Trans Hangout Thread

[Aeoryi she/her]

1 minute ago, Honors Ghost said:

Ye, but idk I feel like it’s easy to tell when that starts happening besides the mod team here is amazing like I genuinely think I’ve had zero bad experiences on the shard

 

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Agreeed, like besides there are MANY easier ways to find me than the shard, I’ve been in enough articles that I’m sure you could find me if you looked hard enough 

Yeah there's like one situation where there was a harassment incident in PMs on here but that was dealt with well

I feel safe using the PM system. 

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

u guys...

u know that things can be screenshotted? web archived? google even saves stuff that have been deleted for a while on it's search results. IZZY, THE PHOTO. REMEMBER THE PHOTO.

Yes they can be screenshotted. But why would they? Web archive also exists, but it doesn't give you access to everything. 

you're a very paranoid individual, and I mean that lovingly

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

u guys...

u know that things can be screenshotted? web archived? google even saves stuff that have been deleted for a while on it's search results. IZZY, THE PHOTO. REMEMBER THE PHOTO.

pov u move it to discord and start dm'ing there: oops, no mods!

i probably wouldn't have to look that hard..

I hate discord, I will likely not use it until I’m an adult, lol u prolly wouldn’t I mean on the shard I think you would but idk u can check if you want u already know where I live loll

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

Yeah there's like one situation where there was a harassment incident in PMs on here but that was dealt with well

I feel safe using the PM system. 

Yes they can be screenshotted. But why would they? Web archive also exists, but it doesn't give you access to everything. 

you're a very paranoid individual, and I mean that lovingly

I agree with aeo here, abt the ur paranoid but in a loving way 

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

you're a very paranoid individual, and I mean that lovingly

yes i know. but not paranoid enough.

i know a lot of safety stuff, but not enough cybersecurity yet. at least,... it depends on the area.

 

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

Yeah there's like one situation where there was a harassment incident in PMs on here but that was dealt with well

yes but that stuff sticks with u. plus, the person still can get stuff during it even if they end up getting banned or whatever. or after.

2 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

Yes they can be screenshotted. But why would they? Web archive also exists, but it doesn't give you access to everything.

screenshots are unreliable anyways. moreso on computers. it depends on the format also.

fine, touche for screenshots and web archive. only an active stalker/otherwordhere would do that. And maybe not webarchive, since it might leak their ip.

3 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

I hate discord, I will likely not use it until I’m an adult, lol u prolly wouldn’t I mean on the shard I think you would but idk u can check if you want u already know where I live loll

don't use discord. I don't care what ppl say otherwise, just don't. i use it, but sparingly. only for, like, clubs and whatnot. same goes for Reddit... izzy.

 

5 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

u already know where I live loll

but doesn't that concern you? at all?

also, I don't know precisely where you live. just the state.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

yes i know. but not paranoid enough.

i know a lot of safety stuff, but not enough cybersecurity yet. at least,... it depends on the area.

 

yes but that stuff sticks with u. plus, the person still can get stuff during it even if they end up getting banned or whatever. or after.

screenshots are unreliable anyways. moreso on computers. it depends on the format also.

fine, touche for screenshots and web archive. only an active stalker/otherwordhere would do that. And maybe not webarchive, since it might leak their ip.

don't use discord. I don't care what ppl say otherwise, just don't. i use it, but sparingly. only for, like, clubs and whatnot. same goes for Reddit... izzy.

 

Girl u are plenty paranoid I feel, I have Reddit but I use it to read memes like once a month I never post

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

21 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

Girl u are plenty paranoid I feel, I have Reddit but I use it to read memes like once a month I never post

you... don't... need... an... account

I've read plenty of reddit - more than i care to - in the past week. no account.

21 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

Girl u are plenty paranoid I feel, I have Reddit but I use it to read memes like once a month I never post

I'm not paranoid enough.

sure, it may take a more dedicated stalker.. but still. they would have an idea of my demographics, at the very least.

 

you know, the more info you give out - even if it's seemingly small - can add up. They can cross-reference, eliminate certain stuff.

If someone had access to everyone on the planet, just knowing that you are female eliminates, what, half? [del'd]

Edited February 22 by Usseewa

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

you... don't... need... an... account

I've read plenty of reddit - more than i care to - in the past week. no account.

I'm not paranoid enough.

sure, it may take a more dedicated stalker.. but still. they would have an idea of my demographics, at the very least.

lol Ik but I made one like a year ago and it has quite literally NOTHING on it I don’t even have a bio or anything, girl it would take a very dedicated stalker you can’t be so paranoid that you cut off everyone, have you had bad experiences with stalkers in the past?

[Aeoryi she/her]

2 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

yes i know. but not paranoid enough.

i know a lot of safety stuff, but not enough cybersecurity yet. at least,... it depends on the area.

I know a fair bit about cybersecutiry and LET ME TELL YOU it is remarkable easy to get your information if one was dedicated to it

2 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

yes but that stuff sticks with u. plus, the person still can get stuff during it even if they end up getting banned or whatever. or after.

and?

3 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

screenshots are unreliable anyways. moreso on computers. it depends on the format also.

fine, touche for screenshots and web archive. only an active stalker/otherwordhere would do that. And maybe not webarchive, since it might leak their ip.

Your IP is like, seriously not that hard to get. Let me tell you that. 

3 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

don't use discord. I don't care what ppl say otherwise, just don't. i use it, but sparingly. only for, like, clubs and whatnot. same goes for Reddit... izzy.

I had to use it a lot for FM and I've realized that there are a lot of great communities I can find there. I have a group chat filled with a lot of my trans friends which is super awesome and has been very beneficial for me overall

I only use reddit for egg irl

and transbians

3 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

you... don't... need... an... account

yeah 

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

6 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

lol Ik but I made one like a year ago and it has quite literally NOTHING on it I don’t even have a bio or anything, girl it would take a very dedicated stalker you can’t be so paranoid that you cut off everyone, have you had bad experiences with stalkers in the past?

read my edits, please.

i haven't.. I don't think I've had bad experiences.with stalkers in the past, but I might've. plus... interent makes me uncomfortable at times.

also, izzy, i dont see why u need ur reddit in ur bio. it's another piece of info, and ppl could, say, use it to stalk/harras you on that platform

 

5 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I know a fair bit about cybersecutiry and LET ME TELL YOU it is remarkable easy to get your information if one was dedicated to it

and?

Your IP is like, seriously not that hard to get. Let me tell you that. 

I had to use it a lot for FM and I've realized that there are a lot of great communities I can find there. I have a group chat filled with a lot of my trans friends which is super awesome and has been very beneficial for me overall

I only use reddit for egg irl

and transbians

yeah 

yes i know people can get all ur info easily. that's the scary thing. i guess it helps to think of urself as one of billions, so who would care abt you? Unless they specifically target certain people... cough cough... minorities ... cough cough ... trans people ... cough

i know it ip is easy.. but luckily I don't rlly know how..oh wait nvm.

yeah, reddit can be good. but still. i guess for me it's also just ... language. i get uncomfortable sometimes, and no I'm not a child, but that doesn't mean i appreciate... explicit material, or things that requisite a content warning.

Edited February 22 by Usseewa

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

you... don't... need... an... account

I've read plenty of reddit - more than i care to - in the past week. no account.

I'm not paranoid enough.

sure, it may take a more dedicated stalker.. but still. they would have an idea of my demographics, at the very least.

 

you know, the more info you give out - even if it's seemingly small - can add up. They can cross-reference, eliminate certain stuff.

If someone had access to everyone on the planet, just knowing that you are female eliminates, what, half? Knowing you are trans is even more! Then try trans 15 y/os in kansas who's birthday is Jan 11 or whatever the heck your birthday was.

I just did a search and nothing came up, and then I did boys bc that’s likely what all my stuff’s on and it the only thing that came up was some murder in memphis

 

5 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

read my edits, please.

i haven't.. I don't think I've had bad experiences.with stalkers in the past, but I might've. plus... interent makes me uncomfortable at times.

also, izzy, i dont see why u need ur reddit in ur bio. it's another piece of info, and ppl could, say, use it to stalk/harras you on that platform

 

yes i know people can get all ur info easily. that's the scary thing. i guess it helps to think of urself as one of billions, so who would care abt you? Unless they specifically target certain people... cough cough... minorities ... cough cough ... trans people ... cough

i know it ip is easy.. but luckily I don't rlly know how..oh wait nvm.

yeah, reddit can be good. but still. i guess for me it's also just ... language. i get uncomfortable sometimes, and no I'm not a child, but that doesn't mean i appreciate... explicit material, or things that requisite a content warning.

Girl, I have mentioned there is NOTHING on my Reddit account like I haven’t even liked a single post ever

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Honors Ghost said:

I just did a search and nothing came up, and then I did boys bc that’s likely what all my stuff’s on and it the only thing that came up was some murder in memphis

 

Girl, I have mentioned there is NOTHING on my Reddit account like I haven’t even liked a single post ever

Ok, so I'm slightly ignorant since I don't use Reddit, but does it have a PM/DM feature? Or a wall/profile/SU area?

 

1 minute ago, Honors Ghost said:

I just did a search and nothing came up, and then I did boys bc that’s likely what all my stuff’s on and it the only thing that came up was some murder in memphis

that's not what I meant.

also you might not wanna mention if anyone you know/family members...pass away...cuz then someone could look for the obit.

 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

4 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

Ok, so I'm slightly ignorant since I don't use Reddit, but does it have a PM/DM feature? Or a wall/profile/SU area?

 

that's not what I meant.

also you might not wanna mention if anyone you know/family members...pass away...cuz then someone could look for the obit.

 

Maybe? Idk I’m not sure as I’ve said I have literally only used it too look at like r/traaa and egg irl

lol I mean I don’t have a whole lot of family members left that could pass away and even if one of them did the o ly ones that also live in ar are like my parents and if they die honestly o hope someone finds me

[Aeoryi she/her]

12 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

yes i know people can get all ur info easily. that's the scary thing. i guess it helps to think of urself as one of billions, so who would care abt you? Unless they specifically target certain people... cough cough... minorities ... cough cough ... trans people ... cough

i know it ip is easy.. but luckily I don't rlly know how..oh wait nvm.

yeah, reddit can be good. but still. i guess for me it's also just ... language. i get uncomfortable sometimes, and no I'm not a child, but that doesn't mean i appreciate... explicit material, or things that requisite a content warning

like if I wanted to stalk someone it would be so so easy that it's basically unavoidable. There are two paths to take: you can either try and build a castle so secure that not even the light can make it in, or you can accept that some things will always be able to topple you and just move on from there. 

4 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

Ok, so I'm slightly ignorant since I don't use Reddit, but does it have a PM/DM feature? Or a wall/profile/SU area?

Yes. Is it bad? No. 

Most people are good, you know 

5 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

that's not what I meant.

also you might not wanna mention if anyone you know/family members...pass away...cuz then someone could look for the obit.

yes

someone could

but I don't care if they find out

people can do terrible things with that information

I know that

It's my choice to make a calculated risk

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

like if I wanted to stalk someone it would be so so easy that it's basically unavoidable. There are two paths to take: you can either try and build a castle so secure that not even the light can make it in, or you can accept that some things will always be able to topple you and just move on from there. 

And the problem is if you build an online castle strong enough that stalkers can’t find you than no one can get in and you can’t get friends bc friends can’t exist if they don’t trust each other

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

like if I wanted to stalk someone it would be so so easy that it's basically unavoidable. There are two paths to take: you can either try and build a castle so secure that not even the light can make it in, or you can accept that some things will always be able to topple you and just move on from there.

yeah.. but that's kinda a false dichotomy.

2 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

Most people are good, you know 

sigh nice epiphany. rarely, i remember that there are lots of people just like me on the other side. not some CreepyOldPerson.

3 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

yes

someone could

but I don't care if they find out

people can do terrible things with that information

I know that

It's my choice to make a calculated risk

if you gamble enough, ur gunna die eventually.

if u take the chance enough times, even very slim, it'll come back to bite you some day.

1 minute ago, Honors Ghost said:

And the problem is if you build an online castle strong enough that stalkers can’t find you than no one can get in and you can’t get friends bc friends can’t exist if they don’t trust each other

yeah... but how do i know i can trust them? that's the problem. I've always thought of it that way, rather than worrying about them trusting me.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

6 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

yeah.. but that's kinda a false dichotomy.

sigh nice epiphany. rarely, i remember that there are lots of people just like me on the other side. not some CreepyOldPerson.

if you gamble enough, ur gunna die eventually.

if u take the chance enough times, even very slim, it'll come back to bite you some day.

yeah... but how do i know i can trust them? that's the problem. I've always thought of it that way, rather than worrying about them trusting me.

Oh, I think that’s the problem, bc like girl you can’t have a healthy relationship if you don’t trust that the other person isn’t gonna try to like kill you, and if you can’t trust them they won’t trust you

[Aeoryi she/her]

7 minutes ago, Usseewa said:

yeah.. but that's kinda a false dichotomy.

sigh nice epiphany. rarely, i remember that there are lots of people just like me on the other side. not some CreepyOldPerson.

if you gamble enough, ur gunna die eventually.

if u take the chance enough times, even very slim, it'll come back to bite you some day.

yeah... but how do i know i can trust them? that's the problem. I've always thought of it that way, rather than worrying about them trusting me.

I honestly could care less if there's a small chance to die eventually 
I've never been concerned about that stuff if not the opposite

do you think I or honors ghost are trying to actively decieve you

 

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Honors Ghost said:

Oh, I think that’s the problem, bc like girl you can’t have a healthy relationship if you don’t trust that the other person isn’t gonna try to like kill you, and if you can’t trust them they won’t trust you

I don't have relationships, really. not strong ones. I don't think. idk. maybe i do, but with irl people.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

I don't have relationships, really. not strong ones. I don't think. idk. maybe i do, but with irl people.

You should try opening up a lil more, maybe not like to the level that like I am

but like at least saying like whether or not your in college and stuff

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

I honestly could care less if there's a small chance to die eventually 
I've never been concerned about that stuff if not the opposite

do you think I or honors ghost are trying to actively decieve you

 

to be blatant...

I trust izzy more than you, but that also makes me more concerned that she's just trying to seem trustworthy.

also i probably shouldn't go down this road as i doubt it's healthy for you or me, and may ruin my relationship with y'all.

 

i just worry that I'm getting too personal with you guys and I don't even know you.

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Honors Ghost said:

You should try opening up a lil more, maybe not like to the level that like I am

but like at least saying like whether or not your in college and stuff

you already think you know the answer.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

Just now, Usseewa said:

you already think you know the answer.

I do but that’s not the same as you saying it like it’s just a guess and it means nothing in the form of trust since you haven’t actually said anyrhing

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Honors Ghost said:

I do but that’s not the same as you saying it like it’s just a guess and it means nothing in the form of trust since you haven’t actually said anyrhing

so.. do u not trust me?

just curious.

Edited February 22 by Usseewa

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

to be blatant...

I trust izzy more than you, but that also makes me more concerned that she's just trying to seem trustworthy.

also i probably shouldn't go down this road as i doubt it's healthy for you or me, and may ruin my relationship with y'all.

 

i just worry that I'm getting too personal with you guys and I don't even know you.

It’s not ruining your relationship with me at least, honestly I’m worried for you it sounds like you have a rly unhealthy idea abt relationships 

Just now, Usseewa said:

so.. do u not trust me?

just curious.

lol no I don’t trust you your the only person that’s ever tried to find where I live, and like I understand why you did it and I appreciate that but still like there are other people on the shard that know what town I live in but they all know bc I told them, you know bc you took the time to find it

[Aeoryi she/her]

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

to be blatant...

I trust izzy more than you, but that also makes me more concerned that she's just trying to seem trustworthy.

also i probably shouldn't go down this road as i doubt it's healthy for you or me, and may ruin my relationship with y'all.

 

i just worry that I'm getting too personal with you guys and I don't even know you.

wow you should play forum mafia you'd be like the ultimate tinfoiler

I've been told the words "I don't trust you" more times in my life than you can imagine. You can say that without hurting me. 

1 minute ago, Usseewa said:

so.. do u not trust me?

just curious.

I trust that you're not lying. I trust that what you say is true. That's about the extent of my trust with you. 

I'm not overly reliant on anyone though, so it's natural for people to find themselves in this sort of area.

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

7 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I honestly could care less if there's a small chance to die eventually 
I've never been concerned about that stuff if not the opposite

do you think I or honors ghost are trying to actively decieve you

 

I mean, I don't feel like you've shared that much either. Probably more than me but still. Not that you have to. Also that's Izzy's argument ig.

1 minute ago, Honors Ghost said:

It’s not ruining your relationship with me at least, honestly I’m worried for you it sounds like you have a rly unhealthy idea abt relationships 

That may be true.

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

wow you should play forum mafia you'd be like the ultimate tinfoiler

I've been told the words "I don't trust you" more times in my life than you can imagine. You can say that without hurting me. 

I trust that you're not lying. I trust that what you say is true. That's about the extent of my trust with you. 

I'm not overly reliant on anyone though, so it's natural for people to find themselves in this sort of area.

Unfortunately I grow to rely too much on people here on the Shard, perhaps because I don't have much anyone else to talk to. At least.. it's easier here, sometimes.

I mostly trust you aren't lying. At least, I trust you pretty much fully until I put on my tinfoil hat.

 

I've never played forum mafia (is it just mafia but online, like SE?) Well... that's a partial lie lol. I've mentioned this before but I accidentally became involved in it.