Aeoryi she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 4 minutes ago, Theory said: Oh, like they would basically just ignore you and think you'll stop eventually? That's rough... Well, yeah, they might. My dad would totally take that route. my mom doesn't understand the importance of pronouns. It's also, like, it almost feels like I'd be forcing a pill down their throats, so to speak, because it's not something they're like, prompting me for (doubt they care anyways) so it's not even like they want to anyways. But in your case they are prompting you and open to change so it's probably going to feel like it's less of something you're forcing down their throats. 6 minutes ago, Theory said: Do you have other support groups/people to talk to besides us? I think you actually suggested I find other support groups outside here since it can be not very active. Because I can give advice and probably some help, but not always, you know? Yeah I have like two 6 minutes ago, Theory said: Maybe... But...what if I end up not being trans then you'll probably be happy, at least? I think they'd be just as willing to switch back if needed and it's not like they're not used to like, using a different pronoun set for you.
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 24 Posted January 24 51 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: But like, we'd never tell a kid that, we just wait for them to figure it out themselves? I'm worried that my family will treat me similarly.  Yeah, I worry about that too. 46 minutes ago, Theory said: Do you have other support groups/people to talk to besides us? I think you actually suggested I find other support groups outside here since it can be not very active. Because I can give advice and probably some help, but not always, you know? Nope! You are pretty much my support group
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 1 minute ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: Nope! You are pretty much my support group Same here...'cept my parents.
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 24 Posted January 24 1 minute ago, Theory said: Same here...'cept my parents. My parents don't even know
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: My parents don't even know i recommend telling them, if you think it would be okay (meaning, not bad). They think you're genderfluid, right? You can get a lot of support from your parents, trust me. That is, if they are supportive. Edit: but also it's your choice, of course Edited January 24 by Theory
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 24 Posted January 24 1 minute ago, Theory said: i recommend telling them, if you think it would be okay (meaning, not bad). They think you're genderfluid, right? Â Yeah the do... 1 minute ago, Theory said: You can get a lot of support from your parents, trust me. That is, if they are supportive. They are but I don't want to ruin our relationship
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 Just now, Akimikoisthecutest said: They are but I don't want to ruin our relationship I...it might help your relationship tbh; bring you closer to them. I can't say whether or not it will "ruin your relationship" with them, since I can only see many possible futures (since I'm a Shard), but I don't think it will. I hope not. 1
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 There's no irl support groups nearby me either that I could find easily
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 18 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: There's no irl support groups nearby me either that I could find easily What about at ur school?  edit: guys u should listen to the song "Idol" (it prob has a different name cuz it's in Japanese I think). Here's what the album cover looks like: Spoiler  if u like it, i have more recs (which I someone else recommended to me lol) edit: if u cant tell, im currently obsessed with anime/anime songs ("OP/EDs") Edited January 24 by Theory
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 24 Posted January 24 22 minutes ago, Theory said: edit: guys u should listen to the song "Idol" (it prob has a different name cuz it's in Japanese I think). Here's what the album cover looks like:  Reveal hidden contents  if u like it, i have more recs (which I someone else recommended to me lol) edit: if u cant tell, im currently obsessed with anime/anime songs ("OP/EDs") Lol. I really need advice on how to come out to your parents. @Hmmm lies
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 24 minutes ago, Theory said: What about at ur school?  edit: guys u should listen to the song "Idol" (it prob has a different name cuz it's in Japanese I think). Here's what the album cover looks like:  Reveal hidden contents  if u like it, i have more recs (which I someone else recommended to me lol) edit: if u cant tell, im currently obsessed with anime/anime songs ("OP/EDs") Not really You should listen to the song "The Emptiness Machine" by Linkin Park (actually peak) hatsune miku ew no
Hmmm lies she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 3 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said: Lol. I really need advice on how to come out to your parents. @Hmmm lies Haha, I still cringe to this day about how I did it. (Let's just say I made too much of a spectacle) But what I do advise is making a script for yourself, so you know what to say in the moment. Also tell them you have something important to tell them in advance, so it's harder to back out. 1
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: Not really Do you mean you don't have a support group at school? It doesn't even have to be like an official club or smth, it could just be a few ppl or one person or smth and you can talk togehter 11 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: You should listen to the song "The Emptiness Machine" by Linkin Park (actually peak) I will, thank you. I think I used to listen to "Numb" by Linkin, but I think it might've been depressing? Idk. 11 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: hatsune miku ew no I don't think it's Miku...though I kinda thought that too from the cover. It's not. Fairly sure. 7 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said: Also tell them you have something important to tell them in advance, so it's harder to back out. OMG YES This is a good idea, trust me.  I'm not even a minute into Emptiness machine...and it's...interesting.  also guys i need another prompt... i cant write...  nvm I got a prompt; emptiness. Hehe. I love writing/trying to write depressing stuff.  tbh I probbaly shouldnt listen to Emptiness Machine on repeat. (She says while listening it to the second time). It won't be good for me... Edited January 24 by Theory 1
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 11 minutes ago, Theory said: Do you mean you don't have a support group at school? It doesn't even have to be like an official club or smth, it could just be a few ppl or one person or smth and you can talk togehter nope lol people aren't trans where I go to 12 minutes ago, Theory said: will, thank you. I think I used to listen to "Numb" by Linkin, but I think it might've been depressing? Idk. Linkin Park songs tend to be somewhat depressing (mostly because they're sometimes relatable) Burn it down is also good. 13 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said: Haha, I still cringe to this day about how I did it. (Let's just say I made too much of a spectacle) But what I do advise is making a script for yourself, so you know what to say in the moment. Also tell them you have something important to tell them in advance, so it's harder to back out. How do I get them to use my chosen name and/or pronouns? Any advice?
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 Just now, Aeoryi said: nope lol people aren't trans where I go to What about other forms of queer/LGBTQ+? Or any allies maybe? 1 minute ago, Aeoryi said: Linkin Park songs tend to be somewhat depressing (mostly because they're sometimes relatable) Burn it down is also good. I'm not gunna listen to that. i really wanna listen to Emptiness Machine again but I know I shouldn't
Aeoryi she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 1 minute ago, Theory said: What about other forms of queer/LGBTQ+? Or any allies maybe? I'm not gunna listen to that. i really wanna listen to Emptiness Machine again but I know I shouldn't some of them are... random tbh Non-depressing songs: Over Each Other, Faint, Unshatter, Up from the Bottom, Heavy is the Crown (all of these are fairly good) Some of them are definitely more depressing than others. Your choice. Spoiler also fun fact the emptiness machine is about how the new singer person was basically culted by Scientology I believe Â
Hmmm lies she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 Just now, Aeoryi said: How do I get them to use my chosen name and/or pronouns? Any advice? Well, in my situation, I only asked them to like a few months after I came out, but it wasn't because I was scared, but because I wasn't yet out to my siblings. But your situation seems tricky... I don't think any harm could come from asking, at least that way, you could figure out what their arguments are, and find a way to refute them. But convincing them could be another issue. The only thing I can think of is somehow getting them to understand how misgendering hurts you. 1
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Aeoryi said: Non-depressing songs: Over Each Other, Faint, Unshatter, Up from the Bottom, Heavy is the Crown (all of these are fairly good) Thx im listening to them now. Edit: why is Linkin so...angry? 4 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said: but it wasn't because I was scared, but because I wasn't yet out to my siblings Yeah...pretty much me Edited January 24 by Theory
Hmmm lies she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 Oh hey by the way @Theory, I think maybe you should change the name of this thread to something like "Trans hangout thread" or something like that, if we're making this the new standard thread for trans people. Also maybe edit the first post to explain that while this was originally made as a space for transfems, it quickly became for all trans people. 1
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 1 minute ago, Hmmm lies said: Oh hey by the way @Theory, I think maybe you should change the name of this thread to something like "Trans hangout thread" or something like that, if we're making this the new standard thread for trans people. Also maybe edit the first post to explain that while this was originally made as a space for transfems, it quickly became for all trans people. Ok cool. mb can u remind me tomorrow? Ill do a quick edit to both rn, but yeah. Or il just remember Edited January 24 by Theory 1
Hmmm lies she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 2 minutes ago, Theory said: Ok cool. mb can u remind me tomorrow? Ill do a quick edit to both rn, but yeah. Or il just remember Yeah, I'll remind you if you haven't already done it. 1
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 4 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said: Yeah, I'll remind you if you haven't already done it. Nvm lol just did it :3 Thx for pointing that out btw I wanna make this place inclusive and stuff 1
Hmmm lies she/her Posted January 24 Posted January 24 1 minute ago, Theory said: Nvm lol just did it :3 Thx for pointing that out btw I wanna make this place inclusive and stuff Ok, awesome! I'll let you know if I think anything should be added, but I think it looks good for now! 1
Usseewa ⟠SheâĄHer ⟠Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said: Ok, awesome! I'll let you know if I think anything should be added, but I think it looks good for now! great, cool!  @Hmmm lies watchin' Heartstopper now. U should listen to the song "girls" by girl in red Edited January 24 by Theory
Akimikoisthecutest Posted January 24 Posted January 24 2 hours ago, Hmmm lies said: Haha, I still cringe to this day about how I did it. (Let's just say I made too much of a spectacle) But what I do advise is making a script for yourself, so you know what to say in the moment. Also tell them you have something important to tell them in advance, so it's harder to back out. Really? interesting 2 hours ago, Hmmm lies said: Well, in my situation, I only asked them to like a few months after I came out, but it wasn't because I was scared, but because I wasn't yet out to my siblings. But your situation seems tricky... Â yeah. I worry about coming out to my siblings. They're all younger than me so... 3
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