Mental health club!

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, echo74 said:

yeah im okay

thanks tho

*squeeze*

Of course

[MirkerLurker she/her]

12 hours ago, Hawks said:

 So box bc this is already super long 

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Okokoo

Soooo

Listen

Is it possible to have two crushes 

Bc I have one. If you know who its great if not ur blind. Anyways. There's this kid M ok? Last year he was in my group and I according to my friends "was crushing so hard" on him. Anyways we couldn't stay in contact and I saw him again and ahahahah. Anyways. Idk what to do. Cause I have J then I have M and this is the first time I've been torn abt boys..  .... and J knows how I feel and said that maybe later we could make our friendship more. But idkkkkkcause J doesnt live near me and neither does M but M lives closer and also just

 

Yep. Totally possible. Common, even.

Relationships are about choice more than feelings. Sure, they start with feelings. But feelings are whimsical and unreliable, easily influenced. If there's someone you're interested in, and you spend a lot of time with them, seek them out all the time, that spark will grow. If there's someone you're interested in, but you don't spend time with them, don't interact with them, that spark will fade. Slowly, sure, but growth and fading happen by choice.

All of which to say, yeah that's totally normal, also no help to you whatsoever as to who to actually choose   just don't feel like there's someone wrong with you, k? 

And hey, maybe neither of them ends up being who you choose - that's also fine.

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

22 hours ago, Hawks said:

*hugs* thanks 

*huges*

*hugsss*

*hugesst hugs*

*HUGSSSSSSS*

WOW words *hugs*

Hallyyyy *hugeee huge hug*

AWWWWWWWWW

AWWWHWHWHWH

will do *hugs*

 

Okokok so sorry for not replying. Im at fsy iykyk if not ask someone else. 

So box bc this is already super long 

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Okokoo

Soooo

Listen

Is it possible to have two crushes 

Bc I have one. If you know who its great if not ur blind. Anyways. There's this kid M ok? Last year he was in my group and I according to my friends "was crushing so hard" on him. Anyways we couldn't stay in contact and I saw him again and ahahahah. Anyways. Idk what to do. Cause I have J then I have M and this is the first time I've been torn abt boys..  .... and J knows how I feel and said that maybe later we could make our friendship more. But idkkkkkcause J doesnt live near me and neither does M but M lives closer and also just

 

*hugs*

Of course

That makes a lot of sense, actually

Just... don't stress too much over these guys

Your feelings are yours; no one else can tell you how you're supposed to feel. Don't force yourself to act a certain way for some guys

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

I'm just gonna put this here too

(TW: old self-harm scars (photo))

Spoiler

 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 hours ago, Just-A-Stick said:

I'm just gonna put this here too

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that’s a great quote*hugs*

[𝖂𝖍𝖎𝖗𝖙𝖊]

On 6/11/2025 at 2:28 PM, MirkerLurker said:

Yep. Totally possible. Common, even.

Relationships are about choice more than feelings. Sure, they start with feelings. But feelings are whimsical and unreliable, easily influenced. If there's someone you're interested in, and you spend a lot of time with them, seek them out all the time, that spark will grow. If there's someone you're interested in, but you don't spend time with them, don't interact with them, that spark will fade. Slowly, sure, but growth and fading happen by choice.

All of which to say, yeah that's totally normal, also no help to you whatsoever as to who to actually choose   just don't feel like there's someone wrong with you, k? 

And hey, maybe neither of them ends up being who you choose - that's also fine.

THANK YOU! Yes. Relationships are built off of CHOICE and COMMITMENT.

Sorry. It's exciting to find someone else who believes that. I mean I know a lot of people do, but I have a lot of consumer-relationship friends.

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

5 hours ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

that’s a great quote*hugs*

*hugs back*

thank you! I made it up myself

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

12 minutes ago, Just-A-Stick said:

*hugs back*

thank you! I made it up myself

Even better I will be saving that mentally

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

AAAAAAAA IM DYING I ACCIDENTALLY OUTED MYSELF TO MY PARENTS AND THEY ARE ACCEPTING BUT I WAS NOT PREPARED BROOOOOO I WAS HOING TO A DANCE AND MY MOM TEXTS ME “HAVE FUN AT THE DANCE” I THOUGHT IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE AND SO I TEXT BACK “I WILL IM GOING EITH MY BOYFRIEND” AND SHE GOES “WOAH THATS NEWS” I AM SO SCARED FOR NO REASOJ AND HAVE NOT EVEN “READ” THAT TEXT

[MirkerLurker she/her]

6 minutes ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

AAAAAAAA IM DYING I ACCIDENTALLY OUTED MYSELF TO MY PARENTS AND THEY ARE ACCEPTING BUT I WAS NOT PREPARED BROOOOOO I WAS HOING TO A DANCE AND MY MOM TEXTS ME “HAVE FUN AT THE DANCE” I THOUGHT IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE AND SO I TEXT BACK “I WILL IM GOING EITH MY BOYFRIEND” AND SHE GOES “WOAH THATS NEWS” I AM SO SCARED FOR NO REASOJ AND HAVE NOT EVEN “READ” THAT TEXT

Oop. Welp...hey, now you didn't have to worry about how to tell them!

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

51 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Oop. Welp...hey, now you didn't have to worry about how to tell them!

Ig so it’s still so scary

[Keke They/he]

On 6/11/2025 at 8:31 AM, Spark of Hope said:

 

 

*hugs*

On 6/11/2025 at 11:29 AM, Bird Furious said:

 

Thank you guys

*hugs hugs hugs*

*hugs hugs*

On 6/11/2025 at 1:28 PM, MirkerLurker said:

Yep. Totally possible. Common, even.

Relationships are about choice more than feelings. Sure, they start with feelings. But feelings are whimsical and unreliable, easily influenced. If there's someone you're interested in, and you spend a lot of time with them, seek them out all the time, that spark will grow. If there's someone you're interested in, but you don't spend time with them, don't interact with them, that spark will fade. Slowly, sure, but growth and fading happen by choice.

All of which to say, yeah that's totally normal, also no help to you whatsoever as to who to actually choose   just don't feel like there's someone wrong with you, k? 

And hey, maybe neither of them ends up being who you choose - that's also fine.

Mmm strange. Cause I liked him last year at fsy but then lost contact and didnt see him again till this year and the feeling was still there. 

 

And he promptly ignored and advpided me all week

On 6/11/2025 at 8:49 PM, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs*

Of course

That makes a lot of sense, actually

Just... don't stress too much over these guys

Your feelings are yours; no one else can tell you how you're supposed to feel. Don't force yourself to act a certain way for some guys

Im not. If a dude doesnt like me for me then he dont deserve me cause hes weak.... thats probably lying to myself to pretend I dont get affected by how much I get rejected for dances

On 6/13/2025 at 8:15 AM, Just-A-Stick said:

I'm just gonna put this here too

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Amazing quote *hugs*

On 6/13/2025 at 10:56 AM, 𝖂𝖍𝖎𝖗𝖙𝖊 said:

THANK YOU! Yes. Relationships are built off of CHOICE and COMMITMENT.

Sorry. It's exciting to find someone else who believes that. I mean I know a lot of people do, but I have a lot of consumer-relationship friends.

YES.

18 hours ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

AAAAAAAA IM DYING I ACCIDENTALLY OUTED MYSELF TO MY PARENTS AND THEY ARE ACCEPTING BUT I WAS NOT PREPARED BROOOOOO I WAS HOING TO A DANCE AND MY MOM TEXTS ME “HAVE FUN AT THE DANCE” I THOUGHT IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE AND SO I TEXT BACK “I WILL IM GOING EITH MY BOYFRIEND” AND SHE GOES “WOAH THATS NEWS” I AM SO SCARED FOR NO REASOJ AND HAVE NOT EVEN “READ” THAT TEXT

YAY???

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 hours ago, Hawks said:

*hugs*

*hugs hugs*

Mmm strange. Cause I liked him last year at fsy but then lost contact and didnt see him again till this year and the feeling was still there. 

 

And he promptly ignored and advpided me all week

Im not. If a dude doesnt like me for me then he dont deserve me cause hes weak.... thats probably lying to myself to pretend I dont get affected by how much I get rejected for dances

Amazing quote *hugs*

YES.

YAY???

IDK BRO I JUST GOT HOME AND NONE OF THEM HAVE EVEN MENTIONED IT IM SO CONFUSED AHHHHH

[MirkerLurker she/her]

3 hours ago, Hawks said:

 

Mmm strange. Cause I liked him last year at fsy but then lost contact and didnt see him again till this year and the feeling was still there. 

 

And he promptly ignored and advpided me all week

Oh, I don't mean that you can't or won't rekindle the feeling if you come back to it - more that, for that year you weren't in contact with him, the feeling didn't grow, or really even be important to you. You formed a crush on someone else in the meantime, because you weren't devoting your energy and time to thinking about and loving the first guy. I mean, that's not the only reason. But it's related.

Aaaand...that sucks. I sorry. *hug*

[Keke They/he]

13 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Oh, I don't mean that you can't or won't rekindle the feeling if you come back to it - more that, for that year you weren't in contact with him, the feeling didn't grow, or really even be important to you. You formed a crush on someone else in the meantime, because you weren't devoting your energy and time to thinking about and loving the first guy. I mean, that's not the only reason. But it's related.

Aaaand...that sucks. I sorry. *hug*

MY AROACE BRAIN CANT PROCESS THIS ALL

can I go back to not caring abt boys?

1 hour ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

IDK BRO I JUST GOT HOME AND NONE OF THEM HAVE EVEN MENTIONED IT IM SO CONFUSED AHHHHH

*hugs*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Uhh ok so...

Can someone please explain to me how hanging out with my friends can both recharge my emotional battery and make me more depressed at the same time?

[echo74 she/her]

2 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Uhh ok so...

Can someone please explain to me how hanging out with my friends can both recharge my emotional battery and make me more depressed at the same time?

*hug*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

*hugs for whomever needs them*

[MirkerLurker she/her]

On 6/14/2025 at 9:06 PM, Hawks said:

MY AROACE BRAIN CANT PROCESS THIS ALL

can I go back to not caring abt boys?

lolol. If you can convince your brain to go back to not caring about boys, please go right ahead! Also, share your secret, there's so many people who want it haha.

And don't worry about processing it, honestly. It doesn't need to make sense. Romantic feelings/relationships are one of the weirdest, most illogical things we encounter. Keep whatever promises you make, and you're pretty much fine.

 

On 6/14/2025 at 10:22 PM, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Uhh ok so...

Can someone please explain to me how hanging out with my friends can both recharge my emotional battery and make me more depressed at the same time?

Since I don't know the specifics, a couple of ideas:

Your friends were stressed or sharing struggles and you were there for them/helped them, which fulfils you emotionally because you helped, but also drains you/depresses you because of the general stress and tension you were working in.

Your friends were having fun, you were having fun, it was good, you were happy, it was filling; but now you're home, they're not here, and you're right back to as empty as you were before, only now you have the fresh memory of having not been empty for a brief time, and the emptiness feels that much colder by comparison, and you wonder how you went straight back to it despite the warmth that was there, and if it made any real difference at all or if you will go through your life unable to ever hold onto anything, grasping at fleeting moments that fade away the moment you touch them.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

35 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

lolol. If you can convince your brain to go back to not caring about boys, please go right ahead! Also, share your secret, there's so many people who want it haha.

And don't worry about processing it, honestly. It doesn't need to make sense. Romantic feelings/relationships are one of the weirdest, most illogical things we encounter. Keep whatever promises you make, and you're pretty much fine.

 

Since I don't know the specifics, a couple of ideas:

Your friends were stressed or sharing struggles and you were there for them/helped them, which fulfils you emotionally because you helped, but also drains you/depresses you because of the general stress and tension you were working in.

Your friends were having fun, you were having fun, it was good, you were happy, it was filling; but now you're home, they're not here, and you're right back to as empty as you were before, only now you have the fresh memory of having not been empty for a brief time, and the emptiness feels that much colder by comparison, and you wonder how you went straight back to it despite the warmth that was there, and if it made any real difference at all or if you will go through your life unable to ever hold onto anything, grasping at fleeting moments that fade away the moment you touch them.

Actually it was both at the same time: that being around them is fun and refills my battery, but also that they were talking about their problems which sets off my depression 'cause I'm a little like Kaladin

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Also I promise I'll reply to topics outside mhc eventually, I just need enough brainpower to do so—so probably after camps are over

 

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

2 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Actually it was both at the same time: that being around them is fun and refills my battery, but also that they were talking about their problems which sets off my depression 'cause I'm a little like Kaladin

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Also I promise I'll reply to topics outside mhc eventually, I just need enough brainpower to do so—so probably after camps are over

 

*squeeze*

[MirkerLurker she/her]

2 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Actually it was both at the same time: that being around them is fun and refills my battery, but also that they were talking about their problems which sets off my depression 'cause I'm a little like Kaladin

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Also I promise I'll reply to topics outside mhc eventually, I just need enough brainpower to do so—so probably after camps are over

 

Well there we go...wait, it was a rhetorical question, wasn't it. Well, here, have a hug. *hug*

Ah, it's almost like you chose your username for that likeness or something! Imagine that.

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Don't worry about it. I love that we can take our time, come and go on that discussion as we feel like it and have time for it. Keep your brain power for camps, you'll need it!

 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

On 6/14/2025 at 3:58 PM, Hawks said:

*hugs*

*hugs hugs*

Mmm strange. Cause I liked him last year at fsy but then lost contact and didnt see him again till this year and the feeling was still there. 

 

And he promptly ignored and advpided me all week

Im not. If a dude doesnt like me for me then he dont deserve me cause hes weak.... thats probably lying to myself to pretend I dont get affected by how much I get rejected for dances

Amazing quote *hugs*

YES.

YAY???

Ookkk there’s this thing some of my friends think I have a eating disorder idk rly know partly bc I have a friend who self diagnoses all the time even tho she’s been tested for those things so I’m not saying it is a eating disorder but I eat a lot

like a lot a lot like if I’m not hungry but just bored or stressed or anything I’ll go eat

idk

Edited June 17, 2025 by Honors ghost

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

29 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

Ookkk there’s this thing some of my friends think I have a eating disorder idk rly know partly bc I have a friend who self diagnoses all the time even tho she’s been tested for those things so I’m not saying it is a eating disorder but I eat a lot

like a lot a lot like if I’m not hungry but just bored or stressed or anything I’ll go eat

idk

hmmm

idk that just sounds normal to me

like some ppl might not do it but it doesn't seem particularly abnormal in a negative way

eating is good for you, as long as you eat the right thing

so it makes sense for eating to be your nothing-to-do

mine is sleeping lol

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

24 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

hmmm

idk that just sounds normal to me

like some ppl might not do it but it doesn't seem particularly abnormal in a negative way

eating is good for you, as long as you eat the right thing

so it makes sense for eating to be your nothing-to-do

mine is sleeping lol

Ok then that’s what I thought I just wasn’t aure