Delightful Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Why are you editing your mother's blog? It is her blog, not yours....Seconded
+Slowswift Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Why are you editing your mother's blog? It is her blog, not yours.... Thirded.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Why are you editing your mother's blog? It is her blog, not yours.... Seconded Because I was a copy editor back in high school and college, and I have a natural ear for grammar and style, and because I make her sound so good and she couldn't do it without me…. Basically, because if she pours on the guilt and flattery in equal measure, she can get her blog edited for free. Update: I'm never venting to my brother again. I tried that, he told me I needed to stop taking everything the wrong way, and when I walked out, he followed me into my storming room and said "That is proof of my point!" I hate him and I hate living here. 2
+Slowswift Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Because I was a copy editor back in high school and college, and I have a natural ear for grammar and style, and because I make her sound so good and she couldn't do it without me…. Basically, because if she pours on the guilt and flattery in equal measure, she can get her blog edited for free. Update: I'm never venting to my brother again. I tried that, he told me I needed to stop taking everything the wrong way, and when I walked out, he followed me into my storming room and said "That is proof of my point!" I hate him and I hate living here. I am so sorry. If I owned a business I'd hire you just to get you out of there. Not the kind of household anyone should be in. EDIT: Tell me if I'm going over the top here. Guess I'm filling in for Kobold... Edited July 20, 2015 by Slowswift 3
Guest Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Because I was a copy editor back in high school and college, and I have a natural ear for grammar and style, and because I make her sound so good and she couldn't do it without me….. But why do you have to make her sound good as you say... It is her blog, she should write her stuff as she sees it fit... If you have to edit everything she writes, then it is not really her blog... or this is how I see it.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 But why do you have to make her sound good as you say... It is her blog, she should write her stuff as she sees it fit... If you have to edit everything she writes, then it is not really her blog... or this is how I see it. I really don't know. I think she's insecure about her own grammar--she's made me copy edit her Facebook posts before, for Pete's sake.
Kobold King he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Update: I'm never venting to my brother again. I tried that, he told me I needed to stop taking everything the wrong way, and when I walked out, he followed me into my storming room and said "That is proof of my point!" I hate him and I hate living here. I'm sorry. It sounds like you're stuck between a very passive-aggressive rock and a hard place. And I realize this wasn't the point of your story, but I hope your foot feels better soon. EDIT: Tell me if I'm going over the top here. Guess I'm filling in for Kobold... I'm known for being over the top? THE GREAT VOID DRAGON DISAPPROVES OF THIS ATTITUDE. 7
Delightful Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 You could copy edit it badly so she'll fire you . 2
+Slowswift Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I'm sorry. It sounds like you're stuck between a very passive-aggressive rock and a hard place. And I realize this wasn't the point of your story, but I hope your foot feels better soon. I'm known for being over the top? THE GREAT VOID DRAGON DISAPPROVES OF THIS ATTITUDE. Well, as in I was channeling your sympathy as well as my own. Nothing personal, O Great Void Dragon.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 You could copy edit it badly so she'll fire you . I wish. But she already took my mistake as "sending a message," (or said she did) so that would go over even worse.
Kaymyth she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I wish. But she already took my mistake as "sending a message," (or said she did) so that would go over even worse. Your mother could write an entire handbook on how to be passive-aggressive. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Your mother could write an entire handbook on how to be passive-aggressive. If she did, she'd expect me to edit it. 4
Guest Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I really don't know. I think she's insecure about her own grammar--she's made me copy edit her Facebook posts before, for Pete's sake. What??? She makes you edit her Facebook posts? Doesn't she have a spell checker in her computer?
Kaymyth she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 If she did, she'd expect me to edit it. ... Where's the rolling around laughing emoji when you need it? You win one internet. 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 What??? She makes you edit her Facebook posts? Doesn't she have a spell checker in her computer? Not anymore, now that she has a computer that spell checks automatically. But in the past, she did expect me to edit some of her longer Facebook posts.
Kobold King he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 If she did, she'd expect me to edit it. ... Don't be alarmed if I send your mom some lotion in the mail. Because that burn needs treatment, stat. 4
Orlion Blight he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I'm known for being over the top? That's a bit of an understatement, I believe I'll comment on the previous page post about avoiding uncomfortable physical conduct since I've had such experiences (why do people insist on invading the personal space of others?): After a few instants of yelling things like "Get thee behind me, Satan!" and punching someone in the face, people get the picture Mileage may vary 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Well, my mom just apologized….for misunderstanding. Not for acting the way she did—she made sure to explain that she really was upset because she really did think I was trying to make a statement. Dear Mom: "I'm sorry, but" is not an apology. If I did that to you, I would never hear the end of it. I would still be hearing about what an awful person I was for not giving you a real apology, if you happened to need something to throw in my face. Kind of depressing thing below the spoiler…. Seriously, you can turn back now. I'm going to leave as soon as I have the chance. If I get the job I'm interviewing for on Thursday, I'm going to move out as soon as I can, and apply for jobs in places other than Spokane once I have some more experience. If I do apply for a job in Spokane, it'll be three to five years down the road. And I'm just overwhelmed by this feeling that once I cut ties geographically, I'm going to be completely alone. I've had trouble making friends in the past. Not on here—it's easier for me to communicate when I'm writing something down. But in person, I always worry that I'm sending the wrong signals with body language and whatnot, and that I respond wrong to every single social cue. I've had people act like they wanted to be my friends, but I've never pursued the friendship any further because I was either afraid of what my parents would say or because I was afraid I'd screw things up. So now I'm sitting here, and I'm thinking that once they all move away, I'm going to spend my days alone. Holidays alone. Birthdays alone. I've rebuffed everyone who ever wanted to be my friend, and now they've told their friends and I've blacklisted myself. And even if I haven't, I will eventually. I just keep feeling like it's just a matter of time. 6
Silverblade5 he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Well, my mom just apologized….for misunderstanding. Not for acting the way she did—she made sure to explain that she really was upset because she really did think I was trying to make a statement. Dear Mom: "I'm sorry, but" is not an apology. If I did that to you, I would never hear the end of it. I would still be hearing about what an awful person I was for not giving you a real apology, if you happened to need something to throw in my face. Kind of depressing thing below the spoiler…. Seriously, you can turn back now. I'm going to leave as soon as I have the chance. If I get the job I'm interviewing for on Thursday, I'm going to move out as soon as I can, and apply for jobs in places other than Spokane once I have some more experience. If I do apply for a job in Spokane, it'll be three to five years down the road. And I'm just overwhelmed by this feeling that once I cut ties geographically, I'm going to be completely alone. I've had trouble making friends in the past. Not on here—it's easier for me to communicate when I'm writing something down. But in person, I always worry that I'm sending the wrong signals with body language and whatnot, and that I respond wrong to every single social cue. I've had people act like they wanted to be my friends, but I've never pursued the friendship any further because I was either afraid of what my parents would say or because I was afraid I'd screw things up. So now I'm sitting here, and I'm thinking that once they all move away, I'm going to spend my days alone. Holidays alone. Birthdays alone. I've rebuffed everyone who ever wanted to be my friend, and now they've told their friends and I've blacklisted myself. And even if I haven't, I will eventually. I just keep feeling like it's just a matter of time. Sounds a bit like me now that I think about it
Kobold King he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Seriously, you can turn back now. I'm going to leave as soon as I have the chance. If I get the job I'm interviewing for on Thursday, I'm going to move out as soon as I can, and apply for jobs in places other than Spokane once I have some more experience. If I do apply for a job in Spokane, it'll be three to five years down the road. And I'm just overwhelmed by this feeling that once I cut ties geographically, I'm going to be completely alone. I've had trouble making friends in the past. Not on here—it's easier for me to communicate when I'm writing something down. But in person, I always worry that I'm sending the wrong signals with body language and whatnot, and that I respond wrong to every single social cue. I've had people act like they wanted to be my friends, but I've never pursued the friendship any further because I was either afraid of what my parents would say or because I was afraid I'd screw things up. So now I'm sitting here, and I'm thinking that once they all move away, I'm going to spend my days alone. Holidays alone. Birthdays alone. I've rebuffed everyone who ever wanted to be my friend, and now they've told their friends and I've blacklisted myself. And even if I haven't, I will eventually. I just keep feeling like it's just a matter of time. I don't think you understand just how lovable of a person you are. I predict that if you just chat with people and try to get to know them, you'll be up to your ears in friends before you know it. Maybe that's not helpful, but we all love you to bits around here, and as long as you don't look like Jared Leto's Joker I can't imagine you being unlikable at all in real life. 2
Orlion Blight he/him Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Pretty much what Kobold said. It's work, but if you keep at it you'll be fine. Don't worry about specifics unless you have to (you almost never do). And think about it, there'll be time enough at last to read! All the time in the world! All the books you'd ever want! All the books you need! Well, until your glasses break... Edited July 20, 2015 by Orlion 4
Voidus Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) The trick is just to find other socially awkward/hyper-aware people then you can all be awkward together Edited July 20, 2015 by Voidus 5
Delightful Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Twi, don't be scared to make friends. Seriously. Everyone is equally scared around new people. Meet someone you like, ask them out for coffee or something because I bet they're just as scared to ask you. I used to never make specific plans with people because I thought no one really wanted to hang out with me......and eventually I went out with someone who said "Delightful this is so much fun! I've been wanting to hang out with you for years!" So I thought uuh okay....and shortly afterwards hung out with a different friend who said "we wish you'd hang out with is more, why do you always stay at home?" It was mind blowing. So......take a chance, be brave, and you be the active one in making friends. You're awesome. It'll be ok. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I don't think you understand just how lovable of a person you are. I predict that if you just chat with people and try to get to know them, you'll be up to your ears in friends before you know it. Maybe that's not helpful, but we all love you to bits around here, and as long as you don't look like Jared Leto's Joker I can't imagine you being unlikable at all in real life. Pretty much what Kobold said. It's work, but if you keep at it you'll be fine. Don't worry about specifics unless you have to (you almost never do). And think about it, there'll be time enough at last to read! All the time in the world! All the books you'd ever want! All the books you need! Well, until your glasses break... The trick is just to find other socially awkward/hyper-aware people then you can all be awkward together Twi, don't be scared to make friends. Seriously. Everyone is equally scared around new people. Meet someone you like, ask them out for coffee or something because I bet they're just as scared to ask you. I used to never make specific plans with people because I thought no one really wanted to hang out with me......and eventually I went out with someone who said "Delightful this is so much fun! I've been wanting to hang out with you for years!" So I thought uuh okay....and shortly afterwards hung out with a different friend who said "we wish you'd hang out with is more, why do you always stay at home?" It was mind blowing. So......take a chance, be brave, and you be the active one in making friends. You're awesome. It'll be ok. Thanks, everyone. I do feel better now. Once I'm out on my own, I'll try taking a few more chances and see how that goes.
Delightful Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 And you know we're always here for hugs and support for when everything goes wrong. 1
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