Trans Hangout Thread

[Hmmm lies she/her]

5 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

Interesting. The path that I'm well, probably going to take involves like a 5 part intake process 

And one of the questions is like what do I want from HRT and like what do I even say lol 

Breasts, bigger thighs, slower body hair growth, decreased gender dysphoria, increased gender euphoria, increased emotion.

Take your pick.

[Aeoryi she/her]

5 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Breasts, bigger thighs, slower body hair growth, decreased gender dysphoria, increased gender euphoria, increased emotion.

Take your pick.

omg tytyty 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

41 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Breasts, bigger thighs, slower body hair growth, decreased gender dysphoria, increased gender euphoria, increased emotion.

Take your pick.

AllOftheabove I choose you!

[Aeoryi she/her]

3 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

AllOftheabove I choose you!

Now how do I convince my parents that this is important to me...

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

Now how do I convince my parents that this is important to me...

You got thiiisss

[Aeoryi she/her]

3 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

You got thiiisss

Not rhetorical, need help

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

Not rhetorical, need help

Oh uhm no clue, sry idk maybe just like tell em… ugh I sound stupid uhhh uhhhhhh *panix* @Hmmm lies

[Hmmm lies she/her]

9 hours ago, Aeoryi said:

Now how do I convince my parents that this is important to me...

Well, I did what I do best: wrote multiple paragraphs on why it mattered to me so much and texted them to my mom. Admittedly, she might have still gotten it without me doing that, but I wanted to be extra careful.

Here they are, you'll naturally have to change some bits if you want to use them.

Spoiler

So, you are about to head to the appointment. I didn't get a chance to talk one last time, so I'll say it here.

I want to reiterate that there should be 0 risk for starting HRT. All effects besides infertility and breasts are reversible by stopping the treatment, and I've looked up info about sperm banking, and it seems you don't need much advance notice, you just get an STD test, then provide the sperm. And then, of course, there's the fact I mentioned that if I don't start it now, I might not be able to in the future because of the horror that is politics. It would be taking a significant risk to not start it while it's still possible.

 

Next, I want to address the point of "commitment" that you brought up. I'm going to admit that maybe there is more I could be doing to present feminine. However, I think that should not matter. "Commitment" shouldn't be a requirement here. Why should my ability to be comfortable in my own body be dependent on how I appear or act to others? And why would HRT be the thing I need to be "committed" for? You've changed my legal name and gender, been using she/her pronouns for a long time now, bought me plenty of fem clothes, are actively trying to change my name in Social Security, and bring me to the RYA thing. Why should THIS be the thing that I'm not committed enough for? To me, it feels really gatekeepy for you to suggest someone should be "committed" enough for them to start HRT. 

 

That brings me to point 3. This isn't all so people look at me and think "oh, what a pretty girl." This is so I can finally feel like I belong in my body. This isn't about what other people think of me. This is about what I think about myself. For months now, the way I coped with my body whenever I looked at myself was telling myself things would get better. That in just a few months, everything would be okay. That I would look at my body, and feel happy. The idea that that might not happen... It's scary. And I KNOW you don't understand this. I've tried to explain how I feel to you before, but you just don't understand. I don't blame you for it, I don't think many cis people can understand it. But I need you to trust me. Trust that this is the right choice for me. I know myself better than anyone else. 

 

Maybe I didn't need to send this text. Maybe you would have agreed to getting me a prescription anyway. I'm sure the doctor would have told you enough to convince you. But I wouldn't have felt safe without sending this. Without knowing I had laid out everything in front of you. After I start HRT, I promise to tell you everything about how it feels. I'll be completely trans(heh)parent about everything, so you'll be the first to know about ANY side effects.

 

In conclusion, I really REALLY hope that you get me this prescription. It really means a lot to me, and I don't know if you understand that, but I hope you can trust me about it.

 

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Anyone else maybe get a lil bit dysphoria when someone on the Shard refers to you as your username instead of your name? Like someone saying "Hey, Theory" or "Hey, @Theory" instead of "Hey, Lily"?

[Akimikoisthecutest]

2 minutes ago, Theory said:

Anyone else maybe get a lil bit dysphoria when someone on the Shard refers to you as your username instead of your name? Like someone saying "Hey, Theory" or "Hey, @Theory" instead of "Hey, Lily"?

Nope

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

2 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Nope

Oh...

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 minutes ago, Theory said:

Anyone else maybe get a lil bit dysphoria when someone on the Shard refers to you as your username instead of your name? Like someone saying "Hey, Theory" or "Hey, @Theory" instead of "Hey, Lily"?

Nurp

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Well I haven't name dropped here so no, but I can call you Lily if you like

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

Just now, Hmmm lies said:

Well I haven't name dropped here so no, but I can call you Lily if you like

I would like that, thank you.

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

53 minutes ago, Theory said:

Anyone else maybe get a lil bit dysphoria when someone on the Shard refers to you as your username instead of your name? Like someone saying "Hey, Theory" or "Hey, @Theory" instead of "Hey, Lily"?

Honestly, I get gender euphoria from being referred to as something other than my deadname

[Styrac]

12 hours ago, Aeoryi said:

Now how do I convince my parents that this is important to me...

Coming in late (and also new here) but are you in a position where you have to tell them? Insurance wise, living situation wise, etc? Not that I'd advise lying to your parents unless you have to, I didn't tell my parents until they found out by accident over a year later, and they weren't happy about it... but ultimately, if you're in a position where you're able to, I don't feel like we have to justify ourselves to anyone.

Otherwise, could be worth talking to a therapist about (if you can find a good one and that's something that is available to you). If not to help you come out, just to say that you've talked it through with someone else and still want to go through with it. Only suggesting that if you feel it'd help though, because that's a lot of effort just to figure out what you already know.

[Akimikoisthecutest]

3 minutes ago, Styrac said:

Coming in late (and also new here) but are you in a position where you have to tell them? Insurance wise, living situation wise, etc? Not that I'd advise lying to your parents unless you have to, I didn't tell my parents until they found out by accident over a year later, and they weren't happy about it... but ultimately, if you're in a position where you're able to, I don't feel like we have to justify ourselves to anyone.

Otherwise, could be worth talking to a therapist about (if you can find a good one and that's something that is available to you). If not to help you come out, just to say that you've talked it through with someone else and still want to go through with it. Only suggesting that if you feel it'd help though, because that's a lot of effort just to figure out what you already know.

Hi! It's nice to meet you!

[Usseewa ✾ She♡Her ✾]

5 minutes ago, Styrac said:

Coming in late (and also new here) but are you in a position where you have to tell them? Insurance wise, living situation wise, etc? Not that I'd advise lying to your parents unless you have to, I didn't tell my parents until they found out by accident over a year later, and they weren't happy about it... but ultimately, if you're in a position where you're able to, I don't feel like we have to justify ourselves to anyone.

Otherwise, could be worth talking to a therapist about (if you can find a good one and that's something that is available to you). If not to help you come out, just to say that you've talked it through with someone else and still want to go through with it. Only suggesting that if you feel it'd help though, because that's a lot of effort just to figure out what you already know.

Welcome! We can always use advice and others' experiences!

[Akimikoisthecutest]

Guys, why is Charlie Morningstar actually cute?

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

13 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Guys, why is Charlie Morningstar actually cute?

Bc demon lesbian lady=marry me?

[Aeoryi she/her]

4 hours ago, Hmmm lies said:

Well, I did what I do best: wrote multiple paragraphs on why it mattered to me so much and texted them to my mom. Admittedly, she might have still gotten it without me doing that, but I wanted to be extra careful.

Here they are, you'll naturally have to change some bits if you want to use them.

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So, you are about to head to the appointment. I didn't get a chance to talk one last time, so I'll say it here.

I want to reiterate that there should be 0 risk for starting HRT. All effects besides infertility and breasts are reversible by stopping the treatment, and I've looked up info about sperm banking, and it seems you don't need much advance notice, you just get an STD test, then provide the sperm. And then, of course, there's the fact I mentioned that if I don't start it now, I might not be able to in the future because of the horror that is politics. It would be taking a significant risk to not start it while it's still possible.

 

Next, I want to address the point of "commitment" that you brought up. I'm going to admit that maybe there is more I could be doing to present feminine. However, I think that should not matter. "Commitment" shouldn't be a requirement here. Why should my ability to be comfortable in my own body be dependent on how I appear or act to others? And why would HRT be the thing I need to be "committed" for? You've changed my legal name and gender, been using she/her pronouns for a long time now, bought me plenty of fem clothes, are actively trying to change my name in Social Security, and bring me to the RYA thing. Why should THIS be the thing that I'm not committed enough for? To me, it feels really gatekeepy for you to suggest someone should be "committed" enough for them to start HRT. 

 

That brings me to point 3. This isn't all so people look at me and think "oh, what a pretty girl." This is so I can finally feel like I belong in my body. This isn't about what other people think of me. This is about what I think about myself. For months now, the way I coped with my body whenever I looked at myself was telling myself things would get better. That in just a few months, everything would be okay. That I would look at my body, and feel happy. The idea that that might not happen... It's scary. And I KNOW you don't understand this. I've tried to explain how I feel to you before, but you just don't understand. I don't blame you for it, I don't think many cis people can understand it. But I need you to trust me. Trust that this is the right choice for me. I know myself better than anyone else. 

 

Maybe I didn't need to send this text. Maybe you would have agreed to getting me a prescription anyway. I'm sure the doctor would have told you enough to convince you. But I wouldn't have felt safe without sending this. Without knowing I had laid out everything in front of you. After I start HRT, I promise to tell you everything about how it feels. I'll be completely trans(heh)parent about everything, so you'll be the first to know about ANY side effects.

 

In conclusion, I really REALLY hope that you get me this prescription. It really means a lot to me, and I don't know if you understand that, but I hope you can trust me about it.

 

wow you did so much more stuff than I did before getting HRT that's crazy

the more I think about it the less of a chance I think I have which sucks because things are like only going to get worse 

[Akimikoisthecutest]

1 hour ago, Honors Ghost said:

Bc demon lesbian lady=marry me?

aaaaaahhhh, I thought I was AroAce, but now I'm not so sure...

[Aeoryi she/her]

6 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

aaaaaahhhh, I thought I was AroAce, but now I'm not so sure...

common experience 

[Akimikoisthecutest]

48 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

common experience 

Is it?

[Aeoryi she/her]

1 hour ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

Is it?

Yeah I'd think so I hear lots of people talk about it