Kaymyth she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 I do plan on spoiling Bruce quite a bit…. You will, of course, wait until after you've signed the lease to tell your parents the "bad" news. "Gee, guys, I'm sorry, I just couldn't find anything bigger that I could afford on my salary."
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 You will, of course, wait until after you've signed the lease to tell your parents the "bad" news. "Gee, guys, I'm sorry, I just couldn't find anything bigger that I could afford on my salary." I'll have to make sure I give only ballpark figures when my mom asks what the pay is. Every time I tell her about a new city I've applied for (which I have to, or else she'll accuse me of not caring) she'll look at apartments in the area. So I'll have to make sure I lowball the salary when she asks for it, or else she'll call my bluff. 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) I'll have to make sure I give only ballpark figures when my mom asks what the pay is. Every time I tell her about a new city I've applied for (which I have to, or else she'll accuse me of not caring) she'll look at apartments in the area. So I'll have to make sure I lowball the salary when she asks for it, or else she'll call my bluff. Or tell her things like, "Well, sure that place is cheap - have you seen the level of sketch in that part of town?" And shiver dramatically. Also, there's a lot more to living expenses than just rent. There's utilities, food, gas, general living purchases. And renter's insurance. Get renter's insurance - your stuff is NOT covered under the landlord's policy. ETA: Plus - and this is important, budget for savings. It's never too early to start saving for retirement. Plus emergencies, surprise expenses, things breaking down - you need to have a savings fund. So if she does crunch the numbers and call your bluff, simply point out that she's not taking into account how much you feel you need to save every month. Edited October 9, 2015 by Kaymyth
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Or tell her things like, "Well, sure that place is cheap - have you seen the level of sketch in that part of town?" And shiver dramatically. Also, there's a lot more to living expenses than just rent. There's utilities, food, gas, general living purchases. And renter's insurance. Get renter's insurance - your stuff is NOT covered under the landlord's policy. "Sorry, Mom. I can't afford to upgrade to a two-bedroom this month. My electric bill was through the roof." "What, have you been throwing disco-light raves every night?" "Yes. " 4
Kaymyth she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 "Sorry, Mom. I can't afford to upgrade to a two-bedroom this month. My electric bill was through the roof." "What, have you been throwing disco-light raves every night?" "Yes. " Or, "Sorry, Mom, I made a contribution to my 401k. Yes, I do that every month. Yes, EVERY month. And $X into my savings account. What if my car is blown up in a tragic mafia mix-up? What if I couldn't afford a new one? Do you WANT your daughter to lose her job and starve because she can't drive to work?!" There are days when I wish that I could talk to your mother. But if I spoke my mind to her, she'd probably stop speaking to you for a good year. ...on second thought, maybe that wouldn't be so bad. 4
Blaze1616 he/him Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Out of curiosity, why not just tell her that you're going to get a single bedroom? Put your foot down. Be assertive. Cuddle with Bruno after the ensuing storm blows over? Eh, it became less of a good idea the more I typed...
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Out of curiosity, why not just tell her that you're going to get a single bedroom? Put your foot down. Be assertive. Cuddle with Bruno after the ensuing storm blows over? Eh, it became less of a good idea the more I typed... I'll put my foot down, all right—but after I'm out from under her roof. When I have my own place and there's some distance between us, I'll be assertive. 3
ParadoxicalZen he/him Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 I'll put my foot down, all right—but after I'm out from under her roof. When I have my own place and there's some distance between us, I'll be assertive. A Highstorms distance just for good measure 1
Briar King Posted October 9, 2015 Posted October 9, 2015 Grrr some lady in a Mini Cooper apparently turned around to answer her 6 yr olds question and in that time frame she managed to slam right in the back of my truck while I'm was at red light. The momentum then through me into the back of SUV in front of me. Then when ambulance was there she doesn't send her kid with them even though the father was there also. My kids would have gone u better believe that... I'm soar and unhappy 2
Briar King Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Headache from getting my head whipped back so hard. Also I've got a bruise somehow just to the left of my "crack" which is making anything I try to do uncomfortable. I had to have landed on the seat belt base which would seem hard to do since I was wearing it... Idk but I do certainly know that it hurts. 1
Fatebreaker he/him Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I can handle alot. I worked all day with a roaring fever, a leaky nose and splitting pain all over me body. For minimum wage no less. But what really burned my cabage cart was coming home and finding out that Shadows of Self had not arrived today, contrary to Amazon's guarantee. All. The. Rage. 1
Delightful Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I'll put my foot down, all right—but after I'm out from under her roof. When I have my own place and there's some distance between us, I'll be assertive.Also, she really doesn't have a right to know your salary. "How much are you making?" "Enough" "Why don't you get a two bedroom apartment?" "Not enough for that." "But you spend so much money on Bruce!" "It's not up for discussion". ? She can't *make* you tell her stuff, particularly once she's not right there to rant at you about stuff and exclude you from family TV watching. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Also, she really doesn't have a right to know your salary. "How much are you making?" "Enough" "Why don't you get a two bedroom apartment?" "Not enough for that." "But you spend so much money on Bruce!" "It's not up for discussion". ? She can't *make* you tell her stuff, particularly once she's not right there to rant at you about stuff and exclude you from family TV watching. She pries into my finances now, and I just go along with it because refusing isn't worth the trouble. Once I'm on my own, though, that'll end. The more I stay here, the more I realize I need to leave. 1
Delightful Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I just worry it'll be harder to break away once you've started letting her pry. Is it not better to just put your foot down before it goes any further?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I just worry it'll be harder to break away once you've started letting her pry. Is it not better to just put your foot down before it goes any further? I can't do it while I'm living at home. I've tried, with much smaller things than this (I once told her I didn't like the way she'd immediately start giving orders the second I walked through the door) and she freaked out, reminding me of how much she did for me and how little I did and how ungrateful I was, how ridiculous I was being, and on and on. If I wait until I'm out of the house, I can just hang up the phone when she starts ranting and ignore her calls; and if I live far away, she won't be able to come over. The pattern is already there and I know how it needs to be broken to break it for good; I just have to wait until I have some of the power to do it. 2
Delightful Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I just had a not-quite fight with a close friend and I wish it hadn't happened and this sucks. Also, (aka my main problem) I need sleep.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I just had a not-quite fight with a close friend and I wish it hadn't happened and this sucks. Also, (aka my main problem) I need sleep. I'm sorry.
Delightful Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Conflict with people you care deeply about is always difficult. I hope things get better. I'm sorry. Thanks guys. *hugs* 1
nicocoberru she/her Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 Not really a rant just... It's finals week, I haven't sleep in 24 hours, my blood is made out of 50% softdrinks and 25% coffee at this point and I have a major exam in ten minutes. I just. I really, really want to sleep.please let me sleep.
The Honor Spren she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I am unfamiliar with the ways of ye public schoolers. What will they do to you if you just fell asleep during an exam? Could you retake it, or would you just fail?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 I am unfamiliar with the ways of ye public schoolers. What will they do to you if you just fell asleep during an exam? Could you retake it, or would you just fail? Depends on the teacher. If your teacher is nice, they might let you retake it or wake you up, but if not....well, you're stormed.
nicocoberru she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) Yup. You're stormed. It's college and teachers generally don't have any pity. And I might or might not had a mini-panic attack while taking the test. IDK. I've never had one before so IDK if what I felt is that. Edited October 12, 2015 by nicocoberru
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Yup. You're stormed. It's college and teachers generally don't have any pity. And I might or might not had a mini-panic attack while taking the test. IDK. I've never had one before so IDK if what I felt is that. That sucks. How did you feel, if you feel comfortable saying?
nicocoberru she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Its fine, I guess, it only lasted a few minutes. It felt like I was drowning, like no matter how much I breathe it still isn't enough. I also felt like puking... The thing is, there is a huge chance I'll fail this subject. Again. And I 'm just so storming tired of failing and repeating my classes.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 (edited) Its fine, I guess, it only lasted a few minutes. It felt like I was drowning, like no matter how much I breathe it still isn't enough. I also felt like puking... The thing is, there is a huge chance I'll fail this subject. Again. And I 'm just so storming tired of failing and repeating my classes. That does sound like a panic attack. And, speaking from my own experience, they suck, so my condolences. What subject is it? Edit: I'm just adding this to get it off my chest—I really, really, really wish everyone in the US would stop politicizing every single gun-related tragedy that happens here. Before the official body count for the Umpqua shooting was even released, Democrats were calling for stricter gun control, Republicans were calling for armed campus guards, and pastors were talking about how it's a "heart issue" (though that didn't stop them from calling for armed guards or gun control, depending on their political leanings. I stopped following a blogger I had begun to like because he used the shooting as an excuse to soapbox). Seriously, guys. People died. Can you let us grieve for ten seconds before pushing your agenda? Edited October 12, 2015 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles 2
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