually want their librarian to have a teaching certificate in addition to their MLIS degree, and I only have the MLIS degree. Some schools don't, but most of the public school jobs I've looked at do. 1
Kestrel she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I'll look into it tomorrow if I can for you. But I think our public library is actually understaffed right now?
Orlion Blight he/him Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) I don't know why they (your parents) think your resume and cover letter is the problem. You are GETTING interviews! That is not the problem, and I doubt there is any real problem aside from ye olde normal problems with searching for a job. Edited October 25, 2015 by Orlion
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I don't know why they (your parents) think your resume and cover letter is the problem. You are GETTING interviews! That is not the problem, and I doubt there is any real problem aside from ye olde normal problems with searching for a job. Not very many, though. I had that one for Tucson a few months back, and the ones for Anchorage and Barnesville a few weeks ago, but aside from those and the one for Idianola coming up, I haven't had a lot of interviews.
Mistrunner Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Well. I've been posting on here way too much, with variations on a single problem, but it's still a bit one, and I'd like some more hugs if you can spare any. 3
Zathoth Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 Oh yes, I should have some hugs to spare. *Looks in the hug box* Yep, here you have them! *Gives hugs* 1
Mashadar Mistborn he/him Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 *hugs Mistrunner I know that moving is hard. When I first moved here, I couldn't stand it, but now I wouldn't go back. It will be ok. *gives Mistrunner chocolate 1
Allomancy she/her Posted October 26, 2015 Posted October 26, 2015 *gives Mistrunner chocolate *intercepts chocolate*eats chocolate *feels guilty *gives mistrunner new chocolate(uneaten) *notices everyone is staring *hides 2
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