Non-Adult Club

[revelryintheart she/her]

because forming a serious relationship early on in dating can prohibit you from meeting other people and decided who you really want to marry. and it could lead to immoral behavior, because the longer you date someone the more time/chances you have to go further

[+Doomstick he/him]

1 minute ago, Matrim's Dice said:

Because how can deciding to date 'seriously' as a 12 year old end up with anything but sadness/annoyance/something else?

Well wouldn't learning what kind of person you like that way earlier be better? It would give you more time to find the right person for you.

 

1 minute ago, revelryintheart said:

because forming a serious relationship early on in dating can prohibit you from meeting other people and decided who you really want to marry. and it could lead to immoral behavior, because the longer you date someone the more time/chances you have to go further

*Because

How would dating earlier stop you from meeting other people?

[Mat he/him]

3 minutes ago, Doomstick said:

Well wouldn't learning what kind of person you like that way earlier be better? It would give you more time to find the right person for you.

Pretty sure 12-year-olds aren't gonna do that... In my experience of watching, it goes something like this:

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Boy: I like you, wanna go out?

Girl: Yes! I like you too!

*They proceed to hold hands in the hallway for the next week*

Boy: I don't like you anymore!

Girl: *sadness noises* *anger noises*

*They proceed to hate each other for the rest of the year(s)*

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So I just think it's better to wait until, y'know, you actually care :P.

Edited November 17, 2020 by Matrim's Dice

[+Doomstick he/him]

Just now, Matrim's Dice said:

Pretty sure 12-year-olds aren't gonna do that... In my experience of watching, it goes something like this:

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Boy: I like you, wanna go out?

Girl: Yes! I like you too!

*They proceed to hold hands in the hallway for the next week*

Boy: I don't like you anymore!

Girl: *sadness noises* *anger noises*

*They proceed to hate each other for the rest of the year(s)*

---

So I just think it's better to wait until, y'know, you actually care :P.

I wouldn't call that a serious relationship

[Mat he/him]

Just now, Doomstick said:

I wouldn't call that a serious relationship

Yep. At that age it's pretty hard to have a serious relationship. Wait 'till you are mature enough to.

[+Doomstick he/him]

Just now, Matrim's Dice said:

Yep. At that age it's pretty hard to have a serious relationship. Wait 'till you are mature enough to.

What I'm saying is that people are all different and should be able to date when they feel ready to. Many people don't want to until they are older, others are ready at a younger age.

[The One Ring she/her]

7 hours ago, Aspiring Writer said:

Haha, you lucky people, able to date from the age of sixteen. My sister wasn't allowed to date until 20.

Even worse that me, wow!

7 hours ago, Doomstick said:

Wait. Why must you be "allowed" to date?

I'm not LDS, but I live in Asia(it's mostly consider unproper to date before18, I think) Part of the reason we(asians)'re not allow to so is because what rev and Mat's Dice has pointed out "you're not mature enough"(and most of us aren't. setting a limit can ban those who think they're ready, but really aren't from doing so) and part of it is because adults think dating will make kids less focus on their study. (And university isn't a place for lots of study for some reason)

Edited November 17, 2020 by The One Ring

[Emi she/her]

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

[Shard of Reading he/him]

4 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

I'm sure you're not ugly emi.

My parents aren't putting a numerical value on when I can date, it's when they think I'm ready. It could be tomorrow or in 2 years. But to be completely honest, I wouldn't want to date until after high school because I think it would be distracting.

Edit: 1234 posts! Let's goooo!

Edited November 17, 2020 by Shard of Reading

[+Doomstick he/him]

5 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

Don't lie.

[overlord stick]

... Wait, there's a such thing as a minimum dating age? Huh, I've never heard of that before.

[Condensation she/her]

12 hours ago, Hentient said:

Also 16 is a very important number for... cosmere things. *jazz hands* 

Exactly!

12 hours ago, Doomstick said:

Well wouldn't learning what kind of person you like that way earlier be better? It would give you more time to find the right person for you.

 

*Because

How would dating earlier stop you from meeting other people?

Wait, did you just correct capitalization? This from you? I cannot count the number of times... Sorry. I'm being rude. I still think it's a good point, though.

6 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

You are not ugly.

[+Doomstick he/him]

14 minutes ago, Condensation said:

Wait, did you just correct capitalization? This from you? I cannot count the number of times... Sorry. I'm being rude. I still think it's a good point, though.

Once we have departments, I will be the head of the DoG, which is separate from the DoSy and DoSp (Grammar, syntax, and spelling, respectively).

[Condensation she/her]

4 minutes ago, Doomstick said:

Once we have departments, I will be the head of the DoG, which is separate from the DoSy and DoSp (Grammar, syntax, and spelling, respectively).

Okay, but just so you know, Fadran made me Hegemon of Grammar and Spelling. I think syntax might have been included, but I'm not sure.

What is your rank about?

Edited November 17, 2020 by Condensation

[Emi she/her]

Y’all are prettier than me ://

2 hours ago, Shard of Reading said:

I'm sure you're not ugly emi.

Didn’t you see me?

[Shard of Reading he/him]

1 minute ago, EmiTheNinja said:

Didn’t you see me?

Nope.

[Condensation she/her]

3 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said:

Y’all are prettier than me ://

Didn’t you see me?

Um... no way. I saw you!

[revelryintheart she/her]

8 hours ago, The One Ring said:

Even worse that me, wow!

I'm not LDS, but I live in Asia(it's mostly consider unproper to date before18, I think) Part of the reason we(asians)'re not allow to so is because what rev and Mat's Dice has pointed out "you're not mature enough"(and most of us aren't. setting a limit can ban those who think they're ready, but really aren't from doing so) and part of it is because adults think dating will make kids less focus on their study. (And university isn't a place for lots of study for some reason)

Yeah my Chinese friend has to wait until she's 21 to date.

8 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

Emi you're the exact opposite of ugly

[+Doomstick he/him]

58 minutes ago, Condensation said:

Okay, but just so you know, Fadran made me Hegemon of Grammar and Spelling. I think syntax might have been included, but I'm not sure.

What is your rank about?

Making you the chief of the Language Police, I head the Department of Grammar under you.

*tries to react with :this:*

[overlord stick]

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Yeah my Chinese friend has to wait until she's 21 to date.

What? That's really odd, and in my opinion pretty dumb. People should have the choice to date whenever they want, not have some arbitrary limit imposed on everyone because some people might not be emotionally mature enough.

Edited November 17, 2020 by Empress Stick

[+Doomstick he/him]

^

[Condensation she/her]

3 minutes ago, Doomstick said:

Making you the chief of the Language Police, I head the Department of Grammar under you.

*tries to react with :this:*

Okay.

3 minutes ago, Empress Stick said:

What? That's really odd, and in my opinion pretty dumb. People should have the choice to date whenever they want, not have some arbitrary limit imposed on everyone because some people might not be emotionally mature enough.

It... makes more sense when it's explained differently. I'm bad at explaining.

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

11 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

No way. Just look at me  

 

Also, this may help explain the church of jesus christ dating thing a little more. 

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/new-era/1975/02/q-and-a-questions-and-answers/why-cant-i-date-when-i-am-15?lang=eng

“Going steady too young oftentimes leads to intimacies which are encouraged by dating with one partner only.”

"The odds for remaining clean and pure and going worthily to the sacred altars in the temple(a place of worship for us),  never having transgressed the moral code, very much favor those who do not date until they are 16."

Hope this helps a little

[+Doomstick he/him]

I just feel like those kinds of rules don't address how everyone is different.

[The One Ring she/her]

12 hours ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I can date when I want. No one wants me though, I'm too ugly ://

Why do I always imagine you to be really pretty(and also with golden-blond hair)

4 hours ago, Empress Stick said:

What? That's really odd, and in my opinion pretty dumb. People should have the choice to date whenever they want, not have some arbitrary limit imposed on everyone because some people might not be emotionally mature enough.

In my opinion it's more like "most people" (21 is a bit too much imo though)