Pet Peeves

[C. M. Hayden he/him]

People who agree to watch movies with you but DON'T PAY ATTENTION TO THE MOVIE. >_>

Boils my blood.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

-When a girl wears (too much) makeup. I don't like makeup, because my personal belief is that if you feel that you should hide your face, then it's not gonna be any fun once someone sees you without the makeup. And most girls, in my opinion, look better without makeup anyway. But I do understand just using a little and that some girls just like wearing makeup. But I have seen girls that have put on WAY too much makeup...that does not turn out well. 

-When a girl wears a shirt with way too low of a neckline, then, if you happen to glance for a second, berates you for looking at her chest. I mean, do girls not realize that men are naturally hard-wired to look at breasts? If they didn't want us looking in the first place, why did they wear a shirt specifically designed to show them off? If I'm around a girl wearing a low neckline, I try my hardest to avoid it, but sometimes you can't help yourself. I always feel terrible if I do it, but it's natural. Of course, not saying we should do everything that's natural. 

-When hardcore feminists/LGBT supporters ask for equal rights, but they bash men/straight people. They're not really after equal rights, they just want better rights for themselves. They, while most would not admit, want the other party to suffer, like they, admittedly, have. I'm all for equal rights, but they're doing it all wrong. 

-When I see people that don't signal before they turn or change lanes. Or when they run lights. Or when they drive WAY too slow/fast for the speed limit. My dad is a major offender of the slow. I notice these things, and I don't even have my license yet.

-When people criticize me on something I'm doing wrong when it's obvious that I know I'm doing it wrong. I understand correcting me to make sure that I know I'm doing it incorrectly, but I don't need everyone to correct me. It annoys me even more when people correct me multiple times, all for the same reason. I usually know when I've screwed up or am currently messing up, I don't need your help, thank you. Of course, I'm a hypocrite because it seems like I like to critique others a lot. I try to leave my critique just for those who haven't been helped yet, but seems like my section leaders don't think that's my job, when the band officers and directors have said it's okay to help fix others' mistakes if they aren't getting fixed by someone in authority. Or maybe I've just misunderstood instructions.

-When people keep talking to you even though you obviously don't care.

 

Edited January 14, 2017 by StrikerEZ

[Oversleep]

Waiting for hell to unleash here...

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

"Here at Venerated Vet Practice, we believe that quality care should be affordable." 

"Great! So what's your basic exam fee?" 

Spoiler

Look, if your fees are high, your fees are high, and you can charge what you want. But don't use words like affordable if you clearly don't know what they mean.

[Kaymyth she/her]

4 hours ago, Oversleep said:

Waiting for hell to unleash here...

It would be better if it didn't.

[Oversleep]

2 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

It would be better if it didn't.

Yeah, but @StrikerEZ both touched upon topics which are either controversial or... (My pet peeve: when I forget words in English)... offensive? That would do. Not the word I forgot but that fits too.

And he did that in a tone of voice which is... (you know what? that's not my day)... which is... rude. Borderline rude/worse-than-rude, I hope you understand what I mean.

And I have seen how discussions of some of that topics unfold in the internet. I haven't taken part in them; but I saw them and I can tell you: it was not calm.

I'm sorry for how rough that post is, my vocabulary today is barely functioning.

[Kaymyth she/her]

34 minutes ago, Oversleep said:

Yeah, but @StrikerEZ both touched upon topics which are either controversial or... (My pet peeve: when I forget words in English)... offensive? That would do. Not the word I forgot but that fits too.

And he did that in a tone of voice which is... (you know what? that's not my day)... which is... rude. Borderline rude/worse-than-rude, I hope you understand what I mean.

And I have seen how discussions of some of that topics unfold in the internet. I haven't taken part in them; but I saw them and I can tell you: it was not calm.

I'm sorry for how rough that post is, my vocabulary today is barely functioning.

There were, in fact, a few things in that post that grated on me.  However, it is quite possible to discuss those things in a polite and reasoned manner. 

I just don't have the energy to do it myself on a Monday after spending the weekend at my mother's.

[Delightful]

3 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

It would be better if it didn't.

Must........not.........engage.........

I mean I could. And be polite. But I don't want things to spiral out of control so.....

 

What the heck. @Kaymyth you have my permission to yell at me. Not that you need it, Forum Mom.

 

@StrikerEZ

 

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-When a girl wears (too much) makeup. I don't like makeup, because my personal belief is that if you feel that you should hide your face, then it's not gonna be any fun once someone sees you without the makeup. And most girls, in my opinion, look better without makeup anyway. But I do understand just using a little and that some girls just like wearing makeup. But I have seen girls that have put on WAY too much makeup...that does not turn out well. [/quote]

"Some girls just like wearing makeup". Correct. A stranger's opinion has no absolutely no effect on a woman's personal dress sense. 

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-When a girl wears a shirt with way too low of a neckline, then, if you happen to glance for a second, berates you for looking at her chest. I mean, do girls not realise that men are naturally hard-wired to look at breasts? If they didn't want us looking in the first place, why did they wear a shirt specifically designed to show them off? If I'm around a girl wearing a low neckline, I try my hardest to avoid it, but sometimes you can't help yourself. I always feel terrible if I do it, but it's natural. Of course, not saying we should do everything that's natural. [/quote]

Do you regularly stop, check what you're wearing, and do a detailed analysis of

1. How it looks.
2. Every possibility of what that outfit could possibly say about you.
3. What someone may think you are trying to communicate via your clothing.
4. If you look dashingly attractive in said clothing, wait do you look too attractive? Or are you not attractive enough?

Or do you just throw on whatever you feel like and walk out the door?

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-When hardcore feminists/LGBT supporters ask for equal rights, but they bash men/straight people. They're not really after equal rights, they just want better rights for themselves. They, while most would not admit, want the other party to suffer, like they, admittedly, have. I'm all for equal rights (heck-I apply to one of those groups), but they're doing it all wrong. [/quote]

How about when people take an extreme opinion, apply it to a large group, and use that as a reason to tell an already oppressed minority how they should behave?

Edited January 9, 2017 by Deliiiiiightful
my quotes are broken haaaalp

[Orlion Blight he/him]

6 minutes ago, Deliiiiiightful said:

Must........not.........engage.........

I mean I could. And be polite. But I don't want things to spiral out of control so.....

I, however, have no such qualms, mwahaha!

15 hours ago, StrikerEZ said:

1) When a girl wears (too much) makeup. I don't like makeup, 

2) When a girl wears...

3) When hardcore feminists/LGBT supporters ask for equal rights, but they bash men/straight people. 

1) Then don't wear makeup. Whether other people wear it and how much of it is none of your business.

2) A girl does not choose her outfit for your benefit. It's not a cry for your attention, it's not implicit permission for you to stare. Accept that and deny what entitlement you feel you have (hint: you have none) and you'll fare better.

3) To paraphrase the Buddha: get over yourself. Your self is getting in your way of emphasising, understanding and interacting with humanity. You really ought to deny yourself and look at other viewpoints without simplistic preconceived notions and with a principle of charity.

[Delightful]

1 minute ago, Orlion Determined said:

I, however, have no such qualms, mwahaha!

......I was attacked by the quotes. Which is a lesson that.....I should be upfront about my aggressive tendencies? 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

1 minute ago, Deliiiiiightful said:

......I was attacked by the quotes. Which is a lesson that.....I should be upfront about my aggressive tendencies? 

Verily! 

[StrikerEZ he/him]

I'm sorry to anyone that felt offended by anything I said in that post; part of it was the fact I was up late (in my time zone). I wasn't trying to be rude or offensive, I was just stating my opinions. Again, I'm really sorry if I truly offended anyone, that wasn't my intention. I can see how my post could be read as rude or aggressive towards this people I mentioned, but I remember trying to add humor to it, to show that I wasn't trying to be hateful towards them. Maybe it just showed up as snarky sarcasm, and that's my fault for not proofreading if it did. I just wanna say that I don't hate anyone for doing any of these things and that I was being a bit in the extreme side of my arguments (which, honestly, have no real merit).

Again, I truly am sorry. But I'm saying it through a screen, so it's hard to show how sorry I am without the emotion.

If an apology isn't enough, I could edit the post. 

[Delightful]

1 minute ago, StrikerEZ said:

I'm sorry to anyone that felt offended by anything I said in that post; part of it was the fact I was up late (in my time zone). I wasn't trying to be rude or offensive, I was just stating my opinions. Again, I'm really sorry if I truly offended anyone, that wasn't my intention. I can see how my post could be read as rude or aggressive towards this people I mentioned, but I remember trying to add humor to it, to show that I wasn't trying to be hateful towards them. Maybe it just showed up as snarky sarcasm, and that's my fault for not proofreading if it did. I just wanna say that I don't hate anyone for doing any of these things and that I was being a bit in the extreme side of my arguments (which, honestly, have no real merit).

Again, I truly am sorry. But I'm saying it through a screen, so it's hard to show how sorry I am without the emotion.

If an apology isn't enough, I could edit the post. 

It's what you said more than the way you said it. It's a matter of thinking with an open mind from different perspectives rather than simply rewording what you wrote. 

[StrikerEZ he/him]

5 minutes ago, Deliiiiiightful said:

It's what you said more than the way you said it. It's a matter of thinking with an open mind from different perspectives rather than simply rewording what you wrote. 

Oh, I meant that I'd get rid of what I wrote and just replace it with nothing. But that was before I discovered the hide feature. If everyone agrees I should hide it (which I think they will), then I'll hide it. Whatever that means. 

I know I've said this several times now, but the content of my post wasn't meant to be offensive. Of course, the whole good intentions rule applies here.

[Delightful]

2 minutes ago, StrikerEZ said:

Oh, I meant that I'd get rid of what I wrote and just replace it with nothing. But that was before I discovered the hide feature. If everyone agrees I should hide it (which I think they will), then I'll hide it. Whatever that means. 

I know I've said this several times now, but the content of my post wasn't meant to be offensive. Of course, the whole good intentions rule applies here.

Just because you don't intend something to be offensive doesn't mean that it isn't, and it doesn't mean dressing it in different words makes it less offensive. 

Don't feel that you have to hide your post, this isn't censorship. You're allowed your opinion, just as we are allowed to strongly disagree with your opinion. 

[StrikerEZ he/him]

Just now, Deliiiiiightful said:

Just because you don't intend something to be offensive doesn't mean that it isn't, and it doesn't mean dressing it in different words makes it less offensive. 

Don't feel that you have to hide your post, this isn't censorship. You're allowed your opinion, just as we are allowed to strongly disagree with your opinion. 

Yeah, I get what you're saying. I just feel bad because I was acting like an idiot when I typed that, and I don't like to offend people. Of course, it's too late now, so there's nothing I can do. The damage has been done. And I'm sorry for it.

[Delightful]

Just now, StrikerEZ said:

Yeah, I get what you're saying. I just feel bad because I was acting like an idiot when I typed that, and I don't like to offend people. Of course, it's too late now, so there's nothing I can do. The damage has been done. And I'm sorry for it.

We all act like idiots sometimes. It's cool.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

9 minutes ago, StrikerEZ said:

Yeah, I get what you're saying. I just feel bad because I was acting like an idiot when I typed that, and I don't like to offend people. Of course, it's too late now, so there's nothing I can do. The damage has been done. And I'm sorry for it.

The key is to learn from the experience. What about your statements was offensive? Ponder this, and you will learn something and have a more extensive viewpoint, even if preferences don't change.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

6 minutes ago, Orlion Determined said:

The key is to learn from the experience. What about your statements was offensive? Ponder this, and you will learn something and have a more extensive viewpoint, even if preferences don't change.

Don't worry, I've already figured out what was offensive about my post. I guess this was just a good learning experience for me so that next time, I don't make the same mistake. 

So, to get back on topic:

-When you search for something for five minutes, then realize you were holding it or that it was in front of you the entire time. 

-When you walk into a room and forget why you walked into the room. Or when you open your mouth to speak and completely forget what you were going to say. 

-When you stub your toe against something, ranging from mild pain (a book) to horrible pain (wall-though not sure how this happened, it's happened to me before).

-When you think you have to use the restroom, but then when you get there you don't have to. 

-When a notification pops up at the bottom of the screen, so you go to it. Then you leave to another page, where you notice that you have a new notification on the bell. But turns out it was the same notification from before. I'm new, but that's gonna get annoying.

Edited January 9, 2017 by StrikerEZ

[Kaymyth she/her]

18 minutes ago, StrikerEZ said:

Oh, I meant that I'd get rid of what I wrote and just replace it with nothing. But that was before I discovered the hide feature. If everyone agrees I should hide it (which I think they will), then I'll hide it. Whatever that means. 

I know I've said this several times now, but the content of my post wasn't meant to be offensive. Of course, the whole good intentions rule applies here.

I don't think you need to hide anything.  I don't see a fight here, I see a good discussion about what in that post was problematic and why.  So long as you are taking something constructive from this discussion and nobody is yelling at anybody else, we're all good here.

And, to be frank, I think that most of us have things that bug us that would be impolitic to actually express or act upon.  To take a silly (fake) example, I could say that I can't stand to see people wearing the color orange.  It's just such a horrible color, it flatters nobody, everybody looks awful in this color!

Things I am allowed to do in polite society:
* Feel vaguely annoyed every time I see people wearing orange.
* Refuse to wear orange under any circumstances.
* When asked, politely defer and say that I am simply not all that fond of the color.

Things I am not allowed to do in polite society:
* Complain publicly about how awful people are who wear orange.
* Tell people that their fashion choices are terrible.
* Treat people who wear orange terribly.
 

[StrikerEZ he/him]

3 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

I don't think you need to hide anything.  I don't see a fight here, I see a good discussion about what in that post was problematic and why.  So long as you are taking something constructive from this discussion and nobody is yelling at anybody else, we're all good here.

And, to be frank, I think that most of us have things that bug us that would be impolitic to actually express or act upon.  To take a silly (fake) example, I could say that I can't stand to see people wearing the color orange.  It's just such a horrible color, it flatters nobody, everybody looks awful in this color!

Things I am allowed to do in polite society:
* Feel vaguely annoyed every time I see people wearing orange.
* Refuse to wear orange under any circumstances.
* When asked, politely defer and say that I am simply not all that fond of the color.

Things I am not allowed to do in polite society:
* Complain publicly about how awful people are who wear orange.
* Tell people that their fashion choices are terrible.
* Treat people who wear orange terribly.
 

Yeah, I see what you mean. It's also like the quote (pardon me if it's not exact) "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Or something similar to that. 

[Oversleep]

1 hour ago, StrikerEZ said:

When you walk into a room and forget why you walked into the room.

(spoilered for a single curse word):

Spoiler

 

[StrikerEZ he/him]

32 minutes ago, Oversleep said:

(spoilered for a single curse word):

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Oh my gosh, that's awesome

[Silverblade5 he/him]

My peeve is that double standards are a thing that exist. That, in certain cases where there's no evidence to support either side of the argument, one side will be instantly blamed and assumed guilty and until proven innocent.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

When you finish a story and wish you had the author's number so you could call them up and tell them the story is too short and they need to write more, but the closest thing you have is their Facebook page, and that probably won't convince them to give you more of the perfect story. 

Spoiler

Yes, I refer to "Allomancer Jak and the Pits of Eltania." Why Brandon chose to give us only the final three episodes of one adventure instead of, I don't know, three annotated volumes is a cruel, cruel reminder that life will never be fair.