Moonskin she/her Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I sure have reached a calmer, more serene, happier period of my life when I reached 30, which also marked the year I had my first child. So maybe it is not age, but children that makes us more fulfill. I seriously doubt that; I don't have kids myself and most of my friends my age are in the same case. We still all agree that life feels much better for us today than when we were younger. It seems that a lot of people gain confidence and serenity over the years, although, of course, it is not true for everyone
Ookla the Absent Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 I don't know that I've ever had a time that I would be willing to go back to. Maybe 9th grade? Maybe? That and second grade were my only halfway decent years of life, and it really had nothing to do with my age.
navybrandt he/him Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Sorry, I didn't read every post, but here is my perspective for the OP. I'm 41 years old and happy where I am today. I've made mistakes but they made me into who I am today. If you're not happy where you are today, trust me, it does get better. You just need to make choices that will get you where you want to be. It's never too late. Sometimes it just takes time. If you hate school, you'll eventually graduate. If you hate your job, you can find a new one eventually (or at least go home at the end of the day). etc... Sometimes it takes a new perspective. There are things that we can never change and will never go away, so you need to learn to accept things and "look on the bright side." I'll probably never be a millionaire, but I'll probably also never be homeless. I have constant back pain, but at least I can walk. etc... Sometimes it takes actions. If you're overweight then you can diet (Yes, I know there are medical conditions. In that case, it would fall into the category of things you can never change and need to accept). If you always live paycheck to paycheck, you can learn to manage you money better. If you're uneducated, you can go back to school. etc... The important thing is to learn from our mistakes and keep a humble attitude. 1
ParadoxicalZen he/him Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I'd like to go back to 9 years of age with the mindset i have now. Not because i'm not happy/unhappy, but more for curiousity's sake than anything. If I could be an observer and look at the multiple forms of myself over the Multiverse, i see it as an ultimate variant of self-reflection
navybrandt he/him Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Of course, if I could go back 20 years and invest in Oracle or Qualcomm, I'd probably do that.
Elsecaller3414 she/her Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I am pretty much happy as a high schooler, but I figure I need to make goals so I can be happier in the future. SO HARD sometimes.
Guest Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 (edited) .... That's very well said Navy. We all make mistakes, we all have hardships, but they end up shaping us into the adults we now are... and even if some parts were hard, the good parts do over shines them all. I love you talk on how we have the power to improve our own life and how we do have choices. It made me think of this old 90s movie I saw as a teenager... The woman went to become a teacher in a rough poor neighborhood. She tried to explain to miserable kids how they did have the right to chose for themselves. One kid said: "If someone points a gun at me, I do not have any choice. I'll die". Another one ended answering: "You can choose to die with a scream or not." Quite drastic, but true. You always have a choice. It may not be the choice you wanted, but you still get to choose. I am pretty much happy as a high schooler, but I figure I need to make goals so I can be happier in the future. SO HARD sometimes. We all go through the phase where we have to make what we believe are life choices......... Trust me, they are not so decisive as you think them to be and choices do not end with teenage years..... All our live we have to make choices. Some are harder than others, but the beauty of it is nothing is ever final. Except taxes and death Edited August 27, 2015 by maxal
nicocoberru she/her Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Of I can have my memory with then of course I'd go back. Oh holy guacamole, I would go back! I'd go back, I'd go back. What's the price for a one-way trip to the past? A truck full of chocolates? My firstborn son? I'll do it. Deal. Signed. Done. My answer seems like the exact opposite of the majority hahahaha, but there are so many things I did during my high school years and if I could redo it all over again, I would. It's not something big, just small stuff that piled on and on until here I am seven years later, wishing that I did the things in high school that I didn't do. Heck, at the very least, I'll be able to chose a course that I am passionate about instead of one that I am only mildly interested at. 1
navybrandt he/him Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 It's kind of unrelated, but I would like to add that asking questions like this is awesome! It gives an older guy like me free liberty to express what I've learned over the years. I get a lot of wisdom from older or more experienced people - especially my dad (I'm blessed to still have him). Getting wise advice is one of the best things a young person can do. Ask questions of a lot of people and you will form an image of the likely outcome of major decision you make, lifestyle choices, behaviors, attitudes, etc... One caution though, don't shop around for the advice you want to hear to justify what you want to do. If you do that, you're deceiving yourself. If 3-4 people that care about you are all advising one thing, it's probably good advice, and you shouldn't follow the advice of the one person that's telling you what you want to hear. 1
Guest Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 The best advice I received were those I did not want to hear.
kaellok he/him Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I actually really enjoyed high school. A set of rules that resulted in predictable reactions from others if followed, or if broken, along with adults that actually cared--very different from life at home, and a truly welcome escape. No way in hell I'd go back, though, as the teen years are more than just school. Physically, i wish i didn't hurt as much because of dumb things i did when younger. Jumping off the roof of house or shed for fun, and then later off of tanks rather than climbing, has given me some knees that despise the cold, and generally hate me. Overall tho, I'm 33 and in the competition of life am definitely not losing. To change how things happened before would be to change who i am now, and to hell with that; I'm AWESOME ☺
Ookla the Absent Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I don't know that I've ever had a time that I would be willing to go back to. Maybe 9th grade? Maybe? That and second grade were my only halfway decent years of life, and it really had nothing to do with my age. Come to think of it, those and sixth grade are the only years of public school I really remember.
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