Mental health club!

[reisleK she/her]

4 hours ago, alittleinsane said:

ugh i like to pArKoUr!! around and just generally yeet myself off of furniture and run amok when I forgor my adhd meds (today) but i'm very flimsy, no arm muscles lol, and they're hyperextendy, i'm very flexible. so when i pArKoUr!! sometimes it's like i'm bending all weird and it annoys me sm amagad liek nooo stop bending for one darn second so i can continue to flail around

 

 

the body uncomfy-ness is wild today ugh

 

 

why can't i be inpervievable

or a cat, my cats seem to like being themselves very much

Hello fellow hypermobile ADHD-er. 

Unfortunately, I'm the 'stretching my shoulders in a certain way makes them partially dislocate' variety, not the 'fun double jointed party tricks!!' variety. Also for some reason my hips are stupidly not mobile and it sucks. I wish it could redistribute, that would be nice. 

Have you been bouldering before? It satisfies my urge to climb wonderfully. (despite the fact that I'm not very good by any means)
 

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

8 hours ago, reisleK said:

Hello fellow hypermobile ADHD-er. 

Unfortunately, I'm the 'stretching my shoulders in a certain way makes them partially dislocate' variety, not the 'fun double jointed party tricks!!' variety. Also for some reason my hips are stupidly not mobile and it sucks. I wish it could redistribute, that would be nice. 

Have you been bouldering before? It satisfies my urge to climb wonderfully. (despite the fact that I'm not very good by any means)
 

Well, there’s a secure mound of giant rocks on a beach I go to a lot, and it says no trespassing but the people living nearby have yet to do anything, and me and my sisters kinda just climb the boulders there, if that counts

[Keke They/he]

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

14 hours ago, alittleinsane said:

ugh i like to pArKoUr!! around and just generally yeet myself off of furniture and run amok when I forgor my adhd meds (today) but i'm very flimsy, no arm muscles lol, and they're hyperextendy, i'm very flexible. so when i pArKoUr!! sometimes it's like i'm bending all weird and it annoys me sm amagad liek nooo stop bending for one darn second so i can continue to flail around

 

 

the body uncomfy-ness is wild today ugh

 

 

why can't i be inpervievable

or a cat, my cats seem to like being themselves very much

Same here!

I've been working for years to build up enough muscle mass to counter act some of the hyper flexible joints, especially my shoulders cause they like to slide partially out of the sockets when they get yanked on.

Also, *hugs*

[strmblsd he/him]

30 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

thats amazing!!!!

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

2 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

That's great! I'm really happy that you're getting better! 

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

20 hours ago, The Sly Cookie said:

Should I be afraid of you and Haly now?

..................................................clearly I haven't done my job right. 

2 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

YAYY!! :DD

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

2 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

I'm so glad

[Existential]

2 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

*hugs*

go hawks!

[Shatter He/Him]

2 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

WE LOVE YOU!!! *BIG HUGS*

[Wittles he/him]

7 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

GOOD JOB HAWKS!! :D.

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

7 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

WOOOOOOO LESGOOO!!!! SO PROUD OF YOUUUUU

[Keke They/he]

7 hours ago, strmblsd said:

thats amazing!!!!

 

5 hours ago, Just A Silvereye said:

That's great! I'm really happy that you're getting better! 

 

5 hours ago, Halcyon The Only said:

..................................................clearly I haven't done my job right. 

YAYY!! :DD

 

5 hours ago, Through The Living Glass said:

I'm so glad

 

5 hours ago, N̶̝̦͝u̶͇̠͒́l̷̺͇͔̩̯̆͜l̸̾̿̓̚ said:

*hugs*

go hawks!

 

5 hours ago, The Shattered Cosmere said:

WE LOVE YOU!!! *BIG HUGS*

 

13 minutes ago, Wittles said:

GOOD JOB HAWKS!! :D.

 

3 minutes ago, alittleinsane said:

WOOOOOOO LESGOOO!!!! SO PROUD OF YOUUUUU

THANK YALLS SO MUCH *HUGGSSS*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, Clinically insane said:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

THANK YALLS SO MUCH *HUGGSSS*

YES :D:D

*hug*

[echo74 she/her]

8 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

YAYYY

*hug*

[Keke They/he]

Just now, echo74 said:

YAYYY

*hug*

*HUG*

5 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

YES :D:D

*hug*

*HUG*

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

8 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

Yayy! Congrats! Glad you're doin better 

[Keke They/he]

9 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yayy! Congrats! Glad you're doin better 

*hugsss*

minecraft????????????

[ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly]

dunno how to explain to people that my mental health is terrible, but no i don't want to die or kms, i love my friends and i know how much they appreciate me, i've come to terms with that my family will never give me all the approval i need and understand that i don't need them to say they're proud of me, i love being alive and the world, and i don't want to hurt myself

 

i just genuinely hate myself and there's nothing that will really ever stop that. i don't think i'll want to kms out of self-loathing ever again, that feeling sucks, and i don't want to hurt myself because i hate myself. i just don't really like myself. i think i'm smart, i think i'm great at a lot of things, i think i'm really pretty too, but that doesn't change the thoughts my brain sneaks in. i bear no ill will towards myself, but the heart and the head are always a little bit disconnected

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, alittleinsane said:

dunno how to explain to people that my mental health is terrible, but no i don't want to die or kms, i love my friends and i know how much they appreciate me, i've come to terms with that my family will never give me all the approval i need and understand that i don't need them to say they're proud of me, i love being alive and the world, and i don't want to hurt myself

 

i just genuinely hate myself and there's nothing that will really ever stop that. i don't think i'll want to kms out of self-loathing ever again, that feeling sucks, and i don't want to hurt myself because i hate myself. i just don't really like myself. i think i'm smart, i think i'm great at a lot of things, i think i'm really pretty too, but that doesn't change the thoughts my brain sneaks in. i bear no ill will towards myself, but the heart and the head are always a little bit disconnected

*hug*

Yeah

Thoughts like that are hard to keep out 

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

49 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

minecraft????????????

Sorry I'm in grind mode xD Mondays are always Homework Hell

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Prolly gonna take a mini break from the Shard this weekend to lock in for my Chem exam cuz I really have to make an A 

 

 

[Keke They/he]

37 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Sorry I'm in grind mode xD Mondays are always Homework Hell

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Prolly gonna take a mini break from the Shard this weekend to lock in for my Chem exam cuz I really have to make an A 

 

 

Oooh swear word!!

XD

Alright. Hopefully you pass this test

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

1 hour ago, alittleinsane said:

dunno how to explain to people that my mental health is terrible, but no i don't want to die or kms, i love my friends and i know how much they appreciate me, i've come to terms with that my family will never give me all the approval i need and understand that i don't need them to say they're proud of me, i love being alive and the world, and i don't want to hurt myself

 

i just genuinely hate myself and there's nothing that will really ever stop that. i don't think i'll want to kms out of self-loathing ever again, that feeling sucks, and i don't want to hurt myself because i hate myself. i just don't really like myself. i think i'm smart, i think i'm great at a lot of things, i think i'm really pretty too, but that doesn't change the thoughts my brain sneaks in. i bear no ill will towards myself, but the heart and the head are always a little bit disconnected

I get what you mean. The good thing is, there will always be people out there to remind you about the good things and not just the bad.

 

I think a big reason in why we’re always so hard on ourselves is because we are the only ones whose dark sides we get to see, so to speak. Many of our worst thoughts and shames will always remain private to ourselves and no-one else. This is a double edged sword; while it means other people treat us better than we think we deserve, it also means that we don’t see other people’s dark sides. This can make us think they don’t have any, and thus there is something wrong with us.

 

Long story short, life is rigged to make us hate ourselves. Don’t let it. I’m not a big hug person, but:

*hug*

 

Edit: And a big hug as well to @Clinically insane, you’re doing awesome

 

Umm… guys. I accidentally deleted most of my previous post while trying to edit it and don’t know how to restore it. Any help?

Nevermind, I just rewrote it.

Edited March 4, 2025 by Hoid_Slayer

[reisleK she/her]

3 hours ago, alittleinsane said:

dunno how to explain to people that my mental health is terrible, but no i don't want to die or kms, i love my friends and i know how much they appreciate me, i've come to terms with that my family will never give me all the approval i need and understand that i don't need them to say they're proud of me, i love being alive and the world, and i don't want to hurt myself

 

i just genuinely hate myself and there's nothing that will really ever stop that. i don't think i'll want to kms out of self-loathing ever again, that feeling sucks, and i don't want to hurt myself because i hate myself. i just don't really like myself. i think i'm smart, i think i'm great at a lot of things, i think i'm really pretty too, but that doesn't change the thoughts my brain sneaks in. i bear no ill will towards myself, but the heart and the head are always a little bit disconnected

I fear I relate way too much to that. My guinea pigs are sometimes the only things that keep me going when things get REALLY bad but I don't actually want to die, I haven't since I got them and that was three years ago. I have a lot of passive stuff (I wish I wasn't alive but I don't want to die) but I think it's manageable. 

The approval part is so... yeah. I'm a recovering people pleaser/validation seeker and it was... messy. Don't be like me guys! I've started validating myself a ton and appreciating the small things I do (since no one else really does) and I think that helped a TON. Also therapy. 

Yeah I hate myself too. It's weird because I don't hate-hate myself (except for on the rare occasion) but a lot of it is guilt related and such. Like to a Wayne extent. I don't know what I do bedsides try not to think about it? 

I just relate to that so heavily. Storms.

I'm doing the best I have in years yet this stuff is always lurking in the back of my mind.

 

12 hours ago, Clinically insane said:

Ok so i just wanna share my happiness.

ALMOST A WEEKK LES GOOOOO

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I'm happy! 

I have a good feeling I'm getting better!

I'm so proud of you!! You got this!! I know how hard it is, 6 days is amazing. 

 

12 hours ago, KnightSkye said:

Same here!

I've been working for years to build up enough muscle mass to counter act some of the hyper flexible joints, especially my shoulders cause they like to slide partially out of the sockets when they get yanked on.

Also, *hugs*

SAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did you do any specific exercises? Or do you have any tips (besides not intentionally yanking them because mine also slide partially out of the socket. At least it doesn't really hurt..?) My wrist honestly feels like it might be partially out but I can't tell. Do any of your other joints do it too or just shoulders? And do you feel like its getting worse or better over time? (Sorry for all of the questions, I've never met anyone who had the same thing of general hypermobility but specifically shoulder subluxation issues. Canoeing fixed my shoulders for me but over the winter I (obivously) wasn't canoeing so they're bad again. I need to find more upper body stuff I enjoy (when my wrist stops hurting). Also random but when you sleep do you have to position yourself very deliberately so none of your joints feel wrong or have too much pressure on them? Or is that just me. 

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Sorry if this is too ranty I'm tired and stressed 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

2 minutes ago, reisleK said:

I fear I relate way too much to that. My guinea pigs are sometimes the only things that keep me going when things get REALLY bad but I don't actually want to die, I haven't since I got them and that was three years ago. I have a lot of passive stuff (I wish I wasn't alive but I don't want to die) but I think it's manageable. 

The approval part is so... yeah. I'm a recovering people pleaser/validation seeker and it was... messy. Don't be like me guys! I've started validating myself a ton and appreciating the small things I do (since no one else really does) and I think that helped a TON. Also therapy. 

Yeah I hate myself too. It's weird because I don't hate-hate myself (except for on the rare occasion) but a lot of it is guilt related and such. Like to a Wayne extent. I don't know what I do bedsides try not to think about it? 

I just relate to that so heavily. Storms.

I'm doing the best I have in years yet this stuff is always lurking in the back of my mind.

 

I'm so proud of you!! You got this!! I know how hard it is, 6 days is amazing. 

 

SAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did you do any specific exercises? Or do you have any tips (besides not intentionally yanking them because mine also slide partially out of the socket. At least it doesn't really hurt..?) My wrist honestly feels like it might be partially out but I can't tell. Do any of your other joints do it too or just shoulders? And do you feel like its getting worse or better over time? (Sorry for all of the questions, I've never met anyone who had the same thing of general hypermobility but specifically shoulder subluxation issues. Canoeing fixed my shoulders for me but over the winter I (obivously) wasn't canoeing so they're bad again. I need to find more upper body stuff I enjoy (when my wrist stops hurting). Also random but when you sleep do you have to position yourself very deliberately so none of your joints feel wrong or have too much pressure on them? Or is that just me. 

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Sorry if this is too ranty I'm tired and stressed 

*huuuuug*

It's fine