Socially Awkward Bookworms

[Condensation she/her]

3 hours ago, Yere Wave said:

Ah. Grammar. Yes.

Yep. That's what I do here! If you correct me correctly, I add you to the exclusive list in my signature.

[Lecky Twig she/her]

Wow, signatures. I have no idea what to put in mine.

[Tesh Any pronouns]

20 minutes ago, Lecky Twig said:

Wow, signatures. I have no idea what to put in mine.

Hm... Maybe a link to this thread?

Or some quotes?

Or your list of Shardbuddies?

[Condensation she/her]

Stuff about intimidation, like me?

[Lecky Twig she/her]

 

6 hours ago, Tesh said:

Hm... Maybe a link to this thread?

Or some quotes?

Or your list of Shardbuddies?

Hmmm maybe

I like quotes, I'll find a nice one to out there eventually. 

I am currently shardbuddyless  (cries alone in a corner) 

5 hours ago, Condensation said:

Stuff about intimidation, like me?

Hehe, I try not to be intimidating online because I'm way too intimidating in real life. I find it hard to make friends because I unwittingly scare people by being me. I think its because I speak in a monotone and dont use facial expressions while talking. I'm also really quite and introverted. I only really contribute to conversations when I have an educated opinion on the topic of discussion. 

[Tesh Any pronouns]

13 hours ago, Lecky Twig said:

I am currently shardbuddyless  (cries alone in a corner) 

Me too... I don't really want to do that, though...

If you want, I'll be your shardbuddy, though! I just don't keep my own list.

[Trutharchivist he/him]

20 hours ago, Lecky Twig said:

Wow, signatures. I have no idea what to put in mine.

Write your title as countess Twig!

Is this the wrong thread for it?

[Lecky Twig she/her]

 

3 hours ago, Tesh said:

Me too... I don't really want to do that, though...

If you want, I'll be your shardbuddy, though! I just don't keep my own list.

Yay, Shardbuddies.

3 hours ago, Trutharchivist said:

Write your title as countess Twig!

Is this the wrong thread for it?

My title? 

I shalt be known as Countess Twig throughout all the threads (but mostly in the vampire club). 

[Condensation she/her]

19 hours ago, Lecky Twig said:

Hehe, I try not to be intimidating online because I'm way too intimidating in real life. I find it hard to make friends because I unwittingly scare people by being me. I think its because I speak in a monotone and dont use facial expressions while talking. I'm also really quite and introverted. I only really contribute to conversations when I have an educated opinion on the topic of discussion. 

I'd love to be your Shardbuddy!

I don't know if I'm intimidating in real life. I try not to be in most circumstances, but I can be if I need to.

[Lecky Twig she/her]

3 hours ago, Condensation said:

I'd love to be your Shardbuddy!

I don't know if I'm intimidating in real life. I try not to be in most circumstances, but I can be if I need to.

Yay

I don't mean to intimidate people, I sort of just do. Most of the time I wish I didn't gave such a scary attitude. My glare has become a little icon because once I accidentally gave it to some dude in my grade when all his friends were watching and they were all scared of me; I felt bad about it for a while but...eh. I like being online because I can talk to people who aren't bothered by my lack of expression.

[Tesh Any pronouns]

43 minutes ago, Lecky Twig said:

Yay

I don't mean to intimidate people, I sort of just do. Most of the time I wish I didn't gave such a scary attitude. My glare has become a little icon because once I accidentally gave it to some dude in my grade when all his friends were watching and they were all scared of me; I felt bad about it for a while but...eh. I like being online because I can talk to people who aren't bothered by my lack of expression.

I think... I think I just confuse people. I might have had a few people think I'm intimidating... But... Yeah, I don't know. I generally have no facial expressions or very large and obvious ones, and it's weird... People often think I look grumpy, though, when I am not showing any expression.

[Flying she/her]

People at school either think I'm really weird and are concerned for me, or they think I'm adorable and treat me like I'm this incredibly innocent/happy person. There is no in between. I don't really intimidate people, but I'm pretty sure I make them uncomfortable because I don't really know how to respond sometimes when they're trying to talk to me... I also smile a lot for no reason, and people are either really creeped out by that or they think it's endearing. Honestly the mixed reactions confuse me even more.

[Lecky Twig she/her]

People either think i'm super zen or nasty. Sometimes i can be quite brutal with sarcasm, but most of the time I'm just joking. 

All my friends think im nice, and super genuine. But I dont make friends with alot of people because I dont know how to project a welcoming aura. 

[Flying she/her]

16 minutes ago, Lecky Twig said:

People either think i'm super zen or nasty. Sometimes i can be quite brutal with sarcasm, but most of the time I'm just joking. 

All my friends think im nice, and super genuine. But I dont make friends with alot of people because I dont know how to project a welcoming aura. 

I'm kind of sarcastic as well, but I'm so quiet that when I do insult people, the joke lands incredibly well and it's great. People see me as this really timid and quiet person, but I can come up with a genius insult out of nowhere and it's absolutely hilarious watching people suddenly realize they chose the wrong person to try to make fun of. Most of the time I'm also joking... but it's really funny and I regret nothing. 

[Condensation she/her]

On 1/10/2021 at 0:31 AM, Lecky Twig said:

Yay

Yay! Adding you presently.

On 1/10/2021 at 2:54 AM, Flying said:

People at school either think I'm really weird and are concerned for me, or they think I'm adorable and treat me like I'm this incredibly innocent/happy person. There is no in between. I don't really intimidate people, but I'm pretty sure I make them uncomfortable because I don't really know how to respond sometimes when they're trying to talk to me... I also smile a lot for no reason, and people are either really creeped out by that or they think it's endearing. Honestly the mixed reactions confuse me even more.

Yeah... that's surprisingly how it used to be for me. Now they either think I'm really innocent and happy or I'm super cool/intimidating. Took a "survey" today.

[Tesh Any pronouns]

3 hours ago, Condensation said:

Now they either think I'm really innocent and happy or I'm super cool/intimidating.

Hehehe...

My friends probably think this of me... (Not the cool part, though...) They think this until the subject of torture and/or serial killers or other related things are brought up. This has actually happened in class a few times... Which might be why I'm super nervous speaking up in class anymore.

This actually might be a good place to bring that up. I used to be just fine speaking up in class. I used to do it all the time. Never really to ask questions, but to answer them or to elaborate on something. But over the past few months I have gotten to the point where I cannot bring myself to do this anymore, unless it's reading something out loud. If I even think about saying something, I start freaking out. I was just fine at the beginning of the school year. Now even emails to teachers make me nervous. Any ideas as to why this is? Or any suggestions?

[Flyingbooks]

1 hour ago, Tesh said:

This actually might be a good place to bring that up. I used to be just fine speaking up in class. I used to do it all the time. Never really to ask questions, but to answer them or to elaborate on something. But over the past few months I have gotten to the point where I cannot bring myself to do this anymore, unless it's reading something out loud. If I even think about saying something, I start freaking out. I was just fine at the beginning of the school year. Now even emails to teachers make me nervous. Any ideas as to why this is? Or any suggestions?

My social anxiety has also gotten worse over the past few months. Maybe it's because everybody's more isolated than usual and people interact with each other less overall.

[Tesh Any pronouns]

1 hour ago, Flyingbooks42 said:

My social anxiety has also gotten worse over the past few months. Maybe it's because everybody's more isolated than usual and people interact with each other less overall.

I mean, I personally was fine at the beginning of the school year, after several months of next to no social interaction due to quarantine. And now that I have had more... It's weird.

[Flying she/her]

1 hour ago, Tesh said:

I mean, I personally was fine at the beginning of the school year, after several months of next to no social interaction due to quarantine. And now that I have had more... It's weird.

I still have barely any social interaction because I'm doing online school and keep getting quarantined again... Personally, I'll normally be fine during the first few weeks of the school year, but then I'll continue socializing for months and get to a point where I suddenly feel really drained. And then the anxiety kind of builds off of that point because I never get a long enough break from school to calm myself down. Then once summer break happens I'm perfectly normal again, and the first few months of school when I get back are great. I think it could just be that after a break like quarantine you're kind of "recharged" and ready to talk to people, but then after socializing continuously your "social battery" starts to drain. I don't really know how to explain it, but the analogy of the battery is what my dad always uses when this happens to me. I could be completely wrong and this is not what's going on, but both of your posts about this sound kind of similar to what I experience.

[Condensation she/her]

Huh... social battery. It would make sense. You could probably also say that mine drains and fills much quicker.

[Lecky Twig she/her]

4 hours ago, Tesh said:

This actually might be a good place to bring that up. I used to be just fine speaking up in class. I used to do it all the time. Never really to ask questions, but to answer them or to elaborate on something. But over the past few months I have gotten to the point where I cannot bring myself to do this anymore, unless it's reading something out loud. If I even think about saying something, I start freaking out. I was just fine at the beginning of the school year. Now even emails to teachers make me nervous. Any ideas as to why this is? Or any suggestions?

My heart did that tight clenching thing when I read this because I find it relatable. I never speak much in class either, I remember a time where I wasn't so quiet, but that seem like so long ago now. 

I only has to spend about a month in online school, and during that time I was more active in class than usual. But when I went back to school, I found it hard to talk to people who weren't my extremely close friends. I also sometimes accidently gave teachers death stares when they called on me to answer something because I got so frightened of talking. 

I found that sitting in the middle of the classroom helps make interacting with the class less scary. I think that it's because sitting in the middle of a discussion is sometimes more awkward than not participating in it. I also find that getting to know your teachers helps me participate more in their classes. I started getting to know the teachers of my best subjects, I started with the geography department, then moved on to the drama department; I only started branching out to different different departments in December last year, after my yearly exams finished and I was less stressed. These things worked for me (to an extent), I'm still very quiet in class, but I defiantly participate more in class now than I did earlier in the year.

[Tesh Any pronouns]

7 hours ago, Flying said:

I still have barely any social interaction because I'm doing online school and keep getting quarantined again... Personally, I'll normally be fine during the first few weeks of the school year, but then I'll continue socializing for months and get to a point where I suddenly feel really drained. And then the anxiety kind of builds off of that point because I never get a long enough break from school to calm myself down. Then once summer break happens I'm perfectly normal again, and the first few months of school when I get back are great. I think it could just be that after a break like quarantine you're kind of "recharged" and ready to talk to people, but then after socializing continuously your "social battery" starts to drain. I don't really know how to explain it, but the analogy of the battery is what my dad always uses when this happens to me. I could be completely wrong and this is not what's going on, but both of your posts about this sound kind of similar to what I experience.

I've heard this analogy before, and I am not sure how much it applies to me. This doesn't normally happen to me over long periods of time, but over the course of a week or so.

7 hours ago, Lecky Twig said:

I found that sitting in the middle of the classroom helps make interacting with the class less scary. I think that it's because sitting in the middle of a discussion is sometimes more awkward than not participating in it. I also find that getting to know your teachers helps me participate more in their classes. I started getting to know the teachers of my best subjects, I started with the geography department, then moved on to the drama department; I only started branching out to different different departments in December last year, after my yearly exams finished and I was less stressed. These things worked for me (to an extent), I'm still very quiet in class, but I defiantly participate more in class now than I did earlier in the year.

Thanks for the tips, I'll definitely keep those in mind. I do have assigned seats in a lot of classes, but for the ones that I don't, I'll move around a bit.

And in a few cases I have kind of had to befriend my teachers because I am not on speaking terms with anyone in the class. In one of my classes, instead of doing this, I just started learning a lot about a few aspects of the subject so I could make connections and things like that during the class and just be excited about it without needing someone to talk to. Which probably isn't helpful... I find it super interesting, though...

[Yere Wave she/her]

19 hours ago, Tesh said:

I mean, I personally was fine at the beginning of the school year, after several months of next to no social interaction due to quarantine. And now that I have had more... It's weird.

My experience is that I was okay until school went online last year. Once I was stuck in my house without any social interaction whatsoever, I litearlly went crazy. I am not joking. Every night I would insanely talk to myself (and my stuffed animals. Yes I have them.) about how much I missed school and would die without it. It got a little better in the summer when I was able to see my cousins. I am so glad it's back in. I'm such a social extrovert.

[Trutharchivist he/him]

1 minute ago, Yere Wave said:

My experience is that I was okay until school went online last year. Once I was stuck in my house without any social interaction whatsoever, I litearlly went crazy. I am not joking. Every night I would insanely talk to myself (and my stuffed animals. Yes I have them.) about how much I missed school and would die without it. It got a little better in the summer when I was able to see my cousins. I am so glad it's back in. I'm such a social extrovert.

This does sound a little weird, but reminds me of a time I was left completely alone at home for some hours a few years ago. I basically felt like I'm getting mad, but I felt better when my family came back home. I can hazard a guess that "alone" in your post isn't without your close family, so why no social interaction? Brothers and sisters don't count, or is it that you don't have any?

[Condensation she/her]

7 minutes ago, Yere Wave said:

My experience is that I was okay until school went online last year. Once I was stuck in my house without any social interaction whatsoever, I litearlly went crazy. I am not joking. Every night I would insanely talk to myself (and my stuffed animals. Yes I have them.) about how much I missed school and would die without it. It got a little better in the summer when I was able to see my cousins. I am so glad it's back in. I'm such a social extrovert.

See, usually I'd have that. But this time, I had the Shard and all. So I was actually pretty great.