Having a Bad Day? Stop here for a Good Rant!

[Haelbarde he/him]

My daughter is turning 5 years old next month. So the good mother that I am has (humble today ) has started to think on potential gifts. Today, I went shopping with my mother and the kids, so we decided to stop by the Lego store.... My daughter, of course, was ecstatic  :lol:The idea was to get her to tell us which ones she preferred 

 

For myself, I was desperately looking for the Caster Lego I used to love as a child which featured knights, swords and castle. 

 

There were nowhere to be found. Castle Lego does not exist anymore     

 

So sad 

Really? That is sad... It was still a thing ~7 years ago (at least, you could still purchase it from a specialty Lego store (we had a place called  Toy Corner, as there might be like 2 proper LEGO stores in all Australia)).

[Guest]

Really? That is sad... It was still a thing ~7 years ago (at least, you could still purchase it from a specialty Lego store (we had a place called  Toy Corner, as there might be like 2 proper LEGO stores in all Australia)).

 

Well perhaps they still exist, but not in the Lego story I visited and it was big. There were several collections there, but no Castle. Not a single one 

[Kaymyth she/her]

Ugh. Surprisingly we haven't had any issues with chiggers since we moved to Texas, but we're careful to stay out of tall grass or other places where they proliferate. 

 

Even so, I sympathize with your pain. Microscopic vermin are the grossest and and most infuriating of them all to me.

 

Enterprising little monsters, this batch was.  I've never seen them crawl that far north before.  I had a horrible notion for a moment that we might have somehow picked up bedbugs somewhere, but then we realized that James had no bites at all.  And then I remembered weeding on Saturday, and I heaved a sigh of relief.  I'll take chiggers over bedbugs any day.

[Kestrel she/her]

Wow I'm feeling in the dumps tonight yay

Like okay, it kinda starts with my mom fussing at me for "not shaving my armpits" which newsflash yes i do because I despise having hair there. But she seems to think I don't and I'm so irritated because it isn't her choice. Its my body. Just because I'm living under her roof doesn't mean that she can decide how I look. I'm not an object for her to manipulate.

And I finally cut ties with a few internet friends of mine. Or a bit. I finally told them how I felt.

okay so i’ve been internet friends with two people for at least six years now. we’ve rped, written fanfics, done just about everything together. but recently, in the past six months, i’ve felt so isolated it kills me. they’ve made new friends, it seems, and i’ve been cut out of the group. when I attempted to make an rp to return things to normal, have the three of us! they don’t reply for months on end, then claim to have Internet issues or some other crap excuse when its obvious they haven’t. i check their activity feed and its all there; they’ve been on with their new clique that i don’t feel the least bit welcome in. not so much that they’re rude, but they flat out ignore me. i hate it, and i won’t come on a thread where that happens. they are like “oh try to make friends there” well what do you want me to do with a group of people who refuse to give me the time of day. and then they’re like “you bring us down bc you’re too negative” ???? what the hECk if you’re really my friend you’d try to help

In any case, i told them this. The rest has yet to unfold. Wow I'm prob going to be the subject of their little chat too. I really dislike some of the people on there..

[edit]

Wow she replied "I'll reply once I get something composed" well that's it then I'm never getting a straight answer.

Edited August 12, 2015 by LarkoftheRiver

[Guest]

Wow I'm feeling in the dumps tonight yay

Like okay, it kinda starts with my mom fussing at me for "not shaving my armpits" which newsflash yes i do because I despise having hair there. But she seems to think I don't and I'm so irritated because it isn't her choice. Its my body. Just because I'm living under her roof doesn't mean that she can decide how I look. I'm not an object for her to manipulate.

And I finally cut ties with a few internet friends of mine. Or a bit. I finally told them how I felt.

okay so i’ve been internet friends with two people for at least six years now. we’ve rped, written fanfics, done just about everything together. but recently, in the past six months, i’ve felt so isolated it kills me. they’ve made new friends, it seems, and i’ve been cut out of the group. when I attempted to make an rp to return things to normal, have the three of us! they don’t reply for months on end, then claim to have Internet issues or some other crap excuse when its obvious they haven’t. i check their activity feed and its all there; they’ve been on with their new clique that i don’t feel the least bit welcome in. not so much that they’re rude, but they flat out ignore me. i hate it, and i won’t come on a thread where that happens. they are like “oh try to make friends there” well what do you want me to do with a group of people who refuse to give me the time of day. and then they’re like “you bring us down bc you’re too negative” ???? what the hECk if you’re really my friend you’d try to help

In any case, i told them this. The rest has yet to unfold. Wow I'm prob going to be the subject of their little chat too. I really dislike some of the people on there...

 

Not feeling accepted is the worst of feelings   or at least it is to me. I sadly have no precious piece of advice else than stating how you truly feel about the situation and if these persons are not willing to change their hurtful behavior, then the sad truth is you care more about them than they about you. However, I understand if this does not help.

 

As sad as it is, Internet friends come an go. Whereas it is easy to meet people through the artificial life network, it is harder to keep them. I have sadly lost count of the number of people I have amiably chatted with until they disappeared. To think of it, I may also be guilty of having disappeared myself on a few occasions. Not that I meant to, but life.

 

With the years, I have come to be more detached of any friendship I may make over the Internet as none has ever lasted. I cherish them for the time they last, but when they go away, I try not to take it personal. 

[Kestrel she/her]

Yeah, I get that. So many people. But you know, six years is a bit of a long run to just forget someone, ya know? I get attached to people wayy too easily, and if they aren't online I instantly assume the worst "what if there was an accident? They could have died and I would never know!" But when they've been online and not talking to me, it instantly becomes "what did I do wrong? Do they not want to see me anymore? I guess not. I should stay away."

[Guest]

Yeah, I get that. So many people. But you know, six years is a bit of a long run to just forget someone, ya know? I get attached to people wayy too easily, and if they aren't online I instantly assume the worst "what if there was an accident? They could have died and I would never know!" But when they've been online and not talking to me, it instantly becomes "what did I do wrong? Do they not want to see me anymore? I guess not. I should stay away."

 

It's probably not your fault. People change. Things change and you can't help it. Sadly loyalty is not as strong over the Internet as it is in real life and even then... Truth is friends come and go and that is true for real life as well... You wake up one day and you realize you have nothing in common with your long-time friends or one goes and moves to another country because reasons. You try to keep contact, but after a while, the friendship just dies and yeah it happens, even after 25 years. It is sad, it hurts, but it happens and it is still not your fault.

 

My best piece of advice would be, if you are unable to salvage this lost friendship, to cherish what you had going and move on to find another group to exchange with, but do not think you are to blame for it. It is more likely you aren't.

[nicocoberru she/her]

Our teacher entered our class an hour and a half late. Thirty minutes later, instead of dissmissing us like our schedule says she was supposed to do, she continues prattling around, thereby extending our class.

So here I am. Stucked in class, barely listening to the discussion, annoyed as heck and fully missing out my lunch break. Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.

[Delightful]

Oh I hate it when teachers do that.

Or when they turn up really late, you've given up waiting and are chilling out round the corner and they yell because "you should be waiting for me!" And the next day you're five minutes late and they're not happy.

Seriously, teachers should be held just as liable as students for timeliness.

[nicocoberru she/her]

^^This.

And the most annoying thing is that we have this really important reporting/project today and after all her talk about the importance of responsability SHE'S the one who does this. She's always like this.

And she's actually sitting beside me as I type this, leisurely watching the reporters and generally ignoring the clock and the entire class' growling stomach.

[Delightful]

Is it a situation you can just get up and walk out? I very nearly did that when one of my teachers was a serial offender in keeping us ages past the bell.

Edit: or go get your lunch and come back in, at least.

Edited August 12, 2015 by Delightful

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

^^This.

And the most annoying thing is that we have this really important reporting/project today and after all her talk about the importance of responsability SHE'S the one who does this. She's always like this.

And she's actually sitting beside me as I type this, leisurely watching the reporters and generally ignoring the clock and the entire class' growling stomach.

 

I've had more power-tripping teachers than I care to remember, and I think that they should be closely supervised until they grow out of the megalomania, suspended, or fired entirely. All those teachers do is make half the class angry and give the other half lifelong neuroses. I had one prof my last semester of grad school who would give us vague assignments, answer any questions with an air of annoyance (because he clearly expected us to know the answers already) and then give out low grades and insult his students in the online grade book. I didn't learn a sparking thing that semester.  

[Delightful]

I had a teacher who spent multiple lessons going through a failed exam and crying/yelling/being disappointed in *everyone* for doing badly. The class bought her chocolate to apologise :/.

She'd also get offended if you had a tutor of her subject.

I mean, teachers are imperfect people like the rest of us. But when they then expect perfection from their students it gets annoying.

[nicocoberru she/her]

Is it a situation you can just get up and walk out? I very nearly did that when one of my teachers was a serial offender in keeping us ages past the bell.

Edit: or go get your lunch and come back in, at least.

Well, I did went out and brought some bisquits. But I have class in 15 minutes so I really won't be able to eat anything. If she still extends our class that long, I really will storming walk out of here.

I've had more power-tripping teachers than I care to remember, and I think that they should be closely supervised until they grow out of the megalomania, suspended, or fired entirely. All those teachers do is make half the class angry and give the other half lifelong neuroses. I had one prof my last semester of grad school who would give us vague assignments, answer any questions with an air of annoyance (because he clearly expected us to know the answers already) and then give out low grades and insult his students in the online grade book. I didn't learn a sparking thing that semester.

Aaah yes. Power-tripping, unfairfully terrorizing teachers. I hate them all. Whoever had the wise idea of letting them teach a class of still-growing young adults???

Edit: And she has the STORMING AUDACITY TO LECTURE US ABOUT RESPONSABILITY and accountability right after the reporting?? Who is she?? Who the sparking heck does she think she is??

Edit: Oh god. She told us and I quote. " Go get your lunch. And don't be late for you're next class. Don't blame me if you're late." Get lunch? Who the storming heck have the time for lunch?? You dismissed us at one. Our next class starts at one. Of course we're not gonna be able to eat our lunch. OF COURSE WE'RE GONNA BLAME YOU. I just. I'm really, really, really pissed of right now.

Edited August 12, 2015 by nicocoberru

[TCshard]

Noting that I'm still in HS, I have never had a bad teacher. I have always been able to avoid the extremely bad ones that don't teach and the only "bad" ones I've gotten are usually only considered bad because of how hard they push students.

[little wilson she/her]

Well, I did went out and brought some bisquits. But I have class in 15 minutes so I really won't be able to eat anything. If she still extends our class that long, I really will storming walk out of here.

Aaah yes. Power-tripping, unfairfully terrorizing teachers. I hate them all. Whoever had the wise idea of letting them teach a class of still-growing young adults???

Edit: And she has the STORMING AUDACITY TO LECTURE US ABOUT RESPONSABILITY and accountability right after the reporting?? Who is she?? Who the sparking heck does she think she is??

Edit: Oh god. She told us and I quote. " Go get your lunch. And don't be late for you're next class. Don't blame me if you're late." Get lunch? Who the storming heck have the time for lunch?? You dismissed us at one. Our next class starts at one. Of course we're not gonna be able to eat our lunch. OF COURSE WE'RE GONNA BLAME YOU. I just. I'm really, really, really pissed of right now.

I'm pretty sure you should be able to go to the administration office and tell them what happened. File a complaint. Teachers can't legally do that and they can (and should) be reprimanded for doing so. It's breaking the law.

And also, this is something I loved about college/university. If a professor was 10 minutes late, you could leave and even of they came to class after, they couldn't count that absence against you. At least, that's what the attendance policy was at my school. Teachers were held on the same system as students a student was absent if they showed up after 10 minutes. Do class was cancelled if a teacher showed up after 10 minutes. There were many times when the class would be looking at the clock counting the time and then the teacher would walk in 9 minutes late.

My own bad high school teacher experience:

My high school days mostly had good teachers. At least tolerable. However, I started high school with one of the worst math teachers ever. I'd been in advanced math in 7th and 8th grade, but I had a trouble quarter in 8th and even though I understood the subject matter by the end of the quarter, my teacher wanted my to retake the class (Algebra 1). I was fine with that. My school has two sets of core teachers. Half of the 9th graders had one set, and the other half had the other set.

One of the math teachers played favorites. My family knew this, because one of my older brothers had him. This brother is one of the smartest people I know. He almost failed this class. When I got my schedule and saw that I was set for his class, my mom wanted to change it, but I said no. I was retaking the course, so I knew the subject matter; I'd be fine. Naively, I was thinking teachers actually use some average of graded assignments to determine your overall grade in the class. Not so. See, this teachers picks his favorites based on the students who speak up in class and ask questions about problems they missed. I don't like to do that, because I like working out for myself why I missed something and it's only if I can't that I ask the teacher to solve the problem. I did worse in that class than I had my first time through it. And I actually love algebra so there was no reason that should've happened.

I remember one day in class where we were supposed to be working on homework. He'd given us about 10 minutes to work on it. I was one of the few diligently doing as he asked (simply because if I finish it in class, I have less to do at home). Everyone else was talking. Loudly. My friends around me, who were some of his favorites, were among these. I could hear their conversation and I found it interesting, but I knew I shouldn't join in becsuse I knew he'd get on my case if I did. However, after a bit, one if then said something that I just needed to respond to. A quick response, and then I'd get right back to work. That should be fine, right? Not so. I got two words out before he yelled, "Kendra, get back to work." So i promptly shut up and went back to work. And my friends sat there stunned, knowing that he'd unfairly singled me out. I hate that man. He should never have been a teacher.

[Blaze1616 he/him]

I woke up this morning with a headache. Not a blisteringly painful one, but a dull, lingering one. The pain tends to fade when I don't move, but when I do it flares back up. The worst part, though, is my body's reaction to this type of headache, which is always to get drowsy. So here I am, at work, struggling to not fall asleep. Ugh...is it time to go home yet?

[Claincy he/him]

body problems

-I think it's a muscle or something causing it but at the moment if I yawn (or sneeze though it's not as bad) the back of my throat really hurts.

-Apparently my toes were colder last night than I realised and I woke up with fairly severe chilblains/minor frostbite on one of my toes (just one). I have slightly low blood circulation in my fingers/toes so they get cold pretty easily.)

-My head hurts

-I was woken up considerably earlier than I had intended because my Dad (the only other person home at the time) needed to do something outside quickly without our puppy interfering so he put him in his crate/cage thing. Naturally, being a big sook, Robby started crying his little heart out which woke me up. I suspected he wasn't really hurt and was just voicing his displeasure and feelings of abandonment but I had to get up anyway to make sure. I was up a little late last night (playing Skyrim, so 100% my fault) and given my current non-ideal health I really did need a full night's sleep. (I'm not actually annoyed with my Dad about this, not sure how else he would have done it. S'fine, I'm just a bit tired now.)

 

On the other hand:
+The pressure on the side of my throat has faded

+I'm not getting sharp chest pain whenever I breathe deeply. (It still feels slightly off, but barely.)

 

So all in all I think I'll chalk this one down as a draw.

 

 

I get sick/have random issues quite a bit. I know it's at least partly because I'm unfit and underweight. (Roughly 1.72m & 53Kg/5'7 & 116lb, not ideal for a 22 yearold male though it could be worse.) I've always been skinny but I haven't always been this unfit. (I have for the past couple of years though.)

 

I've realised that being skinny/light and even being unfit to some extent at some point became a part of my identity, which is really dumb, I know. Why would I have any desire to be underweight/unfit with all the problems that causes/exacerbates, yet I do. It's not like I'm anorexic or starving myself or anything, I eat as much as I feel like eating which I *think* is slightly below average but not drastically so. The main problem is that it makes it just a bit harder to motivate myself to exercise as some part of me doesn't want to change :/ I'm working on it.

[Kobold King he/him]

Calamity darn it. Just lost the long message I'd been writing. Figured this would happen the one time I forgot to back it up on my computer, too.

 

Please forgive my delay, intended recipient, while I work to rewrite the message.

 

 

EDIT: Not that this is anything other than First World Problems given the posts above me, but still. I reserve the right to be petty.

Edited August 13, 2015 by Kobold King

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Calamity darn it. Just lost the long message I'd been writing. Figured this would happen the one time I forgot to back it up on my computer, too.

Please forgive my delay, intended recipient, while I work to rewrite the message.

I hate it when that happens.

[ParadoxicalZen he/him]

My knee is aching due to an old gym injury (i think due to being on it all day at a festival saturday) and i can't go to the doctors yet as depending on my early morning relief for work, i might not get there until after it opens, which means it will be packed >.>

[Kestrel she/her]

It's probably not your fault. People change. Things change and you can't help it. Sadly loyalty is not as strong over the Internet as it is in real life and even then... Truth is friends come and go and that is true for real life as well... You wake up one day and you realize you have nothing in common with your long-time friends or one goes and moves to another country because reasons. You try to keep contact, but after a while, the friendship just dies and yeah it happens, even after 25 years. It is sad, it hurts, but it happens and it is still not your fault.

My best piece of advice would be, if you are unable to salvage this lost friendship, to cherish what you had going and move on to find another group to exchange with, but do not think you are to blame for it. It is more likely you aren't.

Yeah, I guess so. I heard back from her this morning and she has claimed that its because /I've been so negative/ and I'm shunned a bit because /everyone else in the group is so nervous around me./ I've read through some chat and they straight up antagonize me (which isn't shocking really, because I have acknowledged my negativity) without knowing the entire story behind this. I'm honestly not mad at her, I'm just tired, but I'm /storming angry at them/. She denied my claims that they were a clique right off, which shocks me because yes, they do welcome new people, but do they ever start conversations with them ?? No ? When I was chatting there all my attempts to start a conversation ended in a two to three post conversation or ignored entirely.

I understand that she has her problems as well (as we both seem to have our depressed spouts) but I'm very sore with how she handles mine. Because I know that I would, if need to, stay up all night for her and maybe even skip class if it meant helping her through something bad. Her way of helping me is poor communication and letting me try to fix it myself.

She suggested that we take a break and wow I mean that's what you've seen to have been doing congrats a+

Edited August 13, 2015 by LarkoftheRiver

[Guest]

Yeah, I guess so. I heard back from her this morning and she has claimed that its because /I've been so negative/ and I'm shunned a bit because /everyone else in the group is so nervous around me./ I've read through some chat and they straight up antagonize me (which isn't shocking really, because I have acknowledged my negativity) without knowing the entire story behind this. I'm honestly not mad at her, I'm just tired, but I'm /storming angry at them/. She denied my claims that they were a clique right off, which shocks me because yes, they do welcome new people, but do they ever start conversations with them ?? No ? When I was chatting there all my attempts to start a conversation ended in a two to three post conversation or ignored entirely.

I understand that she has her problems as well (as we both seem to have our depressed spouts) but I'm very sore with how she handles mine. Because I know that I would, if need to, stay up all night for her and maybe even skip class if it meant helping her through something bad. Her way of helping me is poor communication and letting me try to fix it myself.

She suggested that we take a break and wow I mean that's what you've seen to have been doing congrats a+

 

Clique do exist and they always will, even when you grow as an adult.

 

Back when I was at University, I used to hang around a group of people which had a few girls in it (and boys as well). I am a very social person, I talk a lot, I am very bouncy by nature and I like to be around people (less now as I am getting older, but young me craved it). Well, one day I stumbled on one of the guys in the corridor and he tells me: 

 

"Why are you here, aren't you at the girls lunch?"... 

"Which girl's lunch?" I recalled asking.

"The one where all the girls went to...."

 

I had never heard of a "girl's lunch" as clearly I had not been invited. So see, my own group of so-called friends with whom I was hanging around, talking to, everyday had not want my wonderful presence for their girl's lunch. I was shun out of my own group of real-life friends and I found out by pure happenstance. I was not even a teenager back then, but a young adult, about 22-23 years old.

 

I must have looked unbelievably hurt because the guy apologized immediately as he sincerely thought I had been invited, imo not his fault, he was a sweet guy.

 

I just happens, I hurts, a lot, but I learned to stop trying so hard to be accepted and I focused on the people who actually wanted to be with me, namely the one who has since become my husband and the one who still is, to this day, my friend. 

 

That's the best piece of advice I have: focus on the people who appreciate you, who take time with you even if you are "negative" as we do not always feel like picking up wild flowers while jumping around gleefully. If these people are not interested in you, then they do not deserve you. Others will, but sadly cliques always happen and yes some people are better a fitting in then others. I have never understood why, but I have since gathered being outgoing and social does not guaranty a place in the clique.

 

However, on the bright side, many things change when you aged. Whereas your childhood friends may not follow you, you are bound to meet other people, especially once you have children. Children... they are people's magnet.

Edited August 13, 2015 by maxal

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Right Silver. Sure Silver. Using a bike to pick up a copy of WoR without bringing some kind of bag or backpack can't possibly go wrong. Not in any way!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Right Silver. Sure Silver. Using a bike to pick up a copy of WoR without bringing some kind of bag or backpack can't possibly go wrong. Not in any way!