Mental health club!

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

2 minutes ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

They also have the BEST stories too.

Yeah

2 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

Hell

. . .

this 

this is incredible

that man is incredible

thank you for this

aw stormy of course

Yeah

He's one of the best people I've ever met

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

43 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

have the military pay for my college (I think you can do this in the US, in exchange for 4 years of service)

Yep, a former friend of mine got all of his college paid for by the army, which is pretty nice. Even doing stuff like National Guard can get you some hefty scholarships.
In terms of being worried about being strong enough, that's one of the main areas in life that we as humans have the ability to control, for the most part. Never too early or too late to start hitting the gym. And ofc part of the point of boot camp is to make sure you're strong enough, though ofc you have to be pretty fit to begin with.

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

[Existential]

2 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yep, a former friend of mine got all of his college paid for by the army, which is pretty nice. Even doing stuff like National Guard can get you some hefty scholarships.
In terms of being worried about being strong enough, that's one of the main areas in life that we as humans have the ability to control, for the most part. Never too early or too late to start hitting the gym. And ofc part of the point of boot camp is to make sure you're strong enough, though ofc you have to be pretty fit to begin with.

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

Good luck  

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

2 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yep, a former friend of mine got all of his college paid for by the army, which is pretty nice. Even doing stuff like National Guard can get you some hefty scholarships.
In terms of being worried about being strong enough, that's one of the main areas in life that we as humans have the ability to control, for the most part. Never too early or too late to start hitting the gym. And ofc part of the point of boot camp is to make sure you're strong enough, though ofc you have to be pretty fit to begin with.

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

You got this!!!!!!!

I've been saying that a lot lately lol

Lots of finals happening . . .

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

22 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

thanks

yeah thats the goal

is he still serving?

or does he do law or smth now?

Both

He's a lawyer for the military

he's gone on two deployments before but he mostly does legal stuff now 

21 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Yeah

He's 54 now, I think

He grew up in a place where the average lifespan for black boys was 21 years because of crime

(oh yeah he's black btw)

He came home after shooting up someone's house (that wasn't the goal -they never even wanted to be violent- but that's what happened because . . . stuff I won't get into) 

And he went home and his mom was sitting at the table at like 1 AM

And he was covered in his friend's blood

(his friend hand punched through a window and ended up needing severe medical treatment on his arm)

And his mom asked him what he was gonna do with his life (without knowing what'd happened that night)

And on the spot he realized he didn't want this kind of life

So he told her (in his own words):

"I'm gonna finish high school join the Marines as soon as I turn 18, because if I stay here I'll be dead by 21."

And that's what he did.

He served for 18 years, retired at 36, and now owns a gym (and is probably the most ripped guy i've ever seen in person ).

He's honestly one of the coolest guys I've ever met in my entire life. He's super spiritual too- he grew up Methodist but joined my church just a few years ago but he has such a strong spirit about him it's amazing

. . .

anyway

Military

That's the most amazing thing I've ever heard 

7 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yep, a former friend of mine got all of his college paid for by the army, which is pretty nice. Even doing stuff like National Guard can get you some hefty scholarships.
In terms of being worried about being strong enough, that's one of the main areas in life that we as humans have the ability to control, for the most part. Never too early or too late to start hitting the gym. And ofc part of the point of boot camp is to make sure you're strong enough, though ofc you have to be pretty fit to begin with.

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

YOU CAN DO IT. GO STUDY. GO STUDY. GO STUDY. 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, Bird Furious said:

That's the most amazing thing I've ever heard 

9 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Right?

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

Just now, Bird Furious said:

YOU CAN DO IT. GO STUDY. GO STUDY. GO STUDY. 

It's bedtime now tho xD So gonna have to grind tmrw 

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

1 hour ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

I needs hugs

*provides hugs*

1 hour ago, TwinStorm said:

I want to join the military 

but I'm afraid

and don't know if I'm strong enough

idk

its hard

I don't like thinking abt the future

its stressful

could use hugs

59 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

yes pls

and thank you

actually that does

I just want the purpose that gives me

people have given their lives for me sitting here rn

I want to give back

yeah, hopefully the goal is to attend a prestigious law school, have the military pay for my college (I think you can do this in the US, in exchange for 4 years of service) than go into law

52 minutes ago, TwinStorm said:

thanks

idk

I've been thinking abt this a lot recently and came to that conclusion

the only way im going to make this world a better place is through service

alright thanks

*more hugs*

That’s a huge decision. I believe there are many ways to give back and make the world a better place other than fighting, but if that is your choice, I support you entirely. I think everyone here does.

You got this, Stormy.

8 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

It's bedtime now tho xD So gonna have to grind tmrw 

LUCK!

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 hour ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

I needs hugs

1 hour ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

Thanks. I've just beeen struggling recently. You guys prolly know my sister is in a psych ward and y'know I have mental health problems. The one good thing I guess is tha my Rabbi also struggles wth depression so he can relate.

*hugs*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 hours ago, TwinStorm said:

I want to join the military 

but I'm afraid

and don't know if I'm strong enough

idk

its hard

I don't like thinking abt the future

its stressful

could use hugs

*hug hug hug* your so brave just for even considering it and it makes sense to be scared

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

Spoiler

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

  Hide contents

 

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

All I can say his wow that’s… yah

[Keke They/he]

10 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yep, a former friend of mine got all of his college paid for by the army, which is pretty nice. Even doing stuff like National Guard can get you some hefty scholarships.
In terms of being worried about being strong enough, that's one of the main areas in life that we as humans have the ability to control, for the most part. Never too early or too late to start hitting the gym. And ofc part of the point of boot camp is to make sure you're strong enough, though ofc you have to be pretty fit to begin with.

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

*hugs* *gives blanket and hot chocolate.* it’s ok! You got it this far so you will make it!! You got this!!!!

1 hour ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

  Reveal hidden contents

 

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

………. Don’t call me out like that

good theme and whatnot 

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

On 4/16/2025 at 9:23 PM, MirkerLurker said:

You...your school doesn't have water fountains? But...but public buildings are legally required to have water sources available...right? I thought?? 

uhhhhhh

i'm like homeschooled but i go to co-op??

it's complicated 

[Keke They/he]

On 4/16/2025 at 7:23 PM, MirkerLurker said:

You...your school doesn't have water fountains? But...but public buildings are legally required to have water sources available...right? I thought?? 

Yeah but doesn’t mean they are sanitary XD at my school they are frequently yellow or brown or taste like crap and thats not just my sensitive crap.

granted our school is neglected by the school district and the superintendent will intentionally give money everywhere but here. 

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

13 hours ago, TwinStorm said:

I want to join the military 

but I'm afraid

and don't know if I'm strong enough

idk

its hard

I don't like thinking abt the future

its stressful

could use hugs

*hugshugshugshugshugs*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

3 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

  Reveal hidden contents

 

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

Jeez. That feels targeted. That's really good.

38 minutes ago, Just-A-Stick said:

uhhhhhh

i'm like homeschooled but i go to co-op??

it's complicated 

Homeschoolers!! *high five*

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

9 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

  Hide contents

 

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

...

wow

I'd... never thought of that before

I suppose the next question would be:

Do we love others for who they are or for what they do?

And how are those different?

How is a person defined if not by the sum of their actions?

[Shatter He/Him]

1 hour ago, Hoid Slayer said:

...

wow

I'd... never thought of that before

I suppose the next question would be:

Do we love others for who they are or for what they do?

And how are those different?

How is a person defined if not by the sum of their actions?

Does a child love their mother or father because they're their parent, or because they cared for them when they were young and unable to care for themself? Some people have terrible relationships with their parents, but still love them. I'd posit that a child loves their parents' for what they are. Maybe what they embody? Ach, you've gotten me all philosophical now.

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

1 minute ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

Does a child love their mother or father because they're their parent, or because they cared for them when they were young and unable to care for themself? Some people have terrible relationships with their parents, but still love them. I'd posit that a child loves their parents' for what they are. Maybe what they embody? Ach, you've gotten me all philosophical now.

In the end, love is a quality refined by evolution. Do we love our parents because they make us better, or because it is advantageous? What about others?

Why do we love certain people and not others, and why does it often conflict with what our head is telling us?

And... yeah, I think this is getting too deep

[Keke They/he]

23 minutes ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

Does a child love their mother or father because they're their parent, or because they cared for them when they were young and unable to care for themself? Some people have terrible relationships with their parents, but still love them. I'd posit that a child loves their parents' for what they are. Maybe what they embody? Ach, you've gotten me all philosophical now.

Good question. Ik some poeple weren’t taken care of as a kid by their parents but love them for how they are trying to change. Like me. My parents weren’t there for me as i got older and needed them. But they are trying their best to change and be better then they were. 

19 minutes ago, Hoid Slayer said:

Why do we love certain people and not others, and why does it often conflict with what our head is telling us?

And... yeah, I think this is getting too deep

It could be based on experiences with them. Good and bad. Sometimes they hurt your heart but not your head so they fight on good or bad.

as for it getting deep

thast what this thread is for

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

if someone ever says something "get on my level"ish, or makes you feel like you're somehow lower than them

remember:

if they are not willing to get down to your level and cradle your healing soul in their hands

while a dreamworks soundtrack plays behind it all

are they really worth hanging out with

this works with familial, romantic, and platonic relationships

ideally you find a middle ground, but even that means that they need to move too

don't give an inch until they do

stand proud where you are, and you will always be above them

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

32 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

if someone ever says something "get on my level"ish, or makes you feel like you're somehow lower than them

remember:

if they are not willing to get down to your level and cradle your healing soul in their hands

while a dreamworks soundtrack plays behind it all

are they really worth hanging out with

this works with familial, romantic, and platonic relationships

ideally you find a middle ground, but even that means that they need to move too

don't give an inch until they do

stand proud where you are, and you will always be above them

*squeeze*

aw

[Keke They/he]

40 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

if someone ever says something "get on my level"ish, or makes you feel like you're somehow lower than them

remember:

if they are not willing to get down to your level and cradle your healing soul in their hands

while a dreamworks soundtrack plays behind it all

are they really worth hanging out with

this works with familial, romantic, and platonic relationships

ideally you find a middle ground, but even that means that they need to move too

don't give an inch until they do

stand proud where you are, and you will always be above them

Awww *hugs*

*thinks*

*giggles in iykyk*

[MirkerLurker she/her]

11 hours ago, Just-A-Stick said:

uhhhhhh

i'm like homeschooled but i go to co-op??

it's complicated 

oh, homeschool! Cool. But also, that makes sense.

11 hours ago, Hawks said:

Yeah but doesn’t mean they are sanitary XD at my school they are frequently yellow or brown or taste like crap and thats not just my sensitive crap.

granted our school is neglected by the school district and the superintendent will intentionally give money everywhere but here. 

ewwww. Yeah that sounds about right though.

 

On 4/20/2025 at 9:49 PM, The Shattered Cosmere said:

I needs hugs

On 4/20/2025 at 9:58 PM, The Shattered Cosmere said:

Thanks. I've just beeen struggling recently. You guys prolly know my sister is in a psych ward and y'know I have mental health problems. The one good thing I guess is tha my Rabbi also struggles wth depression so he can relate.

*hugs*

I'm glad you've got a mentor-type person who can relate. That's good. 

On 4/20/2025 at 10:04 PM, TwinStorm said:

I want to join the military 

but I'm afraid

and don't know if I'm strong enough

idk

its hard

I don't like thinking abt the future

its stressful

could use hugs

*hug*

23 hours ago, Through The Living Glass said:

It is!

I actually- there's this guy in my ward who went into the Marines and it completely changed his life

He's the coolest guy in the world but he used to be caught up in a lot of crime and stuff

His story's really cool- he joined the military and it completely turned his life around for the better

A way less emotional story than yours, but a guy I knew growing up also changed for the better when he joined the Marines. He was adopted in his tweens (or late elementary? older than usual adoption, anyway), had been in the state system as long as he could remember, and so was, let's say, rather rough around the edges. Very defensive, aggressive. Didn't trust people, acidic to be around. When he hit 18 though, he joined the Marines, and his rough edges...shifted. The defensive behavior now included other people, defending them. The aggressive became strength, and that strength became dependability. He went from actively driving everyone away from him to being the guy everybody asked for help, and half the time they didn't need to cuz he'd already volunteered (or was halfway through doing what needed doing). He's still coarse and rough, but in a playful loving way now, a way that seeks to love those around him, not drive them off. He found himself a girl and got married, working a solid job, and a great guy. 

Military comes with a lot of hardships, but it's got some strong pros as well.

23 hours ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

They also have the BEST stories too.

YES

oh man. So my grandpa was an EOD (explosive ordinance disposal) in Vietnam. And he had some of the craziest stories...and SO MANY of them. We'd be at a family dinner, and he'd start telling one, and Grandma would go "You've never told me this one!" 

He also had stories from living in the States afterwards, because turns out when the local fire department finds out you have training in explosive ordinance defusing, they start calling you for help when things come up.

...also he got special permission to keep his truck painted with the EOD symbols, so he drove around in the bomb squad truck. And any time they road-tripped, he would stop at any military or government restricted-access areas and see if he could drive in without showing any ID or anything like that.
Turns out the answer is almost always yes, yes he could. Because when the bomb disposal truck shows up, you don't ask questions.

 

23 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Also aghh, it just hit me that my finals are in 2 weeks and I haven't prepped at all. I still have 4 more exams in those next two weeks, so I don't have time to start finals preppp
And my four finals are worth 20%, 25%, 20% and 24% of my grade... ack
Let the stress beginnnn

Ooh, much sympathy. You've got this. Final grind, let's gooooo!

13 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Wanted to share with ya'll a really good mini-essay I read this morning from Chris Williamson's newsletter that's got a really good point, def worth reading.

  Hide contents

 

Hi friend,

A friend did a mushroom trip and a question came to him:

“Do people love you for who you are or for what you do?”

This is uncomfortable to consider.

People loving us for who we are feels more real, genuine, caring, empathetic and robust.

It feels like it’s less fickle and more difficult to lose.

On the other hand, people loving us for what we do feels transactional and transient.

The love we receive becomes contingent on what achievements and successes we can offer in return.

And the obvious fear is that if a point came where we no longer had anything to offer in return, would our love be taken away?

So here’s an even more uncomfortable question…

“Do you love you for who you are or for what you do?”

Oooo. Nowhere to hide now buddy.

This highlights our hypocrisy.

You see, we want the world to love us for who we are.

A balanced, caring view of our true value, independent of our accomplishments.

Meanwhile our own self-love is largely determined by what we do.

If we fall short, even though we know we tried our best, we still castigate ourselves for being insufficient, unworthy creatures.

So we want the world to show up for us in a way that we are often not prepared to show up for ourselves.

You deserve more than this, demand it of yourself.

 

4 hours ago, Hoid Slayer said:

...

wow

I'd... never thought of that before

I suppose the next question would be:

Do we love others for who they are or for what they do?

And how are those different?

How is a person defined if not by the sum of their actions?

Not just the sum of their actions, but their motivation or intent as well. We judge differently a theft committed in desperation to survive vs a theft committed in boredom or as a challenge. 

Emotionally, we value the person differently for their intent, their internal self, in addition to their external self. However, we're limited in our ability to perceive someone else's internal self - we have to trust their word on it, and make our own guesses based on watching their external self - so it gets tricky to separate "who they are" from "what they do", given our external perspective. But we do try.

How are those (who they are vs what they do) different? Who we are drives what we do. Who we are is the fuel; what we do is the result. They're linked, but they're not the same, I'd say.
Maybe "what they do" and "why they do it" roughly equals "who they are"? (I say roughly, because there's a lot of nuance in "why they do it")

3 hours ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

Does a child love their mother or father because they're their parent, or because they cared for them when they were young and unable to care for themself? Some people have terrible relationships with their parents, but still love them. I'd posit that a child loves their parents' for what they are. Maybe what they embody? Ach, you've gotten me all philosophical now.

Or does a child love their mother and father because of what they want them to be? What the parents embody or should be, even when they fail to embody it?

Do we love the person, or do we love who we imagine them to be?
What do we do when the person we love isn't who we thought they were?

And since we're going here, what does it mean to love someone? Is love an emotion? A choice? An action? Is love who we are, or what we do? (I think it's both, btw. It's an emotion, but it's also a choice.) 
Is loving different than liking? (I also think yes to this one. You can love someone but not like them - or rather, not enjoy them. You can love someone that you don't enjoy. And this is important, because it's important to love yourself even when you don't like yourself.)

I think to love someone means to desire their good. To want them to thrive, to seek with your actions to support and care for them. 

ahem
I like going philosophical.