EDIT: My computer is not loading the edit function correctly, so I can't spoiler it right now? Anyway, !! THIS POST HAS SPOILERS IN IT !!, I'll try and get it in a spoiler box asap, sorry about this.
Thank you for getting that! I honestly didn't remember that many hints, so I'm surprised to see them. That being said, I'm almost certain when I read them, I did not interpret it as hints towards a crush/possible romantic affection. Hrathen is the sort of person to feel respect and admiration even for his worst enemy, so that's all I saw it as. I see it often in other pieces of fiction as the 'the honourable adversary.' I suppose I fit him into that trope in my brain, and so assumed that any hints for his crush were just his respectful attitude. That being said, I'm not going to pretend like I'm not a fairly oblivious person lol . . . I tend to pick up on subtitles when I'm looking for them, but sometimes I miss things completely.
For me, these hints alone are not enough to hint at a crush. I need more for it to stick in my brain. It might be enough for someone else, but not for me. I understand Brandon not wanting him to address the feelings directly, because he wanted the character being a certain way (as he said in the annotations). I'm not saying Hrathen needs a monolouge about it or anything, I'm just asking for more hints I guess--and those hints to get more obvious closer to the end. Have him show his conflicting emotions through the different plays he makes against her (maybe he subconsciously 'goes easy' on her for something, and he acknowledges that his not sure why), have him act differently when she's in the room, etc.
I think Brandon could have pulled of the 'doesn't consciously acknowledge it' thing if he'd added more hints. That being said, I am partly of the mind that Hrathen could have acknowledged the feelings and wouldn't have felt out of character. I think I would've liked a monolouge, if I'm being honest, but I understand that's not what he wanted to do with the character.
Certainly, hence my earlier comment. If he were to rewrite it today, I would probably love Hrathen. (Unrelated, but that's why Elantris is one of Brandon's stories I would really like to see adapted into another medium--it would give him the chance to re-polish things).
That is an interesting point, but I just have to go back to what I already said. If Hrathen is experiencing confusion over how he feels, we need to be shown that. Maybe mention a past attempt at a similar relationship that he decided wasn't for him. I never once got the feeling that Hrathen was having a hard time understanding himself or what he felt. To me, it seemed like he went from 'I admire this person as an opponent,' to 'I think I have romantic feelings for this person' far too fast, and with very little questioning of what he felt/ deliberating. I could be wrong, but his comment of 'why am I jealous or Roaden?' seems to be the only time he questioned himself. Perhaps, he was questioning himself, but I as a reader don't remember because the story barely focused on it.
Is Hrathen confirmed as Aromantic, or is that speculation from his actions?